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So i asked this girl out and she said yes, it was kinda awkward at the beginning at it still kinda is. She acted nervous around me, and told her friends that she liked me, even her best-friend.
But today i found out from one of my friends that she said yes not to hurt my feelings! Was this just a fake? Could it be that she wanted to end the awkwardness by saying she doesnt like me?


Don't always believe what other people tell you. This is the best way to ruin a relationship. If it didn't come directly from her, Then it's nothing but gossip.

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Hii
i was into a relationship frm last 4 yrs.. N v broked up few mnths back.. V had sex on a normal basis..Now i gotta new guy n he thinks that m virgin.. Can anyone pls suggest me how to show d fake virginity..
Thnx



Why lie? Isn't the whole point of a relationship to be honest with one another? Tell him the truth or don't be in a relationship.

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26 y/o female.
In the fall, I went in for a job interview at a local store. I instantly felt attracted to the guy giving me the interview. I passed it, but had to turn the job down for reasons not worth mentioning.
A week later, he "followed" me on Facebook. I wasn't sure what his reasoning behind it was, but I decided to add him as a friend. We didn't speak to each other whatsoever, but I always hoped that somehow he'd get a hold of me first.
It never happened, and in the spring, I saw that he took me off his friend's list. Was I annoying? Did he delete me so only his close friends were on his list? It's killing me. I wish I had closure, but I find the idea of outright asking him to be hard. It's been almost two months since he's taken me off, and I can't stop thinking about it. I've even had dreams with him in it. I'm also rarely rejected by guys so I'm not sure if my ego is bruised or I really do just have a major crush on this guy. Either way, I'm tired of thinking about it!



You both had no communication so naturally he deleted you. Some people just don't like mutes sitting on their friends list. I am the same way, If someone doesn't talk to me then eventually I remove that person.

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So I went to washington Dc with my mom for a political convention. It was three days. The first day we were there my phone fell in the toilet. I had no way of contacting my boyfriend because my mom doesn't have a phone and our schedule was packed tightly. The only thing I thought of was to email him or try using a computer texting app. I texted him to tell him what was going on that same day so he wouldn't freak out. He ignored all texts and emails. I got back and called him and he said he doesn't want us to be together anymore because he doesn't trust me because I ignored him for three days. I don't know how to feel about the situation. what do you guys think about the situation.



Sometimes in situations like this we learn our fate. Unfortunately, he has jealousy and trust issues. It is sad that it took for this to happen for him to show his true colors yet how much he really cares about the relationship.

You deserve better, You could try to explain to him what happened but if he continues to act immature then it may be time to move on.

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I have this issue with my step-brother and it's kinda complicated. Basically, when we met at the ages of 7 (me) and 9 (him) we hated each other. Then as we got older we became friends. Then when I was 14 and he was 16 our relationship changed as we became more touchy feely, so fights which used to be all about injuring each other just became about having fun Then we started cuddling during said fights, if we got tired. It's not like we grew up together since I only saw him every couple of weekends when I would visit my dad. So when I was 14 I had this huge crush on him and I thought that maybe he liked me back, since the way we would treat each other was definitely not one I would treat my siblings in and I'm certain he wouldn't treat them in the saw way either. However he got a girlfriend so I backed off. He later found out I liked him but he was totally cool with it. He said he'd still do anything for me and that it didn't change anything. Then in February this year, when I was 16 and was 18, he and his girlfriend of 1 1/2 years split and he and I got really close again. We'd talk on Facebook a lot but then he started making really suggestive comments and hinting about kissing me. In March whilst at my Dad's house he and I ended up hanging out together. He began teasing me that I wanted him, and then I went off on a rant about how I didn't. Mid-rant he kissed me. He was my first kiss and he knew that too. I know at 16 maybe that's kinda lame that I've never been kissed but I was waiting for the right guy and then he kissed me which is so messed up. At the time he said that it meant nothing and that it was only to prove a point, but then after that every Sunday when I would visit my dad, me and my step-brother would end up hooking up, each time going further and further (last weekend we go to third base). It was totally different to the other times as when he touched me face to bring me in to kiss him his hand was shaking, he told me he missed me, there was no fighting before hand when there usually is, he'd kiss my cheek while we would just be cuddling, after he'd 'gone down on me' he kept worrying about whether I was okay or not, he even started eskimo kissing me at one point... but now it's really complicated because feelings aren't supposed to be involved but I think maybe they are :/ which once again, is so messed up
because it was just supposed to be for fun. I wasn't supposed to end up having feelings for him. He's my step-brother, none of this was ever supposed to happen. My friends know about it and they're all encouraging of it. And my family on my mom's side know I used to have a crush on him and they were okay with it then. However I highly doubt he has feelings for me, and if he did it's not like it could go anyway. On the one hand I don't want this thing to stop because I enjoy it but on the other hand I know that if it continues my feelings will just get stronger, we'll end up having sex and ultimately I will be the one who ends up hurt. So my questions are; Is any of this okay? What do I do now? Do you think he has feelings for me? How do I go about doing whatever it is I'm supposed to do next?


This behaviour is inappropriate

Although you may not be blood related, You both are step aiblings and family. This would be viewed as an embarrassment towards many families if they found out their kids are having relations with family.

Stop, know your boundaries. Yes this is unacceptable. He is your step brother. No, next time he makes a move tell him it's not happening and it's inappropriate.

I have step siblings too and never in a million years would I think to date one of them. I grew up with them, They're parebt is my step patent. It is wrong

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im 12 and my boyfrienis 12, ive been with him about 4 months now but i have a secret... when we r alone he touches me and i feel uncomfortable. i move away or tell him to stop but he just hurts me, so ive learnt to just let him do what he wants and noone gets hurt, i cant tell any of my family because they wont be able to imagine their little girl going through this, im not sure if he thinks this is ok or not! he lives in care so maybe thats why but i know he should stop when i tell him! he touches my boobs,bum,my Vagina. he always talks about sex and everything so i dont know what to do, i really need someone to talk to or give me advice.



Dump him

He is abusing you, When someone says no then that means no. You told him to stop, he continues, He is sexually abusing you. This is not okay and you NEED to tell someone. NEVER allow someone to abuse you, You are not an object. Stand your ground and tell an adult!

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F/high school age
my boyfriend lives in another country (4212 miles away). we've been together almost 3 months, we Skype everyday, and obviously we are an online relationship. i KNOW hes my soul mate.
..my mother is a strict christian lady and she has told me multiple times "no talking to strangers online" (as if i was 13!!) she always talks to me about molesters and men whom rape and hurt young woman and they draw them in through the internet,she asumes any guy on the internet is there to hurt girls (or something)
i know that if she met him she would love him,... but what do i say? how? shes a very loving person and she trusts me... but no guys on the internet... i know im in over my head, but if i didn't want to spend the rest of my life with this boy i wouldn't worry about telling her...
Well thank you for any help or advise you might have



Well, You probably don't want to hear this but I agree with Mom.

I truly believe you are not in love with him, You are in love with the thought of him. You cannot love someone you never met. On the other hand, People lie and pretend on the internet and while he may indeed be a person he says he is, Online relationships are a fantasy. Online relationships are not the real thing. You think he is your soul mate but you are hung up on the attention and are head over heels with knowing someone is giving you attention.

Let's be realistic, He is thousands of miles away. This man is a fantasy, The relationship is not real.

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Well I have this "best friend"
I dont even no what she is really. we both have done so pretty fucked up stuff to one another, sutff that it acutlaly extremely interesting and fucked up beyond believe but that would take another paragraph to explain ( email me if you want the story, it is very unique) But all and all, I love her. latley tho, things have been the rockiest the ever have been. but i am still holding on. I dont even think I like her very much anymore, but I keep remeber our past and how good she was to me than, and I am hoping this is just a phase for her. I mean, she isnt mean to me at the moment, she just... lies around aloot. And her values are a bit fucked up. But with me, we are still best friends. Its just when we are in different places do I realize she may not be treating me right. Why i think this is a phase is because this all started when she started going out with this guy pete. ever since they have gone out, she like protiztizes him first and that sucks. So i am just trying to get people opinions what to do... should i keep around this girl who was amazinng to me before her bf , and although she still isnt BAD to me persay, she puts me 2nd...which is a super bad feeling. Idk. its just hard to place someone first in your life and than be placed second in theirs... but does that mean u take a break? or deal?

I left way to much out, so if you are turly interested in my story. shoot me an email. more than happy to share.
thanks!



She doesn't sound like a friend period.

People change it's just apart of life, She changed, You changed. Once, Someone had told me you can't live on "what if" well, You also can't live on " what used to be" either.

You two USED to be friends. Quite frankly you value the "friendship" more then she does. In fact my dear, I would staet to realize you are holding onto nothing. May be time to move on and focus on what's more important in life.

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Hi I'm almost 15 and I haven't had a period yet, it's kind of worrying me I have had discharge for 5 months and I'm starting to think that something it wrong with me. I'm 15 in 3 months and I haven't had a period yet.




I was about 15 also, Don't worry so much. Everyone's body changes at their own pace. You are just fine

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I dyed my hair with red splat 2 or 3 days ago trying to get my hair red like ariana grande. Well it came out way too bright. Since it's a direct dye I'm not worried about damaging my hair, so if dyed a dark brown over it would it fix it? What should I do? Please help. I need it fixed NOW. I can't go to a professional so please don't say that. They cost wayyy too much and I don't have the time.




http://m.cvs.com/mt/www.cvs.com/shop/product-detail/Oops-Color-Remover?skuId=439373


Color Oops has been a big helper removing bad hair dyes in the past!

Good luck

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Hey :)
So i dated this guy for 8 months, it was an unhealthy relationship and he yelled at me alot so i broke up with him. I have been dating my current boyfriend now for 9 and a half months and we have a good relationship. My problem is, i was bored one day so i went in facebook and on my ex boyfriends wall there are all these cute pictures of him and his girlfriend and lovey dovey posts they post on each others walls and all that stuff. It has been really bothering me because i feel like was i not good enough or what because he never posted sweet things like that when i was dating him but yet he always claimed he loved me so much. Help me please, thanks



As long as you allow yourself to find a reason to be held back then you always will be.

To be with someone for 9 months then to one day randomly check in on an old flame indicates you may of never truly moved on. It's over, It has been over for 9 months now. You are with someone else and should be focused on your current relationship. Your ex moved on, He is with someone eles.

In fact for a little while I had done the same thing back 6 years ago when I aplit from my ex of 5 years. I eventually realized that it was completely pointless to check in. I moved on, I found better. Checking in on an old flame is a complete waste of time and to be honest? I couldn't care less. You need to focus on what you have now because if you put yourself backwards you could loose it.

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is it illegal for a 15 year old girl to have sex with a 17 year old guy or an 18 year old guy? thanks



Most states require the age of 16 to be able to legally consent to sex. So in other words yes, it is illegal.

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my niece let's call her Kat she is only 12 years old she told me that she has an online boyfriend and she isn't even allowed to date until she is 16 I mean she is 12. she doesn't live with her mom she lives with me and my mom . could she be doing this for attention because she doesn't live with her mom. also she has other behaviors I am concerned about she's always talking about how she drinks and is always talking about boys. I have caught her smoking ciggerates already what should I do I am only 16




This is something you may want to talk to an adult that you trust and is in charge of her. Tell them what you have said above, Good for you for being a good caring person.

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I have always been jealous of my childhood best friend (we haven't really been friends in the past few years). I still compare myself to her even though we're very different people.

What really irks me is how fake she is. She puts on this act, does things specifically to get a certain reaction out of people, works on her reputation, etc. Thanks to all of the above, though, she's popular and has a great group of friends.

I don't try to be popular, I don't want to be the type of person she acts like, etc. But I do want people to like me and admire me and think I'm cool. I thought college would be my escape, but she's going to the same college as me. It's a big school and I just know I'll see her and hear about her.

How do I get over my jealousy?


There ia really nothing to be jealous about when someone is going around desperately seeking attention upon themselves. If she is fake, Then people are only liking what she wants them to see.

I would rather have no friends and be real, Then to waste energy on being fake.

So basically you should realize she may be as fake as plastic. If you can see it, I am sure others will too. If anything this is more of a pity story on her part.

I would rather be friends with someone who is real. Fake tends to also come with a buttload of drama.



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Don't get me wrong, I don't care. Sex is sex, I like it, I like being with multiple guys, and if you don't include my gangbang fantasies, I'm really not that much of a slut, ya know? I've always been really sexual though, I watch porn when I'm bored, and whatnot. I lost my virginity at a whopping 14(with a couple), and have slept with 13 people since then. I've always been known to make really fucking bad decisions, hence why I got raped. It wouldn't bother me that much, if it weren't for the fact I'm like 2 people. My main brain being like, normal, and my pussys brain being like... stupid. I have a boyfriend I love very much, but the urges to watch porn(and 80% of his friends wanting to bang me) makes it hard. I cheated on my last bf and I hated myself for it. I'm 17, I love my boyfriend, and unless I'm single, I want this to stop. I just want to shut my pussy off. I don't mind being like that if I don't have a bf, but otherwise, its bothersome. If he had sex with me more, maybe it would be different... but he doesn't, Heh. My brain wants a relationship, but everything else want sex. I... honestly don't know what to do, Heh.



I hate the word slut


Do I think you make poor choices? Yes. Ithink you may want to look into getting some help for a possible sex addiction. Going down a road like this is dangerous and could lead to STD.

If you love your boyfriend and care about your relationship then love yourself enough to seek proper help for your problem.

Again, Therapy or group counseling

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Well ever since my best friend asked me out and I shot him down things have been extremely awkward between us.And he took another girl to prom and things were even more awkward. Tonight we webcammed for maybe 5 minutes. We went from sending each other over 400 messages a day to maybe 20-50. I don't know what to do! Please help!



I agree with Rahzie on this one

This guy wanted more then a friendship with you, You shot him down. He may be feeling a bit embarrassed or hurt from being rejected and possibly trying to figure out how to level with you on being your friend.

He doesn't want a friendship, Like Rahzie said, He had a goal and that was to be more then a friend.

So yes, Naturally you both will run into potholes until you can learn to put it behind you and move on.

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I'm not sure if I can fully express how much I want to hide under a rock and never come out. I attend college & have 2 classes together with a guy I might be interested in (first & last classes). I can see it in his eyes and actions that he is interested in me, I always catch him looking & he tries to initiate conversations, sadly I am not a very good conversationalist and don't give more than a couple of short word answers(however I can write a whole story online easily, so sorry this may be long). We don't talk that much with each other because of this, just occasional casual talk, being schoolwork or how we're doing.
Today we had a sub, we could leave whenever we were finished writing our essay. So I finished up early but for some reason thought I would wait for him to finish as well to leave, we both usually finish our work early. So I pretended I was still writing. Shortly after he finished up handed it in I gave mine in and we both packed up and left. I think he knew that I did that on purpose. We started walking together and had small talk (I think I stuttered!) and as we left the building I pushed the door open on a woman on the other side of it, appologized sheepishly. Out of nowhere I felt to just offer him a ride but was nervous, he said I have my car but its parked a little far away you can drop me off, and I said something stupid like yeah if you dont mind! He playishly asked how is your driving should I go and smiled. I chucked and said no its good you can trust me with it its alright. I look nothing like a so called "nerd" but guess I act like one. Well we got in and he remarked wow how do drive such big cars and I just cheesily said I like them better its easier(no its not everyone knows that its not) and he said lets see how you drive and I started going. He said my car is that way pointing beyond the barriers saying I guess you cant go that way. I told him I actually jump the curb if theres no campus security around when I'm late and could do it again now. He said no way how? So I did and he was amused thinking I was being sly but out of nowhere the security saw and pulled me over. He said uh-oh this is not going to be good. I told the security that I was in a rush appologizing and wouldnt do it again, and I stuttered! They said they would confiscate my tag if I did. Embarrassment! He said oh now theyre following you out. I said its ok I dont care. He said I hate these security, if it was me they wouldnt let me go. Then asked how do you get to park in here and I instead of playfully saying I have my ways I just bluntly told him how I got a note from the doctor saying "I have asthma" and to use something they can't prove.. (even though I do). He said oh interesting. Well meanwhile I passed the parking lot outside and asked him where is the enterance, he said we passed it. I said "oh you didn't tell me, I never entered it before so I dont know", he said "sorry about that I should have told you, I was just umm admiring your driving", but I was driving shabbily because I was nervous, and I smiled and said oh thanks its ok and made a sloppy U-turn, he said you can just drop me off here and I did, I was already so shocked at what had happened and my brain shut down, I wanted to tell him to have a nice weekend but was thinking of what other things to say and ended up saying have a nice time! And then tried cleaning it up with "and weekend" and stuttered again!He laughed and said you too thanks for the ride. I said no problem and then a take care as he was closing the door but he walked away and so I drove away :( I would never go back if I wasn't obligated to.. What should do/say, if anything? Anything to help me feel less horrible? Thanks in advance :(


Maybe this was a bit awkward but I am sure if he really likes you he won't hold it against you. Next time you talk to him try to relax, Ask him if he would be interested in going out for a coffee and you both could try from there. Trust me when U tell ya, You did a hell of a lot better then I could do. I can't talk to people to save my own ass! Ya did fine! Just for next time relax! Just be yourself.

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I am really at a loss her. My adult daughter has two children and is divorced. She has been seeing a nice young man off and on for a couple of years. I contacted him by text one weekend to ask if he knew if her boys had bought something for her for a special occasion. If not, I was going to take them shopping. He answered my question and that was the end of it. Well, now she's told me that it's inappropriate for me to contact her boyfriend without her knowledge. I explained what had taken place but she insisted I was in the wrong and must respect her boundaries. Was that inappropriate?



In a way yes, You're best bet would of been to contact your daughter not her boyfriend.

Whether or not it would be inappropriate would depend o. How well you know him, How long they been together etc. If you randomly approached the situation then yes, You were wrong.

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If you tricked the cops into thinking that there was a murder or something like that by using ketchup as blood, or something like that, I don't know, and you time the cops on how long it takes them to get there, and somehow get the news reporters on your side, to teach the cops to do their job correctly, could they arrest you? Would they stick you in jail for a few years? How would they react to that? Has anyone ever done something like that?

I am sick and tired of hearing stories of people like the three women found this week, and Jaycee Lee Dugard. It makes me so angry. I want to see the cops embarrassed into doing a PERFECT job, or getting fired. Their job is too fucking important for them to be lazy. Way too fucking important...



Yes you can get into serious trouble, This is false report/Abuse to 911 this is unlawful.

Why the hell would you do something like that anyway? You must have way to much time on your hands to do something so immature.

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I need 365 reseons to love my mom can you help me



I really do not have 365 answers but what about writing Mom a poem?

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