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I'm a slut...
Don't get me wrong, I don't care. Sex is sex, I like it, I like being with multiple guys, and if you don't include my gangbang fantasies, I'm really not that much of a slut, ya know? I've always been really sexual though, I watch porn when I'm bored, and whatnot. I lost my virginity at a whopping 14(with a couple), and have slept with 13 people since then. I've always been known to make really fucking bad decisions, hence why I got raped. It wouldn't bother me that much, if it weren't for the fact I'm like 2 people. My main brain being like, normal, and my pussys brain being like... stupid. I have a boyfriend I love very much, but the urges to watch porn(and 80% of his friends wanting to bang me) makes it hard. I cheated on my last bf and I hated myself for it. I'm 17, I love my boyfriend, and unless I'm single, I want this to stop. I just want to shut my pussy off. I don't mind being like that if I don't have a bf, but otherwise, its bothersome. If he had sex with me more, maybe it would be different... but he doesn't, Heh. My brain wants a relationship, but everything else want sex. I... honestly don't know what to do, Heh.
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I think that you can be addicted to sex. Having sex and enjoying all of it is great, even with different partners but when it gets to the point where it's affecting your life and you can't control it, it becomes a problem.
So the best advice is to go to counseling or therapy. They'll be able to help you get to the root of the problem and fix it. Then you'll be able to have a better relationship with your boyfriend.
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I hate the word slut
Do I think you make poor choices? Yes. Ithink you may want to look into getting some help for a possible sex addiction. Going down a road like this is dangerous and could lead to STD.
If you love your boyfriend and care about your relationship then love yourself enough to seek proper help for your problem.
Again, Therapy or group counseling
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Like Santos, I'm not sure what the question is either! There is an age-old debate as to whether enjoying life means having many desires and fulfilling them to the max. If not you might as well be 'a rock or a stone.' instead of a human. Be slave to nobody, even yourself, that's how to be happy and live a great life. It's the only way to be. The argument is that by living this life you do not inded become free or happy. True, you are slave to nobody, even yourself. You indulge yourself in every whim and desire. But do you not become a slave to THE DESIRE WITHIN YOURSELF? Unable to control it? So isn't a degree of self-control likely to bring about a more contented, undisturbed life rather than devoting so much time and energy fulfilling every desire, which you can see can NEVER be fully satisfied...or you 'live like a stone' again. Any help. Not my original idea I'm afraid. I'm not THAT good...pinched it from the argument between Socrates & Callicles, two Greek philosophers. Callicles was the 'pleasure seeker' and Socrates suggested some 'moderation and self control'. Callicles KNEW that the desires couldn't actually BE satisfied once and for all, and wanted it that way...that was part of their appeal. The constant attempt to satisfy was what 'living' was all about. Socrates basically said that you'll just wear yourself out trying and be no more fulfilled than the man (or woman in your case) who governs his/her desires a little more, and is more moderate. Otherwise the desires themselves WILL rule your life, worse than any master could. They WERE discussing sex too, amongst other desires...nothing new in this world, eh?? ps...Socates basically 'won' this argument, but it's your life. Maybe you favour the view of Callicles? You decide!
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First let me say I very much dislike the word slut. I do not believe any woman can be a slut regardless of how many relationships she may have. The word slut has very much to do with the double standard between men and women. A man can sleep with 100 women and there is no such word by which to call him that even relates to words like slut.
So first things first you're not a slut. If anything you are over sexed, especially for the tender age that you started having sex. Being raped didn't help your sexual addiction or stop you from wanting more sex.
Yes there is such a diagnoses as a person being addicted to sex which I believe is what your problem may be. This is why I agree with Razhie that you should get therapy either form a psychologist or a psychiatrist for this addiction. No your not crazy; these people are the people best trained to help you.
Being addicted to sex is no different that being addicted to alcohol or drugs. There are treatments for this addiction that will allow you to lead a more normal life without cheating on a boyfriend or future husband.
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Honestly, you should see a therapist.
Not because there is anything wrong with wanting sex, or enjoying fantasies and sex acts.
You should see a therapist because you have urges you can't control and because you aren't sure what you want from life.
Not being able to control sexual urges, to the point that you betray a partner or put yourself in danger, is a big problem. Having urges is fine. Having urges that rule your life and define your behavoir is not.
You are only 17. It's okay to not really know what you want in life, but you don't have to have some idea why you want a relationship so badly, even when it seems to be at odds with other things you desire.
So seriously. You need to do some soul searching and you'd be best to do it with some professional guidance.
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what are you asking ,not clear so write your question again
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