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How can I stop being jealous of this girl?
I have always been jealous of my childhood best friend (we haven't really been friends in the past few years). I still compare myself to her even though we're very different people.
What really irks me is how fake she is. She puts on this act, does things specifically to get a certain reaction out of people, works on her reputation, etc. Thanks to all of the above, though, she's popular and has a great group of friends.
I don't try to be popular, I don't want to be the type of person she acts like, etc. But I do want people to like me and admire me and think I'm cool. I thought college would be my escape, but she's going to the same college as me. It's a big school and I just know I'll see her and hear about her.
How do I get over my jealousy?
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The only way you can do this is try and improve yourself in every aspect in which you can manage..You are saying that she is fake so already you are far ahead of her in terms of being a good human being...Stay true to yourself... Try to make friends who are genuine and will supprt you even if you are a princess or a pauper... Friends attracted by popularity are not real ones..Genuien people will surely love and admire you for the person you are..popular girls are found in thousands in every city but true and nice people are just 1 in a lakh people...remember that and you will find that ther's no need to be jealous of her. Focus on your own life..
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Jealousy is when a person experiences negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, anxiety and an fear of loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. Jealousy often consists of a combination of emotions such as anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust. Sounds like thats what you're going through.
So Tell me, do you know what the opposite of Jealousy is? Thats what you need to strive for.
It will be the opposite of what wikipedia says above that jealousy is.
Taking it in order:
That means you need to focus on feeling SECURE, at PEACE, BELIEF YOU WILL GAIN SOMETHING, in place of anger, LOVE, in place of resentment, look for THE GOOD in the situation, ADEQUATE, all your needs being taken care of, in CONTROL, and able to feel and take PLEASURE in life.
Focus on yourself, not her. We can only change ourselves. Dont ever marry someone thinking you can change them. YOU CAN NOT CHANGE ANOTHER HUMANBEING not shouting just want you to get it..cus its that important.
So again, Focus on yourself. Get some self help books to help you become secure, a healthy self image and all the rest. Once you have dealt with your personal growth and strength...that will shine like a beacon and draw to you the people that will make the best true friends for you.
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There ia really nothing to be jealous about when someone is going around desperately seeking attention upon themselves. If she is fake, Then people are only liking what she wants them to see.
I would rather have no friends and be real, Then to waste energy on being fake.
So basically you should realize she may be as fake as plastic. If you can see it, I am sure others will too. If anything this is more of a pity story on her part.
I would rather be friends with someone who is real. Fake tends to also come with a buttload of drama.
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