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Crushing HARD on a stranger
26 y/o female.
In the fall, I went in for a job interview at a local store. I instantly felt attracted to the guy giving me the interview. I passed it, but had to turn the job down for reasons not worth mentioning.
A week later, he "followed" me on Facebook. I wasn't sure what his reasoning behind it was, but I decided to add him as a friend. We didn't speak to each other whatsoever, but I always hoped that somehow he'd get a hold of me first.
It never happened, and in the spring, I saw that he took me off his friend's list. Was I annoying? Did he delete me so only his close friends were on his list? It's killing me. I wish I had closure, but I find the idea of outright asking him to be hard. It's been almost two months since he's taken me off, and I can't stop thinking about it. I've even had dreams with him in it. I'm also rarely rejected by guys so I'm not sure if my ego is bruised or I really do just have a major crush on this guy. Either way, I'm tired of thinking about it!
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He most likely deleted you because you guys didn't talk.
It's almost impossible for him to find you annoying when you guys didn't speak at all.
The best thing to do, in my opinion, is to just let this go and move on.
If you really want to start talking to him, then add him again and message him every once in awhile and see how his responses are.
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You both had no communication so naturally he deleted you. Some people just don't like mutes sitting on their friends list. I am the same way, If someone doesn't talk to me then eventually I remove that person.
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You weren't rejected. You never spoke to one another.
You don't need closure. Nothing was every opened to begin with.
What you need to do is realize that 99% of this experience happened entirely in your own head. If you wanted to take it out of your own head and into the real world, you had to actually SPEAK to him in some way.
After months of not speaking, he removed you. Honestly, it's probably because he found someone and decided there was no reason to have a random girl he was attracted to once, months ago, but never spoken to since, on his friends list.
Your are right: Your ego is bruised. You thought you were just so awesome that of course he'd make the first move, eventually, and he didn't. You can't know why he didn't, but he didn't.
Next time you think someone is awesome, speak to them. Take control of your own fate. Don't count on your good looks to get you what you want without you having to do anything. Getting something you want is worth taking the tiny risk of saying 'Hi' first. Most people take that risk all the time, at 26 is high time you learned how to do it.
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