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well, my hair is straight, but the ends go all retarded and wavy and this totally kills my hair. does anybody kno why this happens and how i can get rid of the waviness? thanx lotss

It might because you got a perm and that's what's left of it. I don't know though. Mine does that, too. Try using a good straightener. A good one has thin gold plates. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I really like this boy and he says that he really likes me, however he has a girlfriend and doesn't want to hurt her by dumping her. He is always with me and he tells me that he cares and wants to be with me, but I don't want to get hurt. It hurts me enough to know that he has a girlfriend, I have never loved like this before. Everytime he kisses me I seem to melt. I want him so badly, but what about his gf. he is afraid and so am I?

You have to tell him who he wants and cares about more. Who's he's more comfortable with. It's a hard decision, but that's the only thing you really can do. Sorry I couldn't help out more, I tried. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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okay I know this is random, but like I have really weird hair thats in between being curly or straight (but it doesnt look good lol) and I was wondering does anyone know anything that will make your hair straight or curly w/o too much use of a straightener or a curling iron? Thanks soo much! (Please dont delete!)

Try the kind of straighteners that are thin and have gold plates, they are always the best kind! And for curly hair, there is this stuff you can get in salons, it's called Curls Rock! Sorry, I don't know the brand, but that's the best I could do! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I have lost so many important and special people in my life that now I don't know who to trust anymore. I am getting really close to someone (everyone I get close to is an adult) and I am afraid of getting hurt by her like everyone else I get close to. I have told her this and she says that shes not like the other people, but how do I know. This is a person that I wish were my mother because she is just so incredible and my mom doesnt care about me. What do I do?

I would trust her, she sounds really nice! I'm sorry you're mom doesn't care about you, that's so sad. But, remember that not all people let you down. Give her a chance! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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My boyfriend wants to go farther than i want to go and ya but i rele like him and hes soo cute and the only reason he wants to is because his brother makes fun of him and yay so should i have sex with him

Definitely DON'T have sex if you're uncomfortable doing it! Talk to your bf and tell him that he should ignore his brother! Whatever you do, don't have sex! Lol. Try talking to your bf and see if he'll slow down a bit. If you loves you, he'll wait until you're ready! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Hi, my name is Lacey, and I just moved from Washington to Wisconsin, and i HATE IT!!! everyone is against me, what my so called my friends did to me is writed me a note and told me that i am a slut face hore. How should i tell my parents that i want to move out of this hell hole?

Wow, that really sucks. Try making new friends, and if absolutely NOTHING works, then talk to your parents about it, and they'll be able to help you! Good luck! I'm sure it's not that bad, just the people in your school! Maybe write to your old friends, they'll always have your back!
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~*Erin*~

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okay so heres the thing.....i am really depressed, and i know it and so i cut myself....but not my wrists or anything just my legs and my ankles.......and i think about death alot, but not ohters just myself....what do you think i shuld do

Definitely stop cutting yourself, that won't help ANYTHING! Try talking to your parents, your friends, a teacher, counseler, ANYBODY you have to, you need help fast. Remember that if you kill yourself, think of all the people who will be sad and miss you. Don't do it. Try joining a club or a sport and make new friends. But whatever you do, DON'T KILL YOURSELF! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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how do you get rid of zits FAST! besides the everyday face wash... thank you for those who help

There's this stuff you can get at a drug store that makes zits go away in 8 hours. I think it's called Rapid Clear. Also, if you can't wait that long, try powder, cover-up, foundation, or concealer, whatever works! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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There's this guy at my school that I really like, and think I am in love with (I have thought this for YEARS). But I'm afraid to start anything with him because he has kind of been the center of many jokes between me and my friends, and he's not exactly the hottest guy on earth lol. He is kind of short, in fact, I think I'm taller than him. But he's kind of cute in a way and I really like his personality. I know I could probably get a hotter guy, but for some reason I feel like he is the only one I could be happy with. But I am afraid of what my friends will think if I tell them I like him. So what should I do?

First off, don't worry about what your friends think. If they don't like, then who cares? Try talking to the guy when you're alone and be like, "My one friend thinks we'd be so cute together, what do you think about?" And if he says no, then leave it at that, and if he says yes, then there ya go! Just remember that it doesn't matter what other people think, only what you think. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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What are some good, quick, easy ways to gain self confidence and self esteem? And to be able to be more outgoing?

Try joining clubs and sports at school or just things like. You'll make new friends and gain new interests, and find things that you're good at. That should make you feel better about yourself! Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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When I was 8, my grandfather died of cancer. It is now 6 years later and I still am extreamly upset about it. I was very close to my grandpa, I always remember him joking around with me. He'd always tap me on the head when I wasn't looking and then I'd turn around and he'd be looking around pretty much making it obvious that he did it. He'd always give me money even if I didn't ask for it and he was just a very happy grandpa. The night I found out he died, I was devistated. I was in my room listening to music and I heard the phone ring but didn't think much of it. My mom called me and my brother into her room and she told us to sit down. She looked a bit shakey but I still didn't think much of it. She held my hand and looked at me and said Papa (that's what we called him) just passed a way. And I looked at her in disbelief. I was in too much shock to even cry. Once I started crying I coudln't stop. I fell asleep crying, I woke up crying and I cried for the next 4 days straight. This happened six years ago and I'm still upset about it. Everytime I go to my grandma's house and I see his pictures I cry. Can anyone help me? It's been 6 years and I'm still not over his death. Please help.

I'm sorry! You just need to remember the good times and try not to think about him just being dead. And always remember that he's in a better place. And know that he wouldn't want to see you like this. Try talking to him when you're alone. Even though he's gone, he still watches over you and can hear you. And ask God for the strength to get over being so sad. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Okay.. well there's this girl at school.. and she told EVERYONE i have herpes and that i masterbated in front of everyone and that my boyfriend is only going out with me because i pay for his weed and alcohol *WHICH ISNT TRUE* HE PAYS FOR ME! And NON of this is true.. she is saying all of this stuff because MY boyfriend was her best friends X boyfriend.. and like my bfs X hasn't said ONE word to me about me and my bf going out.. it's just her best friend is sticking her nose into my business and this should be between me and courtney *his ex* The funny thing is.. is that.. my bf.. has been in love with me for like ever.. and we dated before him and courtney got together but i STOPPED talking to him for multiple reasons *mainly all because of me* but like.. he didn't even ask courtney out.. his friend asked her out for him.. and he didn't wanna say like.. no i didn't want him to ask you out.. because that would of hurt her feelings.. so.. he NEVER EVER called her and they only went out for two weeks.. but they never spoke once throughout this whole two weeks.. well.. one night i spent the night with him.. and i didn't even sleep in the same bedroom as him.. i slept out in the living room with his mom watching movies all night.. *my family knows his whole family* and my mom KNEW i stayed there.. so then those 2 girls automatically ASSUME that i slept with him.. and HES A VIRGIN! ugh.. i hate school drama.. well yeah.. i have no clue what to do.. this is the stupidest situation in the world *i think* but it's not cool of those two girls to start rumors about me just because i got my man back! Dumb whores!!! *sorry this was really long lol*

Tell those girls that they need to stop. And talk to them and everyone who they've told, and tell them that none of it is true. If nothing else works, you need to talk to your principal or a teacher or a counselor about this. Try also talking to your bf about it. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Okay... Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months... it will be 3 months on the 6th of january..! Well see my friend and her boyfriend have been going out for not even 1 month and they have already kissed (tongue) and held hands and more! Me and my boyfriend have kissed but it seems that we are never alone because of this girl that likes him... she is always there, she won't just leave me and him alone for just a little bit! What should i do? it is bothering me so much that my friends are afraid of me breaking up with my boyfriend over this girl always being there!

She might be there to make sure you guys don't do anything. Try telling her that you want some alone time with your guy. And it's ok that you're taking things slow, you don't need to be frenching yet! Lol. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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My house smells really bad.. like dogs. How do i get the smell to go away? I've tried air fresheners like NeutraAir and Febreeze and Oust but none of them seem to work. Is there an INEXPENSIVE way to get my house clean- and fresh-smelling? I'll rate 5's for everyone who tries 2 answer!

Try opening the windows every now and then, and try the Lysol stuff, it works good. Keep using the air fresheners. I guess depending on how bad it smells, it might take some time. It will eventually smell better if you keep at it. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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I live in an apartment building. I wanted to do laundry last night, but all 6 of the washers were being used. Two were no longer running so I decided to come back 20 minutes later.

When I did, the machines were still full of clothes. A little mad I decided I would come back in a while. When I came back, all the machines were off, but full of clothes, including the same two that had been off for almost an hour. And the dryers were open, so it is not like they couldn't use them. I got so fustrated, I just decided to not to do the laundry. This has happend before as well.

Is it acceptable to just remove other peoples clothes from the machines? And if so how long should I wait before removing them? I know it's kinda rude, but so is hogging the washing machine.

Try asking them first, if they're there, but if you can't get any answers, maybe you could remove the clothes and just put them back in as soon as you're done. And maybe try being nice about it, and fold their clothes. If they come up to you to thank you, try talking to them about it then. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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About a month ago, I got asked to go to a concert. Well, this guy's mother asked my mom if I wanted to go and bring a friend. Our parents are like best friends, so that's why he didn't ask me in person. And I have no problem with that. So I invited a friend to go with me. We had a really good time. My friend and I were the only two girls there. All the guys that were there were really nice to us. There were seven of them. He picked us up and brought us home too. He was really nice to us. Anyways, the guy that we went with- I don't like him as a crush, but we're friends. He has a girlfriend, but it wasn't at the time of the concert. I was just wondering what that means. Like, are we just friends, or more. I think that we're just friends, but what are some other opinions.

P.S. I've been over to his house a lot to swim, he's been over to mine for lots of stuff too. But our parents are really good friends and so are our sisters.

I think you guys are just friends. Don't try getting into a relationship, because you don't want to ruin your friendship. You definitely don't wanna risk something like that. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Hey everybody! I am kinda deppressed. I cant figure out what i'm good at. I used to skateboard and that was my life. It is what made me happy. But i got really bad at it and only get mad when i do it now. So i cant do that anymore. I like to make rap lyrics but also suck at that. Those were the only two things that made me truely happy, and i cant do either one of them. So i realized that there is nothing i am good at. And if thats the case, what is my point in living? And how can i figure out what i'm good at? Ive tried so many things like different sports, activities, just all sorts of things and i cant seem to be good at anything. Please help. Thank you all.

I suck at a lot of things too, but that's no reason to kill yourself over. I know you've tried lots of things, but have you tried piano? Or the guitar? I tried piano 2 years ago, and that's what I'm good at. I'm on level 5 (that's the highest level) and I've only been at it for 2 years! So don't worry if you can't find something right away, just keep looking! Everyone's good at something. My brother is 22, and still doesn't know what he wants to do for a living. You'll find out what that thing is eventually, trust me. I know you're good at something. Don't kill yourself over this. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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Well my sister for the first time met my boyfriend and then when we were all talking (my sister, my boyfriend, and me) he touched my hand, *not a big deal right?* well to my sister it was so. . . that night my sister went on aim and told him not to touch my hand infront of her my sister is 28 and shes acting WAY over protective!! help please what do i say to her to not make her feel im making my self like "older" then her!!!!!! i'll rate high

Just talk to her about how she's being way overprotective. It's not really her fault. She's means well, it's just because she loves you, so it's not entirely a bad thing. But just explain (nicely) how you feel, and she'll understand. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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ok well im 13/m and i have feelings for my friend. The problem is that she has been going out with her boyfriend for a long time (year and like a month) andso i've been trying to be there for her and be her friend but now her and her bf are going through some rough times and she doesn't think he likes her anymore. I want to make a move but think that might be taking advantage of her and her situation. Should i go for it? Is it taking advantage of her current situatuion?

I guess it is, sort of, but she needs someone right now, and that can be you. She needs a friend to talk to. But just wait until everything settles down before you make a move, because she needs time to adjust. It takes time to move on, after breaking up with someone you've gone with for a long time. Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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This is really long, but I need help! Last year I befriended three girls in my class. They became my really good friends, but one of them was my best friend. One of the other girls isn't very nice to me this year, since her and my best friend used to be best friends. I think that she's jealous. So my best friend and I haven't been hanging around the other two that much just because they're not very nice to us and some other incidents have happened. We've started to hang out with another group. They seemed really mean last year, but this one girl left and now they're all nice. So all of us are really good friends and we all get along great. We've all become closer through church, sports, and school, so I see them all the time. She my best friend and I just leave our two 'ex' best friends alone? They seem to be happy, but I do feel sort of bad. I'd rather hang out with my newer friends though. Help!!

I think you should just leave them alone. Actually, that's happened to me before. I had a best friend, and then some girl took her away. And then they were best friends. This was like, 3 years ago, and they're still best friends. I was upset for awhile, but I got over it, and now I have better friends. So I guess we just weren't meant to be friends. Sometimes that's the way it is. So my answer to you is just let them go, and have fun with your friends. (that sort of sounded wrong, but you know what I mean, lol) Good luck!
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~*Erin*~

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