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trust issue
I have lost so many important and special people in my life that now I don't know who to trust anymore. I am getting really close to someone (everyone I get close to is an adult) and I am afraid of getting hurt by her like everyone else I get close to. I have told her this and she says that shes not like the other people, but how do I know. This is a person that I wish were my mother because she is just so incredible and my mom doesnt care about me. What do I do?
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I think you should tell her how you feel and that you don't think your mom cares about you half as much as she does. Maybe she will be there for you more than a mom and I'm sure whenever you need her she will be there for you! Like someone said if this is an adult, I don't think you have to worry about anything, especially getting hurt! If your still unsure hold this off a while until you know her in the best way you want to. Hope i helped XoJacXo
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If this is a adult.. i dont think you'll get hurt. I doubt she'll hurt you exspeacially if she is a mother figure
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Here I thought I was the only one who had that trust issue. Sometimes it's worth taking a risk and letting someone in. You're risking getting hurt again, yes, but you're also risking being happy. Isn't that worth it? I had the same dilema a while back when my bf and I started dating. I was hurt so many times before by people I got close to, I didn't know if it was worth letting him in and risking getting hurt. I fought it for some time, but in the end realized I'm happier with him than I am without him. Thats the question you should ask yourself; are you happier with her or without her?
JyNxiE
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all relationships run the rist of getting hurt. you jsut need to edal with it and try to trust her.
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she seems nurturing (sp) and i think that you should take her words. you can always hold it against her when she isnt being trustworthy or truthful. you could always put her to a test by telling her a secret and seeing if she will tell people.
good luck!
((x o ♥ Michelle))
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as i told another person what i did was i went and told my friend a secret which was a lie. And then i would go around asking her friends if she said anything about me and if she did then i would like not tell her anything. So i hope this helps with you!
lildesidevil143
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this person sounds rele nice get to no her and im sure ull be able to trust her im sry about ur mom thats rele sad if u need to talk to anyone my aim sn is ncking35 hope it works becca
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obviously you have trust uissues, that is no secret. but i don't think it is the person, i think it is you. you put all of your trust in one and when things occur you are left heartbroken. You need to find a balance. Someone who you can trust, but not with every aspect of your life. I have many secrets best kept to myself, that is how a normal mind reacts. and maybe your issues come from your mother, try talking to her, asking how her day was and etc. i realize by asking a simple question is never going to cure your trust issues but it may open new doors with your mother over time. Also, maybe it would be time to scope out some friends your own age, the very best friends can be trusted i can promise you that. good luck hunnie,
PinkLady4863
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I know it can be hard to trust especially when people are always letting you down but sometimes you just have to let the past go. Not having a motherly figure really sucks, so if you look to this woman as a mom and she has never let you down then give her a chance. Don't go losing trust in her if she hasn't even hurt you.
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get to know this perosn a bit more test her to find out if she is worthy of being your friend! and when you feel really comfortable with her then you can feel closer and tell her all your secrets!
*BeSs*
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I would trust her, she sounds really nice! I'm sorry you're mom doesn't care about you, that's so sad. But, remember that not all people let you down. Give her a chance! Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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You can't let this trust issue get in the middle of your life because if it does, it'll really affect you hard and it will be an everlasting phase . Think of it as the past . Every step you take becomes your past . So every person that you have trust issues with, let you have trust issues with them . Not with the people who want to be in your life ,and towards the people that really love you and care about you . Every person you have issues with let them be past issues and forgive them . For they will get theirs and you truly shall get yours . So don't let trust issues define who you are and who you'll/may come to be . Don't let your fear of this issue stop people from coming in your life because this issue could chase them away . So, I hope I was some help and I wish you a MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR .
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