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Still not over my grandfather's death
When I was 8, my grandfather died of cancer. It is now 6 years later and I still am extreamly upset about it. I was very close to my grandpa, I always remember him joking around with me. He'd always tap me on the head when I wasn't looking and then I'd turn around and he'd be looking around pretty much making it obvious that he did it. He'd always give me money even if I didn't ask for it and he was just a very happy grandpa. The night I found out he died, I was devistated. I was in my room listening to music and I heard the phone ring but didn't think much of it. My mom called me and my brother into her room and she told us to sit down. She looked a bit shakey but I still didn't think much of it. She held my hand and looked at me and said Papa (that's what we called him) just passed a way. And I looked at her in disbelief. I was in too much shock to even cry. Once I started crying I coudln't stop. I fell asleep crying, I woke up crying and I cried for the next 4 days straight. This happened <b>six</b> years ago and I'm still upset about it. Everytime I go to my grandma's house and I see his pictures I cry. Can anyone help me? It's been 6 years and I'm still not over his death. Please help.
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You can never truly get over someone's death, but you have to accept that what is done is done and not linger in the past. You should set aside a day to look at all your photographs, videos, and etc. and know that even though hes not with you anymore doesnt mean you have to forget about the good times you had with him. My grandma died, and i was as sad as you, im not over it, but to keep myself from crying i'd think of a happy or funny thing she said and just live with the memories. I'm very sorry about your grandpa. Good luck.
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Get some pictures together of him, videos, anything. Put them all together in a box of book, and put them somewhere you never look. Forget about them. You sometimes have to let go of the past. I realize that you were very close to him, but you can be with him later in heaven. Sometimes there is no other option than to only look at the future and not linger in the past. I'm very sorry about all this, and I hope I helped.
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there is absolutely nothing wrong with this, i personally am not over my great grandmother noni's death. but here are some ways to cope: do not think of him as "gone" but more as in heaven
he didn't leave you, he is there, watching over you always. Also, you need to realize he doesn't want you to still be dwelling over him, he led a good life. he wants to see you enjoying life as he did. do you really want him looking down to see you are wasting your life on his account? well, i wish you the best of luck,
PinkLady4863
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My granddad died about a week and a half ago and i was very upset for a while, but instead of being upset you should be happy for the life he had and the good times you were able to have with him.
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I'm sorry! You just need to remember the good times and try not to think about him just being dead. And always remember that he's in a better place. And know that he wouldn't want to see you like this. Try talking to him when you're alone. Even though he's gone, he still watches over you and can hear you. And ask God for the strength to get over being so sad. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~
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Your Papa sounds a lot like my Papaw. We had the same kind of joking loving relationship. I lost my grandfather 6 years ago too, but I knew he had cancer. I stood at his deathbed with one hand over his heart and the other petting his hair and telling him I love him and that it was alright to stop suffering now. He died like that, with all his girls around him and one of his sons on the phone telling him goodbye. As hard as that moment was on me, I know that's why I was able to grieve over him and find myself again so quickly. Part of your problem is something called closure. Your mother told you he was gone, you didn't witness it. Somewhere in your heart you want to believe it's not true. That he's still there with you, but he's just out of reach. I don't know what it will take to help you come to terms with his loss, but try visiting his grave. Talk to him there and tell him how you feel and how much you miss him. I have never felt the need to visit my Papaw's grave. I told him everything I needed to tell him before he passed. You never had that chance, maybe it will help. Big Hug!
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i'm sorry! i lost my grandfather to cancer when i was 12! it was tough on me and it still is. it takes awhile to get over deaths but you must remember that your "Papa" is in a better place where he isn't in pain. it takes a short time for some people to get over the loss and for others it takes a long time. it's okay to cry, i sumtimes cry too because i think oh there's another christmas where he sin't going to be here but then i think to myself he's looking down and he's watching all the time! you said you were close to your "Papa" well it is going to take a while for you and don't worry about not getting over it you will be fine. It's just taking longer for you to get over him. I hope all is well and i hope you enjoy your holidays!
*BeSs*
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well, I was like that when my grandpa died also and i learned that hes somewhere good =) so think of it like that! feel bettteeerrr w/ yourr feeelingss !!!
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Hey. my grandfather died when i was 8 too. i was Close to my granddaddy{that is what we called him} too. It's Is hard. But Just Think He Is In a better place. you are not alone. But it was his time to go. one day it will be your's too. noone lives forever and you will see him. But he is always will be {in angel form as he sounds like he was,} watching. He's just a guardien angel for you but you always have you memories so he's never really gone. Good luck, and i'm always here to talk! <3 Taylor
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try to set your mind on something else. and when you go to your granma's house try not to look at tat picture
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