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I really like this guy named Mike. Me and my friend Logan went to the movies with him and he held are hand and kissed both of us. Then after that he gave us his number. I was really attracted to him. He asked out my friend Logan but she said no. I really like him and he knows i do but now he likes some other girl. why would he kiss me and hold hands with me and telling me all this stuff on the phone and now likes another girl?
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confused

Oh yes.. a "pimp". Well then I'd definetley just forget about him, cause obviously he doesn't want a relationship.. he just a big man whore and is looking for a good time... with 3 other girls all at once. Even if you dated him, who knows what he'd be doing behind your back? =/ And if he's a pothead, then I'd kinda of steer clear of that too, because that's bad stuff. Do you know all the stuff that can possibly happen to you? And I'm sure he doesn't even like the ugly girl.. he's probably just using her too. It's just better if you get out of this quicker, and don't stay in like all the other girls are. If you want to talk some more, just IM me! Hope I helped!!







Love,
MELii

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I ounce went out with this girl, but then she dumped me. I still like this girl but i dont know if she even likes me the littlist, i cant figure out if i should ask her out or just get over her.

Well if your friends with her ; then I don't see why you shouldn't try and ask her out, because you two obviously like eachother ( I mean like just like ) to some point and you two have some sort of closeness... but if you two aren't friends or anything.. then I'd try talking to her one day and she her reactions, if she's giving you the cold shoulder or she's saying rude stuff to you.. then I'd just forget about her.. cause obviously if you asked her out, she'd say no...but if she startes being friendly and talking and possibly flirting.. then you should try =) Hope I helped!!







Love,
MELii

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What is the best energy drink to buy besides red bull? Does starbucks double shot give you alot of energy?

Yeah Starbuck's double shot does give you alot of energy and theres another drink I think it's called Amped...and theres also Powerade, that works really good too. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 16(I'm 14), because he didn't want a relationship and I did. All he wants is friends with bennefits. I told him I wasn't going to do that with him, and he said that was ok. He asked if we could hang out today, just hang out. so I said yeah, and I told myself that I wasn't going to do anything with him and then he came over, and the next thing I know, im straddling him (fully clothed) and making out with him. It got carried away and I ended up giving him a hand job. He thinks it was just friends with bennefits and I'm a piece of ass. I don't want that, and I want to know if I should just cut off all relations with him and stop talking to him, I dont need him as a friend. or a boyfriend. what do I do!?

He sounds like a major jerk to me. I'd just cut off all relations with him.. cause' all he wants is to be friends with benefits and he thinks all you are is a piece of ass which is just rude! And I'm sure he was hoping exactly what happened whenever you came over.. he probably didn't want to just "hang out". Seriously, I'd just stop talking to the jerk, cause if he wants to talk to you again, all he wants is to make out or something. Hope I helped!!




Love,
MELii

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I'm 14, soon to be 15. He just turned 19. He's so sweet and calls me baby/beautiful/sweetheart. All that stuff. I like him alot, and he likes me too. We've hooked up }not sex{ and I told my close cousins. They all make fun of me now saying that he's 19 and stuff like that. It really pisses me off because they don't know him. He's amazing and he likes me too. We live 2 hours apart, but I see him when I go up to my cottage. Which is alot. I really like him and I want it too work and so does he. But I want my cousins off my case. Should I tell them that I broke up with him??

IF you have any other advice about my situation I would greatly appreciate anything you have to offer.

Thank you soo much.

Love,
- Ashley

Well I just wanna say first that are you sure you should date him? Because its against the law.. it's illegal for 18 year olds and older to date minors.. I just wanted to say that ; because then you two could get in a lot of trouble. He could get put in jail! And that's 3 years of sneaking behind peoples backs...but then again I really don't find age a problem. I like a guy right now that's turning 17..but 3 years is my limit. But anyways, I'd just be like to your cousins," Hey.. back off. I seriously don't care what you think, because age doesn't matter whenever two people care about eachother. And at least I have SOMEONE older or not." Because if you lie to them they could find out somehow, and that wouldn't be good. Hope I helped!!






Love,
MELii

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hey
does anyone know any way a 15 year odl can make money except for a job, like doing other things..mmkay thnaks

You can:

-babysitting
-have a yard sale
-lawn mowing
-pet sitting
-sell stuff on ebay
-walking dogs
-ask parents for allowance
-doing chores around your house
-house sitting


...hope I helped!!






Love,
MELii

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Well there's this guy that I've known pretty much my whole life. He's my neighbor but we've never really been that great of friends. We both play tennis so I see him kind of a lot in the summer. The other day we were talking online and he said we should hang out more. He's gonna call me when he gets back from basketball camp. I really wanna hang out with him but thing is, I don't know him that well. I don't know what to talk about with him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to talk about? How can I open up to him more? Thanks, any help will be appreciated! Oh and I'm 14/f

Well that's the point of hanging out with him ; getting to know him well =) What I do, is I just think up stuff...just think: Family, Friends,Music,Pets,Interests...and just roll from there. And whenever you're talking about something and you share something funny that happened to you that relates to that it'll make ya both laugh which might ease up the tension a bit, cause you'll get more comfortable, and also it shows you have a funny side which is good =) But you shouldn't have to make up all the conversation.. he should have to too. To get him to open up, just ask for his opinions and views on things cause then he'll be showing you what's going on in his head and how he feels about stuff. =) Hope I helped!!




Love,
MELii

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whaT DO you do if u hear your parents ummm..... doing it. they're like 48 and i think its wrong. They were both making sounds and i don't want to confront either one. please help me i dont no y but it bothers me.




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Yeah I wouldn't be able to confront em' either..so what I would do is try to do something else to get your mind on that and everything outta focus.. including noises. But what I might suggest doing is just start listening to music or turn up the volume on the TV a little higher.. something to blast out the noise. Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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Hey. I am 15/f. Well, see my boyfriend & I have been dating for 9 months & everything is going absolutely wonderful. We both love eachother (it seems that way & I am pretty sure he loves me) but I don't really know how to tell for SURE if he loves me. He acts like he does & it deff seems like he does, but do you have any advice on how to really tell?! I would appreciate the help.


Also, I am going to Virgina in about 15 days. & I wanted my boyfriend to go with me, but my mom said he can't. I have never been away from my boyfriend for more than a day the whole time we have been dating, so idk what it's gonna be like, or what he's gonna do without me around. I trust him with everything inside of me, but I kinda just got this bad feeling about being away from him & not knowing what he's doing. I mean & for some strange reason, I feel like stuff between us is going to change & I don't want it to. What should I do? I don't wanna be so paranoid, but I can't help it. PLZ give me some advice.

Thank You!!! =) Sincerely, CONFUSED *

Well some ways to tell are if:

-He plain out just tells you he loves you
-Get you presents, maybe not humongusly expensive, because it's the thought that counts =)
-He shows alot of PDA ( public displays of affection ) cause sometimes boys won't show it in public
-He's always hugging you and holding your hands or something


..those are the only things I can think of right now. Because if you're pretty sure he does love you, then I'm sure he does. =) But even though he shows you he loves you, he also needs to make you feel it too cause then that's love right off the bat =) and since you love him too it seems it's that.. so I think you don't have to worry about telling if he loves you or not =)
And with the vacation thing.. what I would do is send him postcards every now and then. Telling him how vacation's going, and that you're thinking about him all the time and that you miss him and wish he could have come...and maybe get him some souveniers =) I don't think your relationship is gonna change after 15 days of you being gone, I think it'd only get better cause then the first time you see eachother after that, you'll be all happy and stuff because you guys missed eachother =) And yeah I can understand that little feeling you can get because you wouldn't know what he's doing.. but if he does love you.. I don't think he'd want to do anything to ruin that.. so I don't think you have anything to worry about there either. =) So really, I think everythings only gonna get better =) Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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Okay, theres this boy. We known each other for a long time but we had never talked. HE's gonig into 10th and im gonig into 8th. He's always been like the bad boy in his grade. ANd I'v always had a little crush on ihm. Well last summer, we started talking and we ended up gonig out. We had a really good relationship and we both liked each ohter alot. But we broke up and kinda went our seperate ways. Well now, over the school year i started going out with another kid. He's the big Jock football player in our grade. Weve were togehter almost a year but then we broke up. Well I just recently hung out with him and we made out. But i still liked my ex alot. SO basically I still like them both alot. I'm trying to decide what to do about it but I just can't do it. I need help!

Well what I would do is probably go for the jock football player because it seems that you guys had a long relationship which is really good ( I think from what you told me, yours with the bad boy was for the summer..i'm not sure..) and also if you hang out with him and stuff, you have a close relationship to him, whereas with the bad boy one, you two went seperate ways, so it seems you're kinda closer to the jock, so I would go for the jock. Just kinda think about them both in your head, and see if you have a little tiny bit of a stronger feeling towards one of them, and which ever one you do, I say go for it.. because you obviously like them. So if it is the bad boy...well I suggest first of all: SEEING IF HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. Cause then that's another reason to go for the jock.. if the bad boy has a girlfriend, obviously you can't get to him...and if he doesn't, just try talking to him again, hanging out, and see if any feelings get stronger. Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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I have this ex-girlfriend, ok? And see what happened is she just broke up with the guy that she broke up with me for. And I'm kinda worried that she might try to go back out with me just because I'm their and I'm familiar. Plus we also were lightly flirting last time we were together, which was about a month ago so I think I'm safe. What should I do to let her know, without a doubt, that I won't get back with her now, but do it lightly so it's not really noticeable?

Well the one thing is: Don't flirt with her at all. Even lightly flirting. Cause she might take that as a hint that you ARE interested in her. And if she does try to make a move on you or something just be like," Look, I'm sorry.. but all I want to be is friends..". Or maybe try asking another girl out ( that you like of course!! ), cause then she'll definetley know then that you don't like her like that ( otherwise you'd ask her out..) and that she can't really flirt with you or anything because you're taken. Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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Heyy! I rate high! I was jus wondering if any one will give me any tips to giving good advice!Please and thanks!

Well sometime whenever I'm not quite positive how to answer something, I put myself in their place...what would I do? What would I say? But you ALWAYS have to be honest, because if you're lying to them.. that's not really helping them is it? And whenever you answer something, or give your opinion, you have to try not to be rude, but say it in a way so they understand where you're coming from. Hope I helped!!






Love,
MELii

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hey guys...im really scared!! ok...i used to be really good friends with this guy and then we didnt really talk for a while, and in the past few months we have been talking alot and become really close again, well about 45 minutes ago i found out that his dad killed himself...what do i say to him? i mean HE doesnt even know yet...his mom called me before she told him...i used to be pretty close to his dad too...he didnt seem the type to do something like that...i have been crying my eyes out since i found out and when this guy does find out, what do i say to him? please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Omg.. well what I would do is if he doesn't know yet ; then don't tell him because I'm sure his mother wants to do it.. all you have to do is be there for him and show him that you care. Whenever he finds out, just give him a call ( or go over his house ) and just sit down with him ad be like," I heard.. I'm so sorry...but I just wanted you to know I'm here for you if you ever need to talk to me or anything.." and maybe he'll open up and pour out his emotions and feelings to you.. and if he does, just listen to him and don't interrupt him .. just listen =/..and just keep on being his friend and helping him get through this time. I hope everything works out for you and especially your friend. =( I hope I helped.




Love,
MELii

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I need a pet! should i get a dog or cat? i dont want it to smell bad! so what smell better

Well in my opinion they both have their smelling bad moments. Whenever the cat uses the litterbox.. believe me, you smell it. And if you don't give your dog a bath after awhile, he can smell kinda stinky but that's only if you're like right next to him ( at least with my dog ) and whenever they go to the bathroom too..but dogs go outside, so you don't really smell it as long as you don't go over there really only to clean it up.. so my suggestion is a dog. Because they also seem more playful and active and cuddley whenever cats just seem to be like the own the house and they really only nap and then just quietly walk around the house the whole time. I'm always so close to stepping on my friends cats cause I don't hear them!! And I never see them in her house.. so I'd suggest a dog!! Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii



p.s. And whatever stinks they make or have or whatever.. that's what air freshening spray is for =P

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ALright I posted this question last night but most of the advice I got was really rude.. So I am asking one more time for you to help me with this problem! Alright well there is this guy and I think I have a crush on him! butt.. he is like a really horny person.. and like if I ever did go out with him (which I doubt) im afraid hed use me! But i think itd be fun to go out with him, because he is really nice and funny (and cute) and I have a crush on him.. but I dont want him just to use me for stuff.. and I already told him if I do anything sexual with anyone they are gona be my boyfriend.. what if some how we do end up goin out.. how do I know he isnt using me? But also how do I make him like me.. cause I dont think he actualy likes me.. so how do I make him like me so I have a chance of going out with him! but also how do I know its not just for sexual stuff..?

PLEASE HELP!

Well you really can't make someone like you...but just try talking to him more and getting to know him better...so then he'll get to know you and then maybe he'll like you. But I wouldn't really go out with him.. cause if he's really horny basically right of the bat you can tell he only really wants sex probably, and you don't wanna go out with a guy like that. You can find guys that are really nice, funny, and cute..and they're not really horny.. so I wouldn't go out with him. Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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Right heres a run-down. Recently i (16) ended a long distance relationship that had been going on for almost a year, to be with someone closer. But it all went horribly wrong( the closer relationship) and i was single again.I felt terrible not because it had ended but becasue of what i'd given up for it. I loved the person who was living long distance away and was ashamed at myself for what i had done. So i asked the girl from the long distance relationship to give me one more chance and thank the gods she did. My question however. Is i still feel guilty for what i did to this girl..Even though its in the past and seh has given me the second chance. I know what i did was wrong and i know that I hurt her. Because i love her it hurts me so badly inside. I dont know how my present gf feels though i just want to know. And i don't know what to do.. Any help will be appreciated!!
anthony

Well what I would do is just keep telling her you love her, and show her too.. like write her little letters and stuff and maybe send her flowers or teddy bears or jewlery or something.. and whenever you visit her, or she visits you just hug her and hold her hand and stuff, just don't mention it, because then you'll bring back bad memories and that'll probably make her feel upset, and you don't want to do that. So don't bring it up, unless she does, and if she does just be like," I know. I can't beleive I ever dumped you. I'm just so happy that you gave me anotehr chance. I love you." ( not exactly those words.. but.. ya know what I mean ) and I mean, if she's not bringing it up, maybe she just put it behind her..cause the past it the past. But just don't show her you're happy she gave you another chance, make her feel like it too =) Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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I'm 16, and I don't want a relationship right now because I just got out of a really long one and I'm enjoying being single. But now that I am single it seems that every guy is wanting to date me and I just want to be friends. I'm usually the type of person that takes things fast with guys, but I'm trying to change my priorities and try and become friends before the whole dating thing. But every guy that wants to get with me takes it the wrong way when I say, "I just want to stay single right now because I've gotten out of a long relationship and I'd rather be friends right now." After that they act really cool with the idea but after a couple weeks they stop talking to me, and then the next time I see them they get shitty with me because they feel insulted that I don't want to date them. I want to keep my guy friends and stop worrying about losing them just because I don't feel like dating at this point in time. And I have no clue how to say this with out hurting anyone's feelings or making them think that I'm not interested. They all take it that I a m shooting them down, which I am not at all trying to do. Many of the guys I do kind of like, but I want to stay single until I truly feel ready to date someone and I will know when that is, because I don't want to jump into the next available relationship and have it end quickly. I want to take my time and find a guy that will treat me right. I'm only 16 so I have plenty of time to stay single and find the right guy. So please help me! Is there anyway I can explain to these guys how I am feeling without them getting pissed off and thinking I'm shooting them down with the whole "just friends" line?

Well tell them exactly what you told me. Just be like," I would like to date you it's just I got out of a long relationship, and I'm enjoying being single at the moment. And I want to stay single until I truly feel ready to date someone. I want to take my time and find someone that will treat me right..so maybe we can after awhile.. but for now can we just be friends, so I can get to know you more and stuff? " Then maybe they'll see how you're feeling and stuff.. and they'll be friends with you and get to know you and stuff..and then maybe someday you'll date one of them =) Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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Ok..i was wondering..how can you make your jeans like..all ripped..instead of buying them for like 80 bucks..how can you rip them and make them look good you know.? like on the knee areas you have the white things going across and near your pocket you have a little rip..if anyone knows what to do and knows what im talking about...PLZZZZZ answer this..

oh yea..and dont tell me to go wear the jeans and jus keep on sliding on the cement with them on..

THANKS A LOT!!

Well what I do, is I take a pair of scissors and I make a little tiny cut like.. --- ... and then I start ripping it.. not really hard, just really slow, so you can make the hole as big as you want...and if there are little white things that are around the whole, then kinda just snip at em' from the top to make them look a bit messier. I don't know how to make the white things go across. I think you can only make those come naturally...hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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okay so basically my dad said he is moving out .. him moving out = me moving some place else because my mom cannot afford this house we live in .. what am i going to do .. im leaving my friend jen if i move and she is basically my only BEST friend right now .. because i dont hang out with any of my other friends because well i dont know why but i feel like im losing all of my friends and that all i have left is jen and now im probably going to move away .. this is so hard for me because i lost my aunt on christmas and she was my best friend and i cant deal with this anymore and i dont know what to do.. please help me ..

First of all: I'm so sorry about your Aunt. I know how it feels..=/..but what I would do is see how far away your dad's moving and then compare it with your mom, because whoever is closer to your friends and stuff then maybe you should move in with them. But if you're still going to be far away.. then I'd suggest just staying in contact alot with Jen. Try calling her every other day, or talk to her on IM/email. And I would suggest making plans with her at least once or twice a month or something, keep the friendship. And I'm also sure wherever you move, you'll make new friends too. Hope I helped!






Love,
MELii

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my soon to be boyfriend goes too far sometimes. he comes over to hang out a lot and we cuddle and everything but sometimes his hands wander and i want him to stop. it's really uncomfortable for me and i want him to stop but i don't wanna seem like a prude. i've tried moving around to get him to move his hands but i don't know, there's just something weird about it. my past two boyfriends have been really verbally abusive and my last boyfriend hit me a lot right before we broke up and after we broke up and i still don't trust guys and i don't know if i should continue hanging out with this new guy. i know he really cares about me and has for a while. he took a lot of crap from me before we started hanging out. i lead him on and broke his heart when i hooked up with a different guy. HELP. i'm a girl btw.

Well I would just sit him down and clearly explain to him how you don't want to be touched like that. I've been in bad relationships in the past, and I really want this one to work. It's just.. I have a hard time trusting guys, so it'll take some time." And hopefully he'll stop touching you like that. But if he doesn't, I'd dump him, because he didn't respect your wishes, and if he truly cared for you, he'd stop. Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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