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Too far... too fast
I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 16(I'm 14), because he didn't want a relationship and I did. All he wants is friends with bennefits. I told him I wasn't going to do that with him, and he said that was ok. He asked if we could hang out today, just hang out. so I said yeah, and I told myself that I wasn't going to do anything with him and then he came over, and the next thing I know, im straddling him (fully clothed) and making out with him. It got carried away and I ended up giving him a hand job. He thinks it was just friends with bennefits and I'm a piece of ass. I don't want that, and I want to know if I should just cut off all relations with him and stop talking to him, I dont need him as a friend. or a boyfriend. what do I do!?
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i wouldnt cut him off at all. but jsut sit him down and make sure that he knows that nothing else is goign to happen between the 2 of you unless there is a good relationshiip going.
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He sounds like a major jerk to me. I'd just cut off all relations with him.. cause' all he wants is to be friends with benefits and he thinks all you are is a piece of ass which is just rude! And I'm sure he was hoping exactly what happened whenever you came over.. he probably didn't want to just "hang out". Seriously, I'd just stop talking to the jerk, cause if he wants to talk to you again, all he wants is to make out or something. Hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
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I think the most important thing is to make sure that your words are matching your actions. If you tell this guy you are not willing to be friends with benefits, but you get sexual with him the first time you see him, then that's sending a mixed message.
It can be tempting to mess around with someone for a couple of reasons: you like them and want to be close to them, you want to make them like you, etc. None of these are good enough, especially when the guy has already said that he doesn't want anything more than messing around.
Take some responsibility for yourself and do what you think is right. It sounds like you already know what that is, and knowing is half the battle!
Best of luck.
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Well, it IS tough to Resist sometimes, I DEFINITELY do undeRstand that, and I DEFINITELY do know how you feel theRe. It's kind of a simple answeR though, Kiddo. If you can't manage to Resist and show some self disipline but yet aRe still completely again a 'FRiends With Benefits' Relationship, then it's best to avoid seeing him entiRely. =/ Hopefully all goes well. :)
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You should stick too what you said. Stop talking to him. For i assure you it will come off bad on you and you don't want to be hurt. He's using you like a gas station. Drop in anytime you want and get what you need then leave. He doesn't care about you he's using you. Get separated as soon as you can. Don't respond to calls or anything. Just move on like you know you should. There is better than him out there!! Trust me. At then end of the day i've always said. Follow YOURE heart!
Hope i helped
anthony
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well.. you can either do 1 of 2 things:
1.) end the friendship. be glad that you know all he wants is friends with benefits and you stopped yourself while you were at it. if you get sick of him trying, just end it.
2.) if you still want to be friends with him, avoid being alone. make sure everytime you hang out with him, there's at least a couple other people there, too.
hope i helped! ♥ Nazy
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you should prolly just end the friendship and all because before you know it you'll end up hurting yourself in the long run...
Hope this Helps!
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i'd ditch his ass in a second if i were youu.. he seems like a huge asshole so juss 4get about him `♥//
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What i would say is that if you don't want any connections with this boy then dont have any. If you are afraid that you might go to far with him then don't give him that chance.Don't let him control you.
whenever you need help just ask**
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well no offence but he seems like a jackass.. so like you said you DONT need him.. so just leave him dont talk to him anymore.. and make sure he doesnt start spreading stuff about you being his friend with benefits.. hope i helped! IM me at brunettex5o
=) samantha
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I think you can still be friends. You may just have to avoid any situation where you and him are alone together for awhile. If there isn't going to be a crowd of friends then you'll just have to say no thank you until your emotions have calmed down a bit. :)
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You should get rid of his sorry ass, its only gonna get worse. He thinks he can get anything he wants off you but that aint gonna happen. you tell him that you want nothing to do with him. Your better than that and you deserve someone who is willing to understand and appreciate YOUR rights and YOUR wants. You dont need that from anyone
Irishdude405
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Well since you can't stay off of him when he comes over as a friend, it is best that you cut all ties with him. You told him you weren't interested in being a friend with benefits and then you turned around and did just that. He has no reason to believe you because you said one thing, then did another. If you want him to stop thinking that you are a piece of ass, then stop seeing him completely. And handle it better with the next guy. Make sure he REALLY wants a commiteed relationship before he gets any benefits, and then you'll have something.
Michele
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hey,
1st of all if hes 16 and wants to be friends w/ benifits with a 14 year old it kinda suggests that hes using you. If hes willing to do all of that shit with you and not be in a relationship then yeah he does think your just a piece of ass. no guy should have the right to take advantage of you that way. You should stop talking to him. Lots of girls are in situations just like yours and they let the guy use them. Just kick him to the curb. he sounds like a real ass hole.
**mucho love**
kayla xo
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i think you should just not be with him unless its something planned...having dinner and playing putt putt type things. just hanging out can lead to other things out of boredom or the heat of the moment. hope this helps! <3
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I would stop talking to him, so you don't have to worry about screwing up by going to far with him, and him telling people what happened.
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