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Q: 16, lady.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months and I want to break up with him so badly. I just don't want to break his heart. I know it is unfair to him -and- to myself, but I can't stand it any more.
See, I went away for the whole of July and it put a lot of things into perspective for me. I don't like him anymore, and I ended up really missing another friend of mine, whom i think I may really like. Am I being a complete arse about this?

(completely unrelated, but you wouldn't happen to be going to the Fringe, would you?)

Hmmmm now that is a dilemma indeed!! I understand what you mean and im so glad youre taking his feelings into the equation! But to be honest, the only way to prevent his heart being shatterd is to sit with him. And explain every single minute detail. Not jus that you're sick of him dig deep and explain in detail. Speaking from experience the reasons why people break up haunt u for weeks after if u dont know!! So the best you can do is i dno invite him out for a coke or somethin somwhere or jus round ya house sumwhere you can have alone time 2gether! And tell him exactly what you feel and the reasons why; as i say dig deep and try to tell the truth as much as possible. And dont lead him on. I mean there is no sense in lying oit gets us only ahosrt distances and usually fall.. So please take my advice.. It will save you both a secere heartache and maybe even furture resentment! I realy hope this helps you, and if possible let me know how it goes yea?
Hope i helped
Anthony

ps nope i dont go to the festival to many tourists !!

Q: do guys think its unnatrictive when your hip bones like stick out and they're a little wider than the rest of your body? xoxo

Love handles!!! Deffo not no!!! Its infact more attracive it gives a little more accent to the body and currrves(whsh is what men mean when they say a woman has nice curves)
Hope i helped
Anthony

Q: a guy that i like a lot thinks i have lost interaste in him which isnt true at all. i tryed tellin him but he still thinks i dont like him as much and i need a way to prove it to him that i love him a lot can someone plz help me out??

Hmmm now thats a dilemma!! The best way is you sit down wth a piece of paper a pen and you write him a poem!! You can write all you're feelings and spill youre heart to a piece of paper. works all the time with me because it hurts to know you csnt show sum1 how much u love thm!! Another way is suprise him with texting him saying how much you love him randomly a few days a week. Not all the time you dnt wna scare him!!
Hope i helped,
anthony

Q: What does a gynecologist do? i dotn understand

A gynecologist is a medical proffesionalist whose area of expertice is the vagina. A gyneocologist examines the vagina and assess them to solve problems or solutions.
Hope i helped,
Anthony

Q: hey does anyone know where i can get tabs for my piano. i want songs from bands like MCR, the Used, Hawthorne Heights, A7X, Fall Out Boy, the All-American Rejects..etc. so if anyone knows any sites i can get tabs for my keyboard from them that would be AWSOME. ill rate you a 5 even if you give me one site! thanks alot alot alot. lol

http://911tabs.com/search.php?search=fallout+boy&type=band

there you go, that took me a loong time lol!! :P
Hope i helped
Anthony

Q: i was just wondering wot do guyz chat about? do they chat bout gurlz? plz can sumone even if they aint a guy tell me plz i rate high

Guys talk about all sorts of things!! Girls ye of course jus like girls talk about guys its a natural thing. But we also talk about things like i uno all sorts really! Sports cars bikes u know the l8est crazes and trends. Whatever is realy hot at the time itll be spoke about.
Hope i helped
Anthony

Q: Ok... i see my boyfriend every day for at least 3 hours or so... well he works during the week...

is it weird that i miss him all day?

people tell me i'm too dependent on him but i just love him

and i miss him

Well no it isnt weird that you miss him of youre in love i mean come on. So what if people talk. Let them; you know how you feel. You know you love him and that you miss him no1 else does. So no it isnt rong 2 miss him even if u do c him. If u didnt miss him thered b sumthion rong with you. As i always say. Follow YOURE heart and do what your e heart wants. Let them all talk only you know how you feel inside!
Hope i helped,
Anthony

Q: My boyfriend and I are having a debate about whether or not sperm is still active when it hits the air. Sometimes after we have sex (we use a condum) sperm will be on me or him and he worries that it will travel into my vagina and make me pregnant. I've always heard that once sperm hits the air it's dead. Who's right?

Youre boyfriends right infact. It doesnt survive for long but it doesnt die as soon as hits the air im afraid. If youre using a condom and hes came. Make sure he steps away before taking it off. Yhus avoiding you becoming in contact with the sperm. Hightly reducing the risk of unwanted pregnancy!
Hope i helped,
anthony

Q: what are some really good popup blockers that are for free and work real good.. there are ALOT of popups on my computer

If you swap youre internet service proviedr to mozilla firefox it gives you one automatically and its great! Anothrer method is to go to control panel and find internet options... Inside it there will be a ab sayin g content, click it and then content advisor. Click this set your preferences and a password and even if pop up's appear it will need a pw to open them.
Hope i helped,
Anthony

Q: My friend says that blink-182 is a band which mainly girls listen to. I was like, no dude, blink-182 isn't like that. There are about the same of both. It's not a guys or girls band, kind of something which everyone listens to. Who would you say is correct?

Youre right theyre a band for both girls and boys. Jus girls like them as in theyt hink theyre hot and stuff and give that aura but NO theyre a mixed band for both guys n agals alike.
Hope i helped,
Anthony

Q: me and my friends want to take a trip somewhere for a couple days..just us. where should we go ? any ideas on where to stay?

It all depends on youre age and where youre from. But you could of you live close go camping in some forests ro woods or something. Or if you wanted you could like find a bed and breakfast or a little motel or something and stay there for a few days. Sorry if i havent been of use. Jus you never provided a place or an age
Hope i helped,
anthony

Q: theres a song that goes like :

merry christmas i could care less..

who sings it and what is the name of the song?

Fall out bout- Yule shoot you're eye out!
Hope i helped
anthony
ps wot a wkd song!!

Q: Is there any way to know if my computer can play MP3 files?

I dont think there is other than to try it. But from my experience all computers can play them. All MODERN 1s i mean. But ye jus gtry it and see.
Hope i helped,
Anthony

Q: 15/F I have this pain in the lower right side of my stomache (like where they say your appendix is)... its not a sharp painful pain, its just sore and it hurts. I feel it when I walk or sit down. I know its not cramps because my period passed already. It started hurting when I woke up with morning. Im really scared... could it be my appendix? Or one of my reproductive organs? Its only on my right lower side of my abdomen. HELP im so scared...

It could really be a problem with you're appendix if it's where youre apendix should be. My advice would be to talk to you're parents and see a doctor ASAP to get it all checked out cause it dont sound good!! Just seek proffesional help and even help from youre parents. But dont worry about it if you act now youll have no wirres.
Hope i helped,
Anthony

Q: the guy i like on myspace posted this :

If you're a girl, title this "boyfriend application" and if you're a guy title it "girlfriend application". Repost this and see who's eligibe to be your special someone. Have fun!
Send it back if you think you could get the job... :)

BASICS:
Name:
Age:
Location:
Height:
Hair (color):
Eyes:
Piercings/tattoos:

OTHER:
1. Where would we go on dates?
2. Who are three (or more) of your favorite bands/artists?
3. Do you drink/smoke??
4. Do you like the rain?
5. If so...would you play in it with me?
6. Do you like movies?
7. If so would you stay up and watch them with me all night?
8. Could we cuddle and just fall asleep together?
9. Would you kiss my forhead
10. Do you play an instrument?
11. If so...what?
12. Would you call me right after we saw eachother to make sure i made it home alright?
13. How would you rate your hugs from 1-10?
14. Favorite body part on a girl?
15. What would you say is the best thing about yourself?
16. Do you have any reps (ie: heartbreaker, slut)?
17. Would you give me kisses just because?

What Would You do if...
I cried:
I said I liked you:
I kissed you:
I was hospitalized:
I ran away from home:
We got in a fight:
I got dumped:
I pissed you off:

What Do You Think Of My...
Personality:
Eyes:
Face:
Hair:
Clothes:
Voice:
Humor:
Choice of music:
Manners:
Friends:
Decisions:

Would You...
Be my friend:
Tell me the truth no matter what:
Buy me a birthday gift:
Lie to make me feel better:
Spread rumors about me:
Go out at 4am to get me chocolate:
Keep a secret if I told you one:
Loan me some cash:
Hold my hand:
Keep in touch:
Make me a snack:
Try and solve my problems:
Love me:
Makeout with me:
Hold me in times of need:
Ditch me:
Use me:
ask me out:
Date me:
kiss with me whenever you had the chance:
Hold me and make my problems go away:

im not sure if i should answer it or not.. he just got out of a relationship and i dont kno if i should answer it or see if he answers mine. if it helps im 14/F

Well you said you liked and that.And he must like you else he wouldnt have sent htat. He jus wants to know what you think about him and stuf. So dont worry give him it back and dont worry!!
Hope i helped,
Anthony

Q: me and my bf were messing around..i gave him a handjob and when he was ready to come he turned to his side and cummed in the grass...about 5-10 minutes later he fingered me..i know the chances are slim...but have any of you heard of a story where a girl got pregnent from a guy jacking off, getting some on his hands, and fingering the girl?
how long can the sperm live for...and its not like he jizzed all over his hands (i didnt see if he did but he probably didnt ..correct?) so i shouldnt be worrying right?
thanks to all who help!!!

The chances are nil. Even if he did which even you said yourself are very very minute, get some on his hand. It wouldnt be enought to get you pregnant. No i have never heard of this happening because it can't.
Hope i helped,
anthony

Q: okay i always seem to be the friend never THE girl. i mean its always this way. i'm really funny and i make jokes alot, but i cant seem to stop. i am also really sarcastic some of the time. i'm the girl who is playing football with the guys at parties or shooting hoops or playing some video game with them or seeing who can chug their drink the fastest..i just have more fun hanging out with guys and i can talk to them more than i can girls because there isnt as much *drama* with them. i really want to be THE GIRL for this kid named matt. hes a great soccer player, amazing football player, smart, funny, hott, helpful. just all around what i want, and i want to know how i can change some of the ways i am so he'll like me, or atleast notice i am a girl and i've got the potentional to be a girlfriend. hes never made out with anyone and neither have i but i know i want to be the first person he ever makes out with! can anyone and everyone PLEASE help me?! thanks so much. 5's help!

Well can i say you sound like a really cool girl to start with. And i dont want to give you advice on how to cchange yourself; and not because im nasty. But because if the guy really likes you and is as nice as you say, he wont want you to change. Or should i say expect you 2! The best thing to do is talk to the guy and be yourself. The only thing anyone can ever ask of you is 4 u 2 b yourself and thats it. Jus talk to him and maybe even flirt a little and tell him that you like him. He may even like you MORE because you're into some of the same things he likes.
Im sorry that i didnt fully answer youre question but seriously; dont change who you are. I bet youre great the way you are right now so why change? Idf people cant accept you for the person you are and expect you to change then theyre not worh it because they dont care about you!
Hope i helped,
Anthony

Q: when u get n ipod can u load music from a cd on it?

thanks

Yes. U put the cd in you're pc and then copy the media fromthe cd onto file. You then plug you're i-pod into the pc with a usb cable or whatever means you use and then copy it onto there.
Hope i helped,
Anthony

Q: Alright So i need some songs..
I have an ipod that i take about everywhere with me and i only have 160 songs on it..
N i was just wonderin if you can give me some songs..If this helps im a guy`
Im into Punk-Rock..Rock..Alternative..Punk..
Here are some people I like..
Papa Roach
My Chemical Romance
Blink 182
Yellow Card
Green Day
Bowling For Soup
The Killers..
And all that kind of music..`
``I`ll Rate High For Decent Music..
Or if its music by the groups I didnt list but have on my ipod`

I can give you some lol.. Or i shall try at least
The killers-Mr brightside, Andy youre a star, Smile like you mean it, Jenny was a friend of mine, Indie rock and roll( i thinks its clled tht).. thats some of theyre stuff.

I'd strongly advise funeral for a friend theyre great. Escape artists never die, Juneau, Red is the new black and erm Kiss and make up.
Yellow-card; Finish line, View from heaven, empty apartment,Miles apart, Ocean avenue,Only one, Rockstar land,Anywhere but here, way away. Some of thyre stuf.
The used are also great- Im a fake, box full of sharp objects,Blue and yellow,I'm a fake, Take it away, taste of ink,Let it bleed, on my own. Some of tyheirs lol.
Try sugarcult- shes the blade, bouncing off the walls, memory...

there ya go theres about 30 odd there to keep ya goin(i think dont quote!)
hope i helped
Anthony

Q: Just got laid off from the best job I've ever had. Thankfully, it's because they don't have enough money. But I won't be able to get another job like this one for a looong time.

What I am asking is for any good pick-me up ideas. thank you for your time

Hmmm thats a good question!! I reckon chocolate always helps!! Another good thing is a massage like maybe i dno pay 4 it or get a friend 2 do it? It totally destresses u from everythin and you feel better for it( and strangely it picks u up!). Another thing is some calm music or youre faveourit band or artists music up real loud. Jus little things like that. Or you go out and have a gr8 time at a club or whatever and you'll feel gr8.
Im sorry that i seem a little unsure, I am only trying to help none the less!
Hope i helped,
Anthony

bio

Well where to start realy? Im a 16 year old fun outgoing guy. Im always up for a laugh and can take a good joke. I like to help people because i dont like when people are sad or unsure and for me to help them is a pleasure. If you want to know me better than the brief insight you have 3-4 ways of contacting me. I will always b on call too help
Peace out... Anthony

btw why dont airplane toilets have windows? And why are high rised buildings with with toilet windows foggy???
Is there an epidemic of the worlds most determined pervert?? Peace!