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Hey my names kayla and im 14 years 0ld...i will answer any questi0n y0u ask me because chances are im g0ing/went thr0ugh s0mething similar. i have realized that i am best at giving advice t0 pe0ple 0n what t0 say t0 0thers 0n a given situati0n. If theres ever s0mething urgent y0u need t0 ask me feel free t0 im me 0n xoredskittleox...if y0u have any pr0blems regarding my advice...like s0mething i might have said that 0ffended y0u 0r anything like that.
Much0 l0ve
Kayla
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-Im sorry if anyone has been trying t0 email me. My email address is currently n0t w0rking. S0meh0w the pr0gram g0t switched to msn. grr my c0mputer always d0es that. Anyways i am s0 s0rry if any0ne was trying t0 get in c0ntact with me and i didnt resp0nd.

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I plan on waiting till i get married to have sex. But why is it so hard to find a guy that feels the same? Like on TV, all the guys seem like pigs, and that they only love women to get sex out of them. I want a guy who feels the same why i do, but why r they so hard to find?

hey
its simple...guys think with their penis
**much love**
kayla xo

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i'm 12 yrs old and 100lbs im pretty sure that thats overwight,but i want to know what you think?
i'm medium boned and very mucsular...butt in my stomack i'm fat or chubbish what do you think? i've talked to my parents and they say that its still baby-phat but i dont know....i tried to go anorexic for two weeks and i felt better but i knew that that was a stupid idea....

hey,
dont get yourself into that! you still have alot of growing to do if your only 12. once you get taller you will look alot better. and 100 lbs is not overweight at all. everyone has a little bit of a chubby stomache. dont worry about it. just lay off the anorexia. your right it is a stupid idea and you could hurt yourself.
**much love**
kayla xo

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I have a new boyfriend & he's my first. He tried to kiss me the other day & I was ready but I was worried I wouldn't know what I was doing. I made an excuse that I had a sore throat. Obviously, I do not want to have to do this forever so does anyone with experience have any kissing tips to give me (a first timer).

Thanks,
Elle

hey,
ive done that before hah. but ill get right to the point. kissing is simpler than it looks. Ive kissed people plenty of times. next time he try's to kiss you just go with it and you'll be fine. it seems hes the type to make the first move if he tried to kiss you so you really dont have to worry about anything. just kiss him
**mucho love**
kayla xo

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Ok, there is this one guy that I know likes me. But I don't like him. We are really really good friends. How can I tell him I don't like him without hurting him?

hey,
ive had that happen to me before. where one of my really close guy friends likes me. and honestly there is not a way to tell them without hurting them. You just have to try and tell them in the nicest way possible. when one of my guy friends liked me i said "your like a brother to me i couldnt like you that way" so then atleast they know that you like having them as a close friend. its hard i know
**mucho love**
kayla xo

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i don't know what to do because my boyfriend got grounded and he says he's going to sneak out to see me but last time he did that he got caught and got grounded for even longer. I've been trying to talk him out of it but its not working. what things can i say to him to try to talk him out of it because if he gets caught then we won't be able to see eachother for even longer.

Hey,
Alright well this is what i would tell him:
"I understand that you want to see me. i want to see you too but we're going to have to hold off on that. you know your gonna get caught if you try to come and see me so why bother. you'll just get grounded longer and we will have more of a wait until we can see eachother again."
Ok well i hope it helps.
**mucho love**
kayla xo

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I'm really worried about my girl friend her grandpa is in the hospital. Well she's sad and streesed out. I'm sad for her, but I don't know what to do for her. So my question is... What should I do for her? Or should I do anything at all?

hey,
woah im sorry about my 1st answer i didnt know. wow im very sorry. just sit down and talk to her about it and let her know that your there for her.

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I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 16(I'm 14), because he didn't want a relationship and I did. All he wants is friends with bennefits. I told him I wasn't going to do that with him, and he said that was ok. He asked if we could hang out today, just hang out. so I said yeah, and I told myself that I wasn't going to do anything with him and then he came over, and the next thing I know, im straddling him (fully clothed) and making out with him. It got carried away and I ended up giving him a hand job. He thinks it was just friends with bennefits and I'm a piece of ass. I don't want that, and I want to know if I should just cut off all relations with him and stop talking to him, I dont need him as a friend. or a boyfriend. what do I do!?

hey,
1st of all if hes 16 and wants to be friends w/ benifits with a 14 year old it kinda suggests that hes using you. If hes willing to do all of that shit with you and not be in a relationship then yeah he does think your just a piece of ass. no guy should have the right to take advantage of you that way. You should stop talking to him. Lots of girls are in situations just like yours and they let the guy use them. Just kick him to the curb. he sounds like a real ass hole.
**mucho love**
kayla xo

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Hey guys, i like to read a lot, and i've read many famous books like To kill a mocking bird, Catcher in the Rye, Harry potter, and so on. Anyways does anyone know any really really good books, and authors for when i go to the library next time? And i dont want books that you have heard sound good, but actual books you guys have read and really enjoyed, like an "i never want to put it down" kinda book if that makes sense. Thanks luv ya!

hey,
Im not the biggest fan of reading so its pretty obvious that it takes alot to get me into a book. The only book that i can honestly say i couldnt put down was "the lovely bones" i think its by Allen Stratton or something like that. But anyways, its about a girl that gets raped and killed and she watches how her family copes with her death from heaven. She watches what happens to her killer too. Its alot better than how i described it. I really enjoyed it give it a try.
**mucho love**
kayla xo

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i REALLY want to move back to the place i used to live. I want to so bad,the people here are mean/snobs [[some..and they leave you out]] I've been in this new town for a year..and i hate it..i hate the way i am now. I just want to move back to my old city,how can i talk my mom into moving back? [[my brother wants to move back as well]]

hey,
that really sux. i honestly dont think that your mom will move back if you've only been there for a year but you can still try to talk her out of it. tell her that you're having trouble adjusting. Give her your honest oppinion and see what she says.
**mucho love**
kayla xo

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I'm thinking about using Veet (the hair removing stuff). Is it bad for your skin?

hey,
Ive never heard of Veet being bad for your skin. You dont have anything to worry about.
**mucho love**
kayla xo

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ok why the hec are the MAJORITY of these questions about sex related topics????? theres nothing about babysitting, school, sports, pets, gardening, home decortating, theater, etc. i refuse to answer any sex related questions because you dont ask advicenators.com how to get someone in bed w/ u, etc! you ask them "hey im babysitting two 3 year old twins tomorrow. i really dont like them, not that theyre bad kids, i just dont like em! what can i do?" i understand that people need advice on these things and this is an anonymous way to get it! but people, mayb you could ask your friends or something! i dont know. i just want to know why so many people talk about that on here! its kinda of gross! every other question. . .! yick. ok so please answer ill rate VERY high cause u actually continued to read this! :-P

hey,
people come to this site for all kinds of reasons. Everyone is seeking a different form of advice. Thats why there are so many advicenators. Questions about sex are the kind of questions you WOULDNT want to ask your friends. Thats why they come here because they can ask anonomosly. If you are having trouble babysitting you dont need to come here to ask for advice. You could ask your friends for advice because chances are they babysit too. I agree with you part way though. Some of the sexual questions give a tid bit too much information that some of us really dont want to know about. but some of their situations are really bad and advicenators give them important advice that they might need and could acctually help them.
**mucho love**
kayla xo

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EEk I have alot of blackheads and the facewash im currently using isnt working! DO u know anything that works beter? Like gets rid of the blackheads? Please! THanks

Hey,
at one point i had really bad blackheads. Face wash doesnt exactly do the job. But you dont know if it acctually works unless you've been using it for a long time. My dermatologist told me that acne (black heads white heads w.e) 6 weeks to form. So if more blackheads are forming on your face it isnt because your facewash isnt working its because of a clogged pore from about 6 weeks ago. If you've been using your face wash for over 6 weeks then yeah it probably isnt working. Go to a dermatologist and they will give you a strong perscripton medicin. No over the counter stuff that doesnt work.
**mucho love**
kayla xo

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I have black Features in my face [[eyelashes,eyebrows]] My hair is very light and my eybrows are JET BLACK.. i want to know is it possible for me to dye my eye brows brown? [[so it will blend in with my hair more,they are kind of bushy..not really though.]] 13/f

Hey,
it is possible to get your eye brows dyed. My friend had gotten her hair bleached blonde and she had DARK brown eyebrows and it looked CRAZY so she bleached her eyebrows blonde. So...u can probably dye yours brown. You might want to get them waxed before you get them dyed. It would make it alot easier.
**mucho love!**
kayla xo

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ok so i really want to know if this guy likes me.i swim and he is on my swim team, and like when we go underwater he always smiles at me and waves, and when we do drylands he always pats me on the back or playfully hits my arm, and when we kick and stuff like that we always talk the whole way. i mean he is great, he is nice to me and everyone else, he is actualy my height and everyone likes him. whenever we go to swim meets he tells me to cheer for him because he wont do well unless i do. and he asks me to hold stuff and he just goofs around w/ me and he talks to my friends a lot. does he like me?

thnx! 5's for everyone!

hey,
its pretty possible that he does like you. you can never know for sure though thats the only reason i didnt straight out say "yes he likes you" boys are really hard to understand (im sure you know that already) so its easy to missinterpret things. for instance, he could totally flirt with you 24/7. in his mind he could be going for more of a friendship status with it. but to you, it might seem like he has feelings for you. so anyways...with that said i think you should see how he treats other girls on the swim team. like if he flirts with them as much as he does with you. If you notice a definite change (like if he flirts with you alot more than he does with them) than that means hes giving you extra attention so he most likely likes you. Try flirting with him back and giving him signes that your interested. see what happens.
**mucho love!**
kayla xo

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does anyone no cute sumeer poems or things i can put on my aim profile

yup i have one good one that i put in my profile...i think its cute

Summer o5
where you spend all
day in your bathing suit
and all night looking
for it

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me and my friend found a baby blackbird yesterday whilst mowing the lawn.Its hurt its wing. we kept it in a cage over night and put her in a rabbit run this morning.Its mum keeps on coming and feeding him and we don't no what to do. should we lets him go or should we keep him for a couple more nights. by the way next door have five cats!
Cheers James

dont let him go if hes injured. you should keep it at your house until it is healthy again. if its a baby then it will most likely die if you set it free.

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Im really nervous. This guy who is like obsessed with me who i dont even talk to is taking me to a dance tonight. I don't really like being around him and I have never met his family. I don't know what I should say when he comes to my house. Can anyone help me not be nervous? I also want to be hyper tonight, so I'll have a good time. Does anyone know foods or ways to get hyper? Thanks a bunch!

well you cant really do much about your date. you already agreed to go wit him. its totally normal to be nervous so dont worry about that. Drink some coffee and coke and stuff with alot of sugar and caffien and you should be pretty hyper.

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my best friend got in troble wit a guy she did THINGS wit. and she got her cell taken away and everything like that. all she talkes about is him. i talk 2 his sis alot , and she tells me he is chealing on her wit 2 girls. i told her and she cried. the next day she still is in lov . what can i do 2 take her mind off him????




male 13

hey well seeing how your a guy you probably dont understand that when a girl gets attatched to a guy she gets attatched. there is a girl in my school who has been going out with this boy on and off all year. hes a total asshole to her but she still loves him. even though all of her friends tell her he isnt the right choice for a boyfriend. so dont expect her to completely get over him any time soon. if you want to help her get her mind off of him just do alot of friendly stuff for her. go to the movies...mall...arcade. or watever she likes to do for fun. if she can. If you think the time is right you can talk to her about how she feels about the situation. tell her how you feel about it too.

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My parents have officially said that I can have the name as "going out" with someone. There's this guy I've had my eye on for a while, but he has turned me down on several occasions. We're not exactly friends, and I haven't exactly asked him out. He knows I like(d) him and he's kinda weirded out by it. At the next dance should I ask him to dance?

(oh, I'm 13/f)

i dont think your gonna want to hear this but its my oppinion so w.e. if he is weird about you asking him out hes most likely gonna be weird about dancing with you. he probably doesnt share feelings. i get rejected alot. obviously you arent his type or something. try to get more friendly with him before you ask him out. you dont want to be rejected in front of everyone at the dance do you?

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Hey1 I've been with my boyfriend for a bout 4 months now and his birthday is coming up. I don't have much cash, but I want to get him a gift he'll love. Does anyone have ideas of gifts or nice plances to get a boyfriend a gift?

guys arent really picky about what they get. so dont put too much into his gift. just get him a cd or something. ask him what kind of music he likes or what cds he wants.

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