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Okay, I'm goin out w/ this guy we'll call hi "John" John is a very sweet guy who I used to be friends w/ up until a few days ago. He found out I had liked him all year and I also found this out about him so we decided to go out. I can tell he still really likes me b/c of what he says and how we're always around each other but I have 3 questions! 1) he's really shy. his ex said it takes him a few weeks but how can i make him feel more comfortable till then. 2) How can I get him to hold my hand or kiss me or anything! 3) How do we make it last over x-mas break. we never see each other when we're not in school! (link)
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Well, first I am happy for you that you found a nice guy. That's always good to hear. You really can't toally change the fact that he is shy. And you also have to sort of respect the fact that he's shy. Put yourself in his shoes for a second. You can make him feel more comfortable around you. To do this, maybe have a talk with him and tell him that you respect and understand the fact that he is shy and that you are willing to give things time and rush them. But also maybe explain to him that he doesn't have to be so shy since y'all were friends before. Instead of watiging on him to do something simple like the holding hands thign, you could take the initiative and hold his hand first, or cutley ask for him to hold yours. As for the kissing thing, let that come naturally. Cause that's a bit morei mportant than holding hands. To make it last, have a talk before break and agree to maybe call each other or talk on the net at a set time, or maybe write each other emails or letters. Communication is SO important and vital to a long and healthy relationship. Althougher, just tell to him nicely and express how you are feeling. Good luck! :)
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does anyone no how the hair curlers work ..like the ones that you get at like cvs. or rite aid. like tha one you put in ur hair because whenever i try to put them in they end up falling and it doesnt even really curll... so please help me andtell me how to put the curlers in =) alright thanks a bunch! (link)
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Everything you can do to your hair is all pretty attainable once you break it down.
Curling Iron:
First, you need to choose the barrel size you would like. For smaller curls cut a .5 inch barrel and so on and so forth. The high number you go, the bigger the the number hence bigger the curls. Before I got a Chi curler, I used one I got from Walgreen for 9.99. It worked really well too. So don't worry that you aren't going to get great results based on place of purchase or brand.
When you turn on your curling iron, alow it to get hot, but not like crazy hot. That is often why you will find that the curl doesn't curl but rather bend and crease on you. That looks bad. So try not to let that happen. Remember, the smaller the size, the less time it takes to fully heat up.
To make it so that your curls stay locked in all day or at least for a good amount of hours, try using Matrix's Thermal Active Setting Spray by Biolage. It's about $10-15 a bottle and is available at Sally Beauty Supply, you hair salon, or Ulta. It works as a hair setter that locks in your look, without making your hair feel stiff or flake on you.
Apply a spritz or two to your curling iron.
Instead of taking like 5 million hours to curl your hold head, put yours hair in a high pont tail and take it in sections and spray those sections lighting with the Thermal Active setting spray and curl, for looser curls, press on the clamp when curling, for tighter just hold it there.
Repeat for all sections and spray a little more spray to finsih up.
For hair roller, night or hot, you basically do the exact same thing. Put your hair in a high pony tail, after it's COMPLETELY DRY. Divide in sections wrap hair around curlers, apply spray, and YAY! Pretty hair!
Good luck! :)
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ok, i've been realli sick this past week. i havent gone to school at all and my mom said i cant go tomorrow either. but whatever.. the thing is, i love to drink water and its mainly the only thing i drink. i really havent had water forever cause its making me feel worse. what other drinks might be good for a really upset stomache? (link)
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There are a few other options you could try:
-Warm Tea
-Ginger Ale
-7 Up
-Pedialite
You basically want drinks that are light on the tummy.
I hope you feel better! :)
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I was just wondering if anyone could give me some insight as to what a normal age is for like, giving head, and oral sex and stuff. im 13, and i've never wanted to do anything like that but i was just wondering at about what age are girls doing it now a days. if anyone could help me out, i would really appreciate it. (link)
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Well, the answer to your question isn't really concrete. Bescause, the answer ranges from person to person. It's really all about when you are responsible, willing, mature, and ready. (both parties involved)Anything of sexual natural is a big deal whether you think so or not. if you and your partner don't feel 150% ready and comfortable doing what is about to take place, then it's not the right time. You can't rush things like that. You have to let them take their natural course. I know that at your age, it's easy to think you "love" a guy, and are going to be with them for the rest of your life, but at that age it's really hard to tell. So, don't judge it on that eiter. Junior high is all about trying to be cool and popular and fit in. All these lil' girls adapt their ways so they can be "cool". Don't let that be the reason you take part in anything sexual. Before you do anything sexually related, make sure you are FULLY aware of the diseases and other serious related risks. If there's any doubt you're prolly not ready. But if you want a straight answer ...13 is way too young. Give this time, but that's good that thus far you've has no desire to partake in these activities. Be proud of yourself. :)
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My parent's are like, sexist. They won't let me hang out with boys. They think that I'm just going to go out and have sex with every boy I see. I tell them that all we're gonna do it hang out (which is true) but then they have to make up the excuss, "Honey we trust you, not the boys." Soo, what can I do to make them trust me? (link)
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Well, first of all, don't feel alone. There are TONS of parents just like yours. I wouldn't say they are sexist; not basewd on the information you have given. I would say they are just cautious. I know you feel like they aren't letting you live; but you have to cut them some slack. They are only looking out for you. You have to both respect and appreciate that. What you can do is kind of have like a sit down talk with you parents and demonstrate to them how mature, and responsible you are now. Explain to them that you will make wise choices no matter the situation based on their parental guidance thus far. Ask if you can have the guy over for dinner so they can get to know him better. Also, then ask if he can come over to watch a movie downstairs..take what you can at first and then work up. Just give it some time. They'll come around. :)
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Ok heres the problem..my hair is about to my shoulder and it is very thick..also very poofy. what should i do to make my hair not as poofy? i tried straightening it..that didn't work but also i have a crappy straightner. I hate my hair! Can someone help me? please!! thanx in advance! (link)
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Hey hun. Well, don't worry. There is something you can do about your hair. There are tons of great hair product out there. You just have to find out which one works best for you. The Kiwi line offers a wide range of products. The one you want to try for your hair type is the Kiwi Blow Serum and apply it while you hair is damp or wet before blowdrying. It's available at Sally Beauty Supply, Ulta, or your hair salon. Another brand you might want to invest in is the Bed Head line. It is available at all the same places as the other product I mentioned. Try the product called "Bed Head, AFTER PARTY". It will make your hair easy to work with and have a soft and shiny look. When blow drying your hair, divide it into sections..ie: left side, right side, front and back. after blow drying while brushing throught it then straighten (and you may need to invest in a better straightener..ask Santa for one for the holidays! Once you straighten and blow dry try putting a light spray of Biolage thermal active setting spray lightly over it to set in the look..and there ya go! good luck! :)
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17/f ...im going to a dance soon and im wearing like a small short dress and i have like this pink half tie shirt thing to wear over it like outside cuz of the cold.. well anyways my question is what color shirt and tie do u think my date should wear...and i dont think hell wanna wear pink (link)
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Well here are some options:
-Black shirt, silver tie
-Black shirt, white tie
-Black shirt, white tie
-Black shirt, pink tie
-Silver shirt, black tie
If you could get him to wear the pink though, I would go for that. Liek a black shirt with a pale pink tie. But if not any of the above mentioned will work for ya. Or you could even wear a navy blue shirt with same tie options. Hope the dance goes well. :)
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ok i know this is stupid.But i have a boyfriend and im scared to tell my parents. They wont get mad at me or anything for having a boyfriend the thing is i just dont know how to tell them. How should i tell them?? (link)
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Well, it's kind of common and natural for teens to open up and tell their parents they are in a relationsip. It can be a scary thing if you let it become that. I think for sure you should tell your parents about you and your boyfriends relationship. I know it may be hard, but it's the right thing to do. If you do not ell them, they will think he's bad, or he has a bad influence on you and the two of you are engaging in bad things. If you are open and upfront and honest with them they'll see you are maturing, and responsible, thus they will trust you more. I think a good way to let your parents know is to just civily and calmly tell them and ask if you can invite him over to dinner one night so that they can get to know him better. I think they would like this, that way they can see you aren't hiding anything. Honesty is the way to go! You can do it. :)
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sry i didnt know what to put this under? but plz dont delete this question i need help!!! okay..when im on my period and i have a tampon in it always like "leaks" and i have spots of blood on my panties..and whenever i take it out theirs like part of the cotton that doesnt even have blood on it..it looks like it all just like slid to one side and came out..please help how can i stop this????? (link)
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Okay, don't worry too much; here's what you can do.
-Make sure your tampon is inside of you as far as possible
-You may want to go up a size (ie: if using slim fits try going to regular because the size you are using is leaving space for the blood to trickle down.
-And lastly, this "leaking" may still come, and if it does, try wearing a panty liner, or thin maxi pad along with the tampon so that way your undies stay clean and if it leaks you can just pull the liner off.
:)
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Everytime I answer a question on my advice column this thing comes up it says:Chatspeak detected.Please type in English. That is all I speak,type and write...English.PLEASE HELP! i rate REALLY HIGH! (link)
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When that message appears it mean that you have use words such as: slang words you would use typing everyday to a friend. I can't type them because I'll recieve the same message, but for example if you spell cool, you, this, like, your, oh my gosh any other way than the way I did, it's going to get filterd.(There are more words on the list. Try to just pretend your writing a really important note to your parents!) If your answer or question contains more than two (I think) words such as these it will be filter. This site wants it's users to now type as if they were having an AIM conversation, but rather, responding or asking in proper manner. :)
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I have just recently gone on my first pap test. I am curious as to what the pap test can detect. Will it say whether or not I have HPV or herpes, or do they have to run a seperate test to find that out? Thanks in advance for your answers! (link)
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The pap smear can detect several types of conditions. Just to mention a few:
-All sorts of various STDS (including Herpes)
-Vaginal, Yeast and other closely relation infections in that region
-Pre-Cancerous/Cancerous or Suspicious cells and growth, clusting, movement of those cells.
It's important to keep up with getting Pap smear. I hope you recieve positive results. Best wishes. :)
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Hey..me and this girl were like BFF's for like 6 years in a row. . we did everything together. . .shopped,secrets,stupid fights,nails and everything! but then i introduced her to this girl that i new because she was new to the school..now her and the new girl are best friends and they ignore me all of the time! what should i do?! (link)
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Hmm, kind of sounds like a fairweather friend to me. If I were you, I would move on and find someone else and another group of faithful girlfriends to hang out with. But, that's just me. The right thing to do would be to see if you are just being paranoid maybe. Talk to your two "friends" and tell them how you are feeling. Then give them about a week (school week) or so to change their ways. If they don't or their treatment towards you worsens, don't even waste anymore of your time. Just be the bigger person in this instance. Move on and find real friends. I know it may sucks, but often times teen girls mover from friend to friend in hope of being popular. Don't think you did anything wrong, you didn't! Lots of people out there to meet. Another note,keep your head up..if you see the two of them snickering about you in the hall..just smile nicely and say HEY GIRLS!, but don't attempt anything more than that. You deserve to be treated well! :)
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I met this guy back in September over the computer.He is from the same state as me and he lives pretty close too.I'm really in love with him,and he loves me too.He is the sweetest guy I've ever met.He treats me so right.Yet I get upset with him alot and we fight.He calls me every day and we talk online.The only thing I hate is that he has a girlfriend from another state who lives like 4 1/2 hours away and they never see each other.I'm always getting mad at him over that.He told me he wants to marry me in 2009.I don't know what I'm suppose to do.Should I get over the fact he has a girlfriend,and that I probably won't have a chance with him? Please help me,I'm not sure about what I should do.
I'd appreciate the help...Thank you! (link)
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This may not be what you want to hear, but I think it's the truth. This guy must be a little confused or he may be decieving both you and his "girlfriend." It is possible to love two people, but you can for sure not be IN LOVE with more than one person at a time. It sounds like this guy is trying to get the best out of both worlds. That's not fair to you or to the other girl. I think what you need to do is really think about all this and have a talk with the guy. Tell him that he's got to make a decion. He can't have his cake and eat it too. He needs to pick just one girl and be committed and faithful to just one. He may seem great, but remember people over the interent can be decieving and untrustworthy. I know you said he's great and all, but just be careful. Give him about a week or so (after you give him his ultimaitum and tell him how you feel about him and y'alls relationship) and see if he has been faithful to whatever decision he's now making. If he choose the other girl, well I know it will hurt you, but if you really love him then you will be willing to accept that and let him go on his way to be happy, because when you truly love a person, their happiness comes before yours. If he chooses you, then great! Work from there. Don'y EVER settle for anything less than you deserve! :)
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omg :( my mom just died 3 hours ago and i'm a reck! i just dont kno what to do! has ne1's parents died? i'm 14/f and i do have a column here and mostr people hate me but its -- P4TH3T1Cx1426 -- and please help! even if yu hate me! i just dont kno what to doo! (link)
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Well, first and foremost my condolences to you and the rest of your family. I am sorry to hear of your loss. I know it's a really hard thing to deal with. The key thing to remember is you will always have those wonderful memories, and sometimes not so wonderful memories..but at least they are memories. You will always have the past, and your mother's love and affection and her spirit. It is a part of who you are. That will never go away. No one can take that away. I know this is a HUGE and hard thing for someone of your age to deal with. Sometimes though, God let's something tramatic happen to the people we love in order for us to become closer to him. I know it seems unfair and rash, but everyone has their different ways of expressing things. It's okay to cry about this. Don't feel like you can't cry. Cry your heart out. Pray. Go to church and vent. Talk to your family. Take off as much time as you need from school. Be strong. That's what your Mom would have wanted you to do. If you are close to your dad, or whatever family member you may be closets sit down with them and talk, shares your emotions and feelings. You'll feel better to vent. This is going to take some time. You really can;t get over something like this all too fast. And, don't push yourself to either. Go and recover at your own pace. When you feel up to it, get back to the school and be prepared to have friends come up to you and consol you or apologize for your lost..be brave. You just have to think that your mom is now in a better place and that was part of God's plan for your mom as well as you. It may help you to speak at your mom's funeral. It's up to you. Don't force yourself to do anything you aren't ready to. In time, you'll cry less, laugh more, and love always. You can get through this. God wouldn't have let this happen if he didn't think you could overcome this. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I am always here. Again, sorry for your lost. Best wishes and God Bless. :)
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I am going to my friend's birthday party in 3 days. My other friend has a cold sore and today I got this cut on my lower lip and I don't know how it got there. My friend said that when she first got her cold sore, it started out as a cut. Sometimes I get cuts on my lips and hands when it starts getting cold. If i actually have a coldsore, does anybody know how to get rid of it before the party? (link)
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Aww, don't worry at all. There are a lot of quick fixes for this. Try:
-Dipping a cotton ball or the end of a Q-Tip in peroxide and rubbing it gently over the cut. (Don't swallow peroxide)
-Avoid accidy foods and drinks (ie: orange juive, tomatoes, etc)
There are several over the counter methods as well:
-Blistex
-OraGel
-Abreeva
I would say either of those 3 give you the best results..Abreeva and Oragel probably do it the quickest, but Blistex is good for long term protection.
All of the above mentioned are available at your local drugstore. Feel better! :)
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I love my boyfriend dearly and everthing and I mean everything is going great and I am as happy as ever. But somehow I just feel like something or someone is gonna break us up...Like somethings gonna keep us apart... It makes me feel depressed...Maybe I feel this way because whenever I was in a relationship a guy, he never took it seriously...could this be why? and if it isn't then why do i feel this way?
Thanks in advanced :)
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Well, first of all, don't totally freak out; this is pretty common and natural, what you are feeling. It is often times when people (guys and girls) in a committed relationship areh aving that feeling of "being on cloud 9", they think that somehow, someway it's all going to get destroyed. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It merely means, you are practicle and reasonable. Nothing can last forever, though we all would like for those great things such as love and relationships to last forever and a day. With all that said, you can't, hard as it may be let that effect you from living your life day to day and to the fullest each of those days. You only get one life to live. You can't take that for granted. If you continue to allow what may or MAY NOT happen in the near or DISTANT future depress you it's going to start to effect the people around yopu ( ie: your boyfriend) and it could possibly have a negative effect. WHat you have to do is just forcus on the good things in your life and cherish the time you have with your boyfriend. Soack it all up. Be appreciative you are ever blessed enough to have such a great relationship. If it would give you some peace of mind, try talking to your boyfriend about how you are feeling. Chances are he too may be feeling the same way. Express to him how much he means to you and have him do the same. Then tell him that while reality scares you; you are feeling lucky to even spend a once of your time with him. ANd tell him how much you appreciate him and everything. Also, I think in doing this, he can help you with the feeling down thing because this will start a possible new thing where he's even more affectionate or close just so you know he'll always be there. And, if things do possibly end between you two fro whatever reason, hold your head up high. Just be thankful you were given teh oppurtunity. Take those experiences and lessons and grow, learn, and love with them for the future. :)
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I have the lead role in a play, and i need advice on how to memorize my lines! any ideas? Thanks soo much! (link)
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Practice, practice, and PRACTICE!
Every chance you have, practice a line or two. If your mom is driving and y'all are stopped at a stop light, PRACTICE. Set aside a set amount of time every day and/or night for you to soley practice your lines. Before you go to bed practice. Waiting at the dentist...practice. Then take like a day break and see what you can do strickly from memory and then get to practing some more. Also, try writing out the lines. Your brains absorbs more things by practice also. Good luck, and oh yeah, don't forget to practice!! :)
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OK I know this might be a common question but I really need help...
My friends invited me to their pool party/birthday in 4 days. I am not one of their best friends but we are pretty close. They are identical twins *Kaitlynne and Mackenzi* so i was thinkin of goign to a stopre that sells personalize ditems but none realli carry names spellt that way. they love soccer and they are truning 14.. any ideas? (link)
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There are tons of things:
You could get/give them:
-Money
-Gift Cards (Starbucks,Best Buy,Movies, Clthing Stores,Mall)
-Movies or DVDs
-Cameras
-Clothes
-Jewlery
-Gift Certificate to get their nails done
-Make up
-Purses
-Soccer Balls and write special notes on 'em
-Poster of David Beckham
-Candles
-Soccer tickets
-CDs
-Video Games
-Board Games
-Barbies (as a joke)
-Gift certficate to their fave resturant
--If you want to go with the persoanlized theme still, there are places at the malls (like carts) that you can get them those neckaleaces with your name written on a piece of rice--
I'm sure they'll be appreciative of whatever you choose to get them! Don't forget about the cards! :)
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me and my gf always get into fights...but yet i still luv her as much as i have since the beginning...it seems that every time we get into a fight it is in front of out friends and i am tired of putting up with some of the stuff she says to make me look like the bad guy...so do i dump her or work things out?¿?¿?¿ (link)
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It's natural for couples to disagree over different things. The important thing, is to listen to one another, learn from these fights, move on, and improve ofr the future. Communication is key. If you can do this, that's great. It's common for youung couples to fight in front of their friends because each of you want to look "good" in front of the other. I say before you abruptly end this relationship, try calmly talking with your girlfriend about the fighting. Tell her what you are thinking and feeling. Work together on the fighting issue. Give yourselves a chance to redeem yourselves before you just end it. Try to have her open up, and you two try and learn to agree to disagree and just laugh at it. Giveh er about 3 weeks or so to shows you are both making a difference. Then, if all that fails, then think about possibly ending things. But try to work it out first. :)
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I need something for my face that will make it more clear and make my skin more heatly and almost flawless. Any one know of anything good? (link)
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There are tons ans tons of products out there. Everyone's likings vary. Here's what you need though:
-Some type of skin cleansier
TRY SEEBREEZE FOR GENTLE SKIN; you apply it with a little cotton pad AND/OR CLEAN AND CLEAR BLACKHEAD DAILY CLEANSING CLOTHS
-Some kind of acne fighter
This could be either perscription, or not perscription; cream, or pill
for over the counter try some type of clerasil cream ( whatever you like best) for a pill over the counter try NATURE'S CURE; for perscription see your dermatologist and ask for a sulfur pill or an amoxicillin and for a cream ask for FINECEA; there are tons of things out there but I have found from others and through personal experience that these are good products.
There's something else you could try: Proactiv, I am sure you have seen it all over the TV, but the stuff really works, this would also eliminate the use of all the above mentioned.
None of the things I listed are too costly and all the over the counter things can be bought at your local drug store for under 10 dollars.
You may also want to try a daily cleansing cloth; not the black head one, but just a normal one; this will ensure your skin does not dry out for over use of products. See the Clean and Clear brand for your best option.
Hope I helped! :)
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