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Why do I feel like this??
I love my boyfriend dearly and everthing and I mean everything is going great and I am as happy as ever. But somehow I just feel like something or someone is gonna break us up...Like somethings gonna keep us apart... It makes me feel depressed...Maybe I feel this way because whenever I was in a relationship a guy, he never took it seriously...could this be why? and if it isn't then why do i feel this way?
Thanks in advanced :)
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It's great that everything is going great, so maybe you feel this way because everything is almost TOO perfect, maybe? Perhaps you think that this is too good to be true? Sometimes when you are in a relationship that is pretty much perfect, you get bored that there isn't anything to do, so you feel as though something might come along and screw it up much too soon. But just relax, and have fun with your boyfriend, and think about your relationship with him with a positive attitude, because if you continue to do so, you will most likely enjoy it. :) Hope everything goes great!
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Well, first of all, don't totally freak out; this is pretty common and natural, what you are feeling. It is often times when people (guys and girls) in a committed relationship areh aving that feeling of "being on cloud 9", they think that somehow, someway it's all going to get destroyed. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It merely means, you are practicle and reasonable. Nothing can last forever, though we all would like for those great things such as love and relationships to last forever and a day. With all that said, you can't, hard as it may be let that effect you from living your life day to day and to the fullest each of those days. You only get one life to live. You can't take that for granted. If you continue to allow what may or MAY NOT happen in the near or DISTANT future depress you it's going to start to effect the people around yopu ( ie: your boyfriend) and it could possibly have a negative effect. WHat you have to do is just forcus on the good things in your life and cherish the time you have with your boyfriend. Soack it all up. Be appreciative you are ever blessed enough to have such a great relationship. If it would give you some peace of mind, try talking to your boyfriend about how you are feeling. Chances are he too may be feeling the same way. Express to him how much he means to you and have him do the same. Then tell him that while reality scares you; you are feeling lucky to even spend a once of your time with him. ANd tell him how much you appreciate him and everything. Also, I think in doing this, he can help you with the feeling down thing because this will start a possible new thing where he's even more affectionate or close just so you know he'll always be there. And, if things do possibly end between you two fro whatever reason, hold your head up high. Just be thankful you were given teh oppurtunity. Take those experiences and lessons and grow, learn, and love with them for the future. :)
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I've felt that way before, too...but you can't spend all your time being worried about how this relationship will END. If you do, you don't have time to make it work! Your past relationships could very well be the cause of this, but that was in the past. Worry about what's happening NOW. Good luck, I hope you feel better!
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Hi Sweetie,
This sucks because those feelings are like uneasy feelings in our stomatchs that ruin our day. Maybe something in your gut is forcasting some negatie possibility ahead of time that you can prevent... or maybe because you care so much about him you are afraid to loose him and subconsciously you're thinking of how you can loose him.
The best way to deal with this is to talk it off or... talk it out. Talk to him about your fears and once he assures you that he could ever let something intetfer between you that will make you feel beter.
Hope you feel beter. Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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u shouldnt be thinking about that stuff dont live in the future live in the present
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i think everyone gets like that when they really love someone.. but.. just.. dont pay attention to that.. like.. every time you start to think about that.. start thinking about why you love him and why he loves you.. and everything will be okay! :-D
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well, yea, insecurity happens a lot when past relationships or jobs down work out. in skool i wus learning about edgar allen poe and all of the women in his life kept dying, from his mother, to his adopted mother, to his wife and so on. also his jobs wouldn't work out. so then he went to interview at the whitehouse for a high position job and he ended up selling magazines there because he sort of had this sub concious thought that he could not be happy or succeed at anything. well the best way to deal with that kind of thing is to just know that there is nothing threatening your relationship. if u keep remembering that then you just have to tell yourself that its only you then maybe it'll put urself at ease. good luck!!
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You're not alone. I relate with this very well, because of all the relationships I've been through I felt the same exact way. You shouldn't neglect your feelings. But your feelings may not mean that it's actually going to happen. It might be that experince with that guy who never took the relationship seriously. The only other reason I can think of is that we aren't used to a perfect world. And when something good happens in our life it seems too good that it's surreal. We worry about some bad things that happen because that's natural for everyone. No one is used to everything being so perfect. But like Siren said, you should talk about this with your boyfriend. I'm sure he has thoughts about the relationship too. But I think if you talk to him about your thought it'll be less stressful and you'll probably be able to work it out. Enjoy having your boyfriend with you, and try to make the best out of it!
Love,
Mandee
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Aww, honey. I know how you feel. I had that feeling during my last relationship. When all the relationships my friends were having were breaking up, I kept feeling like I was next.
That could be why - that when you were in a relationship, he never took it seriously. If he doesn't take it seriously, it's not gonna last. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him what you're feeling. Let him assure you that nothing will happen, and that he does take it seriously. During the third month of my current relationship, I was starting to have doubts because my longest relationships lasted only 2 months. I talked to my boyfriend about what I was feeling, and he said he was feeling the same thing, so we talked it out and realized that we were going to stay together. I wasn't planning to break it off, and neither was he. Moral of the story: when having worrying boyfriend issues, talk to your boyfriend. It's really a lot more helpful than you think. Hope this helps! -Siren =)
[Edit] In response to the feedback you gave me, Just express your worries to him. Tell him what you're feeling. Describe emotions. Just start talking and let the sentences happen, lol. That's what I usually do. Of course, I sound like an idiot occasionally, but that's only nerves. You'll be fine. He's your boyfriend! Just talk to him. =)
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If things are really going well, then you shouldn't be worried. The past people aren't this guy!! I'm sure that u 2 will be together a long time if you truly love him and make the relationship work.
Hope this Helps!!
Jillybean
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