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Q: ok so i liked this guy nick...and i never would ever think about liking him but once i got to know him i started to actually LIKE him. Then my friend asked him who he liked and he said this other girl at my school. Then she told him that i liked him and now we dont talk because i guess he feels awkward and so do i. We have started to talk a little bit more but still we not. I want to continue being his friend again but i am afraid that that is impossible. Please help!!!!!
-is he my friend?
Just tell nick that you really just want to b friends and really nothing more. then you guys can hang out and be friends again, but if you still feel awkward, just stop hanging out w/ him 4 a while, and then c if you really want to be friends w/ nick.
Hope this helps!!
Jillybean

Q: Well there are these 2 boys i like ..but neither of them know i like them...and they both have girlfrineds..should i tell them that i like them an maybe then the'll get wit me..or should i wait until they brake up with there gurlfriends..?? :(

Help ..i rate realli good
Well, u cud try just being friends with them until they break up with their gf's or if one ov them iz in a fight w/ thier gf, then start warming up to him. They might just ask u out!!
I hope it all works out 4 u!!!
hope this helps!!
Jillybean

Q: I'm 14 and a female. My ex boyfriend is 16. He broke up with me a little over a month now. We dated for 6 months. He broke up with me because he said he wanted to concertrate on school and he didn't want a girlfriend. I think it was just an excuse. When we were dating he told me he loved me and I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I believed him and told him I loved him back because I truely meant it. After we broke up we still talked and he told me that he wanted to get back with me after he brought his grades up. He ignored me for a week and I was upset. We started to say hey and gave hugs whenever we saw each other and I told him to call but he never did. The next day at school I found out that he made out with another girl(this was 2 weeks after we were broken up). I try to get over him and move on but it's hard because I still have alot of feelings for him and I still love him. I wouldn't mind getting back with him even though what he did was totally wrong. I don't want to chase after him because if he wanted me he would come after me...right? I don't know what to do because I still love him and I dont know how he is feeling right now. His friend is supossed to see how he is feeling about me. I don't know what to do though. Can you help? Thanks!
Well, talk to him about his "incident" and see if it was some misunderstanding or something. If it is a misunderstanding, ask him out at the very next possible tym he could go out, and hopefully he still loves you the way he said he did.
Hope this helps!!
Jillybean

Q: well i broke up with my boyfriend in may and now i go to the same school with him and he still wants to be with me i dont even want to be friends with him and now he has a classes next to my locker and i see him everyday i dont want to talk to him and i told him i like another guy and he insists that we should get back together but i told him i dont like him at all and now he doesnt stop bugging me what do i do. or what can i do
Just tell him you don't like him bugging u all the tym, and say that your final answer is no, i dont want to get back together with you. If he's not the one, definetly just dont get bak 2gether w/ him.
Hope this Helps!!
Jillybean

Q: ok heres my deal, i will be moving to fl from ca and i am shy and i want to know what is the best way to present myself in a friendly manner so that will able me to make friends...??

thank you so much!
Just be yourself!! Try to subtly talk to people you think are nice. Say things like I love your shirt, where did you get it? or Your hairdo is awesome! always compliement people. they love it. Also ask them about themsleves. most people like talking about themselves!!

Hope this helps!!
Jillybean

Q: i hav this friend (he is a guy) we r really good friend wen were with a couple of people but went we r in skool then he walks right by me like he doesnt even no me. it is kinda weird **wat should i do?????
you should ask him why he is acting so strange around you! If he says i dont know what you're talking about, then tell him examples. He can't avoid something he actually did. im sure he has a reason! maybe hes just uncomfortable in front of a lot of people.
Hope this helps!
Jillybean

Q: I love my boyfriend dearly and everthing and I mean everything is going great and I am as happy as ever. But somehow I just feel like something or someone is gonna break us up...Like somethings gonna keep us apart... It makes me feel depressed...Maybe I feel this way because whenever I was in a relationship a guy, he never took it seriously...could this be why? and if it isn't then why do i feel this way?
Thanks in advanced :)
If things are really going well, then you shouldn't be worried. The past people aren't this guy!! I'm sure that u 2 will be together a long time if you truly love him and make the relationship work.

Hope this Helps!!
Jillybean

Q: okay, i dont like my friend that much any more and she is really sensitive... i dont want to be friends with her any more and she ALWAYS hangs around me. What do i do? Signed rebekah.
Well, get your friend involved into group activities, and help her to make friends with other people. Eventually, she will stop hanging out with you. If she still sticks to you, slowly detach from her, and she will grow on to other people.
Hope this Helps!!
Jillybean

Q: My guy friend..lets call him K..likes me and I like him back..atleast I think so. We got kind of deep and talked about our feelings and stuff..and he told me all the reasons he liked me..I really liked him at that point..he's so sweet. One weired problem..when I'm not talking to him...or just talking to him online..I feel like I can't decide if I really like him or not..but when I talk to him in person it's totally different. I dont know I can't stop thinking about it and it's tearing me apart. If anyone could help..that would be GREAT! THANKS!
Well, talking to him in person is better and more real than online or someother way. If you like him when you talk, thats great!! You can't see the person when your talking online or on the phone. in person is... well... more personal. If you like him in person, then you will probably like him anytime.

Hope this helps!!
Jillybean

Q: Well, there's this guy that I like a lot and I talk to him all the time, I have a class with him and my friends that have other classes with him say they forget he's in there because he never talks, but in my class, I talk to him all the time. Kind of like he isn't shy around me and that's awesome. Well, I asked him to this christmas dance because the girls had to ask the guys and he said he didn't know. Well, I asked him on Friday and now it's Tuesday and he hasn't answered me back. It's really weird though because whenever I see him in the hallways, we look over at eachother and sometimes we talk in the hallways and in class he usually will start a conversation with me, just random conversations. I'm not sure what's going on. I mean I know he's shy and all, but I really want to know what he thinks of me. My friend is gonna ask him 6th period if he's gonna go to the dance with me or not, but I'm so confused with his signs, I don't know if they are signs or just friendlyness. The only thing is, in all the other classes he has, he never ever talks and then he gets in my class and whenever we have free time to talk, me and him are talking. Please help!
Well. it sounds like this guy is really sweet, and im glad you asked him to the dance thing! but maybe his friendlyness might be because he just wants to be your friend and not your boyfriend, and so he's confused why you asked him to the dance. just go up to him and ask him if he just wants to be your friend or more. hopefully he'll say more, but if he says just friends than be his friend, and maybe he'll gorw on you!!

Hope this helps!!

Jillybean

Q: ok. there's this 7th grader at my school (i'm in 8th) and i like him. my bff's boyfriend is friends with this guy(this guys name is zach). i had a dream about zach and bff(gina) tells her boyfriend(brandon). so after school today, this kid is like all like trying to get gina to bring me over to him. we flirted at the beginning of the year and i like him. what do i say to him and do you think it's wrong for an 8th grader to go out with a 7th grader? thx for the help! oh yeah, i really really like this kid
Well, if you really, really like this guy, then please ask him out! It's not weird, and he'll probably be thrilled to go out with an 8th grader!

Hope this helps!!

Jillybean

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Jillybean
Hey y'all I'm Jillybean and I looooove cats!! I also like playing the clarinet, dancing, and writing in a diary. I have lived in 4 states: Texas, Wyoming, Colorado and Oklahoma. I have seen a lot, so I hope I can help with your questions!!! I check my inbox daily, please ask me questions!!

Jillybean :)

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