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My parents don't trust me :(
My parent's are like, sexist. They won't let me hang out with boys. They think that I'm just going to go out and have sex with every boy I see. I tell them that all we're gonna do it hang out (which is true) but then they have to make up the excuss, "Honey we trust you, not the boys." Soo, what can I do to make them trust me?
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just one day suprise them bring a guy over (one that you trust and has really good manners) then like kinda show him off to your parents they should like him b/c he will be nice and everything so that should take care of it if not i guess you are just screwed untill you move out (thats not a suggestion by the way).
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well you have toadmit..that most guys ar after one thing...but am thnking that they went through somethng to make them super strict...
Ask them about when they were teenagers...what kind of rules they have.
They are going to ahve to learn to trust you.
Mom and Dad..limiting boys..will just make them seem even more special.
Trust your girl..she is YOUR child..surely you imposed your morals on her.
now as to you..do NOT give them ay reason to doubt you.
Try a test date...but screen the guy forst..the more you know..the better you are informed.
She is going to grow up one day..you have to let her go.
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You're parents aren't like, sexist, they're like, normal.
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Ya, my parents were the same way and still are. Your parents aren't really sexist either, but neways... What i did, was i had another friend go with me to meet up with the boys so it made it look like i was going with a friend instead of the boys. Eventually, my mom figured out that we were all friends and liked 2 hang out 2gether, then i dropped the friend occasionally and i jus hung out with the guys. Thats how i did it, but still with some boys, my mom doesnt trust me... jus say ur meeting a friend, even if your not.... jus dont make it obvious that ur lieing!!!
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tell them you're a lesbian...then they'll let you hang out w/ all the boys you want
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ur a whore.
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show them that they can trust you with anything do stuff for them help them out if they see that your responcible then they with trust u also let your parents meat the guys if they see that they are mature and all then they will let u hang out with them thats how my parents where i had to let my parents see my friends befor i could hang out with them.
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They're just trying to protect you from getting into any trouble. A lot of parents go through that, especially if you're their first born child--I know mine did. Just show them that you're mature and responsible--do your chores without them telling you to. Get your homework assignments in on time. Once your parents see you can handle yourself responsibly, they're more likely to trust you.
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Try to show that you're mature and responsible. I don't really know how.. you just have to somehow. Whatever you do don't go behind their backs and hang out with the guys, that'll be ten times worse. Parents will figure out their teens are growing up and will eventually get over it. Until then respect their wishes.
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well,
some parents can be like that. Just wait, they'll come around someday. Believe me! Good luck
---jpepreppie
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Hey sweetie, don't worry, lots of parents are just like yours! They're not sexist, it's just that they don't know any of your guy friends and what they are like! Why don't you just invite some of them over so your parents can see that they can trust them and they will let you go out? I've done that and now my parents let me go out with guys! Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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--my parents were the same way-but see the problem was-that half my bestfriends were guys-at first my mom didnt rlly like the idea of that-but once i asked if they could come over to the house and hang out with my parents there-that way they could meet them-they totaly went for it-then after my mom and dad met them they said they were ok to hangout with-now my mom knos all my guy friends-she takes us everywhere and lets us hangout-yes it did take a while for her to see that the guys i hung out with were ok guys..--well i hope you can get your mom and dad to understand too-
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Arrgh many many parents are like that, don't fret- I wouldn't call it sexist thou....
Okay well they said themselves, they don't mind you just the boys and they are looking out for their baby girl aren't they. *sigh, so you have to get them to trust the guys. Invite a bunch of friends over to your house so your parents can meet some of them so then when you go out you can go "oh... im going with jack" then they can rest easy as they know him and trust him. It is a valid excuse and probabley mostly true, but if you prove them wrong then they will have to trust you. Or make up another excuse- whch I highly doubt. If they trust the people you are with then you will be fine.
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Well, first of all, don't feel alone. There are TONS of parents just like yours. I wouldn't say they are sexist; not basewd on the information you have given. I would say they are just cautious. I know you feel like they aren't letting you live; but you have to cut them some slack. They are only looking out for you. You have to both respect and appreciate that. What you can do is kind of have like a sit down talk with you parents and demonstrate to them how mature, and responsible you are now. Explain to them that you will make wise choices no matter the situation based on their parental guidance thus far. Ask if you can have the guy over for dinner so they can get to know him better. Also, then ask if he can come over to watch a movie downstairs..take what you can at first and then work up. Just give it some time. They'll come around. :)
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