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Hey, what up ppl? My name is Raven. I have a boyfriend named Cory. Luv Yaz!! Well, im a cheerleader, gymnast, run track, volleyball and basketball player. I also gots a little brother and sister. Ask me nething, and ill do my best 2 answer your questions!!!

4 cheerleading, im reppin the Brown Deer Falcons, 4 the 8TH GRADE, 09!!
they ended a 3 year season run as 22-1-1! What a great team, luv ya boyz!


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What does "shanking" mean?

hehe, it kinda means to stab or cut some1 with like a knife or scissors or somethin. But mostly stab someone or something. Hope I Helped! ~*Raven*~

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I'm turning 14 and im throwing a big guy/girl party. im just burning CD's for the party and i need some good dancing music. Can anyone list some really hot music to dance to including slow songs, rock, and hip hop/rap? i would really appreciate it. the list can be as long as you want!!! THANKS!!

Well, i can help with the slow, hip hop/rap songs but not the rock. But, you can brun Nolia Clap- Juvenile, My Place- Nelly, 1,2 Step- Ciara, Lovers & Friends, Lil Jon, ludacris, and Usher, Only U- Ashanti, Let Me Love You, Mario, Lose your Breath and Soldier- Destinys child. Well, I know theres a bunch more, but if you still need more (which im sure you do) your local radio stations probably have a website and you can look and see if you find some songs that you think are good on there! Have fun with your party!! ~*Raven*~

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What part in Wisconsin are you from. I am from Hartford email me back, gonzaedi@students.huhs.org or just email me back here.

I am from Brown Deer. Im not sure if you got my e-mail, so now I know you got it one way or another!

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ahhh!!! im gonna go crazy. one of my best friends thinks her life sucks and it doesn't. because her boyfriend broke up with her and her parents don't treat her right. she said she's going to start cutting herself and that she's given up on God. I don't know what to do. and please don't tell me to talk to her. if you do tell me what to say. because i'm really confused...

Wow, that must suck... if shes really into God, then tell her everything happens for a reason and she can go to hell if she cuts Maybe she'll get scared and not want to do it anymore. But um... ya, bout the cutting thing, make sure she doesnt do it!! please, take it from experience, show her this if you have to, its not worth it, I cut myself and now im stuck and cant stop!! Its crazy, and once your friends find out, its even worse!! Life will get worse if she cuts, shell have to go through counsling, and it will be worse!! My boyfriend and my best friend were so scared and mad at me for doing it, please, show her this, because its ruining my life because they are mad at me and I cant stop!!! I hope that I helped!! ~*Raven*~

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ok well next year i want to do track or croscountry are there any ways i can get fast but not make my miscles really big on my legs lik ie lik run for so long lik that please help me ill rate high....thanks

If you wanna get faster for track, you should run around your block until you get tired, or run around a school track if theres one around you. I know from last year before track started we were supposed to run a mile everyday so we didnt get tired as easily and got faster. It doesnt make your legs huge, but seriously whats wrong with having calves?!? It shows your strong and maybe people wont mess with you! lol, hope I helped!! ~*Raven*~

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Ok, this isn't exactly a friendship question, but i didn't know what else to put it under.
I'm going to turn 14 in about a month, and I'm in the 8th grade. This year my parents are letting me have a party, and I need some good party ideas for my age. Skating is out of the question because i had one for my 13th birthday party.
Any suggestions?

Dane party at your house, you and some friends spending the night at a hotel with a swimming pool(im doin that 4 my 14th in 2 months), when i was 12 my friends came over, we went out 2 eat, glow bowling, then a sleepover, ummm.... whatever your into really. To the mall or the movies is another option. I dont know what you r into so its kinda hard to help ya with this but I hope I helped with what I said!! ~*Raven*~

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Hey! I didnt know what to put this under so ya..I am going to be 14 on Febuary 23rd and I dont know what to do for my party? anyone have any good suggestions on what we could do to be kept occupied? lol I have a big *green room* aka living room that we could hang out in but i just dont know what we could do? I am in the country but not like farm country and have a nice size backyard! I will rate high if you give party tips!! thx much!! ♥Andrea

Lets see, you could have a sleep over, play games. Idk, nething you want really. Make a theme and do things that go along with theme, like I know my sisters friend had a beach party and they learned the hula. Or, my friend just had a party, and it was jus dancing. They got a Dj and everything and it was fun... My other friend, we went to the mall, watched movies, had a dance competition, talked about ppl from school... Depends on what your into!! If theres snow, snowball fight thing, I dont know how you are but football, basketball, tackle football, always great fun. Hope I helped!! ~*Raven*~

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I'm having a New Years Eve party at my house tonite and we want to make dirt. Like, the stuff with the oreo cookies and stuff. I don't know how to make it, and I need to buy ingredients for it. I'm going shopping soon, so please answer fast!
Thanks

All ya need for the dirt cup things is Oreo cookies and pudding! The pudding is your choice, but it looks better with chocolate, but also which flavor you like better. Like, i usually get one with Vanilla instead. Also, if you want, you can buy gummi worms and put the on top! Hope I helped and have fun with your new years ever party!! ~*Raven*~

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What are some new years resolutions?!

Hmmm, Id say anything that you want to change about yourself. Like get better at this sport, or learn to be more social or something. I know that I have 2 in mind, to lose my "gut" my June, lol, and to spend time with all my friends equally. Hope I helped and have fun finding a new years resolution!! ~*Raven*~

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My left foot feels really strange. It feels af if it doesn't get enough blood flow, because it feels numb, but on the top side of my foot. It has been doing this for a long time now. My right foot feels normal though. Also, I play tennis, so I'm usually on the courts about 5 times a week. Tennis requires lots of footwork, including mainly smaller steps. We also do lots of conditioning. Sometimes I step on my left foot wrong, and it hurts very badly. I think that I've strained it once before and it hasn't totally healed yet. It's a different pain than the other one I first mentioned. It's like a muscle limping type pain and it hurts very badly. It's been like this for a long time. I'm not really sure what I should do. My mom said that we might go see the doctor sometime, but does anybody know any thing that I can do at home to ease the pain. And don't tell me to lay off tennis, because I'm not about to do that. Please help and I rate.

hmmm.... You could have a bone bruise. They hurt like hell and it seems kind of like what I had. I had two and walked on my foot for about 3-4 months and it hurt and I could never feel it, it was just a mess. You should go to the doctor because you could do more damage to it not getting it treated! If it is a bone bruise, you wont be playing tennis 4 awhile, but think of it as you wont be in pain! I missed volleyball, track, and gymnastics the 1st time and basketball, cheerleading, and gymnastics the 2nd time. Just, go to the doctor, and even if its not a bone bruise, theyll be able to tell what it is for sure. As for at home, ice it, higher it above your heart, and if you have cructhes, stay on those and see if it heals that way!! Hope your foot gets better!!! ~*Raven*~

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What are some really good movies to watch with friends..im 14/F?? Thanks

Movies i've seen lately that are pretty good would be Dodgeball, White Chicks, Mean Girls, basically, I guess you could say "Chick Flicks" and comedies. If you want to go to the movies, some movies that look good are Darkness, and if you wanted to wait, White Noise and Coach Carter look good and they're comming out soon!! I know Im going with all my friends when they come out! Hope I Helped and have fun with your friends!!1 Have a Happy New Year!! ~*Raven*~

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what does it mean after u give someone advice.. and it says cheatspeak or whatever and type in english?? how can u get it off.. i have been answering peoples all dya it just does it randomly.. pleas ehelp!!

It means, that your typing in slang and incorrect english. Basically, shortened versions of words and incorrect grammer. I had that before, forgetting I was on here instead of aim. Just go back and redo the english and make sure you capitalize words!! Hope I helped!! ~*Raven*~

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i'm a total pimplehead and i have been for a long time.. like.. um.. since grade 5 i think.. i'm in grade8 now.. i've been using these cleanser things they're getting kinda better but i keep on breaking out.. any tips?? *omg i'm so embaressed asking this.. i need help!!*

Ok, well, you could try and cut down on the sugar a little bit, or caffeine. I know that Soda makes my face break-out and my friends chocolate. Chances are, youre eating to much sugar or somethin. What i suggest, is going to a dermatologist or if you odnt wanna go there, try Pro-Active. Its expensive, but I use it once a day when my acne gets real bad, and it usually goes away within a week. Also, Try usuing your cleanser things (if you're a girl) around "that time of the month" because thats when I tend to break out even more and worse. You could also try make-up... Hope that I helped ya and have a happy new year!! ~*Raven*~

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My friend cuts herself. And it really scares me she talks about killing herself sometimes. Like she thinks no one would miss her. Sometimes I wanna kill myself too but I realize how many people would miss me. But she doesn't seem to realize that. She doesn't cut herself often like she only did once but I am just scared it might become a habit. What should I do? And its not that serious enough to tell anybody yet and she would get really mad if I told anyone. I don't plan on doing anything until it gets worse like i see marks on her arms. What should I do to keep her happy and keep her not thinking about killing herself? I'm so scared right now please help me! I rate High and leave comments too!

Ya, I see where you're comming from. From what you're telling me, I really dont thinkt hat shes gonna kill herself anytime soon! If you havent seen the scars on her arms yet or newhere from her cutting, i really dont think that you should worry because thats usually how it starts. People start with cutting and gets worse and usually they get help in time. If youre really concerned about her, you could always take her out for ice cream and sit down with her and have a talk about it and why she shouldnt kill herself. To keep her from not thinking about killing herself, you could take her to the mall, skating, movies, bowling, anything that you 2 like to do 2gether. its not that easy to stop cutting, i no because i cant stop, but hopefully, you will be able to help her with this problem!! I hope I helped ya and have a happy new year!

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Hi all well im babysitting 3 girls after xmas can anyone give me some ideas on how to keep them busy so its a bit easyer for me
roxie
ps ill rate any good ideas
have a great xmas everyone

Maybe you could play the new games or w/e they got for christmas with them! Depending on how old they are, maybe you could bring some games over or something you have. Maybe even buy them a cheap game from a store or somethin. I know that when i went to babysit for a little boy who was 4, he like 2 play the Hi Ho! Cherry-o game.... its an old game. but it keeps em occupied!!! Or get em a coloring book with their favorite cartoon people in it! Hope I helped!! HaPpY hOlIdAyS aNd HaPpY nEw YeAr!!!

~*Raven*~

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ok, i've like this guy for a LONG time, 3 years. We've become better friends over the past 3 years since i liked him and i don't know if he likes me. We see each other at school but only in 3rd period but we talk most of the time since it's art. any ideas? i know i DON'T want to tell him how i feel, it would make everything so much harder and more awkward. If you think i should keep flirting, tell me some ideas. I'm 14, and he's 14. I'm a cheerleader and he's a football player but there isn't ne more games b/c the season is over. should i give up on this guy or stick to it?

Wow, ur story is just like mine. Ive liked my boyfriend since i saw him in 6th grade and im curently in 8th. i'm a cheerleader hes a football player, seasons over, and we only see each otha a lil bit in a day. But to your question, i really think that you should stick to it because i did and i told him once. Eventually, we flirted a lot and my friend could tell we liked each other a lot and she hooked us up. Weve been goin 2gether 4 about 2 and a half months and its goin great!! Stick with him and tell him how you feel, chances are if he flirts back, he likes you too and just doesnt want ne1 2 know!! If there are any after school activities like basketball games, maybe ask if hes going 2 1 and meet him there, or just hang out after school!! I hope i helpled and hope you get the guy!!

HaPpY hOlIdAyS aNd HaPpY nEw yEaR!!
~*Raven*~

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Ok i have a puppy, i just got the other day and she will be 7 weeks old tomorrow...well my problem is...she wont stop useing the bathroom on my floor in my bedroom and everywhere else in the house...even though i tell her no...thats bad and not to do it again but she keeps on and on whenever i see that shes about to go to the bathroom i pick her up and rush her outside....its annoying and i need advice on how to get her to stop useing the bathroom on my floor...thanks...i'll rate anyone who answers this for me!

Heya, we jus had a puppy 2. Sorry to say, but thats all you can do! Yell at it and scream no and it will get scared and stop then pich him/her up and run it outside real quick be4 it goes to the bathroom more. Ya, i know its annoying, but it only took our puppy about 2-3 weeks, and if you dont want it going on your floor, jus keep you door closed all the time. We put a baby gate up so our puppy was limited to space. Your puppy should be fine if you take him outside for jus a couple of minutes. We have 3 dogs and the 1st one we had we got when he was 4 weeks old, and we jus let him do his business then brought him back in!! If you see that he/she is gettin cold, try and warm him/her up by rubbing your arms on its side if youre out there a while!! Think of it as, its not that long, and youll only have 2 do it once!! Hope i Helped and have fun with your puppy!!

~*Raven*~

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My parent's are like, sexist. They won't let me hang out with boys. They think that I'm just going to go out and have sex with every boy I see. I tell them that all we're gonna do it hang out (which is true) but then they have to make up the excuss, "Honey we trust you, not the boys." Soo, what can I do to make them trust me?

Ya, my parents were the same way and still are. Your parents aren't really sexist either, but neways... What i did, was i had another friend go with me to meet up with the boys so it made it look like i was going with a friend instead of the boys. Eventually, my mom figured out that we were all friends and liked 2 hang out 2gether, then i dropped the friend occasionally and i jus hung out with the guys. Thats how i did it, but still with some boys, my mom doesnt trust me... jus say ur meeting a friend, even if your not.... jus dont make it obvious that ur lieing!!!

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the past year me and my mom have been fighting a lot and im sick of it! i always think that things will get better but they dont. yesterday she was supposed to go on a couple of erins but before me and my sister were fighting (which is normal i mean we were just getting annoyed by each other) so then she just stays home and a little later says that she wants us to come w/ her. so rite when we're about to leave my friend calls and asks if i can go swimming w/ her and i asked my mom and she said ok. then like 5 seconds after i hung up i asked her where my swim suit was and she starts screaming at me that i cant go and that shes late for what she wanted to do today so she was gonna leave me and my sister alone while she goes out and said i have to call my friend back up and say i cant go. i said that i couldnt do that cuz i just told her i could go so i started screaming to her how i hate the way shes always screaming at me and how she always changes her mind and that i hated my life. then she told me that i needed to go to a doctor but what i need is for her to stop all of this (which is never going to happen). then she starts watching tv and i said how come you aren't leaving and she said that she couldnt leave me alone the way i was acting and i told her that its not me or my sister's fault that she didnt go before cuz we told her that it was fine and we wouldnt fight before, but she just keeps saying how its our fault because we were fighting. finally she says that i can go so she wouldnt have to deal w/ me so as i was putting my swim suit on she starts screaming at me that i have to get downstairs in 10 seconds so when i was goin out the door she starts really really screaming at me w/ a mean glare that im grounded for everything. that nite when i got home she was a little bit better so i wanted to walk my dog but she wanted to come on a walk to so she was there but when we were on the driveway i asked if she was mad at me and she said yes so i went inside and didnt go on the walk. also that nite at dinner i asked if she hated me and she didnt answer. i really dont like her but i just wish she would stop all of this. this kind of thing happens like every day and i hate it! sorry this is so long, but id appreciate any advice.

Hey, im sorry 2 hear that. My mom is the EXACT same way right now. K, im 13 and shw dont even let me wear what i want 2 skool. If its 80 and all my friends and me have picked an outfit 2 wear so we look alike, i cant cuz my mom will be like its 80 fuckin degrees, put on shorts. I dont think they understand the fact that u wanna be indepenedant. Cuz the way i think of it, is im the one thats gonna be hot, not u, so shut up. Lol. My mom has also been calling me a fuckin bitch lately but w.e

Try writing about stuff, like when im pissed or when they make me mad, ill go and write suicide poems, everything i think about goes down on the paper and im not so mad. Try also getting away like outside or in the basement or somethin. My mom really makes my life miserable. I cant go newhere without an adult. Not 2 sound mean, but it sounds like ur moms a lil selfish. Just try 2 deal with it, skool should start soon 4 u and u can get away from it all. Try takin some after skool activites, then u dont have 2 be at home with all the yelling!! Hope I helped and i hope it works out 4 u!!!

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so i am goin into da 8th grade and my skin is tan and i have dark brown eyes .i dont kno which eyshadow to use, and i don't know what i shud do wit my hair, my hair is dark brown and is straight. please help.
I RATE :)

hmm, im goin into 8th 2. I think it would look cute if you crimped it and took highlight spray (its temp. so dont worry) and used it. My hair is really dark brown and is mistaken for black all the time. I use this spray called Bordeaux Wine by Streaks 'N Tips. Its like reddish brown. Your eyeshdaow would look good with just a colored tint. Im gonan wear Cliniques touch tint for eyes. Its purple, but you can treally tell on my eyes. Id also suggest eyeshadow colors like blue, dark green (depends on your outfit), but I think you should stick with dark colors, depending on how tan your skin is.

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