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mom and me not getting along
the past year me and my mom have been fighting a lot and im sick of it! i always think that things will get better but they dont. yesterday she was supposed to go on a couple of erins but before me and my sister were fighting (which is normal i mean we were just getting annoyed by each other) so then she just stays home and a little later says that she wants us to come w/ her. so rite when we're about to leave my friend calls and asks if i can go swimming w/ her and i asked my mom and she said ok. then like 5 seconds after i hung up i asked her where my swim suit was and she starts screaming at me that i cant go and that shes late for what she wanted to do today so she was gonna leave me and my sister alone while she goes out and said i have to call my friend back up and say i cant go. i said that i couldnt do that cuz i just told her i could go so i started screaming to her how i hate the way shes always screaming at me and how she always changes her mind and that i hated my life. then she told me that i needed to go to a doctor but what i need is for her to stop all of this (which is never going to happen). then she starts watching tv and i said how come you aren't leaving and she said that she couldnt leave me alone the way i was acting and i told her that its not me or my sister's fault that she didnt go before cuz we told her that it was fine and we wouldnt fight before, but she just keeps saying how its our fault because we were fighting. finally she says that i can go so she wouldnt have to deal w/ me so as i was putting my swim suit on she starts screaming at me that i have to get downstairs in 10 seconds so when i was goin out the door she starts really really screaming at me w/ a mean glare that im grounded for everything. that nite when i got home she was a little bit better so i wanted to walk my dog but she wanted to come on a walk to so she was there but when we were on the driveway i asked if she was mad at me and she said yes so i went inside and didnt go on the walk. also that nite at dinner i asked if she hated me and she didnt answer. i really dont like her but i just wish she would stop all of this. this kind of thing happens like every day and i hate it! sorry this is so long, but id appreciate any advice.
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Wow that really sucks!! Ok umm let's see. Ok first of all, your mom DOES NOT HATE YOU. She might be really really mad, but a mother could never hate her kids. Also maybe she's having mood swings for a reason. She might be on birth control shots, which give women EXTREME mood swings for no reason. Or maybe shes on a medication that gives her very very bad side effects. Just when she's screaming at you, it's going to be hard to like her at the moment, but just keep yourself calm and give her a hug. Don't talk or anything, she just needs you to be there. I know it can be hard but still. You didn't do anything wrong or anything. Just try to stay away from her when she gets like that and do special things to keep her in a good mood! Good luck...if you need anything else just ask! But deffinitly look into what kind of medications she's taking if she's taking any at all!
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Maybe your mom is menopausal.
My mom goes crazy too.
Then she complains of being hot.
Who knows?
I tried to stay logical with my mom and her behavior than just jumpin' out and callin' her crazy.
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tell ur mom how u feel if she doznt listen go 2 a conseler.<~~~i kno i spelled dat rong
good luc hun
xoxox
brunettebeauti
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Hey, im sorry 2 hear that. My mom is the EXACT same way right now. K, im 13 and shw dont even let me wear what i want 2 skool. If its 80 and all my friends and me have picked an outfit 2 wear so we look alike, i cant cuz my mom will be like its 80 fuckin degrees, put on shorts. I dont think they understand the fact that u wanna be indepenedant. Cuz the way i think of it, is im the one thats gonna be hot, not u, so shut up. Lol. My mom has also been calling me a fuckin bitch lately but w.e
Try writing about stuff, like when im pissed or when they make me mad, ill go and write suicide poems, everything i think about goes down on the paper and im not so mad. Try also getting away like outside or in the basement or somethin. My mom really makes my life miserable. I cant go newhere without an adult. Not 2 sound mean, but it sounds like ur moms a lil selfish. Just try 2 deal with it, skool should start soon 4 u and u can get away from it all. Try takin some after skool activites, then u dont have 2 be at home with all the yelling!! Hope I helped and i hope it works out 4 u!!!
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I'm sorry you have to go through this. My mom acted like that during her hellish divorce, it's just stress. You need to explain to our mom (during a quiet, non-fighting time) that you feel like she's taking things out on you. Ask if anything's wrong. Maybe she's under stress about your dad (are they still married?) or her work. If talking doesn't help, then you probably both need to see a counselor.
I hope I helped! If you think I gave you good advice, feel free to rate me. Thanks!
-Kristenn
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You guys both need to go to a doctor. Try to figure out what is wrong. You might need to actually move away from your mother. i kno how it is to be yelled at constantly by your mom. Shewigs out a lot, too. But you really need to get proffesional help. Everything will not get solved in your firs visit, but talking it over with your mom doesnt help either. Talk to a guidance counselor at school, then they can help you find help. Feel free to ask me any questions if you need more help.
XoxO Alissa-marie
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i really would like to help ya grant that "wish" but somehow it looks impossible. shes ur mother, and somehow my mom is soooo like her sometimes. she gets on my nerves all the time. so when she acts like that, i usually try my best not to talk back or argue back with her (it always gets us nowhere), i try control back everything till im save outta her sight before letting it all out in my room or something. cry it out if u must. listen to music, draw, read, write poetry. do something that will get ur mind off ur arguement with mom. to end off, i would like to say that girl, HANG IN THERE! and be tolerant of ur mom. sometimes it takes loads of determination and strength raising a child. she deserves respect, just as much as you do. good luck and take care -Rei
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