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Q: Ok well i have this friend.He and his girlfriend just broke up after a 4 month relationship.Since he broke up he's been going out with all of these girls and dumping then because he always has his ex on his mind.And i'm getting really worried because he started cutting himself!I need to talk to him b4 he hurts himself anymore!PLZ HELP ME!!!!
I Rate!!!

--ok-sitt him down-as soon as you get the chance-tell him-people are here that lover him-let him kno people care-and you will always be there for him-then tell his parents or ur school and they will tell his parents-hope everything works out--

Q: Ok there's thie guy i like in school. But the problem is... i'm homeschooled and now i don't see him as often. Also, when there's a guy i like i get all shy and well... i start to ignore them becuase i get embaressed.
If i see him how could i talk to him without ignoring him and getting shy? Plz help! i could use it...

you just have to be urself-ikno that doesnt rlly help-but maybe ur not used to being around guys-so maybe you should try and make sum guy friends-and that way you would be able to feel better around guy--hope that helps you-

Q: ok so i am 13 years old and i have been since november 16. I am really self concious about my breasts because like all my friends are a size A and i dont even think if i am a size AA (i've never tried one though) I mean when you read this you might think that i actually have breasts but they are small. But i acutally really dont. I have only 2 small like bumps when i look at myself in the mirror. and when i look at myself from the side in a mirror it is literally flat. nothing sticking out. And i have had my period since July. please help!

dont freak-ur fine-my sum of my friends are 14 and going on 15 and still havent rlly even started growing-just enjoy the time you have without ur breasts-cuz they will come soon enough-

Q: ok to understand my question here is what happened before...Sorry it is long!!!

my friend kristina is dating this guy named richard. Well they dated for about 1 year before breaking up because he is constantly a jerk to her. He was possesive and always jealous. When she would talk to her friends while talking to him he would flip out and he would flip out if she talked to other guys. Well, many times before she wanted to break up with him but he would always say he loved her so much and that he would change but he never did. Even her parents hated himZ Well, right before school started he wanted to get back together with her. (**Me and Kristina talked every day**)She wasnt sure if she should because of how he used to treat her. I kept telling her not to because she would only get hurt again. Well, she is dating him now and she totally changed. SHe never talks to me or her best friend Kayliee anymore. We both said that if she keeps this up that when she needs we might not be there anymore. What can I do to make her see what is going on and that he is a jerk without hurting her feelings or anything.

-the same thing happened to me-i had a b/f-i couldnt talk to another guy with out him flipping out on me-and for a year while i was dating him-i changed too-but when i saw how bad my life was getting i finaly put it to an end-but then when i went to go back to my friends-sum of them werent there-and it took my a while to find out y that had left my side-it rlly hurt-so rlly all i can say-is you dont have to hangout with her-but every1 makes mistakes-and you have to let people learn from their own mistakes-so you need to be there for her when she needs you--

Q: I'm 14 and a female. ok theres this guy that i really like and he wrote me a note and asked me if we could date, and i said i had to get to know him better. so we "talked" for three weeks and then i hear he didnt like me anymore and it was true. So i wrote him a note saying that we should just be friends, but thats not really how i felt, what do i do?

ok well-you were rite to wait to get to kno him-but as soon as you knew how you felt you shoudl have told him-and you still should-say ifwe cant be more then friends can we atleast be friends-that will show him you care-and then maybe he will start liking you again--

Q: ok i have 2 best friends and one is a girl. she is turning 15 in 2 days and i have no idea what on earth to buy her, it was so much easier when we were 10, so can you please help me ladies? i swear i'll rate you wikkid high if it's a good suggestion! Thanks!!!!

get her a CD-her fav.-then make her a card that tells her how much you love her-then give her a 20$ in with the CD.

Q: what do you say when an 8th grader says you have a nice ass? thanks if you return this

well it depends how old you are-if your younger-you should be proud that sum1 older is seenin you-evern thou thats not how most people would want to be seen-if your older-then well just walk off-forget he said it

Q: Before I begin I want to say that I am not complaining, I absolutely love my mom and my life.

So my problem is my mom's yelling. It's almost like she feels that she cannot get anything across to my siblings and I unless she yells. Sometimes she is even too busy yelled that she doesn't realize that we have already done the things she's asked us to do. I've tried talking to her about it several times. My younger sister once told her that sometimes she doesn't listen to my mom because of her shouting at us all the time. Talking to her never works. I can understand that she is very stressed out at times and wants to come home without any trouble. But instead of asking us to do something, she'll say something like “GET OFF THE TV/COMPUTER AND CLEAN THE GAME ROOM NOW!!!” I'm even embarrassed by it at times because she does it while we have friends over also. I don't think she's simply asked us to do anything in a year.

I want to know if anyone ones anyway I can get through to her. And once again, the talking about to her does not work. I can't even talk to her about anything any more. It feels as if she just does not like having us around even though I know it's not true.

My parents are divorced so it's not like he can help. He lives in Iowa while we live in Texas.

-i have the same problem-except she doesnt yell all the time and sumtimes she can go over and hitt me-but she has stopped now-i talked to her-i told her that sumtimes it feels like she would be happier if i left-then i ask if she wants me too-cuz i could always go live with an aunt-but then she sees how bad she hurts me-your mom may think cuz she doesnt phiscally hurt you its ok-but she doesnt kno that inside you feel like she wants you gone-next time she yells-tell her that she doesnt have to yell for you to hear her-if she doesnt get it-try giving your dad a call-he can do alot more then you think--

Q: ok theres this guy i went out with and he dumped ne after three weeks, its a complicated story but basicly it just wasnt a good time for him to have a girl friend so he said we could go out again in a few months. well since then ive known three girl friends of his (that he went out with after me) and so who knows how many hes had... but the thing is im still totally in love with him but he doesnt notice me or talk to me so its not one of those things where we talk all the time and i can just start flirting with him and hope he starts to like me. what can i do to try to make him like me? please help!

-i hate to say this but you cant make sum1 like you-and most guys dont like it when you chase them-they freak out-they like to do the chaseing most of the time-so rlly just all you can do is make shure he sees you in the halls and stuff-but most of all-make shure your happy-if he sees he cant get you-he is more likley to start liking you-

Q: OKay my 2 friends and i are in a fight because it all began when they started taking drugs, smoking, and drinking! i felt uncomfortable so i left them alone and i kind of ignore them too! so anyway today my other friend tells me to come sit at the same table as them i did! well they didn't give me the time of day! last i heard one of them is smoking weed afterschool and it all started with these girls they have been hanging out with! What should i do? My other friend is determined to get us to be friends again! I 've already tried talking to the 2 of them but they won't listen! What should I do? I rate!!

youv got to stop them-yes even if that means sending a letter or talking to their parents--belive me-iv lost over 5 people to drugs and drinking-not too cool-you wanna kno wut suxs-i could have told their parents and they would have done sum10 about it-they could still be here if i would have just done sum10 so simple to send a letter-you dont even have to put your name on it-but once there gone or sum10 happens-it is way past bein to late to save them-so do it while you still can and while they are still here-belive me-you dont want to lose them

Q: I'm in eighth grade, I've never had a boyfriend, and life's confusing. I just got back from a school dance, and once again, I didn't dance with ANYBODY. I have never ever had a boyfriend or danced with anybody :( I really want to..It's not that I NEED a boyfriend, but I just want someone to dance with at the dances sometimes. No one ever asks me or anything. That's because I'm too ugly so they won't ask me (at least I think so). I am being myself, and I just hang out with my friends there. But I just think that it's weird that I've never had a boyfriend, and I'm almost in highschool. I know I don't need a boyfriend but I want one..one of the guys I like, at least. My friends are always dancing with guys at the dances and I'm just sitting there, being bored. I don't want to ask the guys to dance either, because I know they'll say 'no'. I KNOW they will, because I'm ugly. I am not popular, I'm not a geek/nerd. I'm in the middle. I don't think I'm the ugliest person in the world, but I DEFINATELY know I'm not the prettiest. I don't know how to deal with this. Please..any advice?

ok-first-you have to be happy with yourself-if your not other people can tell and dont like to be around people who think low of themselfs-and next-you dont need a guy to have fun!-oh my-if i had to have a guy to be fun-id be dead-i mean yea almost everywhere i go i have a guy with me-but thats only cuz iv tryed to become friends with them-not just b/f's-but hey-your grls are there for a reason-go dance with them-have fun-and when guys see you enjoy life and are havein fun-they find that much more attractive then you bein unhappy in a conner sum where--

Q: does anybody know how to evenly put on eyeliner on the top lid of your eye? like i do it and it isnt perfect..

umm you have to do it alot to get the hang of it--kepp trying

Q: I have a friend whose bf i like A LOT and i know i would have a chance with him but he's my best friends bf. We even danced at my school dance. But i know i can't have him b/c he belongs to my friend. What should i do?

stay away!!-do not even think about going out with him while he is with her-not cool-think about if your friend liked your b/f-yea kinda upsetting-so this is just one of thoes guys you have to let go of-sry-maybe wait till after they are done and over eachother

Q: i wanna buy for my friends.. my best friends and i have l;ike 4 of them but i also have another friend she lies alot and says shes gunna buy me some thing for xmas. but i dont wanna get her anything.. but if she gets me sompin ill feel bad.. i dont wanna ask my mom for more things tho. any help?

well-are you shure she is your friend if she lies to you-cuz last time i checked friends dont lie all the time--get her sum10-it doesnt have to be big-sum10 from the heart-and if she fails to get you sum10-she is the one who has to live with feeling bad-and anyways-y does sum1 have to give you sum10 just for you to give them sum10?-its xmas-its a time for giving!-so let her kno you care--

Q: Okay. so theres this guy that i like(d) whos a year older than me. i dont really know him but my friends have introduced me to him before and ive just seen him around school and hes really cute n funny.

well i kinda got the feeling that he might have liked me bc if i would see him walking down the hall he'd always look over at me or kinda try and find me i think-- but never came up and talked to me. well i told one of my friends i liked him so they told him and i didnt think it would go farther than that but he said he liked me too ((or he thought i was pretty)) and my friend asked if he would ever go out with me and he said he would think about it...well a couple of weeks later after a lot of aggony and i still never really did talk to him he said he wouldnt ask me out bc he didnt know me well enough [and he told my friend that] soo yeah then another one of my friends started to talk to him about a month later and he said he still liked me but he wasnt going to ask me out bc I WOULDNT GO UP AND TALK TO HIM. yeah i know i kinda started the whole thing but arent guys kinda suppose to come up and talk to the girl or is that just me?? :\ im really confused and i feel kinda stupid...please help

--ok first thing to learn--guys are not all the same--second thing to learn--they will blame everything they can on you--its not awlays ur fault--and third thing to learn-NO! guys dont have to be the one who comes up and talks to you-go up there-dont be shy-dont chase him aways but atleast let him kno you wanna be friends-start talking to him-it doesnt have to be about you liking him-just-well anything--

Q: wht do you do when you go to a school dance and your frined gets asked out but you dont. I just have a question because on the same night of the dance i see my ex-boyfriend slow dancing with this really mean girl lets call her marissa and he deserves so much better.I still have huge feeling for my ex and i just felt so depressed after that. i will rate a 5 for anyone who gives me good advice.,

"melissa" maybe mean to you and other people-but are you shure she is mean to him?-are you shure tha maybe she is good for him and you just dont want him with another grl-belive me its easy to think things like that-i do that even with my guy friends-i nvr think any grl is good enoughfor them-so maybe you should take a step back and see if he is truly happy--

Q: Ok, so i was thinking about babysitting the kids nextdor, but i've geard thast little kids are hard to take care of. is that true? i need tha cash, and cant afford anything for my friends for the holidays. I'm not really patient, but i have 2 younger siblings, but i get sick of them really easy. my brother is 8, and my sister is 2. the kids nextdoor are 7 and 9, if that helps.

ok-if you think at all that there would be a point where you wouldnt watch the kids or leave them alone just to watch tv..dont do it-tell me is it better to be broke-or have a kid dead or hurt cuz you wouldnt watch it-try and fin sum10 else-like cleaning around the house for you rents or watching your own brother and sister-if you can do so ok-maybe try the kids next door--

Q: Sorry its long!!! But ill rate you if you answer.

Over the past 11 monthes i have liked this one guy. His name is Craig. And we dated a little while a few monthes ago but some stuff happened and we broke up for no reason. So he got over me, but i never got over him. So recently we went to a party and we played football. well the entire time he kept tackleing me, but none of the other girls. And he didnt want me to leave. Then my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he never thought about it. I really want to tell him i like him to make him think about, but i dont want to A. risk our friendship, and B. get rejected. What do you think about all of this and how should i handle it?

ok-wut could be better then a friend you get to hangout with all the time and flirt with?-yea im shure you want more-like that way you kno its just you hes flirting with-i dont think you shoudl tell him rite now-just keep flirting back-but at the same time dont put youself all out there-make him chase you-guys dont like to be chased by grls most of the time--

Q: Um, is there like an actual way to play darts? Or do you just throw them really hard at the board? If there is an actual way...what is it?

duh-there is an actual way-im not sum dart nerd but if you want to kno try going to google-they mite tell you-

Q: Dear Advice People Givers:

Hey! Ok, I'm confused. See, I'm 14 & I wanna do something REALLY bad! Like see, here's the thing though.. I'm not really sure how to kiss a guy though.. I mean.. when I got my 1st kiss, it wasnt at all wat I wanted it 2 be. It was kinda one of those "in the moment" type deals. I kno I'm just 14 but is that 2 young? And is there a "wrong" way to kiss some1? Please help. I rate 5's to anybody. So you could say something like, "Sup?" and I'd still rate you, but PLEASE give advice!!

-Stephanie-

ok look-you wanna do sum10 bad?-dont go over with it-you dont kno wut the hell youll be getting yourself into-i thought the same thing-you begin to get so caught up in things then be4 you kno it ur doing things you nvr even wanted to do-