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Mom's yelling
Before I begin I want to say that I am not complaining, I absolutely love my mom and my life.
So my problem is my mom's yelling. It's almost like she feels that she cannot get anything across to my siblings and I unless she yells. Sometimes she is even too busy yelled that she doesn't realize that we have already done the things she's asked us to do. I've tried talking to her about it several times. My younger sister once told her that sometimes she doesn't listen to my mom because of her shouting at us all the time. Talking to her never works. I can understand that she is very stressed out at times and wants to come home without any trouble. But instead of asking us to do something, she'll say something like “GET OFF THE TV/COMPUTER AND CLEAN THE GAME ROOM NOW!!!” I'm even embarrassed by it at times because she does it while we have friends over also. I don't think she's simply asked us to do anything in a year.
I want to know if anyone ones anyway I can get through to her. And once again, the talking about to her does not work. I can't even talk to her about anything any more. It feels as if she just does not like having us around even though I know it's not true.
My parents are divorced so it's not like he can help. He lives in Iowa while we live in Texas.
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Okay, while I cannot exactly give you much advice on this one, I have to tell you that I am in your shoes. I mean, my father is in Iowa, we're in Texas. And yes, my mother never stops yelling. Personally, I haven't found anyway around it either. But sometimes I do yell back and sometimes it gets through. I know you said that it doesn't help to talk to her but let her know what you think. Be cool and collected though. Gather your thoughts and speak rationally. If push comes to shove go to her voice level and let her know what she sounds like.
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Well, before she starts to yell just do everything like clean all the rooms like do things for *~Her~*. My mom is the same way. *She hears but doesn't listen* I get ya* but you gotta* learn to respect her even though she does all the things she does. There is a reason for why she's doing this. There is always a reason you just can't see the reason yet. I don't know what else to tell you. But you can probably get through to her just by doing what I adviced you to do it may work it may not. If not just tell her you love her more often and just hang out with her a lil* more. :) Sorry but I have nothing else to say. Hope I helped you a lil* if not I'm sorry.
Good Luck!
Shannon
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She might just be having mood swing or something or maybe soem type of pills she is taking my mom was taking theese pills for a while and she would turn into the hulk but she stopped it could be anything I dont want to seem mean but I dont think any one can help you I'm sorry
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I am betting your mom's parents yelled just like mine. I yell too..i wish with all my heart I could cahnge it..it is hard..when all your life..your paretns yell at you...
so show her this..and your question..tell her how much I WANT to change..and how damaging this is to you.
Did you kow that yelling hurts kids self esteem..and causes them to get inot trouble..later on in life.
I am betting she has had trouble at work..just like my Dad..and jsut like me
maybe we all could count to 100 before ww yell..
It our kids..we need to CHANGE for them....
please...
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Are you sure she isn't yelling because you don't do what she asks you??? Well if you are sure, just be really supportive of her. Maybe she's stressed out about work, your dad, I dunno'...Just be there for her and try to get the chores that you know she'll ask you to do done before she gets home or before she has to ask/yell.
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if i were you i would write her a letter or something...something meaningful...tell her how you feel and that you love her but all the yelling is really buging you and that she doesnt have to yell at you all the time...tell her that if she cares about you then to try to stop yelling so much...and another way is to do something around the house that will surprize her...like whenever she goes to work let her come home to a Clean house or make dinner for her or do something nice for her...thats what i would do.
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-i have the same problem-except she doesnt yell all the time and sumtimes she can go over and hitt me-but she has stopped now-i talked to her-i told her that sumtimes it feels like she would be happier if i left-then i ask if she wants me too-cuz i could always go live with an aunt-but then she sees how bad she hurts me-your mom may think cuz she doesnt phiscally hurt you its ok-but she doesnt kno that inside you feel like she wants you gone-next time she yells-tell her that she doesnt have to yell for you to hear her-if she doesnt get it-try giving your dad a call-he can do alot more then you think--
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