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fboyfriend/family
ok i know this is stupid.But i have a boyfriend and im scared to tell my parents. They wont get mad at me or anything for having a boyfriend the thing is i just dont know how to tell them. How should i tell them??
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Just ell them "I have a boyfriend"
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Hahaha...Oh wow. I didn't tell my parents about my first two or three or maybe even four boyfriends!!! I just didn't know how to bring it up! I don't think they even knew I liked boys till' like eighth grade. What I did was have the boy call me and instead of answering right away before my 'rents even heard the first ring, I let one of them answer it. After I was done talking, they were like, "Oooooh!!! A booyfriend??" It makes it a lot easier when they ask you. Then it's almost as if THEY'RE the ones bringing it up, and you can just say, "yeah...maybe..." instead of having to bring it up.
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yeah, it would make you feel less guilty around your boyfriend. one day just randomly say to your mom,(its always easier to tell your mom than your dad) "hey can i go out tonight, i have a date?" even if you have been going out with this kid for a while, act like its a first date it will be easier to get it out. and if she says no then you could always ask him to come over one day with a group of friends to make it less obvious to your parents
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You should try to sit them down and tell them not in a "big surprise" type of way. Tell them calmly and when you say it sound confident. I hope I helped! Good luck with your family!
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Depends, how old are you? First boyfriend?
Honestly, i don't have much first hand experience, but i'd suggest talking to your mom about it first. Or your dad. Whichever you're more confortable with. Chances are, they'll tell the other one. After you're dating for a while, invite him over to hang out or something. Have your parents meet him, and things should go smoothly.
Good luck!
Panda
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Awww it's ok if you're embarrassed....bring it up during dinner or something!! That'll be good!!!
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your probably just embarrsed... when i was in elementry school... i was 2 embarrsed to tell my parents about my first love... scott... LoL... just tell them casually.. be like hey mom some kid asked me out and now hes my boyfriend... she'll prolly have questions... so TaLk 2 her! good luck! but i know what u mean... its uncomfortable talking 2 parents about that! haha
xOxO, aLeX
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well just sit them down and say mom dad i have a boyfriend and i was wondering if i could ask you for your permission so i could go out with him then say your boyfriends name it is better if you ask for permission from your parents then if they find out another way and most parents get mad if you don't tell them what is going on then say to them it is ok if you say that i can't go out with him i will understand you have your reasons and i have to obey them. hope i helped :)
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u shud tell them because ugh idk jus tell them lol *hope i helped* love alwaiz, aLi
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so why are you scared..if they will nto get mad..then this has to do wiht YOU.
Mom, dad, I have met someone who is really special. We been dating and I want him to meet you.
Now..you need to take him to meet them..for until they do..beleive me they will be thinking things..that are not true.
So..why have you not told them??
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just tell them you started going out with this guy and giv his name and what he is like.
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well tell them, dont deny anything or lie, because it all catches up with u
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Okay well since you are nervous about it how don't you do it slowly. I mean don't go... "school was fun... I have a boyfriend... and maths is..." Bring it up slowly. First maybe when they something about your friends just go there is a guy you like. Talk about him a bit over time. Then they will probabley just assume he is your boyfriend. Parents usually do, just like sisters. The direct approach usually isn't good if you are afraid how they will react or the questions it might bring up but you have to tell them and best to do it slowly so make them suspect it before you tell them so that way they don't seem so surprised about it. Don't worry not many parents would kill their kids boyfriends... well some parents I know.. but well they would rather know then not know- good luck with it
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i would just say, "hey mom, dad. i have some great news to tell you! i have a very special friend, and we are going out! hes nice, sweet, funny, amazing...(yada yada about the dude). i want you to meet him and see how great...(another rendition of what you said above) he is! is that cool?!" just be straightforward and polite about it. you dont want to seem bossy or pushy, just like their daughter who has a boyfriend and wants to share it with her parents. hope it helps, i havent ever had this problem, so i dont know for sure. i am a Christian, so that changes it up a little too. be polite and mature about it, your parents will appreaciate you including them in your life.
- FunnyCide
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I know exactly how you feel. No one wants to talk about things like that with their parents. And the worst is when they start asking questions! So, I know this is going to sound really dumb, but the next time you're going somewhere with your boyfriend or talking about something semi-related to him, just slip him in as though they already knew.
"So, I was at the mall with my boyfriend, So-and-so, and I saw this shirt and knew I had to get it," etc. etc. It'll probably make them double take, but it's less awkward than sitting down and having a "talk."
"Mom? Dad? There's something you should know about me..." Gimme a break!
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Well, it's kind of common and natural for teens to open up and tell their parents they are in a relationsip. It can be a scary thing if you let it become that. I think for sure you should tell your parents about you and your boyfriends relationship. I know it may be hard, but it's the right thing to do. If you do not ell them, they will think he's bad, or he has a bad influence on you and the two of you are engaging in bad things. If you are open and upfront and honest with them they'll see you are maturing, and responsible, thus they will trust you more. I think a good way to let your parents know is to just civily and calmly tell them and ask if you can invite him over to dinner one night so that they can get to know him better. I think they would like this, that way they can see you aren't hiding anything. Honesty is the way to go! You can do it. :)
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