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For the past while i have been cutting myself. At first it was just scratches and then i started cutting deeper and deeper. I am really scared and I don't want to talk to my parents, they have enough to worry about, so is there anyway i can break the habit and just stop...and please don't answer if you are just going to poke fun at me and mock me. I don't need that. Only post if you can help me.
First of all, you do need to tell someone, and I don't just mean a bunch of faceless people on the Internet. I have known a couple of people that have resorted to this route of dealing with life's pains and stresses. You really just need to find some other outlet for yourself. It's best, however, not to try to get through this alone. You should get some sort of professional help and don't keep this from the ones you love. It is not an added worry for them, I'm sure. This type of thing is not about attention and it's not about suicide, I know. So, the only thing they have to worry about is helping you and being a family. What else is family for than to be there for one another in times of need?
To try make a long story short, (I doubt that'll happen) I wanted to put one of my teachers on the show "What not to Wear", and another teacher & her sister (great people, I know the teacher well, and I've heard a lot about her sister) on either "A Makeover Story". or a show on lifetime, "Head 2 Toe". One of the teachers has terrible taste in fashion, and the other teacher heard what we wanted to do for the first one and told us about how her, her friend, and her sister have always tried to get on "A Makeover Story" and/or "Head 2 Toe". Well I was wondering, do any of those shows travel? We live in North Carolina, pretty close to Charlotte. So I was wondering what are some requirements, and where can I sign them up if it's possible, and are there any websites with information? Please help!!! Sorry it's long, I just wanted to put in some detail.
Makeover Story and What Not to Wear are both on TLC.
What would you call it if you had yourcloths off and kind of had sex but the thing didnt go in the other thing but there was like the actioms lb it like sex. See that hapenend to me. I was at my house taking a bath and the front door was unloked and my boy friend walked in and walkied in the bathroom and he kindof pulled me out of the bath tub and took me to the bed room, I really didnt care and then he did thatstuff to me. See I am 14 and I was left home and He is 17 and now I keep on asking him if he once to have sex and he says no.. He says he doesnt want to hurt me well it hurts me when he says no. like he sayd if we get married whats the chances after what we did in my bedroom it was kindof like sex right
In response to your question, and the advice you were given... what you did was normal. But why do you want to have sex? You're only fourteen. You have the rest of your life to be sexually active. Hold on to your childhood. Your boyfriend may have overstepped some boundaries by trying to be romantic, but he is correct in telling you he does not want to have sex. You're not in love and sex will do a lot more damage to you physically and emotionally than you are clearly ready for.
do you think it'll be hard to babysit 2 kids(grl-3)(the boy-6)on the first time ever havin to babysit?
This question is rather vague. How old are you? How well do you know the kids? How behaved are the kids? How do the kids behave around their parents?
It could go one of two ways: good or bad. Obviously.
Now that I've given you my forecast, perhaps you'd like a few tips.
Come with lots of activities in mind. Kids can't misbehave if they are busy.
Find out some things that the kids like - favorite movies, tv shows, video games, characters, etc. Then maybe bring a gift for each of them. That'd start you off on the right foot and prevent you from being the evil babysitter.
Don't be afraid to say no. It may mean some fighting and yelling (definitely NO hitting) but kids that age are rather manipulative. You wouldn't think so because they're so young, but that gives them the edge. Without their parents home, they'll try to eat more junk food and stay up later. What might help with this is getting a list of rules from the parents. Then when the kids say "Mom lets me..." you can say, for sure, that she does not.
Finally, have fun with them. You're not their parent and that gives you the opportunity to be their favorite person in the world.
I have an older sister who's absolutely gorgeous . and even though she's quite horrible to me , she always acts nice in front of everyone else . especially guys . recently , i realised that i liked this guy friend of mine , A LOT . more than friends . even though i'm quite cute and stuff , my sister always gets WAY more attention than me . especially with this guy . it hurts me when i see them sitting together , talking , my sister in her seductive voice , and him smiling .it hurts a LOT . WHAT SHOULD I DO ?
Well, the last thing you want to do is tell this guy how awful your sister is. That would be a bad idea. It'd just come off catty.
You should tell your sister that you like this guy. If you sincerely talk to her, I don't think she is going to care about him. From what it sounds, your sister could have any guy she wants. So, she really doesn't need the guy you like.
Does this boy know you like him? It might be a good idea to tell him your feelings, too.
Finally, this kind of sibling rivalry happens. Usually you grow out of it. And if all goes as planned (mwahahaha), she'll get fat and you'll get married.
ok, i'm about to make some prayer bracelets for myself, but i have no clue what to pray on. any ideas???
Pray for some depth because you're kind of a flake.
Ok like i am 14 and i am a guy and i have had a crush on this one guy since 7th grade nd now i am really haveing serious feelings for him,he's in my grade also, and he gives me these weird signals. I really like this guy and wanna have a relationship with him.
Please Help
You're too young to know what serious feelings are and you're not allowed to have a relationship before I get to.
Try to control your hormones and see if this boy feels the same way. If so, you can move to San Francisco and have your moms drive you to the mall where you can walk through abercrombie kids holding hands. If he doesn't feel the same way, it's going to hurt. But the good news is, you'll get over it. Chances are, next week you won't even remember his name. That is, if you're anything like the average gay man.
I broke up with my boyfriend Saturday. I thought I only liked him as a friend, but now that I am without him, I realise I really miss him and like him. I think since we barely hang out, I started liking him less. He cried when we broke up. I hope he doesn't hate me. I am going to talk to him tomorrow if I see him before he goes to practice. I want to go back out with him. I was PMSing, so I guess that screwed up with my emotions. What should I say to him to clear this all up and so we can get back together? I'm really bad at doing this, but I want this to work out. Help..can you give me an example on what to say?
All right, listen. Despite what you may think, you do not like him. If you did like him, you wouldn't have let your PMS break up with him and make him cry. Honestly, let the poor boy move on.
What I think happened is that you didn't like him, broke up with him, and realized you were alone. Being alone is not such a bad thing. Before you go running back to this boy whom you'll clearly only make cry a couple more times before you learn your lesson, maybe you should think things through and realize that, in the long run, trying to get back together will just hurt him. And you're wasting time when you could be finding a guy you really do like.
For our next dance at my school, me and my friend decided it was getting seriously old to wear dresses. So we are going to were high heels, jeans, and a hopfully very pretty "blouse" i guess. Where would i find one thats appropriate for a dance.. 14/f
Do you think women stop wearing dresses after a certain age? They don't. In any case... head to the mall and buy something shiny. Perhaps something that shows a little cleavage. That is, in fact, if you have cleavage at this age.
I just found out that my dad has lung cancer and things are not looking good. he lives 2 hours away and I am 24 with a family of my own but I was just wondering: What are some positive, inspirational, and supportive things I can say to get him through this time no matter what the outcome...how can I help him through this? I have so much passion and emotion inside and I know what to say in my head, but I am so bad at expressing how I feel in the moment. This is the one time in my life where it's extremely important to say and do things right, but I still seem to only cry when I'm alone or think of good things to say only AFTER a situation. I feel I'm not being what I want to be for him to my full potential. Thank you to anyone who can help!!
Well, I've never had a terminal illness, but I wouldn't imagine your dad wants a lot of focus on telling him all the emotions you've held in all these years.
But let's say that he is looking for comfort. You said that you know what to say in your head... well, channel that passion. When you're thinking of it, alone, write it down. Then practice reading it aloud. Practice reading it in the mirror. It might seem silly but the more you practice, the more natural it'll feel.
Then, once you've said all your positive and supportive words of inspiration, just be with him. Enjoy the time he still has left instead of thinking about after he's gone. I am sure he wants nothing more than to spend his last couple of years watching his grandchildren get older (you said you had a family, right?) and being proud of his son.
hey so i'm a freshman in college, and there's this guy here that i kinda like. but it's kinda complicated. i met him like the first day of school-he lives 2 floors above me. we went to a frat party with a bunch of people, and we hooked up. i haven't really talked to him ever since, and i feel bad about losing contact with him, as he was a really good friend. i would go up to his room just to chat (as i used to), but i feel that at this point it would be really random and awkward, because i haven't talked to him in like 2 months, and his roommate kind of creeps me out. he always seems like he's stoned, and we never have good conversations, which makes it even more awkward for me to go up there. any advice on how i could regain contact with him, without it seeming really weird and awkward? if you tell me to go up to his room, what should i say? i know this sounds immature and stuff, but this stuff never gets easier as you get older. sorry this is long, but any advice would be greatly appreciated-specially if i can fix it before winter break, which is in 2 weeks. thanks a lot!!!
If you hooked up, I think that the only thing it can be is weird and/or awkward. That's just something you'll have to get passed if you do, in fact, want to keep his friendship.
I don't see the problem with going up to his room and chatting, aside from the whole creepy roommate thing. You said it would be random and awkward? Well, if you haven't talked to him in awhile, any communication short of manipulating him into making the first contact, will be random. And as for awkward, like I said, you just grin and bear it through the awkward and it'll get better.
Perhaps instead of asking for advice online, you could be writing him a letter telling him how you have been thinking how empty your life has been these days without him. Don't say that, though... that's coming on a little too strong.
ok i know this is stupid.But i have a boyfriend and im scared to tell my parents. They wont get mad at me or anything for having a boyfriend the thing is i just dont know how to tell them. How should i tell them??
I know exactly how you feel. No one wants to talk about things like that with their parents. And the worst is when they start asking questions! So, I know this is going to sound really dumb, but the next time you're going somewhere with your boyfriend or talking about something semi-related to him, just slip him in as though they already knew.
"So, I was at the mall with my boyfriend, So-and-so, and I saw this shirt and knew I had to get it," etc. etc. It'll probably make them double take, but it's less awkward than sitting down and having a "talk."
"Mom? Dad? There's something you should know about me..." Gimme a break!
Alright, my & my really good friend both work at the same place. We also dated 2 guys from work as well. She is now saying that me & her ex-boyfriend flirt alot at work these days although they've been broken up for 2 months now. She says that I get upset when she talks to my ex but that was only when we were actually "dating" but now that we're broken up, I don't see anything wrong with them two talking or whatever. I'm not looking for a relationship or anything more than friends with her ex but yet she is mad about me flirting with him. What am I supposed to do?
First of all, stop flirting with her ex. You're not fooling anyone. Of course she's being a little melodramatic, but I've known plenty of girls to get that look of faux innocence and say "what? that's not flirting..." Do you know how many men there are in the world? Enough for you to find someone else. Then, once you stop flirting with your friend's ex, you'll realize that she is just hurt. Whether or not she still has feelings for him, there's still that feeling of: maybe he likes you better than her... The important question is, whom do you like better? As the expression goes: "chicks before..." well, you know. Whether or not her feelings are valid, they are her feelings and you, as her friend, should respect them. I'm sure that once she realizes how immature she's being, she'll ease up a little.