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health issues
I just found out that my dad has lung cancer and things are not looking good. he lives 2 hours away and I am 24 with a family of my own but I was just wondering: What are some positive, inspirational, and supportive things I can say to get him through this time no matter what the outcome...how can I help him through this? I have so much passion and emotion inside and I know what to say in my head, but I am so bad at expressing how I feel in the moment. This is the one time in my life where it's extremely important to say and do things right, but I still seem to only cry when I'm alone or think of good things to say only AFTER a situation. I feel I'm not being what I want to be for him to my full potential. Thank you to anyone who can help!!
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First off, I'd like to say that I'm soo sorry to hear that. Right now there's no right words to say, YOU alone, and not your words will be his only inspiration at this time. His family is all that's probably going to be keeping him going at this point and time. Enjoy doing hobbies with him, enjoy his company. By doing that you'll be making his time on this Earth all worth while, and a very happy man. If you keep him happy, and in high spirits, I beleive it will make all the diffrence in his road to recovery, no matter how far that recovery will go. Think positive at all times, and try not to acknowledge that he really might be dying. That seems like the wrong advice in times like this, of course acknowledge it, but don't let it keep you from doing things with him that he'd want to do. By making him feel llike he's still the same man, it'll help keep him going. He's now at a point in his life, where the main thing he probably wants to do is spend time with the ones he loves. That's the best thing to do in this time. And if the subject of his cancer does come up, keep nothing but positive things about it. Show him how much he means to you, and it'll make all the difference. I really do hope good things turn out for you in this situations, your dad will be in my prayers.
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Well to start out. I Am so sorry for your dad. I hope he makes it through. I have some good ideas but i don't know how bad he is. If he isn't too bad find out. This is a emotional subject for me too. My Aunt had Cancer and we gettin bad. I found out one thing she really wanted to do and did it with her. She wanted to go to the ocean and i took her there and she was so happy. So my sugjestion is find out what he really wants to do that you can take him to do and do it. it will make his eyes light up.
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Are you religious? If so you need to tell him to put his faith in Jesus or whoever and tell him everything happens for a reason. Tell him to live life to the fullet, and try to spend time together. A lot of time. I'm sorry about your father.
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This is tough..I just found out my father has cner too..and we were not even speaking.
So i wrote him a note and e-mail him.
As you are closer..call him..call him every so often(once to twice a week) Send him pictures..or even a book that he might like or music.
Just be avaialbe to him emotionally.
You cannot cure him..but you can just BE with him...
Phone calls and e-mail are something that can be done and brigthen anyone's day. If you have kids..sent him the pcitures...make hin know that HE is a PART of your life.
Am thinking of you.
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Well, I've never had a terminal illness, but I wouldn't imagine your dad wants a lot of focus on telling him all the emotions you've held in all these years.
But let's say that he is looking for comfort. You said that you know what to say in your head... well, channel that passion. When you're thinking of it, alone, write it down. Then practice reading it aloud. Practice reading it in the mirror. It might seem silly but the more you practice, the more natural it'll feel.
Then, once you've said all your positive and supportive words of inspiration, just be with him. Enjoy the time he still has left instead of thinking about after he's gone. I am sure he wants nothing more than to spend his last couple of years watching his grandchildren get older (you said you had a family, right?) and being proud of his son.
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we can give you sweet, sentamential quotes if you like, but i think that it would be awesome if you sat down and wrote him a letter telling him how you feel. dont worry, i have problems expressing myself verbally - but i am able to easily (well, generally) express myself on writing. i think its seeing it on paper and being able to revise it and get it exactly right before the person that gets it actually reads it. that way i dont screw up and say something that i will regret later (this is a general statement, you can screw up writing too, its just harder if you read it several times and know for sure thats what you want it to say) hand written letters are a lot more personal than typed letters, but if you have less than beautiful handwriting, i would suggest a nice font and a good printer to do the job for you. if you cant (or dont feel like that will be a good option) you can call or make a personal visit; and have "rehersed" what you were going to say in general. things like "you will always be with me in my heart" are great, but almost over used. this must be really hard, with a family of your own and all. even if you didnt, it is still a hard situation. i hope your father gets better, and i hope my advice helps. ill be praying for you! oh, pray for your father to get well, the power of prayer is the only real miracle worker.
-FunnyCide
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