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I hurt him. Dumped him, want him back.

Question Posted Sunday December 5 2004, 9:59 pm

I broke up with my boyfriend Saturday. I thought I only liked him as a friend, but now that I am without him, I realise I really miss him and like him. I think since we barely hang out, I started liking him less. He cried when we broke up. I hope he doesn't hate me. I am going to talk to him tomorrow if I see him before he goes to practice. I want to go back out with him. I was PMSing, so I guess that screwed up with my emotions. What should I say to him to clear this all up and so we can get back together? I'm really bad at doing this, but I want this to work out. Help..can you give me an example on what to say?

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SweetThoughtz answered Monday December 6 2004, 9:29 pm:
hey babe, aww that sucks. i think you should talk to him about it and tell him your really sorry about the whole thing and ask him if he wants to start over. Also tell him how you feel inside..u really miss him.. i hope you get back with him, xoxo!

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vickidee123 answered Monday December 6 2004, 7:26 pm:
just tell him how you really feel, explain that you've had mixed emotions and you got confussed. he might not be ready to go back out with you again, but hopefully you two will have a better friendship, that could turn into another relationship. explain to him that you relaly care about him and you want to be with him again.

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angelbabi91 answered Monday December 6 2004, 5:30 pm:
the same thing has happend to me before and it sux like no other! all you can do is tell him the truth; that you still like him and that you made the biggest mistake ever. hopefully, since he cried when you broke things off, it means that he really cared/cares about you, and thats always a good sign because for most people its pretty hard to hate someone completly in that short amount of time. if it doesnt work out then his loss! time will heal your heart, it has mine!
hope it helps!

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addgurl answered Monday December 6 2004, 5:14 pm:
look my best friend is in the same place she never sees her b/f ether and worst is that shes noy=t even aloud to have one shes haveing the some thing what you should do is talk to him before its too late he might get a new g or some thing but if you do get back tog. try to have a well rel. like takling when someone is doing somethig the other dont like.

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Pain_Is_Love_101004 answered Monday December 6 2004, 12:07 pm:
Okay! You should tell him that you just needed some time to think about things, but tell him that you do really like him and you miss him and still have feelings for him. Make sure that you make it clear to him that you never wanted to hurt him or break it completly off with him. I have been in simialar situations like this where you break up with the guy and then want him back. Most of the time it works out but sometimes it does not. It sounds like he really cares about you and he doesnt want to break up, so it will proably work out. I wish the best of luck for you and him and I hope things work out! Good Luck!

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alisonmarie answered Monday December 6 2004, 7:47 am:
Before you say anything to him, I'd really analyze your emotions. Whatever made you break up with him (and PMS doesn't make you do things you don't want to do) will still be there.

Often after a break-up (even good, healthy break-ups that we WANTED), emotions will go crazy. Even if you dumped him, chances are you are feeling vulnerable, lonely, and remembering only the good times. So think carefully before you get back with him - it's only fair to yourself AND to him to make sure of what you want.

You'll also want to think about why you broke up. If it was because you weren't spending enough time together, are you sure you'll be able to see each other more often if you date again?

If you've searched your heart AND mind and decide you do want him back, then be honest. Say that you think you made a mistake, but that the lack of time spent together made you question the relationship. Say you still like him, but only want to be involved if you can both make your relationship a priority.

Good luck.

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Harold answered Monday December 6 2004, 12:43 am:
All right, listen. Despite what you may think, you do not like him. If you did like him, you wouldn't have let your PMS break up with him and make him cry. Honestly, let the poor boy move on.

What I think happened is that you didn't like him, broke up with him, and realized you were alone. Being alone is not such a bad thing. Before you go running back to this boy whom you'll clearly only make cry a couple more times before you learn your lesson, maybe you should think things through and realize that, in the long run, trying to get back together will just hurt him. And you're wasting time when you could be finding a guy you really do like.

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AskSpanky answered Sunday December 5 2004, 10:31 pm:
You shouldn't blame the PMS, that is a really bad excuse, and I'm sure it will sound bad when you go up to him and say,

"Sorry that I broke up with you, I was PMSing, I didn't mean it!"

Seriously, are you sure you are just missing him because you are used to him being around, or do you miss him out of pity because you know he cried?

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NotoriousBaby06 answered Sunday December 5 2004, 10:25 pm:
Just tell him the truth and try to be genuine about it.. Tell him that you messed up and you want him back and how much you miss him. You need to tell him how you feel or all your emotions are goin to get screwed up more. If he liked youe enough that he cryed when you broke up then he must really like you so i dont think you will have any problem gettin him back.. let me know how things turn out Good Luck!

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rhsdancer1288 answered Sunday December 5 2004, 10:17 pm:
Just tell him the truth, you need to tell him that you thought you only liked him as a friend but when it ended you realized that you did like him more than a friend, tell him that you made a mistake and that you want to get back together, and tell him that you were PMSing, dont be embarssed to tell him that. He should understand.

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aNgeLxfOrEvEr answered Sunday December 5 2004, 10:14 pm:
Aww..Well you have to see if he still likes you first. Then you could just talk to him, and explain to him exactly what you said to me. I'm sure he'll understand. Don't leave ANYTHING out when you tell him, include everything. Good luck, hope everything works out =)

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Miss_Megan answered Sunday December 5 2004, 10:14 pm:
Ever hear the saying "You don't know what you've got till its gone" well it's so true. Just walk up to him in school or whereever and tell him EXACTLY how you feel and you think that maybe your period messed up your emotions and hopefully he'll understand. Good Luck.

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