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I need help!
I'm a 14 year old girl and i have a guy problem. ok I have been liking this guy for a little over a year now, and he likes me too but we havent dated. he said he is scared he is going to hurt me again but not on purpose, and I dont deserve that, I deserve better. but he said he really likes me a lot, but idk why he cant just ask me to date him. WE'll never know unless we try, can you help?!
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Well you are gunna get hurt alot in your life and same goes for everybody but u can make things work!
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well it sounds like you have the right idea, but then again, so does he! your right that yall will never know unless you try, but he just obviously likes you so much that he doesnt want to hurt him. well, here's my advice. as girls, we get the impression that the guy ALWAYS has to do the actual asking out, but you know it doesnt have to be that way! just one day when yall are talking be like come on, i know you wanna give us a chance so just come on! i dont know if i can wait any longer, because i really really like you, and i want to see where things will take us. its the best way to be honest with him, and hopefully give yall a head start with your relashonship!
hope it helps!
~Haley~
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Well he said he doesnt want to hurt you again.How has he hurt you before? Is it worth to lose a possible freinship with him? These are questions you have to ask yourself. If its ment to be it'll happen eventually dont worry. Keep your options open and stay close to him and let him know youre always there for him so yous will be close so if you dont date your not left with nothing Youll have a strong frienship
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Okay when he gives you stupid answers like that just ignore them, better yet turn them back on him. For instance if he says- "but I'll hurt you" go "but you're hurting me now by not going out with me". You can always turn it back on them- I don't know why but my boyfriend has just stopped doing that now.
Also you make the first move, don't let him say no- he obviously likes you so why don't you just lean over and give him a little kiss- or just a hug that goes on for too long. Something physical or not even that you could just talk to him a lot open up and tell him more stuff.
He won't ask you- he's annoying but you start it, then it will go along just fine he will get the message and will stop trying to fight you- hopefully anyway- I mean it couldn't hurt could it. Good Luck
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It sounds like he has some trouble keeping a girlfriend and he probably really does not want to hurt you. But if you are willing to take the risk of getting hurt then you need to tell him that you are prepared to get hurt and if it happens so be it that would be your fault right? Just tell him how you feel, what could go wrong? If you run into problems along they way tell him you still want to be really good friends. :) Hope I helped
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Maybe he's scared to have a girlfriend right now. Have you tried talking to him about it? If not then try to and see if you's can hang out or soemthing afterwards to make it seem like a date or something. But I think he's probably wither scared to have a girlfriend right now or he just doesn't want one at the moment. But talk to him and find out!!
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