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rules of flirting...
Alright, my & my really good friend both work at the same place. We also dated 2 guys from work as well. She is now saying that me & her ex-boyfriend flirt alot at work these days although they've been broken up for 2 months now. She says that I get upset when she talks to my ex but that was only when we were actually "dating" but now that we're broken up, I don't see anything wrong with them two talking or whatever. I'm not looking for a relationship or anything more than friends with her ex but yet she is mad about me flirting with him. What am I supposed to do?
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Tell her that it is perfectly alright for her to flirt with your ex, and she should be able to accept that her relationship with her ex is over, and you should be able to do the same with him.
Panda
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First of all, stop flirting with her ex. You're not fooling anyone. Of course she's being a little melodramatic, but I've known plenty of girls to get that look of faux innocence and say "what? that's not flirting..." Do you know how many men there are in the world? Enough for you to find someone else. Then, once you stop flirting with your friend's ex, you'll realize that she is just hurt. Whether or not she still has feelings for him, there's still that feeling of: maybe he likes you better than her... The important question is, whom do you like better? As the expression goes: "chicks before..." well, you know. Whether or not her feelings are valid, they are her feelings and you, as her friend, should respect them. I'm sure that once she realizes how immature she's being, she'll ease up a little.
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explain that you dont want to hook up with him, only be friends and talk. apologise for making her upset with you and angry, and ask her to explain why she doesnt want you to talk to her ex. it may be jealousy, underling feelings for him still, home problems, relationship problems, regret, denial....just about anything. you will just have to ask her to explain. be gentle about it though. she may not want you to get hurt, but my best guess is that she doesnt want her ex and you going out and her not have a date/doesnt want a guy to come between your friendship. another likely one is that she is jealous - even if she doesnt like him anymore. (this is possible - she doesnt want him, she just doesnt want you to have him) or she may still like him deep down. just ask her, it may take some prying. hope it all goes well!
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