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alright well my sister is sleeping over my grandmas tonight. except she is too scared to sleep in a bedroom alone and the only person she trusts to sleep with her is me. but, i`ve already made plans to sleep over my best friends house and i can't cancel my plans. now my sister is crying because she wants me to sleep over my grandmas with her, but seriously this is vacation and the last thing i want to do is spend a night with my grandma while forced to sleep in the same bed as my 8 year old pain in the ass sister. and i can't cancel my plans. but my mom (as always) is taking my sisters side and saying i have to make her happy. but i always have to give in to my sister. it can never be a compromise! NEVER its her way or the high way. if i say no to her, she'll either cry until the cows come home or hit me in the head with a shoe. what can i do so that i don't have to sleepover my grandmas and can sleep over my friends instead? i rate 5's (link)
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I vote for you to go to your friends house.
Your sister is acting this way because it gets her what she wants. She needs to act her age.
Tell your mom she isn't helping by making you stay with your sister. :)
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Hey, I’m 15, a girl. My best friend, a guy, pulled a disappearing act from my life eight months ago after we fooled around a tiny bit. As in, he wouldn't talk to me, acknowledge my existence, or even give an explanation why. Of course, it may help that we were caught messing around by his mother.
Anyway, he recently recontacted me. It was the first time I’ve ever cried from being happy. That’s how much it meant to me. I mean, after 9 months of not acknowledging my existence... he was my best friend. It was like, whoa
But due to how he's acting, I’m feeling like a booty call. And I know that if the situation were to actually materialize, I wouldn’t be able to muster up the emotional distance necessary to be a fuck buddy with him. He means too much to me. At the same time, I’m very attracted to him still, physically. And I wouldn't mind playing around a bit, as long as he can guarantee he won't pull his disappearing act again as soon as he gets a blowjob or whatever.
Now, if I were to flatter myself, I would venture to guess that back in July, when we first messed around, he got the feelings of friends and more-than-friends confused, and stopped communication because of it. He said in the email that he couldn't tell me the reasons and that they were pretty much beyond my control, but he thinks he's “over it now”. :o
Would it be stupid to engage in anything with him again? This sounds kinda sad, but I’m almost willing to do it just to be able to hang out with him again. I don't need him physically. I have fuck buddies, but it's not what I want from him. Would this work to get a friendship back? Maybe a bit more intimate, but whatever.
But, I’m getting irritated. In the halls at school, he'll meet my eyes and nod, but never a hug. Barely a word. Then he calls me late every night to talk about what we're going to do... you know. Somehow, my whole 'let's just be friends for now' thing has completely disappeared, and virtually all we talk about is, you know... sex. I mean, he's done next to nothing since, and he's horny as fuck. He spent like, half an hour last night trying to convince me to let him take off my pants. And it's just bizarre to talk and talk and talk about it without getting anywhere. And I’m not sure I want to do this so fast! After all, it's only been a couple weeks. He’s my FRIEND, above all. I REALLY don't want him to do his disappearing act for another 8 months again after he gets whatever it is he wants.
So basically we’re discussing nothing of substance but what he wants and plans. And it's weird. When I send him random messages talking about my day and stuff, he doesn't respond. Sigh.
Man, I swear, if he just wants some ass, I’ma get upset, because I can't muster up the emotional distance necessary for that. Because he means more to me than just a quick lay.
Gah.
Wow, this is really long. And has zero organization. I’m super sorry. =/
But what do you think? Is it worth doing to get my best friend back? Or should I just tell him that his behavior is inexcusable, and forget about it? I don’t bloody know… (link)
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If I were to venture a guess, I'd say his mom , after having caught you together may have put the brakes on for him.
She may be past it now or forgot who you were...whatever the reason, he must feel safe in thinking he can be with you again.
I don't approve of the whole friends with benefits thing myself. I think if you care that much for someone then that kind of casual relationship only leads to heartbreak...especially for the girl.
So, If he wants a boyfriend/ girlfriend relationship once again and you want to try that...go for it. If he just wants someone to use
when he's horny...tell him to forget it. :)
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Okay well i was talking to this guy i like yesterday,and well he knows i like him and he likes me too.So we were talking online yesterday and i asked him how his easter was and he said it was fun and he asked me how mine was and i told him,then he said one of my uncles g/f was playing with her kids and she wore tight pants and her underwear was hanging out and her boobs were flying around.And all i could say was lol uhmm o? and then he says hahaha i know but i still love you.I hate it when guys do that and talk about other girls when they know you like them and stuff i mean,its not like hes the first guy ive liked whos talked about another girl in fornt of me but still.My question is,is it okay for a guy to talk about other girls while the guy knows you like him and he says he likes you? And if it isnt why do guys do it anyway?
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I think it shows he is comfortable talking to you!
All the guys I have known do this. He might be trying to make you a little jealous...don't know for sure. Most of them seem to do it though, so I wouldn't let it bother you to much.
If he were hiding all his feelings...now that would be worrisome! :)
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can i be pregnant if i had sex one day after my period ended?
i'm age is 18 and i'ma female (link)
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Yes. You can get pregnant at any time.
There are times when you are more likely to get pregnant than other times, but it is never safe to rely on those dates.
Don't worry about it unless you miss your next period. Stress can cause some girls to skip. :)
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Recently on some webpages this has been popping up: "Click to run ActiveX Control". One time I clicked "OK" and nothing happened, the box just closed. What does this mean? I always X out the box but it's really getting to me.
is there a way to get rid of it?
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You don't have to rate me on this one. I really don't know what the problem is. :(
I asked a question about this last week and got no responses to it. I have been having this problem too. Usually on pages with graphics on them. The strange thing is it isn't ALL of them.
Enough to be real annoying though.
Are you getting the "send error" box? Then when you click it (anywhere) it just closes the site?
I'll bet its the same and it IS annoying!!
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Mine start that way too. But then I get that send error box. If it isn't the same I bet it is
related someway. I hope you get an answer. :)
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okay so if someone is pregnant can they have sex? like during the first few months?
or do they have to wait till after they have there baby and the doctor gives them an a-okay?? (link)
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A woman can have sex as long as it is comfortable for her to do so. Some have it clear up until delivery.
There are exceptions as ncblondie told you. If there are problems the doctor will tell her. If she had any questions about it at all though, she would need to talk to her doctor. They are happy to answer all questions.
Almost all doctors will discuss this kind of thing when the woman has her first visit. :)
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14/f I like this guy dylan and he told me he likes me. I went out with him last year and broke up with him because he wasnt a great boyfriend. He was too clingy and he wasnt allowed to use the phone and stuff so I couldnt talk to him that much out of school. Now he can talk on the phone and stuff but I dont know how hes going to be. Also, all my friends think hes too much of a best friend to be a boyfriend. He is going to ask me out when he comes over. I dont know if i should say yes or no. Dylan is like my best friend and I want him as my boyfriend but i dont know what I should do? (link)
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You said it yourself. "I want him as a boyfriend".
I think if you believe he has gotten over being clingy, and you need to talk about that problem when he asks you, that you should go ahead and try it again.
Be sure you let him know right from the beginning
that if he asks clingy you aren't going to put up with it. :)
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My boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago because he said that he didn't have time anymore for a relationship. We had been together for over a year and now he's just quitting on me. He said that he just got a job and he'll be working all summer and stuff. The truth is that we met online, and we've actually made it work for this long. I don't know when we'll meet, but he's everything I really wanted in a guy. I've been endlessly crying every night and unable to sit still when I think about the fact that it's over. I'm still really in love with him and I want him back. I do have a job too now and everything, but I'm homeschooled, so I'll have more time on my hands.
So my question is should I ask him back out, or would it just be being desperate and bugging him?
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In all honesty even someone who works has time off. Nobody works 24/7.
For some reason he is wanting to break up and is just making an excuse. My guess is he has found a girl closer to home.
Young people need to go out and do things with their peers. Unfortunately, long distance relationships will usually take a back seat to things happening near them.
I know that's really hard to understand at the moment because you are hurting. But, you need to get out among your own friends and find someone close to home too. :)
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ok i am so freeking out how do you deal with someone who like really hates your advice because they think you said one thing but you really said somthing totaly different and now you feel really bad please help me i will rate high (link)
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Don't freak out about it. Not everyone will like your advice. It goes with the territory!
I don't know what exactly you wrote because you must have deleted it when you added an edit.
The only advice I can give you for the future is not to answer those kinds of questions. If you don't have experience on a topic its best you just skip on by the question.
It is good to have strong religious and moral beliefs. I'm all for that. However, not everyone feels the same. If you feel you have to say something you will probably hear from them about it. You are free to tell them your opinion and they are also entitled to tell you they didn't like it!
She wasn't rude about it. Look at her feedback as being useful information for the future and forget about it.
If someone should give you feedback that is just nasty. Swearing and calling you names,,,file an abuse report for that. But don't waste time feeling bad about your advice.
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okay so there is a book called The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein. its a really short book and i was wonder if someone can give me a website or write down the story for me (its really short and i cant find it at home). all i know is that it starts with
There once was a tree and she loved a little boy.
ill rate high to anyone who replies. (link)
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LOVE Shel Silverstien :)
THE GIVING TREE
Once there was a giving tree who loved a little boy.
And everyday the boy would come to play
Swinging from the branches, sleeping in the shade
Laughing all the summer’s hours away.
And so they love,
Oh, the tree was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.
But soon the boy grew older and one day he came and said,
"Can you give me some money, tree, to buy something I’ve found?"
"I have no money," said the tree, "Just apples, twigs and leaves."
"But you can take my apples, boy, and sell them in the town."
And so he did and
Oh, the tree was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.
But soon again the boy came back and he said to the tree,
"I’m now a man and I must have a house that’s all my home."
"I can’t give you a house" he said, "The forest is my house."
"But you may cut my branches off and build yourself a home"
And so he did.
Oh, the tree was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.
And time went by and the boy came back with sadness in his eyes.
"My life has turned so cold," he says, "and I need sunny days."
"I’ve nothing but my trunk," he says, "But you can cut it down
And build yourself a boat and sail away."
And so he did and
Oh, the tree was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.
And after years the boy came back, both of them were old.
"I really cannot help you if you ask for another gift."
"I’m nothing but an old stump now. I’m sorry but I’ve nothing more to give"
"I do not need very much now, just a quiet place to rest,"
The boy, he whispered, with a weary smile.
"Well", said the tree, "An old stump is still good for that."
"Come, boy", he said, "Sit down, sit down and rest a while."
And so he did and
Oh, the trees was happy.
Oh, the tree was glad.
http://www.banned-width.com/shel/works/giving.html
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what do you do if you realllllllly realllly like someone but then you kissed them and they were horrible !! (link)
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Well sounds to me as if you'd better just keep on kissing them until they get it right!
If they slobber or something really gross like that tell them so. If not, then practice makes perfect! :)
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What is a Pacific Islander? (link)
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A native or inhabitant of any of the Polynesian, Micronesian, or Melanesian islands of Oceania.
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I have started dating this guy a few weeks ago, and we have fun when we go out, when we hang out and everything. I just cant seem to make him want to have sex with me. I am very beautifull, but I do have very small boobs. (A cup) I am going to be 21 in a month, and I really like him and want to have sex with him. We can be totally naked with eachother and making out, but he just doesnt seem to want to do it. He knows that I want to have sex with him. WHen we make out he wont touch me down there and he also sometime looses his erection. Im not sure if he just doesnt like me or what? hmm well thats about it. some good advice is needed (link)
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First let me reassure you that your boobs have nothing to do with it. :)
Does his not being able to have sex upset him? I guess what I'm asking is this...is he wanting to have sex or does he say he is waiting for marriage or something?
If he just can't then he may have a medical problem that needs looked into. If he is a diabetic, for instance or if he is on medication for something. All those things can sometimes cause impotence.
If not that then perhaps he is gay. While there is nothing wrong with that, there are still some men who wouldn't like admitting it.
Whatever the problem is he defiantly needs to check with a doctor. If he doesn't want to do that...and it is something you need to talk about...then you need to reconsider your relationship with him. At your age sex isn't all there is to a relationship, but it is a very important part. Don't get so entangled that you think you can fix the problem yourself. That's probably not possible.
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I’ve been having issues with my parents lately. I have a different problem for each of them. I guess this is a two-part question.
In order to fully understand my situation, I think a little background information is required . . .
My parents met one another while they were in highschool. They started dating soon after and eventually my mother ended up pregnant with me at the age of seventeen. It was completely unexpected and unplanned - I was a ‘surprise’, if you will. At the time, my grandmother was a very traditional woman. The idea of premarital children just didn’t sit well with her. She managed to convince my parents that marriage was their only option. They married three months after I was born.
Because my father came from a wealthier family, he graduated from highschool and was able to attend university. My mother, on the other hand, dropped out of highschool four months before her graduation so she could get a full-time job in order to support me and father while he was in school.
It’s not really a surprise that my parents are divorced now, they have been since I was five. But that’s not the issue. I live with my mother and stepfather now and she often talks about how she wishes she hadn’t been so careless when she was younger. She’s always warning me not to ‘throw away’ my youth like she did.
I know she doesn’t mean it, but sometimes I feel as though she resents me. I can’t help but think about how much better her life could have been had she not had me at such a young age. I know this is all in the past, and what’s happened cannot be changed but I would just like to know how I can get past this feeling of “I ruined my mother’s life”. I'd like to be able to stop feeling like a mistake.
Any and all advice is welcome =]
And that’s just my mother. . .
Now for part two - my father.
Like I mentioned before, my parents got married and then divorced at a fairly young age. I live with my mother so I only see my father once a month, if that. I wouldn’t exactly say we’re close . . .
Anyways, a few days ago, my mother told me a story about my father that really disturbed me. She told me that three days before their wedding, at his bachelor party, my dad had cheated on her. And even though she knew about it, she still married him. I was completely shocked when I heard this. I can’t help but be angry at my father. He doesn’t know that I know about this yet, but I would really like to confront him about it. I’ve talked to my mom about it and she doesn’t want me to say anything to him. She suggested that I just let it go. However I know that I won’t be able to do that. To me, this isn’t something I can just forget about. I would like some sort explanation from my father, even though I know he wont have one for me.
I’m supposed to have dinner at his house Monday night and I plan on confronting him then. My only problem is that I don’t know how I should go about this.
Any suggestions or any advice whatsoever would be greatly appreciated =]
Sorry this is so long =/ (link)
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I understand what your mother is trying to tell you. I had my first child and married about the same time she did. I'm still married but I know that's rare. I told my kids the same thing. I don't for a minute regret having them, but I sure don't want them going through the same things I did. Life is rough enough, starting out without anything is tougher. You miss out on so many things. Your mom just wants you to have a life of something besides changing diapers and worrying about where you next meal is coming from! So don't feel you've ruined your mothers life. That isn't at all what she is trying to tell you.
As for confronting your dad. Not a good idea. For one thing...and take no offense...its none of your business. Had nothing at all to do with you. That was something between him and your mom. She forgave him for it at the time, its over. You have to remember that he was a kid looking at a lifetime commitment. He probably had friends egging him on. That isn't an excuse by any means but it happens. Don't make it a problem between you and him because it is long forgotten, or should be. :)
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I'm eighteen years old, and female.
This morning, I just had anal sex with my boyfriend for the first time. I was allright during, and it was fully consentual, but now, several hours later, I can't shake this feeling of guilt.
My question is, is it common to feel guilty after a sexual act? If there's any advice that you can offer, I would appreciate it. I'm feeling ashamed of myself and I don't want to let my boyfriend touch me sexually ever again, and I really want things to be the same as they were before. (link)
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While there is nothing wrong with anal sex if you enjoy it, it is still something that is a little taboo to a lot of people.
If this was your first time doing it that way, and you were a little apprehensive about it, that is probably why you are having feelings of guilt. Somewhere in the old noggin you may have felt it just wasn't right. Maybe even an embarrassing thing to do.
I think in a day or two you will probably be fine. I don't think it will cause you to hate sex forever or anything.
If it isn't something you enjoyed then just don't do it again. You may someday want to try it again or you might not. It isn't something you have to do. Keep that in mind and you will be fine. :)
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When I rate people, I generally give all 5s, maybe a 4 or 2, and a 1 if someone is completely rude or didnt answer the question. Well..Let's say I ask a question and I get 5 answers. One of them is horrible, so it gets a 1 rating. The second is okay but kinda bad, so a 3 or 4. The next 2 answered the question and werent jerks, but the 5th wrote a 5 paragraph answer and included links to websites and personal experiences, etc. Should I rate the the 3rd and 4th people 5's like the 5th person, or should I give them fours because there was a better answer?
NOTE--Im rating all fives on this question no matter what (link)
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Actually, getting a five should be a rare thing.
Rating all 5's is not at all how it should work.
Here's how it should work:
1= This advice is so horrible the person giving
it should be banned.
2= Not horrible but not what I was looking for.
3=Pretty good advice. Not exactly what I wanted
but it has some good points I might use.
4= Good advice. I will use this advice.
5= Excellent advice. I'm going to use this advice
There is all the info I need and then some.
This is the best advice anyone could have
given me.
Another thing that needs rated down on answers is repeats. You should always note the time the question was answered because people could overlap when answering. But really, 20 people all giving you the same answer over and over just changing the wording a little is copying.
A person shouldn't answer a question unless they have something new to add or a totally different opinion.
That is why all the answers are now shown when you go to answer a question. It is supposed to eliminate everyone answering the same.
Example question: Can I get pregnant if we don't use a condom.
Answer: Yes you can.
The first yes answers your question. If 6 other people all write yes...give them a 2.
Okay. Sorry for the run-on. But that's how you really should rate your answers. :)
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How do i get my allergic cat lover dad and my afraid of cat jumping on face mom to get me a cat? (link)
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Now that is a dilema.
Allergies can be pretty bad. Dad might be able to get a shot for that though. If he could that might help in getting him to go along with it. He loves cats already so hes probably not the biggest problem.
Now I don't know why mom would think the cat would get in her face. But, if you told her how you would take care of it, feed it and keep it out of her face it might help.
Sometimes, moms get stuck doing all the clean up after a cat. Litter boxes are horrible! So, maybe if you promised to clean up after it that would be a big plus too. If you promise though, be sure you do it.
Good luck :)
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Ok so I had two teeth extracted two years ago and kept them. I bleached them and now I want to make them into jewelry. I know it might sound weird but I'm a person of kind of abstract tastes.
Can anyone tell me if it's a good idea to paint them or have any clues on how I should do it? Any websites would be helpful too. I tried googling it but it didn't help much.
Thanks, I rate 5's for productive ideas. (link)
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I did find a web site with some odd things made into jewelry but it didn't really tell how they did it. I will include it for your amusement anyway since you like things a little on the different side! Might get some ideas. :)
I don't see why you couldn't paint the teeth. You might want to cover the paint with some clear shellac of some sort to keep it from wearing off.
Any hobby store or craft center in walmart even would have everything you need. You might also check out some web sites on crafts there are tons of them.
Wish I could see how it turns out! Good luck.
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So this is a last minute kind of deal, but I have a friend who is supposed to come over. My mom went out for a while, but i have no idea when she is coming back, or any way of calling her. Last time I talked to my mom she said if my friend comes over she'll have to get a ride. My friend found a ride, but I don't know whether I should tell her to come over or not. My mom DID say she could come over. (link)
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If your mom okayed it, and your friend has a ride, I think it is okay.
I wouldn't leave the house and go running around anywhere until mom okays that (should it come up), but I thinks it okay for you to hang out at your house. :)
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What should I do? there is this boy i've been dating over a year and i have feelings for someone else that likes me alot. the boy i'm dating can't seem to make up his mind about if he wants to be with me or not. so should i choose the new guy or stick with my boyfriend? (link)
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If you have feelings for someone else, there is no sense waiting around for the current boyfriend to make a decision.
Break up with the current guy and go out with someone who likes you. :)
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