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Just friends?
14/f I like this guy dylan and he told me he likes me. I went out with him last year and broke up with him because he wasnt a great boyfriend. He was too clingy and he wasnt allowed to use the phone and stuff so I couldnt talk to him that much out of school. Now he can talk on the phone and stuff but I dont know how hes going to be. Also, all my friends think hes too much of a best friend to be a boyfriend. He is going to ask me out when he comes over. I dont know if i should say yes or no. Dylan is like my best friend and I want him as my boyfriend but i dont know what I should do?
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I know this seems like a big deal now..
But, you're only 14 years old. Whatever you choose to do will most likely have no affect on your life whatsoever.
Relationships aren't so serious at 14..
or 15, or 16, or 17, or sometimes even 18.
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If you really like him then give it another go. If he was clingy, this is something that he might have learned to get over. Clingyness is just an insecure behaviour and in most cases, time and experience allows people to get over their clingy behaviour. As for the talking on the phone thing, if this was beyond his control then you can discount it completely because you know that will be different this time round.
The only thing you need to do is give serious consideration as to whether or not you want to risk your friendship with him. After all, if you really like each other but end up splitting, what will happen to the friendship you once had? If you think this can be overcome then go for it. If not, hold back until you think you could remain friends in spite of a broken relationship.
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i think you should forget about what your friends say and give him a chance.. it should only matter about how u two feel about eachother..if he is really going to try to be a better boyfriend then give him a chance<333
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you should give him a chance, maybe he has changed since last year and maybe hes more mature and a better boyfriend. but if he's still clingy and isnt that great of a boyfriend you can dump him or just tell him that you two would be better off as friends
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The issues about him not be able to have contact with you are eliminated, so there should be no problem with talking to him outside of school.
You also said that he wasn't a great boyfriend because he was a little obsessive. If you really don't want a little commitment and strong contact between each other, maybe Dylan isn't the one for you right now.
If you really do want to be with him, you could always ask him if you both could slow down a little bit this time because it felt too fast the last time around.
I don't really see any problem with giving this another shot. As long as there wasn't a serious problem with this guy, maybe you should try it.
-TheTeenGirl
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I would go for it. If he's not what you want dump him. I'd also tell him, that you consider him a best friend too, and I'm assuming you don't want to ruin your friendship if you were to break up. I'd also mention the clingy thing to him and how you don't like it. Good Luck, hope it works out!
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You said it yourself. "I want him as a boyfriend".
I think if you believe he has gotten over being clingy, and you need to talk about that problem when he asks you, that you should go ahead and try it again.
Be sure you let him know right from the beginning
that if he asks clingy you aren't going to put up with it. :)
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