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Guilt after sex?
I'm eighteen years old, and female.
This morning, I just had anal sex with my boyfriend for the first time. I was allright during, and it was fully consentual, but now, several hours later, I can't shake this feeling of guilt.
My question is, is it common to feel guilty after a sexual act? If there's any advice that you can offer, I would appreciate it. I'm feeling ashamed of myself and I don't want to let my boyfriend touch me sexually ever again, and I really want things to be the same as they were before.
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Anal sex is the final frontier, isn't it? We, as a society, have placed such a taboo on the subject, that it's a wonder anyone talks about it at all. Congrats on being able to converse about what happened.
We do sometimes have remorse about our sexual activities, which has a lot to do with our upbringing, and social standards. It's hard to shed those things, and they stick with you throughout your life.
You need to know that, in the pursuit of your own sexual pleasure, that YOU are the one who gets to decide what is right for you, and what is not. If this was consentual, and you didn't feel right about it afterward, don't do it again.
What I don't understand is, if it was consentual, why do you not want your boyfriend to touch you sexually ever again? Did he pressure you to do this? If so, then you have some communicating to do. If not, then you need to do some introspection on why you would push him away sexually if he did nothing wrong. Dig into your past, what would make you have that sort of reaction? Shame is something that is usually put on us by either upbringing or society, that's probably a good place to start looking.
Either way, I hope that you find a way to be with your parnter again, if that is what you truly want. I wish you the best in your pursuit of pleasure!
Good luck,
Marissa
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Yes, you are going to feel guilty yet because you did not get there permission but maybe if you keep doing it you might get use to it. Just remember this is your life! Do what you want to do!
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YOU ARE A SERIOUS PERVERT. do you have any idea how gross and perverted that is? i mean, your boyfriend is a serious weirdo too doing that weird thing to you. i mean you don't stick things there. that's for pooping only. your goign to get Chlymadia and DIE and you are probably to young and WHY the HECK are yopu telling Random people your SEX life i mean GROSSSSSSSS !!! that's just not normal. and you should feel guilty. i mean, right now, your boyfriend's probably doin that to someone else. you need to find someone new who won't do that. that's seriously messed up. go watch Dora the explorer or something and grasp your inner youth. and tell your mom and dad about your problem so that they can send you to one of those mental hospitals with the straitjackets and padded walls. have a nice day!!!
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While there is nothing wrong with anal sex if you enjoy it, it is still something that is a little taboo to a lot of people.
If this was your first time doing it that way, and you were a little apprehensive about it, that is probably why you are having feelings of guilt. Somewhere in the old noggin you may have felt it just wasn't right. Maybe even an embarrassing thing to do.
I think in a day or two you will probably be fine. I don't think it will cause you to hate sex forever or anything.
If it isn't something you enjoyed then just don't do it again. You may someday want to try it again or you might not. It isn't something you have to do. Keep that in mind and you will be fine. :)
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maybe your mind is telling you that you wernt ready for sex. maybe you have to re-think this boy and how much you rly like him. you probably dont like him as much as you thought you did so now you feel guilty b/c if he wants to do it agian, what are you gonna say, "i felt guilty after last time so i cant," no you cant do that. so you rly need to think how much you like this boy b4 you do it again. and also if you WANT TO do it again
hope i helped
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<3 Kay
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It is totally normal. Question though.. Have you talked to your boyfriend since? A lot of times people feel guilty for the reason that they think it will be different between the two of you after. Give it time and act like nothings changed. Eventually it will feel like nothing has changed. If that doesn't work, you might wanna talk it out with your bf. But I think it will get better for you soon.
Good luck sweetheart <3
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