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my g.f has very small hole she is 22 year old...my penis is not going in when m trying to insert...what shud i do to insert??

Everyones given you great advice. I can only think of one more thing, especially if she\'s never had sex before and you are her first. It would account for her not knowing of this rare but real issue.

There is such a thing called a Septate hymen. If by chance she has one, then all of the previous advice is not going to help until she see\'s a Dr. for a simple procedure to correct it.

A septate hymen is a strip of skin that goes down the center of her vaginal opening, in effect causing 2 much smaller openings. As a teen she would have had great difficulty using even tampons. Such girls have gotten a tampon forced in with much pain but have been unable to remove it and had to go see the family doctor. Basically the remedy is some local anesthetic and the Dr. snips that strip of skin away. You can offer to try looking to see if you can see something like that. If she\'s never been to a gynecologist for a female exam, its high time for her to do so and it can be taken care of. If there is no abnormality like this with the hymen, then all the other advice will be effective in time.

Hello everyone, I'm 18/F and my bf and I have been dating for two years now. When we began dating, he had told me about girls who also likes him. There are quite a few and I just can't stop thinking about this particular girl he told me. She liked him and I think she still does but he didn't like her. My bf and I live in the same state while she live in another state. I completely have no idea what's about her that I can't stop thinking about her one day ending up with my bf. of all the girls he told me that like him, why her? What can I do to stop thinking about her ending up with my bf?

Trust is important to a relationship. I am guessing that is why your boyfriend has come out and told you all about girls that like him and past girlfriends. He wants you to know that he cares only about you, not the other girl. Trust takes some time to develop. You did not say if he did anything to break your trust and cause you to keep wondering about this other girl. So my only guess is that perhaps you suffer from feeling insecure about yourself, which is common during teen years. Piece of advice: Guys find a confident female to be very attractive. Being insecure when a bf is doing what he can to prove he only wants you is a sure fire way to kill that love over time.
So the only thing to do is that any time a thought of other girls has come into your mind, capture it and replace that negative thought immediately with a positive one...the truth...by speaking it out loud. You will be retraining your subconscious mind to think positively about you and him.

I am going to New York with my family and worried about my baby's health care while travelling. My son is only one year old and here I wanted to know some suggestion about his health care.

If baby has a condition it is wise to check with your health insurance company as to what type of coverage you have when out of state. There will be some kind of coverage but likely restrictions as to where you can go or perhaps certain steps you need to go through which you won\'t have to if in home state.
My brother growing up got severe asthma attacks where he needed hospitalizing. My parents checked with insurance before traveling away from home the first time until they knew what the procedure would be. We never knew what might set him off. It is not only reassuring but smart to check on ones health coverage when traveling, not only for the child but yourselves as well.

Okay so, My best friends name is Lindsey and she is a lesbian who recently came out. Sometimes we cuddle and we made out once. I used to be 100% sure I was straight but now I don't know. Lindsey just makes me feel really special and I want to hold her in my arms all the time. I don't know if I just like her as my best friend or more than that. And even if I do like her more than that I wouldn't want to tell anyone because I'm scared that people will think I'm a complete lesbian and then they won't like me. People as in boys. I just need help, like how do you know if your gay or not? Oh I'm 15 and a female by the way.

You don\'t have to define or label what you are experiencing, especially as you are starting down the path of discovering sexuality. You don\'t have to be sure about anything...thats what is so cool about the concept of dating. Whether you decide to date your girl friend or a guy,our there is dating and hanging out for figuring out what you like and are attracted to in a person personality wise and it can work for sexual preferences too. Young people are often afraid of what their peers will think of them when it doesnt matter in the long run. People your age are not going to understand much about sex yet, it will come over the years through life experience. Just enjoy what you have for now. And for anyone who asks or is making assumptions, you don\'t owe them any explanation unless you want to or if they are close friends of yours. No matter what sexual orientation a person is, they can have friends of both sexes. Guys can be quite understanding if a girl is bi curious and experimenting or bi or gay. If she is open to going both ways, guys have no problem with a gal having another gal or several gals as lovers. Its other men they have a problem with. I have known many bi married women who for the most part did not like men at all until they met just the one they wanted to marry and have kids with. However these women were very attracted sexually to other women. My neighbor was bi and she took me to a club were people of alternative lifestyles met. I was not married to my husband at the time. I have even out of curiousity given it a try twice. I can go through the motions with a bi woman, even have the satisfaction of pleasing her but when it came down to being sexually attracted to and wanting that for myself...nope, it just wasnt there. You can love another female deeply, enjoy being intimate and close, even cuddling nude...I have no problem with that, its that I am sexually attracted to men, not women. It takes time to figure this out. I wasn\'t confused or wondering. I knew I was straight but wanted to experience this for the educational experience, to learn more about the types of people living this kind of lifestyle. The majority of married men going with their bi wives to the club were there to support her, not find another woman to fall for and eventually have sex with. If you are curious, try whatever appeals to you or raises your curiousity. Now is a good time to do it.
I don\'t know why you think people won\'t like a lesbian. I was at a friends potluck, a group of spiritual people I had beliefs in common with and a friend of theirs, a single female was there. I am naturally friendly and spoke to her. She assumed my speaking to her meant I was interested in her sexually. She told me she was a lesbian and I said I was straight. She said, Oh I am sorry, I won\'t bother you. I said, you weren\'t bothering me, we were just talking as new friends. She asked if I felt uncomfortable continueing conversation with her if she reveals she is attracted to me, I said no. Thanks for the compliment. Told her she was a pretty female too but I just dont get sexually attracted to females. I think two people can keep their heads on straight and not overreact in such situations, also guys discovering your exploration with girls. the only problem is that some teens havent matured mentally as quickly as others and may tease or avoid you. They aren\'t worth your time due to their immaturity even if just as friends. Don\'t worry ahead of time about things that may never become issues. good luck in life.

I've asked questions similar to this before, but I figured I'd be a bit more specific and ask a little different this time.

I'm in 10th grade, was in a very small private until 5th grade when I started being home schooled(same curriculum).

Half my family, including my mom, have been diagnosed with dyslexia. When I was in kindergarten, My mom noticed that I was showing signs of dyslexia but never took me in to be tested because I live in the middle of nowhere and the only one who could test me is 5 hours away and retired.
So I've always known I was, at least mildly, dyslexic.

I struggled a bit in 1st through 4th-ish grade with it but I dealt with it and it wasn't much of a problem. I like to read and can without much struggle, though I will mix up words, re-read sentences, and have poor reading comprehension/memory on occasion(I have problems with this one in school a lot), especially if it's something I'm not that interested in. And I will on occasion also have problems writing.

But my real problem is, ever since about 7th or 8th grade, I have been having a harder time with school.
And it's been getting worse recently.
My schoolwork is self taught, and mostly 'read section then answer questions then take a test' type deal.
But I'm having a very hard time getting myself to actually learn anything. I'll barely remember half the stuff I should, and I don't understand anything else. I'll read the stuff I'm supposed to then either forget it almost immediately, or not understand it at all.
This mostly happens in science and math. Even if my Mom explains it in the most simple way possible, I still wont know what she said. I'll understand the individual words she's saying and it will kind of make sense, but once it all comes together and she's finished, it's gone and I don't understand at all.

I can't even help my niece in 5th grade math because I can't figure it out. And I'm supposed to be in geometry!

This somewhat happens in everyday life too, I'm almost scared to get a job or go to college because I have trouble following directions and figuring out how things work. Even if someone shows me I still don't know how to do it.

I get nervous when I'm around people too, I am naturally shy, but if and when people ask me to do something, even if it's simple, I either misunderstand or make a complete fool of myself because I can't figure out how to do it or I do it wrong.

I don't know... basically what I'm asking is, what could be causing this? Is there anything causing this at all, or am I just kind of stupid?
Or is it possible the dyslexia is causing it?
I don't know...I just hope someone on here can give some me good advice on how to deal with it and help me figure out what 'it' even is....

Any responses are GREATLY appreciated...

I have noticed that lots of people are getting more forgetful, have trouble concentrating and forget things or make tons of silly mistakes in writing, even me, even people who do not have dyslexia or any other type of disorder.
I can\'t say what it is. It was not like this say 10 years ago but I began to take notice of this phenomenon about 5 years ago and it has been escalating since then.
If I am catching mistakes in print everywhere I look, on pc ads, wikipedia, blogs, tv ads, magazines and newpapers, on a daily basis where I never saw any mistakes or it was rare in the past, something has changed.
I cannot believe that every person struggling has changed something in their lives so drastically that it is affecting their memory and all cognitive abilities so severely. That leaves me with wondering if a build up of toxins and poisons in our environment or in our foods and water is finally showing its effect on great numbers of people. Nope, you won\'t see articles or tv reports on the subject. Cant afford to scare all population. All we can do is just try harder, do our very best and leave it at that. Not everyone is going to be affected at the same rate so some are doing better than others, but give it another 5-10 years and your mom will probably be struggling more too.

Depressing, huh? So just focus on enjoying your life on a daily basis, don\'t worry about the future or college. Just focusing on doing the best you can right now. It takes investing more time and triple or quadruple checking your work.

Regarding shyness, I can see how that can affect you some. So if you think your shyness is causing you to not pay attention close enough to understand what someone is asking, thats easily remedied by working on overcoming your shyness. Let me know if you want to work on that, as I have a formula for overcoming shyness, it worked on me. In school, I had it so bad I couldn\'t get out of my seat to go sharpen my pencil because I feared peoples eyes being on me. You c an write me separately to ask for that if you wish.
Good luck.

hi! my grandma had bone problems and i don't know how to spell what she had but you probably know what i mean right? in school they were talking about the same thing in health class and she said that if we ate calcium rich foods we would not get that disiease. great but how much milk and cheese can you eat?! are there any other foods that have calcium but maybe don't make you so fat?

If grandma is living with your family, you can offer to serve calcium rich foods more often. If she is living on her own and has seen her doctor, likely she is already receiving supplements and been told what to incorporate in her diet. But here\'s one list from on line

http://www.fitday.com/fitness-articles/nutrition/healthy-eating/need-more-calcium-10-foods-thatll-help.html

I love yogurt and will have a serving of that with granola instead of cereal and milk in the morning or I also love cream cheese and cottage cheese and have a breakfast of that topping a slice or two of toast. Leafy greens like spinach are a good source as the article says, and I love a good spinach salad, with some nuts in it and broccoli bits, orange pieces and dried cranberries. Once you start thinking about it, there\'s ways to come up with occasional recipes fairly rich in calcium but they are no substitute for what her doctor prescribes.

how can I lick my teacher's breast

Men and women both can be attracted sexually to what we see. Thing is, we are civilized creatures, not animals in the wild and we learn to exercise control over our desires, not find some way to act upon them. I am with adviceman all the way, agreeing with what he said.
That is the law. And the law is one reason you can\'t entice someone to do sexual things or force yourself upon them. Every person has a right to find that someone, if both are of the age of consent to have sex, and there are no rules like at a place of work for not becoming involved with and dating a coworker, etc...

Even if you find yourself in a long term relationship or marriage some day...there will be times when you see something you visually like and are attracted to. The man who can enjoy looking but not touching will continue to have a wonderful relationship with his lady. The ones who give in to their feelings and have a fling or begin an affair are the ones who will not have a happy relationship ever with a girl cus they will leave him the moment he cant control himself and remainful faithful to his promises to her.

You\'re young but now is a good time to start learning to control your impulses and that also includes things like trying to dream up ways to lick a teachers breast.

Hello,

Usually when sleeping with someone I am always on the bottom. Recently, this guy flipped me over on top and I realized i'm so bad at riding on top of him.

Advice??

Latina is right, a person can be different with different people when having sex. One position works better with one guy than another. Also I found I made different sounds with different partners in the past.
I just want you to realize its nothing to worry about if you didn\'t like it or he didn\'t. If you\'re open and willing, try it a few more times, practice. Don\'t automatically block this off as something you won\'t do. Why I say this is that not only myself but other women I\'ve read statistics about have better control being on top, able to control the movements, how fast, etc... and are able to enjoy themselves more if not have orgasms easier this way. Other than clitoral stimulation, when connected, this is the way many women have the g spot or a spot orgasms or enjoy thems selves over all greater this way.

You will find ways to position your feet that are most comfortable, there is no one right or wrong way, I like resistance with leverage so my concern is with being able to find some way to resistance, like balling up the bedsheet we\'re on in each hand which helps me to pound my honey same as he does me. If you are not afraid to explore, you\'ll figure out little by little what works for you. If you still discover you don\'t like it with this guy, if you ever move on to someone else in the future, just be willing to try it again with the next guy cus it can be totally different experience.

So i've slept with this guy twice.
Both times he used a condom, but came while he was inside of me (in his condom). That always scares me because what if the condom breaks?! or Something! Then all that stuff is in me! That's not the best.

Anyways, is it normal to be afraid that something like that could happen?

How do I tell him to just pull out before cumming? Is that rude?

Also, I know when hes going to cum because he goes SO deep in me and pushes real hard - it feels great for me and probably great for him, but I'm so scared!
advice?

If I understand right, you waguyunt to ask a guy who is wearing a condom to begin with to withdraw before cumming because you are afraid of becoming pregnant. He may do so but for a guy, part of the pleasure is being inside the girl. If a condom isn\'t enough protection for your peace of mind, not to mention unable to fully enjoy yourself due to the ever present worry of pregnancy, then its about time for you to get on birth control. I just answered another person like this. My answer is always the same, if being sexual on a consistant basis, the most mature thing to do is get yourself on some birth control, usually its the pill that Drs. recommend. If you experience side effects, you go back and try different bc\'s until u find one that works for you.
You are missing out on so much of the enjoyment because you\'re so scared. I\'ll tell you this, I never considered myself totally safe with just condoms. After divorcing my ex who had a vasectomy, his tubes tied so I couldn\'t become pregnant, and I had not got to menopause yet, I had to decide what I would do for birth control, tried the pill but had to get off, side effects, I decided that I would date guys who had vasectomies or be willing to since in their late forties men are not too eager to accidently end up with another child all over again when theirs if any were already raised.
If the both of you have a great connection conversation wise and are very close, I think if you told him how scared you are about becoming pregnant that you would like to ask him to withdraw before cumming even if wearing a condom, he may go along with it. But he may also find that to seem a bit paranoid and ask you questions like why you aren\'t going to get on birth control then? Thats sounds like a logical question. As a teen, he cant go get snipped because he may want to have kids some day. So birth control rests entirely on your shoulders. What will you tell him when he asks which if I were him---why you havent just gone out and got yourself on birth control since teens do that every day. I\'d be curious enough to ask, even if I were willing to pull out.

I was the same person who asked about the kind of illness which is depersonalization disorder. I can say that I really have this type of disorder because it striked again just this awhile ago. I can't explain how I experienced it becausr it was just too fast and after it fade away. I was thinking about how and when would I die and suddenly it seemed like I'm in a dream like I saw myself staring at me. Gosh I'm hallucinating but I can't see myself clearly because it was so hazy and unclear so feels like I'm dreaming. I mean it didn't bother me. The only thing is that I'm so shocked about what I've seen. I figured out when this derealization occurs when if I would panick or extremely worried or scared. Awhile ago my sister scared me about lizard and I was so scared that I really really panicked. So then hours later, I imagined that I would die because of too much fear of lizards then I suddenly find it like a dream. This is not disturbing me but I'm.just worried whether it would complicate another disorder. Im really afraid to tell this to mum because she won't believe plus we don't have money for pshychiatrist or any practitioner because my dad was so sick days ago. I'm researching on how to cope this disorder but I want your personal opinion coz i know you can help me. Thank you

Hello again.
Yes I remember you. You were worried about this affecting you getting into med. school.

I am not a professional. I can\'t begin to tell you if what is going on for you is part a mental condition, part psychic abilities or what. If you have negative thinking that gets out of hand, thats one thing and it can lead to focusing so much on one fear or depressive thing that you actually lead yourself to spiral downward out of control. It\'s then becomes a matter of handling \'stinking thinking\' a phrase I got from a book I read, by psychiatrist David Burns on self help for depression and other mental things.
Here\'s a link explaining the book.

http://mdavisattiers.hubpages.com/hub/Cognitive-Distortions-Stinkin-Thinkin-and-What-You-Can-Do-to-Change-the-Negative-Thoughts
I dont know if it can help at all but it\'s worth at least trying it and ruling out if this is not the case with you.

So as I sit here, at a loss as to what to tell you other than that. I began to \'in my mind\' just ask my spirit guides what to tell you. Some people recognize and call this their guardian angels. And immediately, the words, \"Tell her some of your stories.\" came into my mind. There is much in this world that the majority never experience but all of us have that capability buried deep within us. Think of times that you can feel someone staring at you or approaching you from behind.

I didn\'t have much of any abilities come through as a child or teen. All I can remember is a keen sense of knowing when a particular kid who liked to do the \"Spock\" pinch on the shoulder was approaching me from behind. He was able to sneak up to other kids, but never me. I always \'Felt\' strongly, a sense that caused me to turn around to check with that \'something\' I was feeling was.

As a teen, I followed of my own accord the Christian faith. I listened to all the trainings on how to hear from God and have real conversation with him or Holy Spirit in my mind. I wanted to be like King David, who was said to be \'a man after God\'s own heart\'. I would ask God if I was still \'pleasing Him\' and always heard the answer back in my mind that \"yes I was\". One day, the pastor decided to book a woman for the weekend, starting all day Saturday teaching classes on how to hear from God better. The majority of people thought it was a bunch of baloney. What I saw is that they were uncomfortable because talking with God, one can\'t rely on their physical senses of sight, hearing, touch, etc... It takes a sixth sense and for some reason, most people, not just Christians, shy away from anything to do with it cus it\'s a realm of stuff that can\'t be explained, only experienced. Therefore, perhaps if what you are going through for the most part is related to the ability to connect with that which is not detectable by regular human senses, then your scenerio is more spiritual and psychically related.
So in this \'workshop\' at church, one of the exercises was to pair off with someone you did not know anything about. I don\'t remember all details but i remember two very clearly. We were told to sit across from the partner, holding hands and close our eyes and ask God to give us a mental picture of something related to what He wanted me to tell the other person.

I had a college age girl as my first partner. In my mind, I saw a ball of red yarn. When I asked what this yarn meant to the girl, I was asked, what does the red yarn mean to you? You see, I had a ball of red yarn in my craft cabinet from Christmas. We also had 3 cats at the time. If one of the kids got into it and didn\'t latch it well, the cats would find the yarn and unravel the whole thing. This happened not once but 5 or 6 times. I was so tired of having to untangle and re-ball the yarn neatly. I was always afraid of the cats getting inside and the yarn coming unraveled. \"So what does this have to do with her?\' I asked. The answer I got, \"She feels her life is coming unraveled and she feels at the end of her rope in dealing with it.\" So I spoke that sentence out loud to her and her jaw dropped open. I told her God knows what she\'s going through, and that everything would soon fall into place and come neatly back together. Those last words were provided once I opened my mouth and started speaking. She told me thats exactly what she\'s going through and even her mom didn\'t know. It felt like that situation where a person goes to see a psychic who is in tune that way and able to receive real insight on a person, not one of those quacks who fish for info that they hope you give them. Next we switched partners. Just to prove its not just me able to do this and no one else could, God gave me an older woman as my next partner. When it came her turn to tell me something, she gave me a sheepish look and said, I am not really getting anything, all I have is that God is pleased with you. I jumped out of my chair in shock exclaiming, thats it, thats it. Thats confirmation that you heard correctly from God and I explained the deal I had going where I constantly asked God how I was doing. It was the same words I always got...God telling me He is pleased with me..the word Pleased, is something no one else knew about. It gave me chills up my back.

I think my Spirit guides took that as encouragement that I was spiritually ready to ramp things up a bit. And I experienced something soon after that can\'t be explained. Ever walk into a room and forget what you walked in to get? Well, I did that. While standing in the middle of the room trying to remember, I got a firm tapping on my right shoulder. I was the only one in the room that I knew of but thought one of my daughters had snuck up behind me to tease me. I spun around, no one there, raced to the door way to look into the hallway...just mere steps...No body there, no retreating footsteps. It was then I felt spooked, scared and chills were running up and down my back.

My next incident didn\'t come along until 2004. I was at the chiropracter seeing the acupunturist gal who worked there. She left me face down on the massage table with needles in my back and said she\'d be back when the timer went off to take them out. As I lay there, I relaxed to where I was almost in that dream like state, half awake and half asleep. And so I was confused when my mind registered a man standing to the left of the table, just silently standing there. Being I\'d been wake asleep, I forgot that my eyes were closed but I snapped my head up a split second later to look at the exact spot I\'d seen him. I saw him as clearly in my minds eye as I see people with my physical eyes. I have never seen anything that clearly since. I can still describe him to a T.
I thought someone had walked into the wrong room but when no one was there, I laid my head down and the moment my eyes were closed, the image of the man was clearly visible again. I did not believe in spirit guides, I was not researching how to discover them either, but yet there he was, real enough to reach out and touch. What does one do when faced with something like this for the first time. I had no clue. All I knew was how to speak to God. Perhaps if I spoke to this very real apparition in my mind, it would speak in return. I felt silly doing it but asked, \"Who are you?\" I got an immediate answer. My name is actually William but friends used to call me wild Willy.\" I wasn\'t expecting an answer. Since I got one, I supposed I had to keep talking now. \"What do you want?\" \"I am your spirit guide, or rather, one of two. You have another, he used to be a close friend when we lived human lives. He\'s not here now. He will meet you later. He will leave his calling card before he makes his appearance. Pretty strange stuff. After I got home and had a couple more days to think about my experience, I began to doubt what happened. I knew I wasn\'t crazy but I had a great imagination. Maybe I had imagined it so real. I was thinking of it like \'imaginary friends\', kinda like you are describing having tho I didnt have any as a child that I can remember. So I decided to test it.The weekend was approaching and I would be busy. I asked Willy to prove he was real in two ways, tapping me on top of my head and by superimposing himself/his image over another person at some point on the weekend. Then I promptly forgot about it. I was so distracted that I wasnt expecting it. So when approaching the doors of Walmart, a guy walks out looking like Willy. My head swiveled and I watched the image of Willy fade to become the image of the actual man. Later that night while chatting with friends, I got a tapping on top of my head. Whipped my head around to the back of the lazyboy chair to see if I could catch her kids back there playing tricks on me. They were not in the room.
I\'ve had many other experiences since then and learned to trust what I called the Holy Spirit. I\'ve since read other books that describe Holy Spirit as Creative Spirit or the Feminine half/expression of God, or as some pagan believers would call, the Goddess. I did not believe in reincarnation yet. I was pretty resistant to all this stuff cus the Church said it wasnt real or something was evil or just not possible. One day I clearly heard the voice I knew as God saying out of the blue, \"Would you believe me If I told you that reincarnation was real?\" By now I never doubted ever my ability to hear Gods voice and I recognized this as being Gods voice. Since Gods voice and my voice sound like my talking aloud voice, how was I able to tell? This is where many begin to doubt their selves. I knew the difference from experience. Often I was being prompted to go share an encouraging word with a stranger. Something I am not totally comfortable doing. Why would I mentally make up a convo with myself, asking me to do something I don\'t like to do...thats not happening.

So I got good at telling the difference. I went on to learn about energy healing. I was involved in church on a prayer team, praying for healing for people. Problem is, Christians believe that sometimes it is not Gods will that a person be healed. We\'ll pray but they\'ll only be healed if its Gods will. I have since discovered that in a family or a relationship, is one person is there for others to learn a particular lesson and grow by but they refuse to grow, then that one person is no longer needed there. Either they hear from God to move on, or something has to happen to take them out, with end result of death, either an accident or contracting a disease. No its not Gods will that the person who does get it and has grown as a soul dies before their time but its also as important that their being there does not prevent another souls growth so therefore the loss by divorce, leaving ones disfunctional family, accident or disease. I took some basic Reiki training, whereby we become the conduit for the energy of the universe to flow through us to the person needing help. I got many mental images showing me things to do that weren\'t in the Basic training anymore but more the level of Reiki master, without the classes. My intuition developed further so I could tell where someone was suffering, what was going on etc... although for about 3 years I have lived so rural and had no car that I had no contact with people to use it other than on myself or hubby. Now I am back living in the big city and should be getting back to this. I did mention intuition. Women tend to have a natural intuition. They just know something but don\'t know how or why. Men often allude to this womens intuition. ANd thats why women are often more psychically gifted than men. This is a lot for you to go over and I dont know how it will help you but I obeyed in sharing it. If any of this rings true for you and you\'d like to chat further about some of your experiences in detail, I am here for you and would truly be interested.
Blessings to you dear.

i did sex with my g.f i rubbed my penis near pussy when penis was about to cum i tuk my penis little far away...but after 20 hour she ate papaya will it help hr??

Anytime your cum gets anywhere inside her vagina or near it on the outside near the labia/lips then she can become pregnant if she\'s ovulating at the time.
I don\'t know where you heard about eating papaya as a birth control method but that simply is not true. I researched the web to be sure scientists hadn\'t discovered a new use for it. Medicinally its known mostly known to help with digesting foods. I myself have used papaya enzymes, bought in natural health food stores for helping with digestion. The closest it comes to use for any sexual is a preparation of the leaves, not the fruit to help girls with period pains, but you don\'t have to believe me. Here\'s a link on uses of papaya.

http://whatthafact.com/nutrition-facts-of-papaya/

I'm a 14 year old boy. I felt my my penis was small then I got bored and I measured it today. It turned out to be 7in long. Is that good for a 14 year old. I'm not gay or bi. I also have a 6 pack ladies ;)

A penis can be quite compact and shrink back into your body so it looks like you don\'t have much while flaccid. There are a few, not many who when flaccid hang out there full length getting other guys to think they are small in comparison.
Just so you know, the really long while flaccid types don\'t grow any longer as a general rule while erect/aroused. It\'s those who shrink up compact, who can end up being larger than the ones who appeared big while flaccid.

As to whats average for length in a guy, thats 5-7 inches. I have no idea why you felt compelled to tell us you\'re not gay or bi. Do you believe that gay or bi males do not have average size penis\'s at all? And what has a 6 pack got to do with discussing the size of your penis? You have every right to be happy with how you look. You are one of billions of guys on the planet who can say the same thing about themselves. From an older lady, I find that what is more impressive to females is the gardener (male) who has studied thoroughly plants, gardening and what exact type of care each plant needs (study of sexuality, male and female genitalia, how to pleasure and achieve orgasms with a partner) and then uses his \"tools\" (penis, fingers, sex toys) to care for, nurture and make his garden (his lady) \"bloom and blossom.\" (be pleasured)

My brother keeps yelling at me. What do I do?

Depending on the situations/ or lack of them, that are present when he tends to yell there may be things that cause him to yell. It may be something you are doing but unaware of. It could be that he is extremely stressed and doesnt know any good ways for stress relief. Unfortunately even some adults will do this too, yell at the handiest or closest family member they can find as a source to offload their stress and dump on by yelling, even tho the reciever of the yelling is not to blame for anything. Who knows, he may even have an anger problem.
If you do not know why he picks on you, ask him. Then you will know if there is something you can do to improve your relationship with him. Now if your brother is not just yelling at you but seems short tempered in other situations too, the best thing to do would be to bring it up to mom or dad, whomever you\'re more comfortable talking to about it. Let them know it is bothering and worrying you and ask them for their ideas on what to do about it. He\'s also their child and they may have some constructive ideas for you on how to handle him or realize he\'s the one with issues and work with him to realize and deal with it or see a counselor for help.

Good luck.

Hey everyone! I'm 16/female.

*************************This question will put you to sleep*************************

So there's a boy in my history class who I really like. He is just perfect for me. He's taller than me, has a loving family, is athletic, has a life outside of his sport, he's gentle, a good son, a good brother, quiet, soft spoken, has a really deep voice, has a lot of patience, very mature, I can go on and on.

My point is, he's a gentleman. VERY rare at our age. And I like him. I've always looked for boys like him to get to know. I didn't even notice he was in my class until he stood up to present a project one day. And then on a class field trip a while later, we had a gorgeous conversation on the bus, followed by an in sync nap. Also he accepted this girls flirting all day, and she walked with him when I was trying to talk to him. But either way all negativity aside, since that day, I just couldn't get enough. Months later, there were days when my history teacher was absent, and I somehow spent both periods talking to him. Then I started talking to him on Facebook, a few weeks later. Eventually, he answered more frequently & a little over two weeks ago, he asked for my number since it was easier for him to answer me there than on Facebook. (I was crying I was so happy) & that wholeeeee time we were talking all day every day, him texting me first, & throughout that time texting, he was flirting a lot, but it could have been taken as something else most of the time.

For example, he would give me really cute nicknames as he said good morning & good night, he would ask me questions like "describe your perfect relationship" (says aww to my description, then says everything I missed), he basically described me when I asked him what type of girls he likes & he comforted me one day when I was mad, saying "I'm always here" afterwords. He was just so sweet the whole time. He never suggested anything that had to do with sex, unless I asked him about it ( I asked what his favorite body parts were and what type of legs he liked and again, he described my legs) & he wouldn't object to changing the subject back to normal afterwords, unlike other boys I've talked to. I told him once that I haven't found a mutual liking with someone & he mentioned that maybe he already had, then he said "maybe one day we'll find it" (what does that mean?) & it had my head spinning every time he said something like that. He would call me "awesome" and said that he would miss me if I moved, use witty little lines on me, never tried too hard but still he was very subtle.

We agreed that he would tell me a story about the girl that he used to go out with & he insisted on telling me this as soon as possible for some reason. When I was going to go meet him so he could tell me, the same girl from the trip was keeping me from going over there, (I didn't want to ditch her and be rude) & he was asking me "are you coming outside or not" (it sounded like he was eager, but then he goes and does this...) Then I explained to him that I've been there, but I didn't want to be rude. I found a way to position myself and the girl where he could see us, front and center. This girl is also in our class, and he knows her for a while longer than he knows me so when he comes up to us, he starts flirting with her immediately. She flirts back (of course -.-, she's one of those.) She has a boyfriend. I'm not sure if he is aware. So this makes me extremely uncomfortable, considering. We were looking at each other this whole time, so I tried to show him with my face that this might be a bad time, but my face didn't say that, it looked at him as if I was sad and confused that he was paying attention to her & not me (exactly how I was feeling, but not what I meant to do at all) so he stopped & came to me and properly greeted me. I smiled & the girl got the idea & started walking farther in front of us, and soon we were alone and she was getting her face sucked. He tells me the story as normal, we flirt and giggle and I admire him as he talks. I notice he's a bit nervous... But he never gets to finish, so we plan another day later, & he asks me if he could call me to tell me, but I say no because I want an excuse to stare at him. So when this day comes, I watch him play, (this is outside by the way) and I'm waiting for the bell to ring so he could talk to me. It when the bell rings he's still playing. I get up, a little sad since this time he wasn't texting me, he was absorbed in the game. So as I leave, I feel a hand on my shoulder, it's him of course. I give a huge smile (can't help myself) and he continues where he left off. I can't help but notice he's a little antsy and nervous as he talks this time too. He tells me about this teddy bear that he gave that ex, and he says he has it now because her parents didn't like him so she had to give it back (don't understand why) So he's talking, and a bunch of people notice us in the halls walking together, and a handful of my stupid friends make things very awkward. Pointing and giggling at us, saying "ohhhhhhhhhhhh that's him" quietly but obviously, staring at him, & one friend even went as far as to say "hey, I know you like her because she's beautiful and everything, but you'll never get that" and I wouldn't dare to look at him so I couldn't tell you his reaction, all I know is he kept talking, while I struggled to listen and respond.(I swear, I want to listen to what he's saying with my FULL attention, but he's just so gorgeous sometimes I can't believe he's talking to me.) anyway, when we said goodbye, I think I caught a glimpse of him leaning closer to hug me, but I quickly turned away. I'm not ready for all of those eyes looking at us yet. Then again I'm not sure he did.

If you don't understand what my question is, which most likely you don't (sorry) it's that I don't know if this kid likes me back! He's so confusing, he flirts in my face with that girl (which is really nothing by the way, it's just a little confusing that's all) and then texts me when we get home and treats me like a princess.

*by the way, if it sounds like I'm jealous of that one girl, I'm really not. I used to be, but I got my brain back. I just wanted to illustrate my frustration with her cockblocking.*

I want to thank anyone who got this far in advance. If you think I don't want to read extremely long answers, you're wrong lol :) you reap what you sow, or so I've heard ^_^

He sounds like an absolutely wonderful guy. Rare indeed to find someone like him at your age.

You are going to be kicking yourself for the rest of your life if you loose the chance to be his girl.

You wrote: \"I told him once that I haven\'t found a mutual liking with someone & he mentioned that maybe he already had,\" When he said that, he was talking about you, dropping a hint which you didn\'t get.

Then he said \"maybe one day we\'ll find it\" followed by complimenting you calling you awesome. He would not be complimenting you like that if he was hoping to find that kind of connection with a girl other than you. Its you he\'s interested in. He\'s just not totally sure of how you feel about him because you aren\'t giving a lot of definite signs in return.

he asks me if he could call me to tell me, but I say no because I want an excuse to stare at him
No, no, no....don\'t be saying no unless you have a really good excuse like you\'ll be visiting grandma in the hospital that day/night. Say yes and encourage him.

Pay him compliments like, \"I\'d love to hear from you because hearing from you brightens my day. I enjoy talking with you and I love your stories. a guy who is complimented by the girl he is interested in is going to want to spend more time around her and with her.
Dont let the kids pointing and giggling keep you from being yourself with him, if that includes hugs, don\'t turn away from him. He could take that to mean you are not interested in him that way. He can\'t read your mind. And at your age, it\'s still hard to be sure what you are seeing when trying to read someone\'s face. Some adults never get that down very well either.

He may be the shy quiet type until he\'s gotten to know someone. That\'s what is called a person who is slow to warm up to others in public. But they can act very outgoing and friendly with those they know well...like this other girl for instance. Unless you have heard stories that he plays around with several girls at the same time, just by your descriptions of questions he asks and how he answers, those are not words a player would be speaking especially something like \"describe your perfect relationship\". A guy just wanting to have sex isn\'t going to give a crap what you think your perfect relationship is going to be.
I can\'t say for sure if this guy is anything like my husband but I have a guy who showers me with the kind of attention you are getting. There\'s no doubt in my mind that he Loves me. However, my husband would not be the mate he is to me if it weren\'t for his raw core values deep inside him. He feels his role as a male is to uphold and support me, but also to be of service to any female we come into contact with who may need his service or attention. Not to the point it distracts from me. With his psychology training and ability to pick up vibes from people, he has an uncanny ability to know when a female like the clerk at checkout needs a person to notice she exists, pay her perhaps the only compliment she\'s received that month. He commented on the stones of one older womans necklace. She cast a quick nervous glance at me which I easily could read. She was wondering how this man could pay her a compliment in front of me. I gave her a reassuring smile, to let her know I am not jealous. This husband of mine also has friends from his past, his best friends older sister for one, whom he used to flirt with, without serious intent behind it cus she was quite a bit older and had a boyfriend. But he kept that up through all the years so that he still does that if they happen to chat briefly on facebook. It\'s not a constant thing. Dont get me wrong. Very occasional and I know most of his old girlfriends and ex and have them as facebook friends too.

There is no competition. So maybe I could say that the complimenting or flirting part is unnecessary? Maybe. But not really, it\'s a part of how he expresses himself and helps any person feel good about themselves. This is something you will pick up on over time if you both are dating and seeing each other more often.
I am betting he is very much like my husband. My husband after sometime told me stories not only about any women he dated as your friend is doing, but he told me stories of his adventures as a youth, the troubles he and his pals got into. He didn\'t want to have any secrets in his past and wanted me to know, partly because he felt he could trust me to not get jealous. I have on many an occasion asked him specific questions about past relationships. It is good that your male friend doesnt feel he has anything to hide from you. I will say again that if he is everything I find my husband to be, that this friend is yours is rare indeed. If you have any other questions you come up with, just write me. As you can see, I dont mind long letters. Just be more open with him and say things to give him more clear hints like he did when he said he probably couldnt bear it if you ever moved away. In fact you could bring that convo up and tell him you\'ve been thinking about that too. Since no one knows what might come up in the future, you\'d like to enjoy time with him as fully as you can right now. So how about spending more time together away from school in person, not just on the phone.

I am a 23yo female. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. We graduated undergrad together, and will be joining each other in graduate school this fall. It is a serious relationship and though marriage is not on either of our minds, it is likely we will be together for quite some time. I love him a lot and we are able to share so much with one another which is great. He's a great guy all around but there's one thing that is slightly frustrating with him--he sucks at gift giving. It's not that he doesn't think to give them, he just chooses things that are almost like items I'd throw in my cart while grocery shopping, rather than things that seem at all thought out.

Some gifts he's given me are: the equivalent of a reusable shopping bag for carrying supplies around, an on-sale wine bottle (I am not a wine drinker), a pencil case, and most recently a cookbook (I don't cook). Some gifts I've given him have included a painting I made for him, a specific batch of cookies he'd mentioned he liked, his favorite cupcakes, a handmade leather sketchbook (he draws). He also never tries at all, even in the slightest to make the gift "gift-like", meaning generally I receive these things in the packaging they came in, or, better yet, in the shipping pouch Amazon sent it in (with the order summary included).

I know this is probably going to come off as me being greedy, but really it's not about that. I would be happy if he made me a card, or picked me a flower on a walk, or made a special dinner, or even just brought a new idea into the bedroom...because there would thought behind it and it would be personal. However, the gifts he gives always seem like material afterthoughts and it makes me feel silly for trying to think of things or gestures that would be special or meaningful to him.

It could be a cultural difference. In my family, gift-giving was never really about the gift so much as showing you care for the person receiving it. It didn't matter what it was, just that you were thinking of them. I get that the fact that he's given me gifts shows he 'thought' about me, but it always feels like he's just trying to satisfy a 'gift requirement', rather than think about what the gift actually means. I find it curious though because his mom gives very thoughtful gifts in comparison so I'm not really sure where he picked this up.

I feel like it's such a stupid thing to bring up and it will likely only make him feel bad about it for no good reason. I know I've mentioned in random conversations before how I feel about gifts and that they don't have to be material in nature to be special, etc. etc. I guess they just never really sunk in and I'm not sure what to do. I accept him even with his faults, but I keep getting random *stuff* that I don't necessarily need! How do I hint at this without hurting his feelings!?

I know that guys can suck at getting gifts but I find it odd he\'d leave them in the mailing packet with invoice. If he has a problem with gift wrapping, all he had to do was take it out of the mailing package and put it in an empty brown paper bag. or a gift bag, for those who have problems wrapping. But as you said, even if he did that, you still wouldn\'t like the gift.

If I understood you right, he\'s perfect in all other ways. So before we tackle what if anything to say, it may be more helpful to discover what your and his dominant \"Love language\" is...this would be the way that a person is comfortable showing they love someone which happens to be the way they also like to be shown love. Problem is, the way I like to be shown I am loved is not going to be the same for my partner.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_5_Love_Languages

Thats a link with a list of them. It may be that the boyfriend finds quality time from you as his favorite way of being shown love and so he would find it so much easier to spend quality time to show you love while giving of gifts doesn\'t come naturally. Once the two of you have talked about love languages and decided what your love language is, then perhaps if his is not giving of gifts which I am almost certain it won\'t be, and yours IS giving of gifts, then find out what you can do other than giving him gifts that are more meaningful to him out of the 5. This would be a natural setting in which to mention that since giving of gifts doesn\'t come as his natural love language, would he like having a list of suggestions for gifts for you as it gets close to your birthday, an anniversary or Christmas. I would think that he\'d be relieved especially if the two of you are discussing love languages. If he prefers acts of service, don\'t just guess what things you can do that would be most meaningful, ask him to help you too and give you some examples.
Hope this helps.

i was just rubbing my penis near pusy n sperm came out i dont knw whether sperm gone inside or not m so much worried but i didnt torn her hyman

If this was just yesterday or day before, suggest your girlfriend go to pharmacy or see her dr or Planned Parenthood for the morning after/emergency birth control pill. Otherwise you may become a father. If you and her want to regularly engage in sex, then she needs to be on birth control and you should wear condom at all times once the clothes come off.
Pre cum on the penis can get transfered to her hand or yours when doing a hand job and using the same hand right after on her near or in the vagina so sperm doesnt have to be transfered by penis only.

So I have a tendency for being paranoid i'm prego after sex.

I slept with a guy last week Sunday and again on this past Friday... He used a condom. I saw his cum chillin in the condom when he pulled out. I'm not on Birth Control. My periods are not usually regular....

Just a day after having sex the first time, I felt so nauseous on a bus. However, I do get motion sickness. Today, about a week after I had sex with him the first time, I feel so bloated. And I have random cramps.

Last night I think I was spotting barely - i wiped and it was just a little light brown. That's it!

Any thoughts on if I could be preggo? Or am I being SO paranoid!?

Again, I saw his cum IN the condom, never out of it. but still???!?? idk! HELP. and when should I take a pregnancy test??!!?

When getting the light brown in wiping, thats a sign your period is a little late usually due to circumstances other than pregnancy. As you\'ve been told, signs don\'t show up that fast.
Most common reasons for being late/seeing the brown when wiping is due to recent illness, or stress. So your very paranoia could be causing you to be late.

Bloating is something many women get just before starting their period, cramps too. Nauseousness may be a period symptom but wasn\'t commom for me. I only got it with my cramps if they were severe enough. So there is likely no chance you are preggerz. ISlate po you are this paranoid each time you have sex, you may want to go to Planned parenthood for birth control. Teens are welcome and it is confidential so no one need know.

I get along really well with my family, and I love them. But my mom is a very conservative Christian and I (secretly) disagree with her on many topics, and I don't want her to find out because it would negatively affect our relationship. The biggest thing I have to hide is that I am agnostic. If she found out, it would destroy our friendship. I also need to hide my views on politics, morality,and sexuality. How can I hide all of these things from her without her knowing so that we remain close?

Adviceman had some great advice for you. I agree at some point you will need to come clean with her at least on your religious views/beliefs. I wouldn\'t hit her with all of it at once. In time, it will become obvious that you don\'t see things religiously or sexually, etc...the same as her. I have had conversation with many people I met in pagan or buddhist beliefs who as a teen came to believe differently than their parents. I used to be Christian, so I can understand how your parents might believe they have every right to train you to what they believe is best. What they don\'t realize yet is that every belief out there has at least one piece of the truth and the rest is muddied waters by humans. So Christianity has some good points but doesnt have it all right either. If your are still a teen, and decide to talk to your parents now, be prepared that they may attempt to force you to see things and do things their way. So if you are under 18 and not adult yet, they pretty much have that right. If you are older, your beliefs and your choices on how to live your life are your own. They have no right to interfere. Christians are taught unconditional love. So as your parents, if they truly believed the religion they follow, they may be disappointed greatly and heart broke to discover your views dont match theirs. But at the same time they would love you no matter what. Learning your views, should not affect a parents love for their child. There are always a few who may distance themselves and try to withhold their love and act cold towards a child in this situation, but in most cases, parental love will win in the end. If you do any hiding at all dear, I would leave it up to you to do so if you are still under 18. Once 18, it is time to stop hiding because as you were told, eventually mom may sense something is up anyways and sit you down to ask some questions, and if so, follow the advice on how to talk to her. Good luck

Hi, first I'd like to give a brief history about me before I tell you my story. I'm 17/F. I have 2 older brothers and one younger. I have four older sisters. My parents and my family are not allowing me to date guys until I'm done with school.

My story is... I met a guy who was one of my brothers friend and we became friends for about a year and we fell in love and we have been dating for almost 2 years now. I love our relationship, we tell each other's everything and we are like bestfriends. I feel like I've found the one and I love him very much. Our relationship although has been kind of private. Only a few know about it like his mother and my younger brother. Because his family and my family have been friends, he's always telling me to tell my family about it so it's not private but I'm always scared because they would get mad at me and start drama. Recently I told one of my older sister and she was okay with it at first but then later wasn't very supportive and told me I should break up with him (because of his history) (he was a bit of a player) but I believe he changed. I told him everything and broke up with him but we are so in love with each other's that we can't let go of each other's. We still talk to each other's like we are still in a relationship and I have no clue what I should do.

The no dating while in school rule isn\'t all that extreme unless they are talking about more than high school. Most young people once done with high school are 18 and considered adults and can make their own decisions for their-selves, even if the decisions don\'t end up being the best.
Unlike your parents, I told my daughters to just watch the other girls who date for a while once they started high school. To see how long relationships lasted, how many different guys they end up breaking up with, the worries during the relationships and the pain of breakups are very distracting from school work, and will affect grades. After a short while into the school year, each of them saw for themselves the cycles dating girls went through and how their grades suffered. Each of my 3 daughters on their own decided not to date while in high school and kept to it. I told them that if by chance they did meet a guy in school and fall in love, I would want to meet him and get to know him, have him hang out at our place to get a feel for him and if us as parents saw anything that sent up red flags, they couldnt date the guy until they came to legal age of consent. They all agreed. What I did, I think was fair. I have no idea exactly whats in your parents minds or how they spelled it out so for now, I would say, keep your friendship low key. Once you turn 18, then make your own decisions and date him freely, not in secret. If in secret, subconsiously in your mind, you are agreeing with your parents that they should still be making it their business to make all decisions for you. I don\'t know if same rules applied to siblings or if they singled you out for some reason. I would hope they had a good reason for it if so. I hope this helps. Its going to be hard to wait until you can openly date. But if you plan to continue to live with the parents once 18, they may rules that apply while living under their roof, no matter what your age and that is generally the rule no matter whose house you live in, whatever their house rules are, you follow or move out. So if they put restrictions on you dating while 18 and living with them, I would suggestion that either you follow their rules, or find a job and move out with some friends together and then date whoever you please.
Hope this helps dear.

I'm a guy from America and I have a question about someone. See there's this girl `that used to be my friend but we slowly started to drift apart,acknowledging each other with nods or hi's. Then after about 6 months I gave her a note. The very next day she only glanced at me once and we avoided each other for like 8 months. I just want to be friends again. What do I do?

As we grow older we change and some of those changes can be in the type of friend we are now interested in. Someone who appealed to us in grade-school may not in middle/or high school, or college.

You didn\'t share if you knew what caused this drifting apart...and avoiding each other is not a \'cause of drifting apart\' but the effect of what ever caused it. Was there a misunderstanding, did some big changes occur in her life or yours that caused you to no longer have the same things in common? All I can say is ask if you can have one good in depth talk with her for old friendships sake. If she agree\'s ask if its that one or both of you have changed enough that she\'s feels she has nothing in common or ask if you\'ve said or done something to upset her. If an apology is needed, do so. But that still may not bring her back as a friend. This is one of the hard things in life. A friend I was real close to in school has kept in touch thru facebook after finding me there 7 yrs ago. Through what she posts and what she\'s written to me, I can see that life events have taken us in different directions and we no longer have anything in common. We don\'t hate each other, neither did anything to make the other hurt or upset, its just one of those envitable changes that come over time.

If she shows no interest to pick up the friendship, accept it but don\'t consider it a final thing. Keep the bridges open in case she rethinks this in the future and for whatever reason she comes back into your life, just welcome her back and continue on with the friendship instead of closing the doors on her because she stopped the friendship previously.

Good luck.

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