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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Ok guys this is kind of long...

Ok well I like this boy but he doesn't like me. I always get this feeling when I am around him. I want my friends to ask him to go out with me...but I don't want to give away that i like him because that would just be totally enbarresing, So i was wondering what my friends could say to him and to not give away that I like him...

We already have...
1. You should go out with her because you make such a cte couple

I need something by monday...

I rate 5's!!

Thanks A lot.



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In all honesty, I think the line you two make a cute couple is something that might work on a girl but not a guy. They don't give a hoot about looking like a cute couple. :)

I think a simple I think she likes you, do you like her. If he says yes then follow up with why don't you ask her out.

Forget not letting him think you like him. Young guys fear being rejected. If he doesnt think you like him...hes not going to risk asking.

Good luck with your guy. :)



what do you do when you find out that your loved ones are trying to hurt you, are insecure of you and not really
as good as you thought them to be......and it hurts to think that you have a grudge against sumone who helped change your diapers...what do i do??????? (link)
I'd really like to help but I don't think I can do a very good job with what you've given me.

I really don't mind if it gets a little long. If you would like to fill in a few details I will do my best to help you out. :)


i have a few questions if you would like to become an;

optomotrist (eye dictor)
dermatologist
or columnsit.

what would you major in. please write which each proffesion would major in.

i rate 5's on everything! (link)
1) Optometrist... usually receive their doctorate degree after four years of college pre-med courses and four years in an accredited optometry college. Optometry would be the major.

2)Dermatologists also have medical degrees in dermatology.

3) A columnist for a newspaper or magazine would first probably need a degree in journalism. A lot of columnists today, those that give advice like we do here, are psychologists at the very least. Probably to ward off lawsuits. :)


okay. i have had my period for about two years now and it has always been regular. this month im about five days late so far. i have never had sex, but is it possible for me to get pregnant still?... when i suck my stomach in, there is a little lump there and like wehn i push on it, it feels funny... could i be pregnant?! (link)
No you wouldn't be pregnant if you haven't had sex.

If you are feeling lumps in your stomach though that you don't think belong there, tell your mom about it. Get an appointment with your doc and have it checked out.

Anytime you feel changes that just don't seem right to you, have them checked. :)


i have what i thought was a bugbite on my hip. i noticed it about a week ago and it is getting smaller i think... it is a circle that is red with like dry skin in the middle. someone told me that it could be ringworm... im really paranoid about that.. so does it sound like ringworm?

PLEASE HELP (link)
Try putting some athletes foot cream on it. Ringworm and athletes foot are the same fungus.
It is not a "worm", in case you wondered. :)

If that doesn't work then check with your doctor, who can give you some more potent medicine for it.


I need some info. for my Social Studies project. I need facts about Ancient Rome's Government.

Anyone who gives me a really good website to help me out will deff. get a 5 star rating! (link)
Try some of these sites. :)

This one has the most info I think...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ancient_Rome#Government

http://www.cato.org/pubs/journal/cjv14n2-7.html

http://oncampus.richmond.edu/academics/education/projects/webunits/greecerome/Romegovt1.html



sorry idk what catagory to put this under but whatever.

every night i take a shower but every other night i use a shower cap and dont wash my hair. a few people at school said that its bad to wash your hair everyday. i know it strips the oils out but should i not wash it every night? should i not wash it 2 days in a row? my hair is really thick and after taking a shower, my hair gets frizzy. what are some ways i can prevent friz after taking a shower? also i straighten my hair every morning but i dont like burning it so much, i just hate having it so frizzy when i wake up. so, what are some ways i can keep the friz down after taking my shower (and the results will last long through the day).

it would be amazing if you can answer all the questions i had in that paragraph. thanks, ill rate high for anything you give me (link)
I found you a great site. I didn't know for instance that washing your hair to much can actually MAKE it frizzy.

I'll give you the tips page and then the specific one for hair washing. It depends on your hair type according to the article. :)

http://www.lhj.com/home/Hair-Tips.html

http://ww4.lhj.com/lhj/story.jhtml?storyid=/templatedata/lhj/story/data/hairswashing_03222002.xml


theres this = sad song, i think its called heaven 911 or something? well thats atleast what someone said. its like a little girl talking to her dad that died. its really sad. any, does anyone know what its called?
thankkks (link)
Do these lyrics by DJ Sammy sound right? :)


Artist: DJ Sammy Lyrics
Song: Heaven 9/11 Version Lyrics

It's been a year daddy
I really really miss you
Mommie says you're safe now
in a beautiful place called Heaven
We have your favorite dinner tonight
I ate it all up
even though i don't like carrots
I learned how to swim this summer
I can even open my eyes
when i'm under water
Can't you see me?
I started kindergarten this year
I carry around a picture of us
in my Blue's Clues lunchbox
You are the greatest daddy
I can swing on the swing by myself
even though i miss you pushing me
Can't you see me?
I miss how you used to tickle me
Tickle my belly
My belly hurts
I try not to cry
Mommie says it's ok
I know you don't like it when i cry
Never wanted me to be sad
I try daddy but it hurts
Is it true you're not coming home?
Maybe some day
I can visit you in Heaven, ok?
It's time for me to go to bed now
I sleep with the light on
just in case you come home
and kiss me good night
I love you so much
I miss you daddy





does putting toothpaste on pimples overnight seriously work? if so, how fast?
thanks * (link)
I honestly don't see why it would work. However it is mentioned a lot.

I have found a site that has hundreds of tips on how to be rid of the darn things. Check it out and see if any work for you.

Good luck! :)

http://www.ehow.com/how_168_treat-pimples.html


Ok my question is about my prom.... there is this guy at my school, and last week he was hinting a lot about prom and me... for example we went to the mall and he picked out a prom dress for me and told me i looked great in it (i looked horrible) and lots of other little things, now that i am thinking about asking him this week hes changed a bit, a doesn't mention prom as much. Does he still want to go with me( or did he want to go in the first place)? should i ask him? and how should I? i just want to go as friends and have a good time, but i am afraid of rejection. Thanks in advance (link)
Everyone fears rejection! I understand your nervousness.

Just ask him, would you like to go to prom with me? Ask him right now...go call him before you get cold feet.

He sounded interested enough to help you with the dress. He may think you don't want to ask him so has backed off a bit. Go call him. :)


okk. do you think its wrong if my boy friend goes on a date with me but we meet up with a bunch of my guy friends that he isnt friends with them. (link)
If your boyfriend agrees to it I don't see what would be wrong with it.

I am sure he would like to meet your friends and they him. He may even make some new friends himself.

Just make sure they don't get to horsing around and ignore you. Groups of males at all ages do that sometimes. :)


Hey, I'm 14 years old, I was just wondering if it is possible for a 14 year old to get the birth control pill, but only use it for like a month. Because, I'm going somewheres over the summer for 2 weeks at a camp, and my mom and i calculated the weeks, and most likely i'll have my period then...and i really dont want to get it, because i'll be taking a lot of classes, and i dont want to have to ask to use the bathroom all the time... I'm still using pads, i dont like tampons, maybe tampons would give me more time so i dont have to change my pad every hour...but, get back to me on that whole birth control pill. Thanks! {oh, sorry this was long, and no i dont plan on having sex, thats not what i need the pill for thanks!} (link)
I don't know if one month would do the job or not.

In order to get on the pill you have to have a pelvic exam and all that hoopla. If you go to that trouble it may just be a good idea to start taking it full time. Then you will always be certain of when you are getting your period. You
would be safe when the day comes you decide to have sex...even though it may be years down the road yet.

Discuss it with your mom and see what she has to say on the subject. I am sure your doctor can help you decide on which way would be the best for you. :)


what's rape? Is it forcing someone to have sex with you?? Cause i don't totally understand what is it. (link)
Yes. Thats about it.
Here is a website if you would like more detailed information. :)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape


Heather, I have been on birth control (orto-tri-cycilin) for about 2 years now. The first year was deifnitally rough constantally missing pills, so my period was always off. Anyways, I have been very consistent with taking them for over a year now, this past week was spring break and insted of taking them at 8am before school, i was taking them around 10am. Also, I ended up missing one half way into the week. I then started my period 2 days after missing it, and that lasted about 3-4 days. Two days after that I woke up the next morning and was bleeding again. It was from the night before. Then it stopped for that day and the next full day. Then it started again, and stopped for a day. And last night I woke up and have been on my period since last night.

Does this sound normal? I mean, could all of this be because of that one missed pill? Or should i definitally go and see a doctor.
Please help. Thank you.
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I would call your doctors office and talk to the nurse. She can tell you if this is a normal thing or if you should be checked out.

I can understand it starting the first time, the other times though are a little odd. All pills are a little different though so check with the doctors office. :)


Today at school my mates were saying that I look like Nanny McPhee! I do have a big nose & bushy eyebrows but I try not to care about looks at all, whereas looks are the most important thing in my mates lives.. it's not just my mates who think I look hideous, they printed a pic of Nanny McPhee & kept asking teachers if I looked like her, and they all said, "well I'm not trying to be mean.. but yeah, she does". Now I feel terrible, I have no confidence whatsoever as it is, I have huge problems with talking to people and stuff.. Anyway, how can I make myself not hideous and revolting? Thanks :\ (link)
You know what you should do? Go to the friend you trust the most and have her help you with a make over.

There isn't a girl around who couldn't use a little advice on makeup and hair and all that stuff. Get you some magazines, some web sites and
have a sleep over. It will be fun for both of you. :)

Here are some sites to get you started...

http://beauty.ivillage.com/

This part would be fun if you can figure out how to get your photo on it...

http://beauty.ivillage.com/makeovers/mom/0,,8q75,00.html

http://www.makeoversolutions.com/

Just punch makeover into your search engine for lots more sites.

Have fun! :)


im 14/f and my boyfriend is 15/m (im almost 15 hes amlmost 16) and we have had sex.we have known eachother for 13 years and been going out for 3. and i really care about him but lately hes been..."aggresive" and he yelled at me a few times..he NEVER did this before and im scared there is somthing wrong..what should i do??!!
(should i break up with him) (link)
I don't think you necessarily need to break up. I think you first need to ask him and see if something is bothering him. Find out if something is happening at home.

If he doesn't talk to you and continues the behavior, then you make the decision about breaking up. Which, I would do if he doesn't knock it off. :)


How do you pop someone's back? (link)
In all honesty you really shouldn't try to pop someones back. You could really mess someone up or break their ribs. :)


Is losing your virginity on prom night the worst thing ever??

cause me and my boyfriend are staying in a hotel with his bro and my best friend... but with 2 rooms?

Im a good virgin but i love my boyfriend... and i dunno if im ready... (link)
If you are unsure you are probably not ready.
There is nothing wrong with that.

Here is a site that may help you decide if you are really ready or not.

Whatever you decide, Have a great prom! :)

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html


Today in Life Skills, my school counselor told us girls "all 13-year-old boys care about is looks." (it's not a co-ed class) She also went on to say that 13-year-old boys only like girls with big boobs and a big ass. She said that they are very shallow, but the best thing for us to do is wait for them to grow up.

Is this really true? Do boys only notice boobs and butts on a girl and nothing else? It doesn't make me feel too good knowing that, because I certainly don't have a big butt and big boobs, and I'd like to have a boyfriend.

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A lot of boys may be that way. They are immature at 13...that's not big news.

I do think the teacher was kind of out of line to lump ALL 13 year old boys into that category.

All boys, no matter what age they are seem to be fascinated with boobs. They don't have to be "big" either. Its probably because they don't have them themselves.

So, don't feel bad. You will get a boyfriend one of theses days. 13 is a little young for a big romance anyway, but they will mature before long. :)


ok well i have a really close friend(a boy) he has really helped me get thro the last year without me wanting to slit my wrists or something.. i have found out that he is lyk in love with me.. its not even just a crush he is lyk totally serious and i dont want him to act lyk this..btw we went out for 2 years a year ago n i promised myself i wouldnt fall in love with him again because he is amazing.i dont know how to say i dont want to go out with him but i still want to be friends...what should i do?

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Here is a good site that will help with what to say.

Good luck. :)

http://www.ehow.com/how_13955_tell-someone-you.html

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Sorry you don't like to read!

Great info there if anyone else cares to check it out. :)




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