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Bye bye boyfriend?
im 14/f and my boyfriend is 15/m (im almost 15 hes amlmost 16) and we have had sex.we have known eachother for 13 years and been going out for 3. and i really care about him but lately hes been..."aggresive" and he yelled at me a few times..he NEVER did this before and im scared there is somthing wrong..what should i do??!!
(should i break up with him)
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This is when you've got to take a step back and look at the whole picture. It might be a miscommunication or him suddenly realizing that he is afraid of serious commitment or something like that. Try to analyze this with a neutral point of view; start about a week before this started happening and try to think it all through up to now. Maybe one of you guys took something wrong?
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He's at an age where hormones and sexual urges will be starting to appear and it looks as though he's starting to find it hard to control himself when you are kissing. As for the shouting, I wish I knew what to tell you but there could be so many reasons for this.
I don't think you should break up with him just yet but I do think you ought to try talking to him about all of this. You need to be able to talk to him about these things so give it a go. Sit him down and explain that you don't like the way he clambers on top of you when you kiss because it seems that he wants something you aren't ready for yet. Also say you're worried you might have done something to upset him or that something is bothering him because of the way he shouts.
After this, if he still doesn't listen, especially when it comes to the problem with kissing, you might need to think about letting him go.
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Breaking up with him shouldn't be the first answer, unless he hurt you, then you should break up with him imediatly! What you should do is talk to him and tell him how you feel. The more you tell him and less you hide things the better your relationship will be. If you don't have comunication in your relationship, it will fail. Tell him that he is scaring you and that you want to know what is going on, and tell him that if he can't treat you better that you will break up with him. If he doesn't listen and continues to do it warn him one more time and then break it off. Don't let him take it to far, if he threatens you, tell an adult. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!
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I don't think you necessarily need to break up. I think you first need to ask him and see if something is bothering him. Find out if something is happening at home.
If he doesn't talk to you and continues the behavior, then you make the decision about breaking up. Which, I would do if he doesn't knock it off. :)
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