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I want to commit suicide in a peacefull and painless way without jumping infront of moving cars , Laying on a railway track ,jumping from a 17 storey building ,cutting my wrists,taking any kind of a tablets.The remedie i,m looking here for should be 100% death guaranteed without any failures.I would prefer to go to bed at night or day and fall of to sleep and never wake up again.If a had a firearm it would have been easy for me.Please help me with advice which is guaranteed. Thank you
As A long time member of a fire department rescue squad I can back up what alexigirlie has said. "There is no painless way to die." Life is not like Hollywood where the actor passes quietly in their sleep. At some point the pain kicks in and a call for help goes out. That's were people like me come in. Sometimes we win and sometimes we loose. When we loose the person we are trying to save dies a painful death even with the doctors trying their best.
What I have learned and what I can tell you is; that whatever you problem is that is causing you to want to die. That problem is not so big that it can't be made right. Your problem is at the moment you are too involved and too depressed to see the solution or what can be done to correct the problem or where to turn to for help.
alexigirlie already gave you the number for the National Suicide Prevention Hotline, I will give it to you again. The number is 1-800-273-TALK (8255). By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7. People better able to help you than we are since they can also talk to you one one one.
I am also going to include another number since many suicides are the result of Rape or abuse. There is another organization known as RAINN. Which stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. The people who answer this Hotline are also better trained and better capable than we are to help you and help you find the right people to continue helping you feel better about yourself and solve your problem(s). That number is 1-800-656-HOPE.
There is no problem to big that it cannot be resolved with the right kind of help. No one wants to see you hurt yourself. IF you do feel suicidal pick up the phone and dial 911. Help will be sent to you.
Please trust us when we say there is help for whatever is troubling you. All you need do is ask for it and you will be given that help.
Tonight was like the 200th time we argued.We cannot stop fighting.Now,I know nothing about him because evrytimme we have an argument we just hang up the phone and stop talking to each other for awhile.But I'm sick of the this situation happening over and over again.What can I do with him?What can I do with my relationship?Thanks in advance:)
From where I sit without any other information. The answer seems simple enough. You break up with him and find someone you can have a more normal relationship with.
Arguing does not make a relationship or maybe it does in some strange sort of way. What it is not is a loving relationship and both of you will be better off if you terminate the relationship before the arguments turn physical and someone gets hurt.
This is probably not the advice you want to read. It is though the best advice as it is the safest advice for you. That is what is important to me. What advice I can give that will keep you from being harned even if you, at present, do not see this as the harmful relationship it is.
Hi.. I'm 12 years old, female.
So yesterday, I got done eating and I asked my OWN dad for some gum. Then, he said "It's all 'candy candy candy gum gum gum' with you. " That's when I just wanted to cry.
And that's not all. Kids at school call me names too. I told them and all they did was tell them to stop - they didn't!! I told them again and they said "Well they should express their facts and opinions". I told my mom and she didn't care. They can't move me to another school.
I've been counting my calories for over a year now. On the app I had, I set it for 1200 calories I eat.. I may drop it down to just 1000.
My calves are fat, my chin is fat, my butt is fat, my stomach is fat (I seriously have to suck it in), my cheeks are fat.. Pretty much it. I hate my body and I want to go anorexic. Yeah, yeah anorexia is bad for your body but it will be better for me! I'm thinking about starving myself..
First you have presented two problems here. Being teased at school is one of them. The other is what you believe is a weight problem.
Let me first say that I am old enough to be your grandfather. The advice I am about to offer you is in the vain of a grandfathers advice.
As for being teased at school. This is a nationwide problem that all schools now have a zero tolerance for. If you are being teased you should go to one of your teachers or the school principal and report those who are teasing you. Even if these kids tease you after school as well as in school you need to report them.
You have every right to attend school without fear. Without being teased or harassed in any way before, during or after school. If you are being teased or harassed the school system must take remedial action against those students who are teasing you or harassing you. You do not need your parents to report this.
Now as to your weight. A very good friend of mines daughter died a year or so ago because she was anorexic. Even though the doctors tried to correct this condition she had so harmed herself she could not be saved. She was a Ballerina in a major ballet dance company. This caused her to keep her weight well below what was healthy which lead to her death at an age not much older than you.
You are 12 years old and think you are overweight and fat. You may be, I can't say because I don't know you. I do know someone that can say and who can tell you what your weight should be and if you should be concerned about your weight at this time. That person would be your family doctor or pediatrician.
You are 12 probably just going into puberty. A lot of what you are calling fat may be what we call baby fat and is needed by your body to feed the hormones of puberty which will transform your body from that of a girl child into a young women. Dieting and wasting that stored fat will delay those changes.
Dieting without the knowledge of just what your weight should be based on you age, height and total body BMI is dangerous. While you may not be totally anorexic. Being 10 pounds underweight is more dangerous then being 10 pounds overweight.
Since I do not know you, but I do know how body sensitive preteens are: My advice is to ask mom to make an appointment for you with your doctor. You will need or should see your doctor before starting a diet anyway. Discuss with your doctor what your ideal weight should be. Get advice on a proper diet and exercise program. Then set up appointments with you doctor to monitor your progress. This way your doctor can make sure that while you are dieting you are not harming yourself.
How do I get a girl with me I have been rejected like three times and I'm 11
The two advisers before me may have been a little direct though they are correct. What is your hurry to grow up? You are only 11 and may not have even started through puberty yet. You are probably in sixth or seventh grade in school an most importantly not even a teenager yet.
At your age you should be more interested in GI Joe's, cars and trucks, sports and other things. Girls your age, like you, are too young to date. I would not let my 11 year old daughter date, even to mall date. Neither would I allow my son to date. You are just too young.
Relax give yourself time to grow up and learn about life and the world around you first. You have at least 4 or 5 years before you should start any serious type of dating.
thaks gods helper u erallly saved my life i didnt enter the initial question i just wanted to die u are really an angel or a saint
I can't be sure if I was one of the advisers' who answered your question. In case I was, thank you for letting us know we had a positive effect on your life.
It is for people like you that we are here to help. Just remember we will always be her for you if you ever need us. Once again thanks for letting us know you are okay.
So me and my girlfriend were having sex, she has been on the Depo Proverba shot for about 4 months and has never been late. During one of our positions I realized that my condom had came off so we stop and I get it out. It was deep in so there was no way I could see what was in it, but I know that I never got off inside of her. Also I had urinated since the last time I got off so I feel like the pre-cum should be clean as well. After I got the condom out we completely stopped having sex, so should I be concerned about her being pregnant?
The chances are slim that she is pregnant. Having been on birth control for as long as she has should mean she is well protected against pregnancy. POrotectged to whatever the percentage is for the Depo shot is, which I believe is around 99%, the same as the pill.
I would not be too concerned at this time. In the future when wearing a condom just make sure it is on securely before having intercourse. The condom is just another layer of protection against pregnancy making an unwanted pregnancy as close to 100% as you can get without abstaining from sex altogether.
Hi! So I'm at a young age (11-13.. Hint hint). And I hate my body so i've been wanting to get anorexic, but I decided that wasn't a good idea. So I decided I should get into excersizing.
I did a little research and there are excersize routines that makes you get muscle (which makes you look heavier) and I don't want that. I just want to lose weight.
What are some excersize routines to make me lose weight and not gain muscle?
(Telling me to not worry won't do anything.. I'm now teaumatized. Just please help :(. )
WARNING - WARNING: TO BE UNDERWEIGHT IS MORE HARMFUL THAN BEING OVERWEIGHT.
Exercise is always good, but exercise for the right reasons. You haven't said how tall you are or how much you weigh or what you skeletal frame size is. All of these are factors in what a proper wight for you should be. If you are in fact over weight then yes exercise to reduce your weight is good.
At 11 to 13 years old the pudginess you may be seeing as fat may not really be bad fat. It may be the fat your body has been storing waiting for you hormones from puberty to kick in and transform you from a girl child into a young women and in a few more years a young lady.
If you diet and loose to much weight your body in an effort to keep itself running properly will feed upon this fat. IF that happens the things you are weighting for won't happen or if they have started they will stop. Your breast won't grow, your period will not come and your body will not reshape itself as you desire.
These are facts not parental fairy tails. These are the first problems people who are anorexic undergo as do those who over exercise such as Olympic athletes.
Before you head down the wrong road you need to find out just what your true weight should be. The best person to ask this of is you family doctor or pediatrician. A doctors visit before starting an exercise routine is necessary anyway to get your doctors approval and have the doctor monitor your progress while working out. It is a safety factor that needs to be followed.
My recommendation is ask mom to make a wellness appointment with your doctor before you start a workout program and get the facts from your doctor first.
15/f and i ended an emtionally abusive relationship with my dad, a narc of three years about a month ago. and i didnt even know that it actually was an abusive, mentally, verably, and emotionally relationship until it ended and i looked it up online. i used to be so popular, confident, sometimes overly confident, silly, hilarious, spontaneous, and unfiltered. now its really hard for me say what i think when i want, becasue i used to do that but now i feel like i have to watch what i say all the time. its all because my dad. this is just one example he would say things in front of me, bashing my mom always bad motuhing her, then he would say make sure you dont say that to your mom. and my dad would not email, text, call nothing to my mom make plans with me so i was always in the middle and it was so bad i would have panic attacks due to stress.because my dad is crazy and fucked up and all he wanted to do was create drama he was so needy that my life became about him and i lost so many friends, my grades went down alot, i got benched at the sport i love and now im still struggling. i feel insecure and out of place. i was condidering going on anxiety or depression medication but im not sure. i heard celexa is really good for majority of people like adults or teens. but if i go on it i dont want to have to depend on it and never come off it. i just want to be me so bad and its so hard and feel like it will never end. this tired, gloomy, depressive, insecure, unfolding feeling will never go away. i got the worst out of my life so and i feel so much releived about it and i actually told him how i felt and the truth so why am i still depressed? i just want my normal life back? i know you can say go excerise go do this and that, and i do i want to do all of that but i just give up becasue you know your still going to be depressed. what can i do? ps i go see a therapist every 2 weeks since about 2.5 years ago
Before I start my answer to you let me just say I know about depression and how it hurts having suffered from it myself.
To be in therapy for as long as you have and to still be feeling as you do tells me you may need medication to help you climb out of your depression. Depression has several different descriptions or diagnoses and types. The most common type is clinical depression which I am guessing you suffer from.
One of the major factors in clinical depression is stress and the lack of or the inability of the body to create enough of the two hormones that control mood swings. Not being a doctor I cannot say with any real certainty about this. In your case though generally speaking people put on antidepressants only need them for a year to eighteen months or so.
What I am going to suggest is you seek out a Board Certified Psychiatrist to be evaluated on just what type of depression you suffer from as well as to find out if an antidepressant will be helpful in your recovery.
Seeking a Board Certified Psychiatrist is important as in many states any MD who did a residency in psychiatry during their residency program may practice psychiatry. Where as a Board Certified Psychiatrist has completed a Fellowship program and other programs to pass certain criteria to be accredited and accepted into the College of Certified Psychiatrists. This is the doctor you want treating you.
Why a psychiatrist over your family doctor? Simple it is not that your crazy. It is that the hormones I spoke of earlier are secreted into the brain making the psychiatrist the better trained doctor to prescribe and treat this condition.
Since stress is a major factor in depression. Finding the triggers for your depression and ways of avoiding or at least limiting them is important. I went through three different therapist before I found one I was comfortable with; who I could talk openly with; confident that what I said staid between us. Comfort with your therapist and trust in your therapist is important.
Once you have been seen by a psychiatrist you may also want to seek out a new therapist. For being in therapy as long as you have with no marked improvement in how you feel means to me something between you isn't working.
I know how horrible it is to suffer from depression. Please trust me when I say there is a light at the end of the tunnel and you will get better and feel better about yourself and the world with the right type of help.
Ask mom to make arrangements for you to see a psychiatrist to be evaluated for proper medication as well as a recommendation for a new therapist. Someone you are comfortable with.
i am male 21,can i ask hot photos from my gf she is 20 and i like her boobs and i want to see it,since we are from india we follow certain culture and i dont know hoe to tel but i always want to touch her boobs but she never let me to tht ,twice i have done it,can i ask photo of boobs of her,if so how can i get her boobs photo from her because i wna to see it ,sure i am going to marry her only
I would suggest you not ask her to send a photo of her in state of nakedness considering where your from and the culture of your people. It could be dangerous for her to do so. It would also be very dangerous for her to try and send a photo of that type to you as there is only one way to do so.
Given where you live she would have to take a digital photo of herself and then send it electronically to you over the web. I don't think she could take a standard photo of herself and have it developed as it would not be returned to her. It probably would be a violation not only of local customs but of obscenity laws as well.
Sending any naked pictures of women over the web is fraught with danger of the picture falling into the wrong hands. How would you feel if the picture meant for your eyes only were to fall into the wrong hands and end up on a commercial website for all the world to see.
My suggestions is if you intend to marry this girl that you wait until your wedding night. Then I am positive she will allow you the pleasure of viewing her in her entirety not just her breasts. This I believe would be within the customs of your culture and safer for her.
I know this is not the answer you wanted. It is the safe answer so that hopefully you two can marry and look forward to a long life together. One with out worry that other men are drooling over a picture of your wife.
My Fiance and I are thinking about getting Married this winter. We don't have much money but we are going to try to save up the most we can. We want to have a private ceremony. Him, I a priest and I would like a photographer there. To vow our love to each other so we can really embrace, feel our love. Then in a couple years we would like to have a bigger ceremony, renew our vows and have our family, friends there. My question is what can we do to make our private ceremony special. I want the priest to say words very true and beautiful. I would like the entire ceremony to be very nice and special. Ideas please?
My wife and I were married by a Circuit Court Judge in his Chambers. This was arranged for by my Uncle who was an Auxiliary Police Officer. The cost of the Ceremony was a donation to a charity of my choice. Being a firefighter myself I made a $150.00 donation to the welfare fund of the local fire department. Their is now a bell, and has been for 41 years, on one of their fire trucks with our names on it and the date of our wedding.
After the ceremony when we left the building, the fire station and court house were in the same building, the on duty fire fighters had an arch of crossed Pike Poles for us to walk under. My parents then took both families out to lunch.
We had even thought about flying out to Las Vegas to get married. Given that we both worked for an airline that flew to Las Vegas and that my wife worked in the tour department the Airline was going to arrange for a very nice Honeymoon for us there. They eventually did arrange a honeymoon for us when we flew to San Fransisco but that's another story.
We caved into my mothers wishes that we have a ceremony at home that all the immediate family members could attend. We gave in with the understanding that it had to meet with our approval or we would not be their.
Total cost for our wedding was $500. Even today you can have an inexpensive wedding. Friends of my son just married. They had a small reception and ceremony at a very nice place for family and friends. Total cost for the 50 guests under $2000. No band just dinner and a Garden Ceremony. After dinner they and their friends went bar hopping.
Moral of my story is you can have the wedding you desire without a lot of cost. Just stick to your guns and don't let family or friends badger you into having more than you can afford or want.
Congratulations and I wish you two a long and happy life together.
i want to have sex with my best friend but he doesn't know
Since I do not know your ages it makes answering this question a bit difficult. I will assume for the purpose of my answer you are both young teenagers.
When it comes to sex we all come in to our own, so to speak, at different times. A lot of this has to do with puberty and hormones. More of it has to do with teachings both at home and at Church or Temple.
Then there is the fact that you are best friends. There are to sure ways to ruin a friendship. The first is to loan your best friend money. The second is to have sex with them.
Having sex with someone is a very intimate act. What if the sex is not as you expected. Men/boys always have performance anxieties. He is going to want to make sure he pleases you. If he doesn't how will you feel about him afterward.
Another problem boys have as well as men is the size of their penis. What if his penis is smaller than you expect? Will you laugh at him and run away? What if his penis is so large that you get scared and run away?
With a so called stranger, someone who is not his best friend first and then becomes his lover; these problems are not as important. But when you think about having sex with your best friend they become very important because not only does it make the sex bad or impossible. It makes it possible that you will lose your best friend.
I would not, all though I have desired to do so, have sex with my best friend. I grew up with her. We went through puberty together telling each other everything, something quite unusual for two people of opposite sexes. We dated once it was a disaster. We remained and still are best friends. Giving each other advice and shoulders to cry on.
I would love to have sex with her as she is a beautiful person both inside and out. We learned in trying to date that our relationship worked best if we remained friends and not to take it any further.
Her husband knows of our feelings for each other and is fine with it. He and I have become best friends too. Even though we now live thousands of miles apart we remain close thanks to the phone and the web.
My advice is if you want to remain best friends; keep having sex with him as a fantasy.
Is it normal for a 45 year old same sex female friend to want to share a bed and spoon? I am not sure if I am missing signals or reading more into the situation. Do friends climb into bed with you and then drape their legs over yours wearing just underwear and tell you if you were a man I would marry you? I don't know what to think here.
In today's world there has come to be a fine line line between acceptable and unacceptable; as opposed to normal vs abnormal. Being gay or bi is not or no longer considered abnormal. On the other hand it may be an unacceptable behavior or lifestyle for you.
Was you friend trying to send you a signal? Probably; if so by doing nothing or giving off any feeling of revulsion you sent back to her that what she was asking or offering was just not you.
My thoughts about what happened is not so much was this normal for her to do. In her world it might be, in your world it is not. The lines between the two possible worlds, if she is gay or bi or bicurious, have become very blurred.
The facts are she did it. By what you have written you were repulsed by it and that should be then end of it. Should she try again simply ask her to go back to her own bed as you are not comfortable sharing your bed with another women.
I know this will sound as if I am buying something shady, but I am not! My credit card is one, which my parents added to their account (as I am a student and do not qualify for a credit card) and the system we agreed to was that whenever I buy something, I just have to transfer the money to my parents from my normal account to theirs. (as they pay the bill). Simple enough.
However, I wish to order my mother a birthday present from Amazon, but I do not know if the name of the item shows up on the statement or just price and "Amazon UK" or whatever.
It would be a shame for me to order something and then it would be ruined as she would see it on the statement herself before she receives the gift.
Would anybody be so kind as to tell me whether the name of the product or the name of the seller shows up on the statement? :)
Amazon UK may work differently then how they work here in the USA. Which is to say what I see on my credit card statements may be different than what may be seen on your statements in your country as different laws may apply.
There is a simple way to answer your question though. Call or email the Amazon customer service center on the website and ask them this question. They are your best source to answer just what they are required to put on the statement.
I have been freaking out for the past 2 days, i even left school today because i was guna throw up becuase im scared shes pregnant, me and her where just messing around, i was masturbating her and then we wanted to know what if felt like, so i took my penis out and put it on her vagina, i did not put it in, not at all. just touched it. I may have had pre cum on my penis but not positive, we are both virgins, never had sex before nor have i ever put it in her. Shes on birth control for acne which im unsure if it prevents pregnancy, im pretty sure its the same stuff. Im only 16 and i cant handle a child in my life, nor can she. I think im just scaring my self and worrying about nothing but please tell me if im okay and that shes not pregnant, is she pregnant or not?! im really scared and have been feeling sick for the past few days. please help me ):
Please tell me if i should worry or not
First: Birth control medication is birth control regardless of why it is prescribed. Certain medications have other benefits than their primary benefit. In this case whatever the primary medication is in the birth control medication is to prevent pregnancy. It has an added benefit of controlling acne in women. Birth control medications are 99% effective in preventing pregnancy.
So stop worrying it is unlikely you made her pregnant for this reason and others. But let this be a lesson to you that your penis should never come near a girls vagina unless it has a condom on it. Regardless of whether or not she is on birth control. You do not want to be the unfortunate 1% that the birth control fails. wearing a condom reduces that 1% down to almost zero percent.
Besides this getting a girl pregnant is a lot more complicated then it seems. The sperm actually has to be inside her vagina, travel up through her reproductive system and meet with an egg that has been ejected from her ovaries and be fertilized.
This only happens for a very short time during her menstrual cycle. This time is called "Ovulation". Then the fertilized egg has to seat itself in her womb. All this has to happen in order for a women to become pregnant.
Seems simple enough that if two healthy people make love they can make a baby. Its not, if conditions are right 9 months later people are calling you mom and dad. So this is why we parents are always telling you to wait. Not to even fool around as you did. For if conditions are right and there are no birth control precautions taken you could be parents before your time.
Even if precautions are taken condoms alone are only 85% effective and as I said birth control pills are 99% effective. The two together are almost 100% effective.
I know you asked a simple question and I gave you more of an answer then you were looking for. I felt the information I provided was needed both to calm you down and to educate you as well. You have given yourself a good scare learn from it.
i used to masrubate daily,and it becomes habits for me pls help me ,i want to stop it,even i feel always to touch and see my gf boobs,i jerked by seeing her photo,one of my testis become lower is that bad :(,i fear that i wil get STD like that or AIDS ,more over i want to control asking hot photos from my gal,please help me
Whoever told you that you can get an STD or AIDS from Masturbation; either lied to you or does not know better themselves.
STD stands for; Sexually Transmitted Disease. Which means you must be having sex with someone to transmit an illness or disease. You really need to read up on this yourself to find out how STDS and AIDS are transmitted and what precautions to take before you have sex with anyone. You will find plenty of this type information on the web.
Masturbation on the other hand is safe as it is something you do alone to yourself that is perfectly normal. So normal that according to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate. This survey included adults and teenagers.
So stop fretting. You cannot give yourself an STD or AIDS, at least not that we currently are aware of and there are no known cases of this happening to someone who only masturbates. So if you enjoy doing so there is no reason to stop.
Hey guys. 17 f. I'm young enough for being such neurotic as I am by now. My usual angriness with something ends up with broken fists. The problem is I can't take anything in stride- everything could get me lost of self- control. Actually before today it didn't worried me, but I've just found myself crying because of things I can't explaing as there aren't simpy any of them. What should I do? Hope you could give me some help.
From what you have written it would appear you have a problem with anger management and possibly a form of depression. Are these two problems linked? Possibly I really don't no and can't say for sure as I am not a doctor.
What I do know having suffered from depression myself, is that depression causes you to see things, or not accept things as they are presented to you. They are in a sense sort of out of focus to you. This could be why you fly of the handle so easily.
To find out is you are suffering from some form of depression starts with a trip to your family doctor. You asked to be screened for depression. The doctor will ask you a number of questions. Based on your answers the doctor will be able to make a diagnose. At that point your doctor will most likely want to do a complete physical to rule out any organic causes he or she can treat.
Then your doctor will either prescribe medicine and or send you to a psychologist for talk therapy. Your doctor may want you to see a psychiatrist, no you are not crazy. Psychiatrists are better able to prescribe for this than a family doctor as they are better trained to handle clinical depression. Clinical depression is caused by the lack or missing chemicals in the brain that control mood swings. This is generally caused by stress.
Proper medication and talk therapy are needed to help you. The talk therapy will help you identify and deal with the stress. The proper medication will deal with the missing chemicals.
Given your age it would not be out of the question that clinical or teenage depression is what you may be suffering. Not to long ago what doctors are now calling teenage depression we parents called a phase children went through. We now better know.
We know that teenagers have a lot of stress put on them, especially female teenagers. The stressors come at them at school, at home and socially. At your age their is the added stress of waiting to hear on college acceptance.
So take heart your not alone and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. See your doctor and asked to be screened for depression. You may even be able to be screened at school in the health office.
18/F
There is a boy I went to school with that I have had a crush on for awhile now so we finally started texting about 4 months ago, and we Finally hungout one day. We went to this beach and smoked and had a really good time, it seemed like we had lots of chemistry. We kissed at the end of the night. The problem is that he is always busy. He goes to college and has a job and puts his friends before everything so he never has time to hangout or even talk. I text him first probably 90% of the time. So we hungout again about a month ago and we ended up having sex. That was a month ago and we haven't talked since. I haven't texted him and he hasn't texted me.
So basically i'm thinking he used me? He just wanted to have sex? When we hungout it really seemed like we had a connection and he liked me but am I wrong, should I just give up?
I really liked him though.
I believe your feelings are correct. If he had any feelings for you than a convenient sex object when he needed you he would make the effort to contact you. It does not take but a minute to send a few lines of text saying he is busy but he misses you.
My suggestion is you find someone else. You deserve better. If he does contact you again; tell him to go find a knothole some place for that is all he really needs or his fist.
my name is Rachel and i am 23 year old female and on Saturday there was a shooting in front of my house and ever since i have not been able to sleep and when I do go to sleep I have night mares about the shooting because they still have not found the killer and he looked at me before he ran off and my 2 niece's and my nephew was outside on the porch with me when it happened they saw it to. I also wake up in the middle of the night screaming. I am afraid that he is going to come back and kill me and my niece's and nephew because we saw him shoot the guy and my nieces are only 11 years old and my nephew is only 9 years old we are all scared to even go outside during the die every where i turn i am paranoid because i am scared and afraid for my life. I am never home anymore because i am scared to go home especially at night when i am home i sleep with my mom because i am scared if i am by myself i will next even writing about it scares me. Is this PTSD? how do I get over my fears? please help me. I want to be able to live a normal life.
I am not so sure this is PTSD as much as I am sure it is a real fear of what reality is today. Have you spoken with the Police? Did you tell them what you saw? Did you give them a description of the killer? If you did you can ask them for protection which they should supply as you would be a material witness. If you haven't told the Police what you know then they cannot protect you even though your fears are real.
PTSD is; Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which is part of what you may be suffering. In reality though you are suffering the real fear that the killer will want to eliminate any witnesses to his crime. There are to my mind only two ways to handle this problem; A)You either move with no forwarding address and have no contact, ever again, with those you leave behind; or B) you go to the Police and tell them what you know in exchange for protection for you and your nieces and nephew.
If you are suffering from PTSD you first have to put and end to the cause of the suffering. In your case that cause is a real fear of harm that could befall you. You can't fix one without taking care of the other.
If you have told the police what you know and they have refused you protection, call the prosecutors office and ask for witness protection. As I said as a witness to the crime I believe you are a material witness and the prosecutor will want you protected and available for trial. You tell the prosecutor without protection for you and the children you have little choice but to move and go where no one, including them, can find you.
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Hi!
I'm 25, and a girl - woman? Something. Because this may matter, I'm also 5'3" and about 117lbs. I'm a runner. I have essentially zero experience with dogs, as I've been afraid of them my whole life. A couple of years ago, I found something scarier, and my fear of dogs just... disappeared.
So, I know this dog. He belongs to my boyfriend, and I've taken him on walks and stuff. He listens to me, for the most part, but he's 2 years old, and VERY high energy for such a big dog.
Being in the field of psychology, I'm very aware at all times of what kind of energy I'm giving off. This dog picks up on vibes like crazy. If I calm down, so does the dog. If I get riled up, he does, too. If I'm upset, he noses my arm until I smile and pet him. What the heck is he gonna do when I'm giving off running energy?
Does anyone have any tips as far as getting him to keep pace next to me and not run after things like squirrels? He's just so spazzy, it worries me a little. I don't want to lose my hold on him and have him get hurt, or worse, someone else! He's a sweet dog, he's just... big and bouncy.
Thanks!
Flare had some good advice. I will suggest that you also visit a good pet store and ask their advice about a good training collar to use while running with the dog or a good harness. I prefer the harness as it is more comfortable for the dog and gives you better control.
Start of by walking with the dog on the route you plan on running. This is to get the dog familiar with the routine. Use the suggested harness and training techniques to keep the dog by your side. You can increase your pace to a jog and then to a run as the dog gets into the routine.
From what you have written it appears the dog loves you and will be a good running partner. Not only will the running be good exercise for the dog but the dog will be an excellent protector for you while you are running. Nothing like a big German Shepherd to keep people with bad intentions at bay. I don't care how friendly the dog may be.
We have a mixed breed dog who is one of the most docile dogs I have ever met. But don't make a wrong move towards me or my wife, especially my wife. She will tear you apart. She is 60 pounds and went up against a neighbors dog twice her size to protect my wife when that dog got out and came after my wife. Surprisingly the bigger dog backed down that is how mean she can get if she needs to be.
You have made a good choice in a running partner. You just need to take a little time to train the dog. German Shepherds are very smart so it won't take long.