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How can a Christian control sexual urges/desires?
With masturbation
I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. Initially when we got together he had a high porn addiction, but now we have been living together for a year and even longer than that, he's been watching it in reasonable amounts and for instance if I'm gone for the weekend.
I'm fine with that, but what concerns me is that his content choice is everything that I am not...
I.e he's always searching for threesomes, big boobs (I'm not even that small, I am a big C cup), hot redheads and anal.
From a guy's perspective, is this a reflection on everything I am not, or is it simply the small turn ons or even compensation; I have told him I'll never have a threesome as it never is as awesome as porn makes it seem & I don't think it is something for a serious couple.
I'm up for anal but he's never made the effort to commit to it - it takes both of us to make it happen & yes it requires more work than it does in porn but he's not even up for buying lube.
So please settle my mind by telling me what exactly guys see their porn choices as, desires? Simply just naked people fucking?
Guys are visual
He may not just have a porn addiction but he may very well be addicted to sex. If it is to the point where his habit is affecting your relationship then you may want to talk to him about seeing a therapist or even couples counseling. In order for this to get better, He needs to want to help himself. If he refuses to save the relationship by getting help then you may be in for a long haul
So I've been on a date once with a guy so I didn't have to worry about any planning, but I want to take this girl on a date, but my parents won't give me a lot of money right now. I was originally going to take her bowling but does anyone know any creative not too expensive date ideas that she'd probably like?
Try mini golf, Movie offers days were they have discounts, Park, Beach, Mall, Cafe
17/F
I would love a guys opinion, but if you are a girl and you have ideas that's great!
I was wondering, what are some cute thing that you and your boyfriend/girlfriend do when you hang out? Like, go to the park, go on walks, watch movies and cuddle, etc. We usually do these things, but I want to do something with him that wont cost too much money or gas haha. Thanks so much!
My husband and I do a thing called "Date night"
On Tuesday's our local theater offers tickets for half off, You could call and see what days your theater offers discounts.
We also do picnics, gym, cook together and rent a red box, Sometimes we will even go to our college and use the pool when they do community swim for $5.00 a person.
Mini golf is cheap, Do you have a Monster mini golf? Try switching up the parks, beaches. Go to a cafe etc
Hello. My bf and I have been going out for almost two months. We used to talk to each other a lot and send messages back and forth on Instagram. But since summer started he has stopped texting me and responding to my Instagram comments. On the other hand, his cousin and I are really good friends. And we talk to each other everyday. I've also formed a little crush on him and he has too. Then yesterday on Instagram, his ex (who I truly hate) sent me a comment on Instagram asking if him and I were still going out. What should I do because I really love my current bf but I'm afraid he doesn't like me or has cheated on me!
Sweetie, If your boyfriend has not been responding to you in awhile, Then he may just not be as into the relationship as you say he is. You sound as if you made up your mind, You like his cousin and that is okay. However to give you the heads up that if you date his cousin it may cause some hard feelings. As for his ex, You should say nothing to her as it is none of her business. If anything HE should be the one to tell her not you.
i am so ashamed but where do i start basically im 19 i already have a one year old not with the father because i choose horrible men and he didnt want me anymore just the baby, ive had sex with about 13 people since i was 16 and ive cheated before i feel so ashamed of how my life has become and am looking for some reason to change but i cant find it please would you be able to help me?
You are not a horrible person, You have made some bad mistakes.
To knowledge you have made bad judgement and ask us for help is a step forward. In order to change, You must be willing too. Your child should be a motivation for you, You as a mother should set an example. To allow that child to know right from wrong and not get attached to people who may come and go.
So you start by slowing down. Find someone when you are ready and take the relationship slow. The best thing to do would be to wait until you are stable in a relationship for a few months before introducing your partner to your child.
She hasn't been eating & she was laying on my floor & blood just came out of her bum. It's hard for her to walk and lift herself up. I've been trying to get her to eat. Does it mean she has worms?
Please take her to the vet! Could be worms
the song goes like , '' So what if this is the last time , would you ever come back , would you ever come back , and i understand , and i understand , if you.....'' the song is very romantic and rock at the same time , the duration of it is 8 min and a couple of seconds.......thx
G-Clefts - I understand
Even writing this is hard. I was dating my ex boyfriend for 6 months, for the first 3 months, everything went so well. We were so close, physically and emotionally. We have been split for 3 months now and all I can do is think about him. The reason we split up is because to me, it seemed as though he was getting really bored and I felt as though he lost interest so fast. We used to argue all the time, and I just got fed up, so I ended it. I changed my number and tried to move on, somehow he still crosses my mind, every day I find myself doing things when I'm really busy, and I still think about him. Sometimes, I can cry for hours about him. I am so deeply in love with him, but I know he's no good. He treated me like crap, and the countless arguments bored me. I've currently just got into a relationship, for about 3 weeks now, to one of my long time friendships. He's amazing, he brings out the best in me, he knows how to treat me & I feel a lot for him. I can't decide, the feelings I have for them both... My ex boyfriend sent me a message, telling me how much I meant to him. It made me cry for endless hours. I'm confused, heartbroken, stressed and I just feel like shutting everything out and moving away.
Female 16.
You need to move on, If you must then block him. Currently being in a relationship while still hung up on someone eles isn't faur to your current boyfriend. If you aren't over your ex then you technically aren't ready to be in a relationship with someone eles. It is misleading and unfair.
You seem to be well aware if the fact that your ex treated you poorly. Why would you even second guess? I believe being in contact is allowing yourself to be held back. If you want to move on then allow yourself too. Block him and stop remaining in contact. Focus on what you have now as it could end up being something awesome, You need to leave the past the past. If you don't, You will loose what you have.
Stop allowing your ex to manipulate you because you finally found someone better. Jealousy is a funny thing and if you crawl back to him then you dug your own hole.... Your choice
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F. 16.
I recently got in to a relationship, 3 months after I split from my ex of 6 months. I fell in deeply emotionally with my ex boyfriend. Cut the story straight, I don't see or speak to my ex and I don't have a problem. He still crosses my mind everyday everyday the tine, but when I see him, I get quite upset. Every time he sends me a message, my hearts beat really fast, not through excitement though. He sent me a message, telling me he missed me and he asked if I still cared. It made me become so hot, like a hot flush and I started crying. He didn't want to know me before, when we were together, we didn't quite work out. It was his emotions, it was like he was emotionally unavailable. Anyway, I really do like my boyfriend at the minute, he makes me laugh, smile and he brings out the best in me. I do genuinely like him, my friends say he may be a rebound, but I know myself that he isn't. I go to bed thinking about him, he's my first thought in the morning and even when my mind is really busy, I still think of him. So, what is this? Why do I feel the way I do about my ex boyfriend, am I not totally over him? Sticky situation.
If you are still crying, feeling upset etc. Then you are not over it. Staying in contact with him is not going to make things any easier for you as you will cause yourself more pain.
If you want to move on then you must leave the past the past. Focus on you and only you and when you are over it, Then you will be ready to date again.
I'm staring off with the fact that I'm a female and 16 years old. OK, so me and my boyfriend who I love very much were kind of in an argument. He said he was going to go have sex with other b******, he then said he was playing around. I took it seriously, I was really upset, and still am now. I don't know if I should still be with him. He told me that he was really sorry and he didn't mean it. He felt really bad I noticed in his eyes. But anyways I haven't talked to him since this happened, I told him to just leave and go home. What should I do ? Should I forgive him ? Was it a little accident ?
Whether he was kidding or not, It isn't cool to play with someone else's feelings. I would be bothered as well and I can't make any promises that I would really trust that person the same way again. In my aspect of thinking..it would ve as if it crossed his mind considering he said it. You may want to take space, forgive him abd do what you got to do but maybe learn to be a bit cautious. Tell him if he plays with your feelings like that again then forget it. :-/
15/f this guy 17/m we have been talking for like two months now he goes to my school. we talk all the time and its not awkward or anything we are really good friends and we talk about anything and everything. he'll usually always text me first and he'll say he thinks im a cool person and a cool person to talk to, im attractive, im really down to earth, nice and everything. and the other day we were talking about how when we both at a party I was drunk and that was the first we were talking really and he wasn't drinking and I wanted to hook up (make out) with him just because it was a spontaneous thing but he was like I cant im talking to this girl they had like a thing or whatever but now that's over I was telling him how that night I didn't like him and he was like was it because I didn't hook up with you and I said I think that had something to do with it and he said did you want to hook up and I said yeah I think so and then he asked if I still wanted to and I said yeah I would. and by this point he had been asking me to hangout for a while so I said oh this is why you wanna hangout and he said no if I just wanted to hook up with you I would've just asked and never talked to you again I actually really wanna hangout with you because I like talking to you. so I am so confused if hes just "beating around the bush" with I like this about and I like that about you, he wont come out and say I like you but I have no idea. I asked my friend whos in his grade if hes really talking to anyone and she said no hes not. his best friend that im friends with told me he was talking about me saying that he thinks im a cool girl and about the hook up thing and how hes not really looking for a relationship. but I don't even know if I am either I just want to know how he feels about me only because If I hook up with another guy I don't want him to think like he doesn't mean anything to me or whatever so im just confused
Sounds like he likes you but doesn't seem to have any thoughts of long term relationship with you. The guy told you he wasn't really looking for a relationship and therefore he isn't on the market.
Hi everyone so I'm 17 years old and my boyfriend is 19 almost 20 and we have been together for over a year and I am obsessed with him. Not in a stalker way or anything but I am so in love with him. I have never had to many friends because I like to stay clear of drama but my best friend is dating my brother so I don't enjoy hanging out with them...and when my boyfriend hangs out with his friends I have nothing to do...ever..unless I'm working. And I don't really like many of his friends ..they're obnoxious immature and rude. What can I do to be less obsessed with him and maybe make a friend. I feel pathetic but my life completely revolves around him..he didn't make it that way ..I did...and I don't know how to adjust it. Thank you!!
Try and get to know your brothers girlfriend, Maybe you could all do something fun together as a couple.
It isn't always good to be too attached to someone, After awhile you will become clingy and needy which can drive someone off. Try and meet people, Whether it be your brothers girlfriend as she may introduce you to some of her friends etc. You do not have to like all of your boyfriends friends but you should respect them and try and get along with them. The last thing you want is for his friends to think little of you. Be happy with yourself, Go and talk to people.
Hi, we have been dating for 2 and a half years and we live together. he is a reserved and quiet person. what does he mean when he says,''he doesn't want to split up but he also don't to live like this,'' that means arguing most of the days. thanks guys!
Sounds like a warning... He may be getting ready to run for the hills.
Talk to him, If you both argue then talk about how you both can learn to talk things out. My husband and I argue but we laugh it off, we talk it out and thats that. We used to have vicious verbal fights but it isn't worth it. You both need to learn to value one another and your relationship or you will loose it all.
Talk to him
I'm an 18 year old girl and I've been dating my boyfriend who's 19 for a year now. We've been best friends for years. He moved away a bit over a year ago and moved back to be with me. Everything's been going great until recently. He still tells me he loves me and we're getting engaged soon, but recently all he's been doing is playing video games almost non-stop. I try to talk to him saying I want to spend more time with him; he says he's sorry and promises we'll do more together but it doesn't change. Even when we go out with friends, it's typically to his friends' place to play more games. What should I do? Does he not love me as much anymore? Am I doing something wrong? I try to see even if he'll let me play games with him but he plays with his friends instead. I don't know if I'm over-reacting but it's bothering me and wish he'd put a little more effort into spending time with just us. Any advice would be great!
It may be possible your boyfriend is addicted. You could ask him to turn it off so you both can talk. Tell him you feel neglected because of the amount of time he plays video games. Let him know you don't mind him playing but you miss spending one on one time. Relationships take communication and understanding on both parties, If he continues to abandon you, He will continue to abandon your relationship. Set the ground rules together
I'm 13. I have this weird way of thinking about guys. I think about their shoe size and then my mind wanders to the penis. I stop myself a lot. But then I think when is the right time to lose my virginity to one of those penises???? O_o
Definitely not at the age 13,
The right time is when you been with someone for a long period of time (Few months) you know and trust them as much as they do you. Also, Foot sizes has nothing to do with the size of a penis at all.
You are 13, Way to young. I believe if someone isnt ready to raise a baby, They aren't ready for sex.
hi..i got my period on aprl 13th..on 19,20,21 i had sex and tuk two pils unwantd 72 and mistake pil..on 28,29 i hd sex and tuk postpone 72 pil..hd sex on 5,6th bt usd cmdm..got my period on june 8th..nw in july i havent got my date yet..wl i b pregnant or do u thnk due to pil overdose my body got afctd?
Using proper grammar would of been nice....
Also not only deliberately trying to cause a miscarriage by over dosing a form of massive stupidity, but you shouldn't even be having sex at all if you can't handle the consequence.
How can i avoid my cheating boy friend
The same way you would ignore anyone, Ignore them and don't initiate contact.
the last post on this was march 2011 , has there been any update on being able to permanently remove messages from the iphone , spotlight still finds them even after deleting and there is no option to deleted again , or even further
You cannot permanently delete messages on any phone. A phone is much like a mini computer, It stores hidden files and data. You can send a message and delete it and it will be traceable despite how many times you try to delete evidence.
A computer stores information onto a hard drive, Same thing goes for a cellphone. There is no way to delete what you send.