Hi everyone so I'm 17 years old and my boyfriend is 19 almost 20 and we have been together for over a year and I am obsessed with him. Not in a stalker way or anything but I am so in love with him. I have never had to many friends because I like to stay clear of drama but my best friend is dating my brother so I don't enjoy hanging out with them...and when my boyfriend hangs out with his friends I have nothing to do...ever..unless I'm working. And I don't really like many of his friends ..they're obnoxious immature and rude. What can I do to be less obsessed with him and maybe make a friend. I feel pathetic but my life completely revolves around him..he didn't make it that way ..I did...and I don't know how to adjust it. Thank you!!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? gr8fruit answered Sunday June 23 2013, 4:51 pm: Hi there, I know the situation all to well. My best friend dated my brother for years and unfortunately it ended up bringing us further apart and eventually we became distant friends... I haven't had many friends either because people are definitely full of drama which I cannot handle. What you need to do is find something to do when you find yourself bored. Everyone gets bored at some point, but what you have to realize is that you can either: keep complaining and be bored OR do something about it. When I'm not being a workaholic I: draw, listen to music, call a friend to go for a walk, bake something, practice my violin, make plans for next week, watch a movie, find a new outfit, text someone I know can make me smile and just think about the positive things in my life.
To be less obsessed with your guy, you have to learn to make time for yourself. Commit yourself to something for you, just you, every week. Such as painting your nails awesome, making a work out routine for yourself or spending time with a friend/family. As long as your keeping busy you won't find yourself being 'obsessed' and rather 'relaxed' instead. Try dancing in your room with headphones on, taking photos of nature/yourself or even creating a new recipe if that's what makes you happy. Discover what you love and put your time towards that, because the more you enjoy doing the things you love, the more your boyfriend will find you inspiring and dedicated which will make him love you even more than he already does. You can do it girl, start finding yourself today! (: [ gr8fruit's advice column | Ask gr8fruit A Question ]
lightoftruth answered Saturday June 22 2013, 3:33 am: I actually understand how you feel. It almost ruined my relationship.
Zane answered Saturday June 22 2013, 1:37 am: Try and get to know your brothers girlfriend, Maybe you could all do something fun together as a couple.
It isn't always good to be too attached to someone, After awhile you will become clingy and needy which can drive someone off. Try and meet people, Whether it be your brothers girlfriend as she may introduce you to some of her friends etc. You do not have to like all of your boyfriends friends but you should respect them and try and get along with them. The last thing you want is for his friends to think little of you. Be happy with yourself, Go and talk to people. [ Zane's advice column | Ask Zane A Question ]
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