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is my boyfriend trying to break up?

Question Posted Friday June 21 2013, 8:24 am

Hi, we have been dating for 2 and a half years and we live together. he is a reserved and quiet person. what does he mean when he says,''he doesn't want to split up but he also don't to live like this,'' that means arguing most of the days. thanks guys!

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Dragonflymagic answered Friday June 21 2013, 9:03 pm:
Were there things that aggravated one or both of you about the other back when you first began dating? Or were you feeling so in love you were blind to it? Unless some major event in life happened to one or the other of you that made a life altering difference in you, then I'd say both of you are exactly the people you were then.

If the early dating was not a living together arrangement, then this may account for not seeing in each other things that show you aren't the best match for a couple. Once you start living with a person you see things you'd never notice otherwise.

Good example, hubby and I thought we knew our old apartment manager really well, a friendly person. She bought a mobile home and wanted renters to share the cost but only people she knew so she offered us better than what we were paying. We moved in. In 2 weeks times we'd had dozens of incidents that showed she was well into having Dementia and she was upset with us being there and had to move out in a hurry. It was not noticeable by two people before hand.
So its not a bad thing that you decided to commit to living together...its the best way to really find out what the other is like and whether you'll have the dream relationship or clash.
Only you can know if there is something worth saving in this relationship or whether its time to move on. He may not want to split only for the reason that no matter how old we get, its freakin scary to go through the whole meet and find out if they like you and start dating process all over again. So don't look at that as an indicator that he's really into you and loves you

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lightoftruth answered Friday June 21 2013, 6:31 pm:
It sounds like he's considering breaking up.
So you guys argue a lot? Obviously it's going to get to him and he's not going to be happy. He's pretty much saying he cares about you still but he doesn't like fighting and can't deal with it.

So you should probably talk about it and work things out. Find a way to get through your problems without arguing or fighting.

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Xui answered Friday June 21 2013, 5:09 pm:
Sounds like a warning... He may be getting ready to run for the hills.

Talk to him, If you both argue then talk about how you both can learn to talk things out. My husband and I argue but we laugh it off, we talk it out and thats that. We used to have vicious verbal fights but it isn't worth it. You both need to learn to value one another and your relationship or you will loose it all.

Talk to him

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