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I don't know what to do.
I'm staring off with the fact that I'm a female and 16 years old. OK, so me and my boyfriend who I love very much were kind of in an argument. He said he was going to go have sex with other b******, he then said he was playing around. I took it seriously, I was really upset, and still am now. I don't know if I should still be with him. He told me that he was really sorry and he didn't mean it. He felt really bad I noticed in his eyes. But anyways I haven't talked to him since this happened, I told him to just leave and go home. What should I do ? Should I forgive him ? Was it a little accident ?
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I'm kinda back and forth on this. What kind of argument was it? Was it about anything sexual related or another girl? Or was it an argument over something silly that just escalated?
If it was about a girl or something sexual, you should probably second guess the relationship. If he said it out of anger or something, you can forgive him but you're going to have to talk to him about it. Make sure he knows never to say something like that because it's definitely not ok.
So talk this out with him, don't argue or fight about it. Just straight up tell him that it's not ok and work through it.
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I do not think it was an accident. I think he said what he said to get you to have sex with him. Young boys are hard wired to find sexual relief. Their definition of love is confused with that of lust. That and the fact they have no pressure of being the one who gets pregnant.
I'm fairly certain he said what he did expecting you to say, "no don't have sex with her, I'll have sex with you." When you didn't say that he turned on the charm so that you would forgive him and he would have another chance with you. Another line guys use is; "If you love me you will have sex with me."
Don't fall for these lines. As I said their concept of love is not the same as yours. Do not be pressured into having sex with someone when you are not ready. Remember if an accident happens your the one that has to tell her parents she pregnant not him. You're the one that has to deal with being pregnant, being an unwed teenage mother and all that goes with it. As for him for at least the next few years until he is 18 and can be taken to court for child support; he is free to go off and have fun, finish high school and go on to college if his parents will support him. You can do most of these things too but while raising a child.
My suggestion is you send him on his way. He is not loving you the way you love him. He is lusting for you. This is not a good relationship if it is based solely on ones lust for another.
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Whether he was kidding or not, It isn't cool to play with someone else's feelings. I would be bothered as well and I can't make any promises that I would really trust that person the same way again. In my aspect of thinking..it would ve as if it crossed his mind considering he said it. You may want to take space, forgive him abd do what you got to do but maybe learn to be a bit cautious. Tell him if he plays with your feelings like that again then forget it. :-/
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