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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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my boyfriend... who i HAVENT talked to in like 3 weeks... seems to be ignoring me becuz he knoes im wantin to dump him... so what do i do sinc ei can never get in touch with him? Do i call and leave him a message breaking up with him?

its really pathetic that this guy wont see you cuz he knows your gonna dump him. i know its really shallow to call someone up and dump them, especially by leaving a message, but the kid is giving you no choice. just call him and tell him sorry but it over. good luck! i hope he doesnt start stalking you and shit.

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is it wrong to be so in love that you would die for him?

It is one thing to "feel" that you would die, and another to actually "want" to die for him. to feel you'd die for him is like you love him so much you would just feel like dying if you saw him in pain or something were to happen to him. To want to die for him, is like you are so freakin in love with him, it has become more of an obsession, and you probably cant have him or something like that so you wanna go and kill yourself. Felling like you wanna dies is compleetly normal, we have all had that moment, and it has probably been about someone we love. Wanting to die for someone is actually like attempting to kill yourself, not cool, not to normal either. By your question I am sure this "dying" you are referring to is based on a feeling. But, whether you are really in love with him, or just think you are, either way there is nothing wrong with feeling that way. This person just obviously touches your emotions really well. And like I said its okay to feel this way, just don't go trying to jump over bridges or something for the guy, lol. :)

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When I get my period, the first 3 days are very heavy. I wear pads on those days and then tampons the rest. I'm going down the shore on the days when it's heavy and I'm not sure what to do. I'm going to be swimming and everything, but do you think a 'super' tampon would be good enough? It's really heavy and I'm scared even the super tampons won't be enough. What should I do?

Okay well I know that Tampax has super plus, and Kotex I even think has one with an Ultra abosorbancy. If I were you I would wear the highest absorbancy I could find, and change frequently, just to avoid an accident, I can't really say cuz I can't imagine just how heavy you could be. Also, remember, most girls periods tend to slow down or stop when they are in water, but I would still change freuqently just to be on the safe side. Good Luck! :)

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I'm 17 years old and I was friends with my boyfriends sister before I started going out with my boyfriend. I never really hung out with her that much or anything and I got to know her brother through parties. Blah blah blah. We have been together 9 months and now she is saying things infront of my friends that arent true. Such as last night infront of my friends she said "My Mom said your ditzy" I got so embarassed so I said something to my boyfriend like how I dont want to be at his house when his mom is there because I feel like an idiot because I haven't gotten to know her too well she works a lot. My boyfriend got mad and said his mom woudl never say that and calle dhis mom and she denys it and he called hsi sister flipping out and she is saying that it was said. I dont know what to do because I feel like I caused a whole big problem and I feel like I can;'t show my face at the hosue because one of them is lying and its embarassing and everything. Any suggestings??

alright reguardless who really said what, just forget about it. i know that may be hard. but just do it for the sake of your relationship. do you really wanna risk messing up your relationship or having problems over a silly thing like being ditsy. so what if you are. just be the bigger person and forget about it.

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my friend brooke has this boy that she likes josh hes the boy i like mike's best friend..and i just met these boys like a couple of days ago i met mike at roller kingdom when he IMed me and told me i was hott so we kinda sorta hooked up n i have no idea if i should go for it or if brooke should go for josh..i mean me and mike were at his house today n i have a boyfriend..but we were makin out n suff in his room while everyone was up stairs n i dont want my boyfriend to find out even though he is kinda well a "playa" n does stuff that i dont know if im into i have NO idea what so ever if me and brooke should go for those guys even though we juss met them...but they are soo nice..n they like us too n they make us happy but we still juss met them what should we doo..?

point blank: if they make you happy... THEN GO FOR THEM! this about your happiness.

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Me and my boyfriend had been dating for about two months starting right before school ended and things were going great but he had tennis most days for thw whole day and would be gone during most weekends for tournaments and i was usually on vacation, so we didnt see each other as mich as we would have liked. Well, i went on a really long trip and wouldnt see him for nearly a month, but i came home a lot early-mostly to see him. As soon as i get home though, he breaks up with me on the internet because hes leaving for a few weeks. We hung out though a lot after that like when hed be home in 3 or 4 day time periods, until i did something i probably shouldnt have done-sorry dont wanna talk about it but nothing serious or anything-so now he wont even speak to me. I still REALLY like him but he ignores the fact i even exist at school or when we hang out over the weekend. I know the reason he wont speak to me is because of what i did, but its stupid because it wasnt even a big deal, hes just making it into one. What should i do?

well maybe he thinks it WAS a big deal... talk to him about it and see how he feels about what you did. maybe it hurt him. after you discuss that. tell him your sorry and you miss him. and you want to work things out.

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i love my boyfriend.. or ex boyfriend i should say, very much. so as of right now, i am waiting for him and i have been for about 3 months or so now. i know its unfair to me, but he has told me numerous times that he loves me and that eventually he would get back with me. we were together for a pretty long time and he decided to end things because he wanted to go out and have fun.. and also bc i moved, although, not a very long distance at all. we still spend time with each other now and then and we still keep in touch.. and he assures me that he isnt seeing any other females. but well, i was wondering, if he loves me like he says he does, then why is it that hes not with me now?

guys can be so fuckin confusing! obviously, this guy still has feelings for you if he keeps coming back and feels the need to keep in touch. if he thought you were just some hoe he could knock off anytime, he would probably treat you like shit, instead of telling you he loves you. who knows why he isnt with you now... maybe he is scared of committment. i think you should talk to him what you asked the site "if he loves me like he says he does, then why is it that hes not with me now?"

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i have a boyfriend kevin but i want another guy named mike and kevin is like the hottest guy alotta ppl like him n mike is just soo much nicer n there is a less chance of him hurtin ur feelings becvause kevin is the kinda guy who would cheat on you and has already done alotta things that i dont know if im into yet...but lately i have been talking to mike alot and hanging out with him when im goin out wit kevin n i have NO IDEA what to doo....because alot of girls would be lucky to have kevin and i think i have alot more feelings for mike ... what should i doo??

sometimes... looks arent always everything...if this kevin guy is a cheater, i dont know why any girl would be luck to have him. he sounds like a jerk. if i were you i would go for mike... he seems like he would make you happy. and i mean think about it... if you are hanging around with him on your spare time instead of kevin, there must be some good quality about him, that you like being around all the time, that kevin doesnnt have. go for mike.

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ok, i liked this guy from school a little, and we really hit it off. We started talking over the internet, and since the hurrican ive been talking to him for a week. Its kinda hard talking to him, but today he told me he loved me. it totally freaked me out!then he said he was just kidding and that he was srry. Of course i told him he needed a life and a girlfriend. But he stared telling me that he was really sorry and sending me these internet flowers. They were soooo beutifull! But, i really cant give my heart to him, how can i tell him that we should be friends and that he should stop being so really sweet to me, even though i like it? And how do i tell my friend about thid last conversation? I think she might like him...I see big problems in the future!

from distraught and in need of answer!

okay 1st off dont tell your friend. i know that sounds bad. but this isnt really a big deal. it will save alot of childish drama. and as for the guy. just tell him "you're a sweet guy, but i really enjoy being your friend, so i need you to please stop acting like you like me, because i really cherish our friendship." and then if you'd like you could add "but i'm sure my friend so&so would love for you to send all that sweet stuff to her, she really likes you".... good luck! :)

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hey guys im a 15 f n i was doin some jumping jacks the other day and for some reason my stomach started to hurt. it felt like i did too many sit ups but i was doing jumping jacks. i was just wondering why that happend cuz its real weird.

did you eat b4 you did them... that could be why your stomach was bothering you.

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My 15 year old friend engages often in un-protected sex. No matter how much I tell her to wear a condom, or my god, at least go on birth control, she continues to give herself to random guys, especially under the influence. Recently, she slept over my house and woke up with severe morning sickness. She also became constipated, and complains now constantly about her stomach hurting. She hasn't gotten her period yet either. I called planned parenthood for her and it did nothing. I can't think of anything else it could be but pregnancy, and they want to schedule an appointment, which would mean she would have to tell her mom, which, stubborn as she is, would be a struggle at best. She's my best friend, and I cannot see her do nothing about this situation...any advice?

well actually planned parenthood is confidential, so she can go there on her own and take a pregnancy test without her mother knowing. jesus! how old is she? she needs to be more careful. not only could she get pregnant, but she could also get an std or hiv. if i were her iw ould also schedule to get tested for stds and hiv. sometimes you dont get your period because you have an std. unprotected sex is some serious shit. you should always use a condom, especially if you are with multiple partners. if she isnt pregnant, then she should take this as a big sign to be more careful. and if she is then good luck.

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well im a girl lol because some people like me to say that before i ask a ? but neways is it normal to pluck the top of ur eyebrows and the bottom because my mom said i shouldnt do the top

you shouldnt do the top... but some people have to becuase thier eyebrows are so thick and grow like high up on thier forehead. if thats your case, then i suggest you dont do it yourself, go to a salon and get them waxed first. let a professional do the top, cuz they know what they are doing. then you can just touch them up with the tweezers whenever they start growing back in.

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My boyfriend and I have been off and on for the whole summer. We don't get to see eachother as much as we'd like to but I'm worried he's cheating. He always tells me he loves me, I can trust him and he isn't like that anymore. He used to be a 'player' and cheat on his ex girlfriends. He told me he changed and it's different now with me. Can I trust someone like that? Is it true... once a cheater, always a cheater?

no that is not always true. people can change. has he ever done anything to you? maybe you should just trust him.

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so a year ago my mom moved like an hour away to live with her boyfriend now husband....and i moved in with my granny cuz i didnt want to move that far from everything...and my sis moved in with my dad....well eventually i moved back in with my mom its been about 4 months and I HATE IT ...my granny said that i can move in the downstairs apartment at her house. but i know im gonna feel bad my sis says i shoulddent becuz our mom left us blah blah blah

if your not happy and you want to go back to your granny's then your mom is just gonna have to accept that. yeah i sound kinda selfish, but this is about YOUR happiness.

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can you put a signature at the bottom of your answers? like set a certain setting so that the same thing goes on the bottom of all your answers like: *chRisTiNa*

like that?? cuz i wana put my name at the bottom of all my answers and things like that but its tiring to keep doing that. is there any way to set a setting that will do it on its own??

nope... you will just have to keep doing it that way... sucks doesnt it?

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Ok, lets say one of your best friends just broke up with his gf, who you have kind of liked for awhile? Should you ask her out right away or give her some time? It wasn't a very serious relationship, but I don't know how she would feel going out with me, after being with my friend?

give it a shot. ask her and see what happens. if you say it wasnt serious, then she shouldnt feel affended reguardless if she wants to be with you or not. just talk to her, you will never know til you do.

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I don't understand the columnist? Am I a columnist and if I'm not how can I be one? I'm just totally confused about this whole thing.

after you answer 5 questions you are an official columnist

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hey, is there any way to delete a question on this site? if i already resolved the issue, but ppl keep sending me answers??

no you cant delete anything unless you are an administrator

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Heyeveryone, i really need some help!! ok, well, i did something stupid about a month ago..i talked to some guy online and gave him my picture..and i have a boyfriend that i really love. I guess why i talked to that guy was because he asked me about my boyfriend. And my boyfriend is moving to oregon and so i kinda opened up and talked to that guy about my b/f. now, my b/f found that convo and was really scared about our relationship. He said he trusted me 100% but now, he says only like 50%. Im so0o upset i've told him i'll never do that again..but he dont believe me..he's in oregon and we are doing long dist. How can i make him trust me more?! I really love him with all my heart and I want to make it work out. Any advice on my situation?! PLEASE HELP!!! ~manda~

well how can you trust him if hes snooping through your email and stuff. and if he was snooping, he probably had trust issues to begin with. how old are you? most likely if you are young, a long distance relationship my not work out anyway. yeah you did mess up by sending that guy your pic and stuff... but it was only on the comp. its not like you go calling this guy and all that. he needs to lighten up and remember you love him.

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SODAS! I took up Mountain Dew and I put on alot of weight drinking it and I tried to stop it but its like going threw withdrawl. I get headaches and everything, I throw up and my stomach hurts and this always happens when I stop drinking it. I'm starting school soon and mountain dew wont be available as it will if I were home. What can I do?

yeah you can get addicted to sodas. try drinking alor of water.

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