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As much as i try to cum it never works, instead i pee a little. I get so fustrated!!! All i want to do is cum and what is really messed up i've seen other people cum like it's a hobby... Grrr... :( Will sombody give me some good girl cumming exlamation? Cause this not cumming thing is on my last flipp'n nerve!! Pls respond to this post as FAST as you can!!!!!!!!! Wait one more thing: WHY IS IT SO HARD!!!!??????
Sex like anything else in life is a learned experience. Men and boys learn about sex by readying men's magazines and watching porn then doing what they read about and see on the screen. Unfortunately not all women are a like. A small percentage of women are what is called clitoral in how they are stimulated. Meaning they need their clitoris stimulated more than their vagina.
Unfortunately most boys and men learn to stimulate a girls breast and nipples, and to finger a girls vagina to get them wet. If your clitoral in nature and your lover ignores your clitoris then you are going to take a lot longer to get stimulated.
There are other reasons a women has a hard time coming and they are more environmentally. First a guy can pretty much get excited anytime anyplace. A gal needs to feel loved and secure before she can get excited. She needs to feel safe in her surroundings where she is making love. Safe from discovery by parents, when underage, or anyone else, even children when you become parents.
She needs to be comfortable. Back in the day the back seat of the old mans chevy use to get quite a workout. The guys got off but the gals didn't always get off. A women needs a comfortable bed or sofa where she can relax and enjoy being made love to.
Most importantly is foreplay, which is why where love making takes place is so important. Women unlike men need to be stimulated. They also need to teach their lover how to stimulate them.
To do this they need to know their own body. This is where masturbation comes in. While masturbating you learn about your own body, your likes and dislikes. Frankly foreplay is nothing more than mutual masturbation. A recent survey showed the 85% of us masturbate; this would include people such as parents, friends and neighbors.
What I suggest is you go to your room. Close and lock the door, turn down the lights and put some nice soft music on. Then get undressed and get in bed. Start by letting your hands roam over your body to find the spots that feel good. Play with your breasts, vagina and stimulate your clitoris. Bring yourself to orgasm.
Do this several times over several nights then show your lover how to stimulate you and bring you to that first orgasm. Then when he enters you for intercourse that big one will come. When teaching him about how you like to be touched make sure to ask him about ways he might like to me touched.
Communication is the key to life successes. The key to a great sex life is also communication. Talk to each other and tell each other of likes and dislikes. Also makes sure your partner understands that NO means NO. Forcing a partner to do something they dislike or do not want to do sexually is Rape. Consensual sex can turn to rape just as soon as one partner says no and the other continues. Both partners have to agree to something for it to be consensual.
PS: Birth control for you eliminates one major concern that inhibits an orgasm and make sure he wears a condom as well.
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Well I've been fainting lately and been feeling so sick! I think its because of the laxatives(I do modeling so I take it so I don't get fat)but I wanted to know can you faint from something that's really bothering you. My twin brother died from cancer and its really getting to me and someone has been sending my friend naked pictures of me and of me sleeping and I don't know how they got it so yeah that's what's bothering me just wanted to know could it be that also?
First I'm sorry to hear about your brother.
Do your parents know about you taking laxatives. Laxatives are not for use by children your age and could be the cause of your fainting. Children your age WHO may NEED a laxative should only do so by prescription from a doctor. Inform your parents immediately so they can get you to a doctor. Your electrolytes are unbalanced and this is life threatening.
As for those pictures. Your parents need to know about them as well. They need to inform the police. Who ever is in possession of those pictures is breaking the law just having them. Child pornography is illegal for any age. If they have given them to anyone else they have broken another law. The person who took them is also guilty of breaking the same laws plus taking child pornographic pictures is illegal.
The law is very strict on this matter and regardless of there youthful age they need to deal with the police and the courts to get to the bottom of this and be punished. This is something only your parent can handle.
Do this now along with telling them about the laxatives you've been taking.
I would like to know if there is a Mental Illness/Disorder that will make a person feel as if they are Demonically Possessed, and make them feel as if people are speaking to them, and they have small skits of their fears taking over?
If it makes sense, what would one be diagnosed with if they were to do such?
The answer is yes. As to the diagnoses I'm not sure I'm not a doctor. There are two that I can think of but it would take a psychiatrist to make a factual diagnoses.
I do not believe in Demonically possession though hearing voices to make a person believe they are is possible. If you are talking about yourself you need to seek medical attention immediately. Before the voices tell you to do something to harm yourself or others.
I would advise going to the nearest hospital emergency room or calling 911.
I am dating a guy who's best friend happens to be a girl. We are all 22-24 years old if that matters. As his girlfriend I really don't care if he hangs out with other girls especially since they are his friends and I would never tell him he couldn't hang out with someone. However, his best female friend ("jenny")kind of rubs me the wrong way. She does have a boyfriend but is very flirty with mine. It actually works both ways. Last night for example we were all at a cabin. At one point Jenny and my boyfriend were sitting on a bean bag together, they were pretty touchy-feely. She even gave him a kiss on the cheek and I saw my boyfriend giving her random hugs throughout the night, calling her "sweetheart" (this wouldn't be a problem if he didn't refer to me as that, too -__-) and kiss her cheek as well. I was pretty taken back considering I was there to see that and Jenny's boyfriend saw it too.
I do not want to be that naggy girlfriend that complains about him have a close female friend but I feel with all the hugging and cheek kissing, especially in front of me is a little too much. How can I confront him about it without seeming jealous/crazy/naggy?
First lets drop the word confront for that means to have a confrontation, or argument. something I do not think you wish to have. I believe a better word to use would be to address, as to address my feelings with him about this.
I would suggest one evening when your alone, maybe when you two are all snuggled together you bring the subject of his friend ship with Jenny up with him. You could say something like, I would never ask you not to see any of your friends but when I'm with you and even though I know you love me. Seeing you all touchy feely, huggy kissy with Jenny it is a bit hurt full to me. Is it possible when I'm with you you can tone it down. I'm fairly certain her boyfriend is bothered by this as well. When I'm not with you , what I don't see can't hurt me."
Of course you put this in your own words though what you are trying to say is what I said at the end. I'm not asking you not to do it, I do trust you. Still it is hurtful to sit there and watch you two. Putting it this way should avoid an argument and hopefully will enlighten him to the fact that he is doing something that is causing you pain. something he may not be aware of.
he licks my ass
If you are asking if this is okay the answer would be yes. PROVIDED you find it pleasing or at least something you can tolerate if he enjoys doing it.
The firsts golden rule when it comes to sex and sex play or foreplay is: BOTH PARTNERS MUST BE CONSETING OR IT IS A NO GO. This means if you or your partner dislike something, do not wish to try something all that needs to be said is NO. No is final. It is not maybe, it does not mean I'll try and maybe they will allow or learn to like it. It means it is not done.
The second golden rule is: Communication. You need to talk to each other and teach each other about your likes and dislikes, especially for the female. Most males believe all females like to be fingered. This is not true. There are many females that are more clitoral in nature. The problem is the male does not know this and needs the female to show them how to touch them and stroke them. The same goes for the male. All males like to have their penis stroked but there are different ways to do this. He needs to show her how he likes to be touched. The same goes for all types of sexual intercourse and oral sex. You need to learn from each other.
Short answer to your unasked question. If you don't like what he is doing tell him not to do it.
I'm currently working in a salon as a nail technician. I just started, and the salon is small. It's only me and the owner who does hair. The salon has only been open since August and is still a work in progress. I offer manicures and pedicures, and I have my own manicure table, we don't have actual pedicure chairs, so we have a portable tub that we use. I know that it's not the best, so my question is is how can I make pedicures and manicures more enjoyable for my clients so that they don't care about the slow start? Like I said, our portable tubs aren't the best, so what exactly can i do different to make the clients enjoy it regardless? I do plan on getting a real chair, when I have more money. Any ideas are welcome, and please keep them cheap but nice! Thank you! :)
A small investment in a nice one cup coffee machine like a Keurig Coffee Brewer, the salon owner could share the cost with you. Will allow you to offer a variety of Tea's, Herbal and others, Coffee, Hot Chocolate. You could also offer a variety of juices along with some snacks like cookies and finger cakes. Here again the salon owner could or should share the cost.
This will allow your customers to occupy themselves for a while while their feet soak. Then when you are tending to their feet you can occupy them with conversation.
So, this is kinda wierd. But i need to know why it hurts so bad When My girlfriend fingers me. She gets me going and i tell her to do it cuz i want it but then When she puts one finger in it feels like... Something sharp . Or like a nurve. She doesnt have long nails. I dont bleed . But its to the point she cant do it cuz im crying. Whats wrong with me!?!?! :(
This is a really hard question to answer. Everyone is different. None of us are doctors and it will take a doctor a gynecologist to answer this question. The only thing I can possibly think of is if you Hymen is still intact or if you have recently lost it this is what is causing the pain.
I would suggest you see a GYN to find out. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. As a doctor there is very little they haven't seen or heard about. So your explaining about your pain and how it comes to hurt you has been heard before, I'm sure.
Is there a graceful way to bow out of a friendship gone sour?
My husband and I are friends with another couple, and although we've witnessed and heard about some unstable and disproportionate behavior by our friend's wife (I will call her Anna for simplicity) we have in the past either ignored it or cut her some slack because we're all friends, but it has been something I've felt concerned about and found stressful.
One example is that Anna's husband has been friends for years with another guy, and the two of them tend to be pretty crass with their talks and jokes when they hang out. Instead of ever expressing that she didn't like that kind of talk, or opening up any kind of dialogue about it, Anna bottled up her feelings for ages and then exploded suddenly and forbade her husband from hanging out with that friend.
Anyway, what happened between us is that Anna recently blew up at me in a way that I found very upsetting, and after our initial round of messages, we have not communicated since.
Basically, I canceled plans with this friend due to illness and then chose to work while ill on the night we'd had plans (um, hello, I need the money, and if I'm going to feel crappy I might as well be working). Anna was apparently very upset that I canceled our plans and then worked, and let it simmer for a few weeks before sending me some really nasty messages saying that because I'd worked while sick I clearly had been lying about my illness and was a horrible person. Her tone was very accusatory and harsh.
I felt quite upset, angry, and hurt by this attack, most of all because I do not lie about being sick and having someone I thought was my friend attack me like that felt horrible. If the situation had been reversed, I would have spoken with my friend directly, and said something like "Hey, I felt hurt that you told me you were sick and then worked, what happened?" And then I would listen to my friend and believe them, because I like and trust my friends and treat them with respect.
Instead, Anna attacked me in an aggressive and hostile way, and I feel like I am not interested in maintaining a friendship with someone who would just automatically assume I'm lying and lash out at me (especially in light of the fact that this is a typical behavior pattern for Anna).
I could just let things die a natural death, but there's an upcoming trip we had both planned to attend that I need to bow out of. I would feel upset and uncomfortable spending a vacation weekend in close quarters with someone with whom I am at odds. I absolutely have to let the trip organizer know I can't make it, and I feel like if I am going to do that, I also need to send a brief message to Anna.
I was thinking of just telling the trip organizer that I'm having a personal conflict with one of the other attendees, and am sad to miss the trip, but go ahead and give my spot to someone else, and ask them please try to remain uninvolved so the conflict can stay between me and the other attendee.
And then I thought I'd send Anna a message saying something like: "Dear Anna, I am writing to say that I am very sorry you were hurt by something that I did. I apologize sincerely for hurting your feelings, and acknowledge that I could have handled canceling our plans better. However, I still feel very upset about the way you approached the issue, and I have been unable to reconcile myself to being falsely accused of lying. I am hopeful that we may be able to get past this at some point in the future when we have both calmed down. In the meantime, I have backed out of the upcoming trip to [place]. I will do my best to keep this issue between us and avoid spreading it around or involving others."
Am I missing a better course of action? Although I am somewhat recovered from feeling hurt and angry, I am probably still too close to this to see clearly. I would really appreciate any advice you have for me. If it helps, we are all in our 30s, and my husband and I are stable people with good jobs and lots of other friends who don't randomly snap at us.
There are several different ways to answer this question.
From my reading of your question there are several different issues. On one hand you say she changed because of a friendship her husband had. She blew up at you because you canceled plans because of illness and then went to work even though you were sick.
There is a lack of understanding going on here on both of your parts. You seem to understand that she was bottling things up. You could have expected that at some point she would turn into a raw nerve and explode although not expecting it to be at you. Was there anything you could have done to help her though this period maybe suggest to her to get some professional advice for her problem.
I think she went off on you as she did because as a friend she came to be dependent on you. Dependant as the one constant in her life and then in a manner of speaking you let her down. Telling her you were sick and going to work in her mind was a lie. If you are to sick to go out and have fun then you to sick to go to work. I actually understand how you came by your decision to go to work, but then I am not in the depression she was or is feeling.
When you are depressed, be it something we all suffer short term from time to time or a long term condition requiring medical attention, we perceive thing very wrong. I would say that if in the light of day she was still holding a grudge she may be clinically depressed needing medical attention.
Now what to do about all this. Your thoughts about cancelling the trip is a good idea. With the two of you conflicted as you are if unresolved before the trip you two could ruin the vacation for the others.
There is no need to tell the coordinator that you have a conflict with another attendee. This leaves open too many questions that don't need to be asked. Just tell the coordinator that a family obligation has arisen that conflicts with the trip and you must cancel. You hope that sufficient time is available to allow someone else to take your place and enjoy the trip.
If you truly feel you must give a reason to your friend other than the one you give to the coordinator. Then I suggest it be something like this. Anna, It breaks my heart that our friendship is crumbling. I feel that at the moment our friendship is at the point that if we were both to attend the up coming trip we could ruin it for the others. I feel you may need the opportunity to get away and relax more than I do so I have informed the trip coordinator that a family obligation has come up that will not allow me to attend. I would hope that when you return we can talk things out calmly and hopefully restore our friendship to the point it once was. Please call me when you return so we can set a date to meet and talk.
My approach tells her the truth of the matter and leaves it up to her if she wants to repair the friendship. If she does not call you or contact you when she returns then you know the friendship is over and you do not have to worry about how to end it. It already is ended.
What do i do if my boyfriend is four years older than me what do i do?
I really need to know your ages before I can answer this questions as there may be some legal issues you are not aware of.
I am twelve years old in January and have a hard life (thank you government.) I try hard to please my parents and do what they ask, make straight A's, never get sick, never call home, never make noise, ect. My dad wastes himself, then gets up and fights with my mom. He throws trash on the ground then yells in my and moms faces to pic it up. He constantly is calling me stupid, a pig, and saying I need to 'pull my head out of my ass' and cusses at me. He acts like he hates me. Last year he and my mom fought and he was beating her and after that he called her a bitch and I said no shes not. He then shoved me in his room and got in my face yelling at me. I still have nightmares and ball my eyes out at that and everything else. He beats my mom so much she has bruises and rashes were he hurts her. She makes a big yummy dinner and puts ketchup on his plate. He gets in her face and calls her a whore, pig, bitch, dumb ass. Now my mom. She acts like she controls me in every way. I'm not allowed to wear my regular shirts, I have to wear crazy outfits and I have no controll over what I do. She tells me 'you don't do shit, so do the dishes, and clean the kitchen, and then you can do laundry' she is always putting me down, telling me I don't do anything, I don't make good grades, I am stupid. She only talks to me after she and dad fight, which is a lot. I am afraid of my dad and afraid that they won't accept the real me. I don't like most country or rock, or screemo music. I hate the cowboys and rangers, and want to tell them bad. But I am 100 percent positive that they will yell at me. How do I tell them? PLEASE HELP, IM DESPERATE!
You are to young to do anything about this on your own. You need the help if a trusted adult. I would suggest you speak with a teacher you trust or your school principal and ask for their help. One you tell them as you have told us there are procedures in place for them to follow to keep you safe.
I realize schools are closed for the holidays. If you feel you are in danger you can go to any fire station or police station which are safe havens for children. You tell them what you told us and they will get you help.
You can always call 911 for help as well. Even if mom and dad are home the police will not go away without talking to you and making sure you are safe. If you tell them about dad hitting mom they will make sure that both you and mom are safe.
Should dad start beating mom over the holidays get to a phone and dial 911. IF the call taker hears screaming and hitting this will be recorded and the responding officer(s) will be advised. Dad will not be able to cancel the call.
I have this coworker who has a problem and every chance they get the same subject is brought up to me and everyone else in the company. I am singled out and asked how do I do it with so many kids. So, me being a parent I can relate. Now, when I respond in a way that I relate because I have a child with the same behavior at home and give advice on what did to curb the situation. Is that saying she has to listen and shes held to how I did it example I was told Im being adament about it. But I wasnt forcing my answers on her. Frankly, I wanted to say so what are you going to do about it OR I am not only experienced in that area but I can totally relate. Now everyone elses reaction to her is just listening and quickly go about their business. They also dont have any children.
Giving advice is a tricky situation even on this site. There are people who really just want to vent. Wanting to talk to someone who may have experienced a similar situation makes it easier.
IF the other person does not come right out and ask what have you done in this situation. Then I would assume they are venting. It might be appropriate to say something like; I hear you, been there done and have the pictures to prove it. You could also say something like; yea I know what you going through, I had the same problem, it does get better. Then wait and see if the other person asks for advice.
In the situation you relate I would somewhere in the giving of advice insert that; "every child is different and what worked for me may not work with your child." "You may have to adapt what I do to fit with your child's needs."
This is the best I can advise at the moment. Not being there and hearing for myself what is being asked of you; makes it that much harder to give advice on this question.
right so yeh I'm a 17 year old female and I'm still a virgin my ex boyfriend keeps spreading rumours saying we had sex and all that rubbish... my current boyfriend has discovered this rumour and threatened my ex if he told anyone else this what should I do?!?! "/
Tell him that by spreading this rumor he is in fact sexually harassing you. He needs to stop and he needs to correct his lies or you will make a police matter of this. He probably won't believe you as most people are ignorant of the law or may feel their age, being a juvenile will save them any punishment. Age makes no difference when it comes to sexual harassment.
For your boyfriend to commit any type of physical violence against the ex will only get your boyfriend in trouble. Just inform your ex of what can happen then follow through if he doesn't stop.
Sexual harassment takes many forms. Your ex is committing one form of sexual harassment by spreading false rumors about you. Will he go to jail, most likely not. Will he go before a judge most likely he will go before a court master if he is taken to court at all. What most likely what will happen is he and his parents will be asked to come to the police station and speak with the detective.
If the talk goes anything like several friends of mine who are police officers and a detectives say it will. Your ex should have the living daylights scared out of him. If his parents are good people they should also follow through on what the detective informs them of and what can happen to him if he does not make amends and he does not stop his harassment.
Sexual harassment has no age barrier. The law covers all ages. Should this happen at school children as young as kindergarteners have been disciplined for sexually harassing another student. If your ex is doing this at school you and your parents should also talk to school officials. Discipline at school can range from suspension to expulsion.
I got a small penis which is about 6 cm in length, i m afraid that it will afect my sex life in future, and um still 17 years old, i m afraid that it i wont be able to losse my girls viginity. And do da intercourse success fuly
While it is correct that size does not matter. If this is the length of your penis when erect then this is also an indication of a possible other problem which is easily correctable, especially at your age.
As I am sure you are aware during our teenage years we all go through puberty. During puberty the body starts to secrete new hormones as well as send signals to the brain to increase production of others. Among those that should be increased are testosterone a hormone that in part your manhood, sex drive and define your sex organ.
While I am not a doctor I am guessing you may be suffering from low "T" or low Testosterone. This is something easily diagnosed and corrected by your doctor.
While there is nothing to be embarrassed about as this is simply a matter of anatomy an I'm positive something you doctor has seen at some point in practice. If you are embarrassed to see you family doctor then I suggest seeing a Urologist who's specialty is this area and maybe for you less embarrassing seeing a stranger.
Don't wait much longer to see a doctor. At 17 you are still going through puberty and the treatments I believe may be more effective.
Now ther is one other reason for this condition I do need to point out. Some kids playing school sports will take illegal steroids. Abuse of steroids has been known to shrink the male sexual organs.
I am not accessing you of this, it is just something you need to know. If you are into sports and coaches or anyone has given you any pills or injections to increase you performance you must let your parents and doctor know.
how can i die fast, easy, and painless?
Having been a first responder with a fire department rescue squad I can tell you that there is no way to die fast and painless.
What I can tell you is there are many painless way to get help to continue living. I can think of no problem(s) or nothing you may have done or that has been done to you that is worth dieing for.
what I would like you to do is call this number. 1-800-273-TALK (8255) By calling you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7. These people are trained to help you with any problem you may be fighting. They will also find you someone in your area to continue helping you until you are better. This number is for the National Suicide Prevention Hotline. It is totally confidential and they will talk with you as long as you need to speak with them.
can a sperm break the virginity without the penic penetreting inside.
I'm not quite sure what your asking.
If your asking is: if sperm can enter your vagina without a penis entering your vagina and your hymen is intact? The answer is it is possible.
The fact that you may be a virgin does not mean your hymen will block sperm from entering you. Remember period blood leaves you so sperm can enter you.
Now while it is possible that if your partner ejaculates anywhere close to or on your vagina that sperm will enter you. Now whether you will get pregnant from this is unlikely but it has happened.
It is a long swim for a sperm from the entrance of your vagina to meet and egg and impregnate you. Also all conditions have to right for this to happen.
If you think you are or could be pregnant. Wait a couple of weeks from the time you think conception may have occurred and take a pregnancy test. If this happened within the last 1 to 7 days a morning after pill (plan B pill) may stop any pregnancy from happening
13/f So I decided to ignore the texts like someone suggested but then things started getting more heated like late night calls and going over. I think she's still up to something. like I said before in my previous question that I snooped around even though I wasn't suppose to but I was worried. I know I may lose my mom's trust but I had to. I also left notes on her phone about it.... what do I do now?
Once again I'm going to tell you to ignore it as it is none of your business. If mom is cheating on your father you will only make things worse for yourself if you attempt to address this with her.
If she is cheating and knows you are spying on her she could and most likely will just be more careful. There is no reason she will stop cheating just because you tell her you know. Even threatening to tell you father does not guarantee anything.
She may not care if your father knows. What if she comes back with; your father has a girlfriend so why can't I have a boyfriend? Do you really want to know this?
If you really have to get this off your chest then talk to her sister or brother is she has one, or talk to her mother of she is still alive. Let them talk to your mother as it is better for something like this to be addressed by another adult not by one of her young children.
well, it used to be pretty OK with me and my mum. but lately, maybe in the past month we've been fighting like every 2 or so afternoons. and it gets really bad, like she calls me a b****, then i call her a b**** then she calls me nasty then so on...
i must seem horrible to her when were in the fight, but actually after, i think to myself that im wrong and that i am everything what my mum told me i am
its just in the moment, that i get so angry. its my biggest weakness being told what to do, and being in a big family im told what to do very often and then the fighting starts over and over and over. i know its a horrible weakness to have, and most of the time i try hard to stop it, but really i cant deal with someone constantly bombarding me with orders. to me its like not having my own space, which is probably weird to everyone else but its how i feel.
sometimes i try and say sorry and fix it all up, but usually people really dont want to talk about it after the arguing is done and they just brush me off. but i hate leaving things unfixed.
its the worst feeling promising yourself it wont happen again and then it happens again
so i just would like some advice, because really its getting me down a lot lately and wish it so much to stop
by the way, if it helps im 14 and 8 months
First let me say you are not alone in this problem. All teenagers between the age of say 13 to 17 go through this. It is hormonal to a degree caused by all the new hormones puberty brings and the new stresses of teenage life and what I call being a betweener.
A betweener is your to young to be called a child and not old enough to be seen as an adult. As parents we all make a big mistake of trying to keep our kids as children as long as we can. For the longer they are children the longer we can keep them safe. Once we acknowledge they are no longer children then we also must allow them greater freedom and this is when we can no loner keep them safe in are arms 24/7. It a parents thing and I said its wrong and I was guilty of it with my kid.
Because of the hormones, the stresses and everything else that is going on in a teenagers life they become short fused and easily triggered. We as parents know this and we are short fused as well from the stressed we have in our daily life. This is why you have your arguments with mom in the afternoon. Most likely after school when mom gets home from work. Your both stressed out and both need time to decompress.
You both need to acknowledge to each other that this is not the time for the two of you to make any demands on one another. Instead if the things you are arguing over are things like house hold chores they can be discussed at breakfast when you are both relaxed. If you want to go someplace with your friends then hopefully you know long enough in advance that you can discuss this with mom at a time and place that is not in the afternoon when she needs to relax and decompress.
Before I retired I had several different motto's I used to help me be successful. One of them was; "Poor Planning equal Poor Performance." In your case this means you and mom need to find away to communicate to each other at a time when the two of you are so not short tempered to begin with that at argument will insue just by looking cross eyed at one another.
If mom says something to you that trips your argument button try counting to ten before answering her. You can also say something like; "Mom I'm uptight right now can we discuss this later." That statement worked very well for me and my son. We would both back off that subject and come back to it when we both had time to decompress.
Most importantly is for you and mom to find away to talk to each other. You also need to remember you are 14, still young and still needing to mature and learn the ways of the world before you gain the freedoms you may wish to ask for. The less you argue with mom the easier it may be to gain those freedoms.
im 12 and i have not yet started my period... im an elite level gymnast. ive been told that gymnastics stunts puberty, im starting to get really worried and idk what to do, i have been doing gymnastics for 8 years. im just really worried and i need your advice. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!☆★☆
If you train for your sport as do many Olympic Athletes. Then like many of the females Olympians you may find that your period will not start or it will stop and that your physical development is delayed. I don't know exactly why this is but if you look at some of our female Gold Medal winners in a before and after type picture you will see what I am talking about.
Many of the females do not have big breasts and are not fully developed as one might expect of someone of their ages. Many of these athletes after winning a Gold Medal relax their training schedule or stop training all together. Once this happens their breasts fully develop, their hips widen and they develop the curves one would expect of a female, especially one in top physical condition. If they have not had a period during training then their period starts shortly after they stop training.
I do not know why this is. I believe it has something to do with weight and diet as this problem if you call it that is seen more in sports where weight is a factor.
The body is designed to save itself. Meaning if you are burning more calories than you are taking in and do not have the body fat to make up the difference; the body goes into a self-preservation mode by shutting down those systems it feels it doesn't need to support. Puberty and the changes that come with puberty may be something the body feels it can delay if you are not fueling it enough. I am not saying you are anorexic. That is an entirely different problem.
I think what I am trying to say is that in all the years you have been training. The baby fat that most children have you no longer have. I believe this baby fat is what fuels us through puberty as this is when the baby fat disappears. Athletes in general have low body fat. When they stop training their body fat increases some and this allows puberty to continue or maximize.
This is all just conjecture on my part. The best people to ask about this is your coaches or your doctor. Most importantly is for you not to worry about this. As an athlete I believe you are normal.
hey jasmine
i'm 15 years old and I've been fingered by 2 guys
but strangely i somehow don't get any kind of pleasure in fingering
is there something wrong ?
like i mean i read on a lot of websites about the reason being the guy not handling the clitoris but even that didn't help
please help !
There is nothing wrong with you. The problem is more one of age in that the boys are to young and inexperienced. Or you do not get pleasure from vaginal fingering and are more clitoral in nature. Many women do not get a great deal of pleasure from vaginal stimulation but find clitoral stimulators really rocks the boat.
The best way to find out what gives you the most pleasure is to masturbate. Self pleasure is not only the best way to find out about your sensual pleasure it is also a safe way to relieve sexual tension. Contrary to what some may tell you masturbation is normal and is actually what is being done to you when a boy fingers you.
According to a national survey about 85% of us masturbate. This would include parents and children. Foreplay is all about mutual masturbation with oral sex, a form of mutual masturbation, as is handjobs. So what would or could be wrong with pleasing ones self. Most organized religions do not condemn masturbation and this includes the Catholic church.
I would suggest you go in your room, lock the door, so as not to be intruded on, turn on some music you find romantic and relax on your bed. Try stimulating your clitoris as well as your vagina. If I'm correct that you are more clitoral in nature you should bring yourself to orgasm by rubbing your clitoris. If you get yourself off through vaginal stimulation then you will have to teach your boyfriend how to please you and he you.
There is nothing wrong in learning how to please each other. No two people are alike in how they receive pleasure and that is part of the fun in giving pleasure to ones lover.
Okay, I am a girl in 8th grade, 14 years old. My friend heard this boy telling his friend that he liked me. I dont really like him that way but before i found out he told my friend to leave him alone because he already "had someone." he said this while staring at me. He was dating another good friend of mine and dumped her cause she had a flat chest. He is seated close to me in all of my classes and just today my friend found a picture of a girl without any clothes on and it said printed by; and his name. He also got my friend alone in a room and starting proposing gross stuff at her.(before all this) He is always staring at me and its creeping me out. And I can't tell the principal because they say "deal with your own problems."
What should I do?! I would really appriceate any and all advice on this, and I am so sorry it's so long!
Thanks!
~Christina
If you or your friend are being harassed by this boy that is the schools problem. Harassment of any type is a form of bullying which is very much on the radar of all school administrators. You may not be explaining yourself properly to your principal. You and your friend should talk with your parents and have them talk to the school administrators. I'm sure they will take your parents concerns more seriously.
As for the nude picture in his possession. If the person in the picture is under 18 then he is in possession of child pornography. If he has given this picture to anyone then he is a distributor of child pornography just as is the person who sent the picture to him and the person who took the picture. Regardless of his age these are illegal acts punishable in a court of law.
If he is showing this picture at school then the principal or the school Police resource officer, if you have one, should be made aware of this.
This boy should not possess this type of picture. He should not be showing it or flashing it at anyone who may not want to look at it as it is then sexual harassment. More importantly pornography in general is not acceptable school material. This is something the school principal is required to stop and take appropriate action.
If he or she is not. The here again make your parents aware and let then complain to the proper authorities.