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Flirty Boyfriend
I am dating a guy who's best friend happens to be a girl. We are all 22-24 years old if that matters. As his girlfriend I really don't care if he hangs out with other girls especially since they are his friends and I would never tell him he couldn't hang out with someone. However, his best female friend ("jenny")kind of rubs me the wrong way. She does have a boyfriend but is very flirty with mine. It actually works both ways. Last night for example we were all at a cabin. At one point Jenny and my boyfriend were sitting on a bean bag together, they were pretty touchy-feely. She even gave him a kiss on the cheek and I saw my boyfriend giving her random hugs throughout the night, calling her "sweetheart" (this wouldn't be a problem if he didn't refer to me as that, too -__-) and kiss her cheek as well. I was pretty taken back considering I was there to see that and Jenny's boyfriend saw it too.
I do not want to be that naggy girlfriend that complains about him have a close female friend but I feel with all the hugging and cheek kissing, especially in front of me is a little too much. How can I confront him about it without seeming jealous/crazy/naggy?
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First lets drop the word confront for that means to have a confrontation, or argument. something I do not think you wish to have. I believe a better word to use would be to address, as to address my feelings with him about this.
I would suggest one evening when your alone, maybe when you two are all snuggled together you bring the subject of his friend ship with Jenny up with him. You could say something like, I would never ask you not to see any of your friends but when I'm with you and even though I know you love me. Seeing you all touchy feely, huggy kissy with Jenny it is a bit hurt full to me. Is it possible when I'm with you you can tone it down. I'm fairly certain her boyfriend is bothered by this as well. When I'm not with you , what I don't see can't hurt me."
Of course you put this in your own words though what you are trying to say is what I said at the end. I'm not asking you not to do it, I do trust you. Still it is hurtful to sit there and watch you two. Putting it this way should avoid an argument and hopefully will enlighten him to the fact that he is doing something that is causing you pain. something he may not be aware of.
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