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i don't like being fingered... what is wrong with me?
hey jasmine
i'm 15 years old and I've been fingered by 2 guys
but strangely i somehow don't get any kind of pleasure in fingering
is there something wrong ?
like i mean i read on a lot of websites about the reason being the guy not handling the clitoris but even that didn't help
please help !
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I sincerely doubt that you have 'faulty' sex organs that don't respond to stimulation. Are you physically responding. A gentle swelling, tingling feeling and darkening of your visible parts is usual. Along with 'feeling wet' of course. If there's none, he's not pressing the right buttons. If they're there but you're simply not getting a feeling of pleasure, something is acting as a mental block, or acting as a brake on your enjoyment. You'll have to look at, and into yourself to find the cause and the answer. As your other replies confirm, there's nothing wrong or 'dirty' about a girl of your age enjoying her boyfriend touching her intimately. Might there be some moral objections stemming from a religious upbringing? Obviously, I know nothing about you to base anything on whatsoever. But I hope it's a start. I do doubt there's anything physically 'wrong' as you hinted though. Best wishes.
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every person has different preferences in what they like especially sexually wise it could be because you don't get aroused by fingering or because the way they are doing it for you is not arousing.
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Maybe it is just not for you.
It is not for me either... It does not mean to say there is anything wrong with you <3
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There is nothing wrong with you. The problem is more one of age in that the boys are to young and inexperienced. Or you do not get pleasure from vaginal fingering and are more clitoral in nature. Many women do not get a great deal of pleasure from vaginal stimulation but find clitoral stimulators really rocks the boat.
The best way to find out what gives you the most pleasure is to masturbate. Self pleasure is not only the best way to find out about your sensual pleasure it is also a safe way to relieve sexual tension. Contrary to what some may tell you masturbation is normal and is actually what is being done to you when a boy fingers you.
According to a national survey about 85% of us masturbate. This would include parents and children. Foreplay is all about mutual masturbation with oral sex, a form of mutual masturbation, as is handjobs. So what would or could be wrong with pleasing ones self. Most organized religions do not condemn masturbation and this includes the Catholic church.
I would suggest you go in your room, lock the door, so as not to be intruded on, turn on some music you find romantic and relax on your bed. Try stimulating your clitoris as well as your vagina. If I'm correct that you are more clitoral in nature you should bring yourself to orgasm by rubbing your clitoris. If you get yourself off through vaginal stimulation then you will have to teach your boyfriend how to please you and he you.
There is nothing wrong in learning how to please each other. No two people are alike in how they receive pleasure and that is part of the fun in giving pleasure to ones lover.
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