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I'm still a virgin but my ex is spreading rumours that we had sex...
right so yeh I'm a 17 year old female and I'm still a virgin my ex boyfriend keeps spreading rumours saying we had sex and all that rubbish... my current boyfriend has discovered this rumour and threatened my ex if he told anyone else this what should I do?!?! "/
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Tell your parents what he has been doing and how he's harassing you in general. You can also confide this to teachers. Once you have adults on your side they can put a stop to it and you can escalate it and press harassment charges.
Sexual harassment of students is something your school will take deadly serious. Definitely tell adults who can dish out heavy duty punishment so richly deserved.
Tell your current boyfriend that you respect him for standing up for your honor but that he MUST not do anything or imply doing something physical to this guy. Why? That type of threat can get YOU and HIM in trouble or give the creep grounds to tell people you threatened him if you escalate with law enforcement.
The best thing you can do is resist the urge to retaliate or get revenge and let adults handle what he has been doing and punish him for it. Go to teachers and your parents first.
The guy's doing it because you dropped him or feels hurt for some reason justifies it. The best thing is not to react to it or show it's getting to you.
You can't control what others believe about you unfortunately but you do have every right not to be harassed daily with this rubbish.
If I were you I would tell your friends and girlfriends or classmates that the guy got nowhere and is doing this to bother you and a current boyfriend perhaps out of jealousy. Leave it at that. Choose not to be affected by the lie and others won't care when they hear it. Ask that they not confront him for any reason over it and let adults handle this.
Tell your parents and teachers at the same time immediately and ask them to handle it for you privately. He'll get punished but don't do any confronting or threatening be it from your boyfriend or you to him so nobody can come back at you for "harassing" him any or provoking something.
You KNOW what the TRUTH is so no matter what anyone else thought it can't erase that. So hold true to that and watch this get ironed out by the adults that care for you.
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Tell him that by spreading this rumor he is in fact sexually harassing you. He needs to stop and he needs to correct his lies or you will make a police matter of this. He probably won't believe you as most people are ignorant of the law or may feel their age, being a juvenile will save them any punishment. Age makes no difference when it comes to sexual harassment.
For your boyfriend to commit any type of physical violence against the ex will only get your boyfriend in trouble. Just inform your ex of what can happen then follow through if he doesn't stop.
Sexual harassment takes many forms. Your ex is committing one form of sexual harassment by spreading false rumors about you. Will he go to jail, most likely not. Will he go before a judge most likely he will go before a court master if he is taken to court at all. What most likely what will happen is he and his parents will be asked to come to the police station and speak with the detective.
If the talk goes anything like several friends of mine who are police officers and a detectives say it will. Your ex should have the living daylights scared out of him. If his parents are good people they should also follow through on what the detective informs them of and what can happen to him if he does not make amends and he does not stop his harassment.
Sexual harassment has no age barrier. The law covers all ages. Should this happen at school children as young as kindergarteners have been disciplined for sexually harassing another student. If your ex is doing this at school you and your parents should also talk to school officials. Discipline at school can range from suspension to expulsion.
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