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my question is about being adamant about something
I have this coworker who has a problem and every chance they get the same subject is brought up to me and everyone else in the company. I am singled out and asked how do I do it with so many kids. So, me being a parent I can relate. Now, when I respond in a way that I relate because I have a child with the same behavior at home and give advice on what did to curb the situation. Is that saying she has to listen and shes held to how I did it example I was told Im being adament about it. But I wasnt forcing my answers on her. Frankly, I wanted to say so what are you going to do about it OR I am not only experienced in that area but I can totally relate. Now everyone elses reaction to her is just listening and quickly go about their business. They also dont have any children.
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A lot of people, even here on this site, don't actually want advice.
They just want to be heard - they might even just want to whine. Sometimes, the last thing they want is a solution.
If your advice wasn't accepted, you might want to consider your approach - it never hurts to think about how you could have done better or communicated more clearly - but it's more likely that your coworker just wanted to be heard out.
Since she is just a coworker, and not a close friend, it's probably easiest to simply listen to her, or excuse yourself from the conversation in the future.
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Giving advice is a tricky situation even on this site. There are people who really just want to vent. Wanting to talk to someone who may have experienced a similar situation makes it easier.
IF the other person does not come right out and ask what have you done in this situation. Then I would assume they are venting. It might be appropriate to say something like; I hear you, been there done and have the pictures to prove it. You could also say something like; yea I know what you going through, I had the same problem, it does get better. Then wait and see if the other person asks for advice.
In the situation you relate I would somewhere in the giving of advice insert that; "every child is different and what worked for me may not work with your child." "You may have to adapt what I do to fit with your child's needs."
This is the best I can advise at the moment. Not being there and hearing for myself what is being asked of you; makes it that much harder to give advice on this question.
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