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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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There's this guy, Jack. He's friends with a lot of my camp friends, and I've started talking to him online. He's really great, but I haven't met him in person yet. I want to, but we live like, half an hour away. And the camp friends that he knows aren't greattt friends of mine, and I don't really see them a lot. However, I think if I could get invited to one of their places I'd meet him, cause he's constantly with them.
So any ideas on how to get myself invited?


and also, i asked a question similar to this a while back(different situation, but the begginning was similar) and i got a million responses on how to be careful cause he could really be a 40 year old man.
PLEASE none of those this time.
I've talked to him on the phone once, and I'm the only one of my friends who hasn't met him.
So none of those.

Talking on the phone or not, there's always a chance it's someone WAY older than you. So whether you've talked to them vocally or not, it's still always a thing to keep in mind. Safety is always the most important issue.

Anyways, ask him to hang out one on one. Even though you live half hour away from each other, that's not all that far. My ex boyfriend lived half hour by car & it was only 15 miles which wasn't even far from me. And we made things work, and it was a great relationship. So just because someone lives about half hour away, it doesn't mean things can't work out. Just ask him to hang out with you at the mall or the movies or something. Be careful, good luck & half fun.

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Hey wats up, lately I've been through some different situations, Well I got dumped like a month ago,because she said that she had feelings for someone else, and then she realized that she made a mistake and wanted me back. Then I told her that I would give her a second chance, but I dont know if she would do the same thing she did in this first place.

So she told me she was hurt that I told her no, and then too, I told her that I am talking to this girl, and I have feelings for her, but she already has a boyfriend, I dont know what to do, And I am so confused. Please tell me what should I do? Should I keep my my new friend or go back to me ex, please give me advice.

Don't go out with either of them. If you go back out with your ex, there's a chance she'll do what she did to you all over again. If you go for the other girl, since she's dating it'd be dumb if she broke up with her boyfriend for you since your ex did that, and you'd be no better than your ex.

Find someone better than the two who's single & likes you back & won't hurt you. You're so much better off.

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okay i ended my last period on feb 28 and i didnt get it the month of march, usually i get sore breast a week b4 i get it but i didnt get either of them, i've been having mild cramping. im worried about why i missed it. me and my bf never had sex. however on march 2nd and 9th he did finger me and i jacked him off and he cummed but after he cumed he washed his hands with soap and water. im really worried that im pregnant, right now i dont have sore breast nor tired or vomitting but i have been having cramping. is it really easy to get pregnant by fingering if cum was on his finger? and i didnt get my period. and i usually dont miss mine.
wats a first sign of being pregnant?

If there was cum on his finger, there is a chance of you getting pregnant. Although you don't have the signs, it could be too early to tell. Get a pregnancy test from the store & if it says negative it could still be positive. So you might need to take a few until they come out positive. The best kind of pregnancy test is a blood test because those are a 100% correct while a urine test is only about 98%. A pregnancy test from the store should cost about $15-20 dollars. The first sign to pregnancy is a missed period. Hopefully you're not pregnant. Good luck. =)

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Anyone know any songs that are about wanting to give up on a friendship/not being able to take any more fights with a friend? Something like that? Thanks!

Song on the left, band on the right.

Friends & Alibis -- Escape The Fate.
Matter of Time -- Cartel.
There's No Sympathy For The Dead -- Escape The Fate.
I Hate Everything About You -- Three Days Grace.
Just Like You -- Three Days Grace.
Life Without Friends -- Four Letter Lie.
Thnks Fr Th Mmrs -- Fall Out Boy.
False Pretense -- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Damn Regret -- The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.

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14/m i'm not to confident around girls and i havent had a girlfriend or asked a girl out before because of it and there is no girls at my school that are single and well does anyone have ideas on geting more confident? and where should i go to ask girls out?

Just say hi to them. Girls like a simple hello, that's all it takes. When you get that down, ask them what's up, how their day is, what they're doing over the weekend, stuff like that. Just keep gradually building up a conversation until you're comfortable enough. And when you like her & feel she likes you back, ask her out. =)

If she says no, then she's shallow & not worth your time anyways. =) Oh, and always make a girl laugh. Usually, if you can make her laugh/smile, you can basically be one of her good friends. I know that if a guy can make me laugh, he can make me do anything.

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Is it true that you can get HPV Human Papalumoa (or however u spell it) Virus from masturbating???

No. If you touched someone with it, then yeah you can get it, but other than that I don't think you can get it from masturbating. Finger yourself/wack it all you want. No harm in it.

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hey-

i did somehting bad... accidental.. but bad (not like against the law bad but i tad gross and messaged up) and i lost all my friends and had to make new ones and swtiched schools, but my 'community' i guess you could call it is all linked somehow and everyone knows everyone! that measn that the word spread about me so fast that i could even blieve it! its been about 4-5 years later and people still talk bout it! and i feel so weird a stupid. like im popular at my new school i gess but when i look at people myspace i see that my 'old' friends are frieds with these really cool girls and i relize i cant be firends with them! and all the high school parties i cant go because im scard ppl will be mean or look at me or not be nice bc or wa i did ACCADENTLY 100 years ago! i dotn no wat to do! my mom doesnt get y im still hung up on it and my friends dont get it eiterh! its stupid i know but it keeps me up and idk what to do.

If people can't get over a simple mistake, then that just shows how immature & simpleminded they are. Why consume your time with people like that anyways?

If you've found new friends, then why dwell on the past? Yes, you made a mistake, and you realize it, so you're already more mature than you were then. If you can accept the mistakes you've made, then you're one step closer to getting what it takes to survive.

Go to the high school parties, & have fun. Don't worry about what people are gonna say to you. If they say anything, just brush it off because YOU know that you're BETTER than that. Don't let it get to you. If you do, it's gonna show that it still makes an impact on you, & they're just gonna do it more.

I've made a ton of mistakes in my life, & if people still remember, then they're lame. And if they say something to me about it, they're even lamer. I accept that I made mistakes, and I'm a better, more adult person because of them. I'm 16 years old & sometimes think as if I'm older. Not many kids can do that.

Also, who cares what people think of you? People are always gonna talk -- give them something to talk about. Whether it's something bad or good, you're in control of what happens & what people say. I don't care what people think of me, and it's only made me better. I live with no regrets. I do what I want, and if people have something to say, I let them. I could care less what they think of me & my actions.

As long as I'm happy -- that's all that matters. Just the same that as long as you're happy, then that's all that matters. Do what makes you happy, do what you love. Don't care what people say. Accept your mistakes, live with no regrets & laugh everything off. If you can do that, you can do anything. I promise you.

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I did somehting....weird... 3 years ago. i was the most popular girl in my grade i was mean and then i did somehting really bad. (not like break the law bad but stupid) i lost all my friends. they dumped me! they were all so mean to be after i did an accadentl thing to them! i feel so abanded and till this day i feel so annoyed!

What's your question?

If you've got new friends who are better than your old ones, then be happy. Why be miserable with the "popular" kids when you can be happy with kids who will never stab you in the back?

Being sorry is one thing, but moving on & accepting you made a mistake is another. And besides, when you make a mistake -- your friends will never leave your side, and if they do, then they were never your friends to begin with. Your friends stay there NO MATTER WHAT.

You should listen to a song called Friends & Alibis. It's by Escape The Fate. It kind of describes your situation.

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hello [= my last question
got deleted. i guess i didnt
give enough infoo lol. are there
any ways i could make my orgasim
last longer? im a female. usually
my orgasims last like ten seconds?
please and thank you :]

It depends on the person. I guess when you masturbate or have sex, try & find your spot & see if you can try & hit it for a long time.

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Ok heres the deal my sister has been going out with his guy marlon for a couple of monthes she says she loves him, but i don't really care i don't think she is happy, cause the only thing their relationship is based off of is humor, and that they are funny people and even funnier together. But i think she should stop going with him, i mean they always agruing and why would you want that! But he's cool and everything i just want her to be with chris brown they are a lot like each other and she knows if she could she'd take him over marlon any day! But should i just leave this situation alone or take action right away!? She said that chris brown is still awesome and everything,but she would never get the chance, but i am saving up all my money so that when chris brown new cd come out in august i can buy two copies one for her and me and then tickets to when he goes on tour for the album and maybe even backstage passes so that she can see that she was wrong and i know i'm exaggerating a little, but who cares! I don't even know if they will still be together by then,but if so and i save up my money and get this and my plan don't work i'm going to hurt marlon! Just kidding! Hahahaha!

Are you kidding me? You want your sister to be with Chris Brown? It'll never happen. Point blank. He's a celeb, and she's ordinary. Normal people aren't destined for dating famous people, that's not how it works. And if it ever happens, they're unbelievably lucky.

Just let her date who she wants. There's nothing wrong with having a humor based relationship. I've had them, and they're amazing. If they argue all the time, that's their problem & you can't stop it. Let them learn the lessons for themselves.

You're never gonna accomplish anything in life if everyone fucking holds your hand & helps you with everything. Nobody's gonna baby you in the real world. Let her figure it out.

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i was wondering if anybody had any recommendations for magazines. i already love to read cosmo girl and seventeen, although sometimes, cosmo girl is not on the racks and it's dissapointing. i also read teen, but do you know of any magazines that are for teens, 13-17? i like magazines like seventeen, and hope to find more!

If you want music magazines -- Spin and Alternative Press are the best two. I read them both, and I'm subscribed to Spin. I'm trying to work my parents into subscribing me to AP because it'd be cheaper than buying me the magazine once or twice a month [they come out w. more than copy a month sometimes].

As for other magazines, I read Teen Vogue.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AgMp8JZYEjg
like what do the lyrics mean?

plus i have a talent show and im gonna sing it. i spent weeks deciding on a song and this was one of my first choices that i thought i wouldnt do.. but i like singing this. so uh.. im wondering what i should wear. something black? lol like describe detailled-ly. or i'll just get a dress at like mandees or somethin. also how should i wear up my hair and etc too.

THANKS I LOVE YOU!

For the love of god:

Use Google or Songmeanings.net

Christ.

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I'm 13/f...Well, my best friend is a guy. Lets call him...Colby. What happened was, Colby has been a dating machine..hes irresistable to girls. Whenever he goes out with one, im left out. He completely ignores me, he doesnt call me ever, or comes over my hous anymore. This only happens when he has a gf. So i had the nerve to go up and tell him how i felt about it. He said that he promises that it ill never happen again and we will be like we used to ( this happened after he broke up with his old gf) So, colby goes out with this other girl lets call her..Dylan. He always talks about how they make out and all that so of course ill be nice ( no im not jealous and i dont like like him) and say wow thats cool. So he knows who i like and i talk to him aobut the guy i like and his response ould be nmothing..!! he just gets up and leaves..it makes me feel awful..but i love him so much like a friend!! and i dont wanna lose him but he makes me feel im not important and i dont belong in his life... SORRY ITS SOO LONG!!

From,
~.:MixedEmotions:.~

Congratulations on telling him how you felt about the situation. Most kids want to, but won't because they're too shy.

Anyways, he might not like hearing about you & another guy. He could be getting mad, jealous or feeling awkward about it, so that's why he leaves.

Ask him what's up. There's a possibility he could like you.

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If a girl hits u all the time does that mean she likes u. and if it does should i ask her out

Yeah. If she's playful about it, then I would say that she likes you.

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on friday the colorado rapids played DC united. it was a really good game but i had to leave for work. can anyone tell me who won the game?
by the way for those of you who dont know..this is soccer im talking about

The Rapids won. =)

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Ok well i'm thinking about going to a concert soon, and i was just wondering if you would advise me to wear earplugs because i know that its going to be really loud in there, but is it better to wear ear plugs or not to?

Don't. If you wear ear plugs, you won't hear the music. You will, but not as loud. The best part of a show is hearing the concert as loud as possible. =)

Whenever I go to a concert, I stand/sit in the front as close to the artist as possible. Best for getting a good look, hearing them better, & getting good pictures & videos. =)

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I already have had my period, for 3 years.
My shoe size has somewhat stablaized.
I am 5'7 and a half.
I have body hair.

Heres is my question, am I done maturing? I don't think I am because my breasts don't look fully matured yet. My nipple area does not at all look matured. Will they ever?

I'm not sure of your age, but you sound fully grown to me. Fully matured? Maybe, but probably not quite. If you're young [14-16], then you've got a little bit of growing left.

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I lost all my friends 3 years ago, made new ones BETTER ONES! but i keep thinking that if i still was friends with those biotches then would i be happier? i know my new freidns are nicer but there not as popular or cool, i love htem so much more then those girls and i no there much better then those girls but i keep having second thought which i shouldnt bc my new friends are the greatest. what do i do to get those stupid unhearrd of thougth out of my mind. my old friends were so mean to me! they dumped me! all bc i did somehting by accadent and whatvever!

Who cares if your new friends aren't as popular? Popular kids tend to backstab more when the less popular kids don't. And popularity isn't everything. Besides, you should be happy. You've got amazing friends who treat you great. That's all you need. Forget about your old friends. They're old for a reason.

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Im 5'1 and i weigh 108. im really skinny and known as skinny. but i see fat on my stomich. i do pushups and situps everynight but i need this fat off my stomich! i eat really bad also. i eat wtvr i want wenever! i no this is bad! wat kind of diet should i go on? i dont wanna become anerxic but i wanna loose this fat! any fitness/exercise ideas?

I think you're getting an eating disorder. You know you're skinny, but all you see is fat when you look at yourself.

You need to see a doctor.

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Ok, I'm 5'8, weigh about 138 pounds and am 16 yrs old. I exercise 5-6 days a week and burn about 400+ calories each time I work out.

I'm trying to lose weight, and right about now I'm eating around 800-1,400 (at the absolute most) calories per day. Is that too much? Should I cut out more or add more? I have no idea!

Correct me if I'm wrong, but the average amount of calories a person is supposed to consume a day is 200--2500. It's good that you're eating & working out, but you don't need to exercise or do anything because your weight is actually pretty good, but with your height, you might be a little too thin.

Check your bmi here:

http://apps.nccd.cdc.gov/dnpabmi/Calculator.aspx

You could be underweight, but I'm not sure.

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