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ok,so i got my first lip piercing about two weeks ago. than,got two more took two out cause they were crooked. i,found another piercer and he did my kinda of like snake bites piercing. he,says they are straight but I'm I'm obsessing now about this cause i can't tell if they are even or if it just swelling. he,swears they are straight but ya this is my first full day of having them so any advice on the topic??

I would suggest waiting a few days for swelling and healing to be over or longer if needed. then if you still believe it to be crooked, go back and get it redone.

I've never had my period come consistently- it's always skipped every other month but this time it's been 3 months and I wouldn't say I'm anxious, but I am a bit concerned. Could this relate back to my health in some way? Does it mean something? Is it common?

If you are in your teens, then thats normal to not get it consistantly. It should become regular as clockwork once you get older,18 on but even a late bloomer with puberty may still have the issues at 18 or 19.
If you are into your 20's and still have this issue, you may want to go see a Dr. There could be something off about your hormone levels.

hey, am an 18 years old highschool senior girl, am not confortable with the way i look i mean i know am not ugly and many people told me am beautiful as well but thats not the issue am worried about i am very slim girl. and all my friends are all bigger and curvier than me, they always makes fun of me well they don't mean it in a bad way its just a joke to zem, but it makes me feel bad about my self and the boys as well see me as some skinny girl, so they don't respect me as a girl and i have seen many boys after my friends but not after me ; well i searched on the internet and i found out i need to work out, build muscle,but thats not what i want i don't want to be muscley girl i just want to weight normal, and look normal am just tired of being called the thin and baby face girl always,even 14 years old cousin looks bigger than me i don't really know what to do about it p/s i need help/advice!!

It all comes down to personal taste in people. A few have no preferance at all in looks and will have interest in a person no matter if slim all the way to overweight. But for the most part, every one eventually discovers they have a personal interest. Young males tend to go with where their hormones lead them and even more so by what media pushes at them as what the perfect female is. Girls have more solid ideas of what they find attractive in a guys looks long before guys have figured it out. They're still in the learning curve here as far as dating and relationships go. Eventually they will figure it out as they get older. As time goes on and guys mature, you'll find there are even more guys that like slim willowy girls better than curvy ones. I'm slim and petite. Been so all my life.
Having a baby face at 18 may sound terrible to you but in looking back at portraits, I had a baby face still at age 2O. It wasn't until photos or being nearly 30 that I came into my fully mature female look. Many change and continue to grow in subtle ways over the years so what your face looks like now may change. the same for the body. After having kids a females hips can be a bit wider or lots wider. Many put on weight that they keep after kids. Breasts can grow and shrink in size during your lifetime. Many women end up with large chests if breast feeding, and some find theirs go back to before size or as in my case, even smaller than before kids. And it took a good amount of years for my natural size to come back. It isn't until now in menopause that I have been able to keep on some extra weight and I now have just about the size of chest I had when breast feeding. I have a site for you to look at of photos of what are natural breasts. Photos submited of just chest, no faces with the girls telling a brief bit about themselves. Most are your age group up to nursing ages and the girls with even a flat chest have stories to share of their guy devoted to them and loving their body just as it is because they also love the girl inside the body. Here it is and its a good boost for self confidence no matter your chest size.

http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php

19,F.
I moved to a new city recently for university and I met a man there. We got on almost instantly and we started texting, calling and seeing each other regularly. He would come to spend time with me after work and I would go and see him after Uni.
this lead me to believe he liked me- calling for 4 hours at a time, texting all day..
I don't mind this and I don't find him annoying- i just don't understand what he wants, as he has a girlfriend that he is supposed to marry but hasn't yet due to family issues or something(i don't know the story well).. at first he referred to us as friends but carried on flirting with me and eventually kissed me. so the second time it happened I told him it would have to stop as it can't be an accident twice, and that i didnt want to develop feelings for him if he is going to go and get married to his girlfriend in the end and I be left with nothing.
he agreed,A week passed and we ended up seeing each other again but this time we slept together and it was absolutely perfect for me i could genuinely be with him as a boyfriend and am starting to develop stronger emotions toward him but i was left feeling confused and frustrated once again. I thought that contact would stop after we slept together and he had 'got what he wanted' but he still speaks to me every day, calls me and invites me out with him. I don't understand this because I would love to just go for it as i really really like him and can see myself being with him but do I really want to risk my emotions when hes got a girlfriend ? someone said he might be using me as a backup incase this planned marriage fails.. but I'm not sure. just cant stand this not knowing any longer- and I don't want to speak to him again about it since i already did !

It seems that some, perhaps you wrote two message half hour apart about the same guy. this one just has more information. In the other message, this was stated as no longer a planned marriage. That the 2nd time you met, he was already married. If he wasn't willing to commit to only one woman and wants to play around, why did he marry in the first place. Ever think of that? Easy, he doesn't believe a wife can be a friend and /or mothering type and also a lover. No one was holding a gun to his head to force him to marry. So what possibly could he gain from being married as an almost 30 yr old?
I figure, he was looking for two things, one: a mommy figure, someone to be his maid and cook and run errands for him and pick up after him and keep house so he has a lovely place to live. He also has no intention of loving one woman. He isn't willing to really care about the personality and character and everything inside a woman, cus if he was willing, he would be able to find himself someone who he can commit to, is in love with, wants to serve and support and uphold her, and is so sexually attracted to and satisfied by just her and has no desire for other pretty faces because he fell in love with the package deal. No one else out there can be the you that you are inside. Our personalities and all that comes with are pretty complex and a man would have to be so in love with that as well as sexually attracted for a relationship to work. This man is only sexually attracted on a lust level which is only skin deep. It is not love, which goes deeper. So as all others have already said, this is someone you need to run from as fast as you can.
Perhaps you crave someone paying you compliments, giving you attention and wanting to have sex with you. But those things all women want...and it does not mean the guy loves them. Honey, If I had sex with every man who compliments me, pays me attention and says they are interested in me, there'd not be enough days in the year to schedule that. I'd have to double or triple that up on days. I am not making this up. I was on a dating site before i met my 2nd husband. And I am no longer young as you and yet, over a few years, I had that many men propose having sex with them, ranging from 19 to 69 in age. Men are going to be visually attracted to women first. That's all well and good. You do want a man you know is visually and sexually stimulated by females, otherwise he might be gay. However, if his interest is only surface level, your looks, then you must learn to never give the guy a chance to ever talk to you again let alone spend time together. He's a douchebag.

I'm a 14 year old and I play a lot on this gaming website. I met a guy (Who claims he's 26). I claim that I'm 18. I never say my real age and never will due to safety reasons. I just feel so uncomfortable talking to him, but yet I feel emotionally attached to him. He's never asked me for my address or anything personal like that, but he's told me that he's on parole and all that and I kind of help him to make him feel better. I know I shouldn't lie and all that, but it's safety reasons. I've heard his voice before (Microphone) but he hasn't heard mine. What should I do? I feel kind of "unsafe", but I feel that about everything since I have a panic disorder. I want to just end the talking by just not starting conversation, but me and him play the game a lot and end up starting conversation.

Of course you are emotionally attached. When ever we met people on line, no matter in what venue, it's going to be one dimensional. Our emotions get automatically sucked in to help make it more real for us.
There will be so much missing that we can't really know about a person's true character, what they truly look like,(females have posted false pics for men and in games such as 'Second Life' there are people in their 60s and older posing as all 30 yr olds. There seem to be no old avatars. Wheelchair bound cripples use this as their outlet to experience life. Some use the venue to experience what it is like to be the opposite sex, males pretending to be females and vice versa, so falling for a male online in 2nd life for example, may actually be a female old enough to be your grandma! It's the minds of the people we may feel attachment to but that is not enough to make a successful or even realistic friendship let alone anything else. And you can't go by just a voice. there is equipment you can use to alter male voices to female and female to male. I know a older lady home bound who sings on 2nd life and has met male avatars that she's fallen for. She also had one male avatar stalking her whereever she went in the game and became as terrified as if it were happening in 2nd life. Good feeling or bad, its all emotions and thats what games, social sites and dating tend to create is connections with others that are purely emotional because they can't be anything but. Since you feel its not right, feel uncomfortable, I agree with the other advicegiver. Block the person and go tell your parents. Let them know you blocked the person. Their job is to protect you.
Good luck.

I'm really really pissed! This relationship is long distance.
The man I ''Love'' I have to use it loosely,seems to not want to talk to me,and also there's a few other things I just dont like!
First off,he never calls me,we dont talk much!
He spends time going out to party,watching movies,hanging out with friends,going here,going there. And he barely pays any attention to me.
Its breaking my heart more and more and more.I don't know how much longer I can do this baloney!

Second.He is always liking sexy photos of models and women on his Instagram! I'm pretty too.I take sexy shots also.I give him enough attention.
I try my best........I give him all that I can.Im doing the best that I can.But it hurts me. Whedre am I in his life??
Am I some kind of virus that I dont count? What about me?? I should count! I should fucking matter! But I dont. I try to talk to him about him about it.No dice.But hey,I love you honey.I love you baby. Baloney! All of it is just a lie! And I hate him for that!
Here is what I look like.

http://instagram.com/p/u_OoCPSBYp/?modal=true

Am I so darn hideous or watever that Im not worth a phone call?? Hmmm??
Please my heart is breaking.Its become too much for me..........

Coming from an older female, you are very beautiful. You have what I'd call an exotic look. Your eyes seem large lidded and deep set, very expressive eyes. Reminds me of an actress from the past called Sophia Loren.

Hmm, I have a question for you. If there were two identical twin sisters who were raving beauties and they met a nice guy. What would make the guy fall in love with one over the other if they look the same? Can't base how he treats her over the looks. Have you guessed yet? It's her personality and her character and all that she is inside. You have a guy who has not learned to look past skin deep yet with girls. The attraction for him is most likely purely sexual at this point whether he's actually having sex with girls or not is not what I'm saying, it's how aroused he gets from seeing their pics or talking to them. It's all about lust not love. there's a difference. What you are looking for is a guy who can appreciate the whole package, being attracted to you sexually as well as the you inside. And it's the guy who you find who is so deeply in love with your mind, your heart, and with your soul and spirit who is most likely to never be tempted by another pretty face, even if she throws herself at him, because she is not what you are inside. thats the husband I have and I know I am loved and beautiful and he treats me well because since he is in love with me, he cant bear the thought of me hurting in any way, whether he caused it unintentionally or its from something else. Thats what you are looking for and it sounds like he is not it.
I came across this survey online how to gauge if a guy loves you, you may want to read this next. good luck dear.
7 Questions to know if he really loves you

1. Does he say I love you. For some, it's a hard thing to say but they show it to you in other ways. When he says “I love you”, he is viewing that as a commitment to you. It is not a flippant phrase.
Saying I love you too early like during first couple dates is a warning about the guy. Its a very good chance he is needy and wanting a woman to be his mom. Other phrases from a guy count too, like you're awesome, I adore you. You're the woman I always dreamed of.
2. Does he make you a priority in his life? Guys have more than one priority...things very important to him but you should be one of top 3.
What he does for you or how he acts can't be faked easily because it's hard to lie with your body. Things he does without having to be asked, making dinner, picking up something for a collection you have, making time for you, even if it's a walk or a long phone chat. If the guy likes you, he'll make time for you at least a quarter of the time.
3 Does he tell friends about you and like to show you off? Have you been introduced to his family and friends? If he keeps you separate, he's hiding something or ashamed or fearful of something
4. Does he care about your pleasure during sex? Is he only into seeking his own pleasure or your's too. Does he open his eyes and want to have both your eyes connect while making love?
5. Does he respect and encourage you? Respect means, does he value your opinion, do you share decisions and treats you as a partner. Are you encouraged by him to have your own friends and hobbies outside the relationship and encourage you to seek your dreams and uphold you in that.
Jealousy is not love, it's control. It's okay to be protective, but jealousy shouldn't be what prompts the protectiveness
6. Do your friends and family like how he treats you? Others make a great gauge for judging a guys character.
7. Does he look at you with lust and passion in his eyes, with a hunger and thirst for you? Does he give you admiring looks, does he still want to sneak peeks down your shirt. What he sees is Very important since guys are visually stimulated. If he isn't looking anymore, he has lost his interest. All men because of this natural trait, will also view other women but do so discreetly, without being an ass about it. Don't expect a man to look at only you. If he doesn't look at other women at all, it may be a sign that he is gay. You do want a man who is visually stimulated by women.

How many points are true for you with your guy?
7 true He treats you as a Queen and he is an exceptional man
5-6 true He loves you. Just don't focus on what is lacking.
3-4 true He loves you enough to make the relationship work for him. If it's enough for you, then be content. If you feel like you're settling for less, let him go and look for something better.
1-2 true He's a douche-bag, a user or controller. Leave immediately.

Hey everyone. I'm a 17y/o f btw,

So I've been with someone for a little less than two months. He's an amazing guy who speaks both my languages, he loves to read (almost as much as I do), he likes the same type of music, he's just great. He's a perfect gentleman and he agreed to meet my family the second week we were dating.

He's a year older. He's in college and he's working at his college. Still, he takes time off on fridays and has lunch with me. We live about five minutes away from each other, so he can also visit after school.

The problem is that I'm a very independent, cranky girl. I used to get home and go to sleep until the next day. And now I text him when I get home and if I'm going to sleep. I talk to him on the phone pretty much all the time, and we text constantly. He's also the type of guy that if you're mad, he wants to talk it out. I'm not used to talking about my problems or why I'm cranky so I usually end up telling him to mind his own business.

So this has created a lot of stupid arguments. I felt like maybe he was invading my space? So I got defensive over everything and I'd end up hanging up, turning my phone off and going to sleep pissed.

Then I'd wake up and realize that I was being stupid and call him and apologize. And in about three days, it'd happen again.

Honestly, he's everything I wanted in a guy, but sometimes I just feel numb. Sometimes I just want to cut it off before it becomes something serious. I feel like it'd be easier to just break up with him and keep being as I was than to work through whatever issues we may have. Maybe I need more time to get used to it or maybe I'm just being selfish?

I agree, its good to be independant but as adviceman said, it might be best to focus on why you are describing yourself as cranky. I understand that opposites can attract and it may be more that your personality is being an introvert while he is an extrovert. At your ages, i didn't have any relationship skills yet. It is hard to know how to respond best in a relationship.
One way that has helped me is using my imagination and putting myself in the other persons shoes. So imagine your best girlfriend treating you as you've treated the boyfriend. All of a sudden she's acting cranky and upset, short tempered and cuts off all communication with you without giving you a word of explanation.
Wouldn't you wonder and naturally want to know if it was something you said or did? You would likely try contacting her again and again to try to get some answers. You wouldn't likely turn your back so easily on a long term friendship like that and give up so easily would you?

So in that perspective, I find it normal for him to want to talk it out to find out what is wrong. I don't believe its a matter of him invading your space. You're not even living together, if you can't get to the bottom of what your issues truly are and willing to work on yourself as well as both of you compromising, then there will be no future for your relationship, no matter how great a guy he is and no matter how patient he is now. Patient people may not run of out patience as fast as others, but if an issue was 24/7, eventually they do. I know, I am one. Patient almost forever but I do have my breaking point.

As was suggested, it could be something you're battling that you aren't aware of. Have you always been a cranky personality all your life, even as a little kid? If not, when did it change. How long have you been a person needing their own space? If you've always been like this, you just may not be the right personality type match, and nothing will fix it.
If you've been more like this during your teens years, it could be you've changed more than you realize. While it could be depression, one thing I've read makes lots of sense, that the extra hormones of puberty can put a female on hormone overload which can change a personality totally into a different person, become easily angered, always sad, or very touchy about everything. The hormones being off, too high or too low can be fixed by a Dr. You might want to go in for a check up to check that out.
Talk to mom. Has she noticed your personality changed drastically from before puberty to now? aRE you still on their insurance, and can you go see the Family Dr. to get checked out.
Yes, some people are private people but even so, when a person like that wants to be in a relationship, good communication is very important to having a healthy relationship. Without it the relationship can crumble. If this is your first time dating, of course there will be adjustments you need to make. But if hormones or depression is there, it will make things difficult for you even if you are trying to do your best. If he's special enough that you don't want to lose him, I would go talk to the family Dr. and get a check up. And I would recommend reading books on communication in relationships or in general dating and relationship advice books because there are a lot of helpful hints out there. I have learned over my life to make adjustments myself and change in some areas for the better so I can have more successful relationship. A lot of that had to do with getting what I was feeling within, verbalized on the outside. Making fair boundaries, if down time, alone time, or call it your bubble time is needed, have key phrase agreed upon between you that you can communicate so he knows its nothing he's done, and you need to be by yourself. If you find that you need to be by yourself, more than time being with him, then something is out of balance and an out of balance relationship will have problems and may not last.

I am currently engaged to be married... Happily engaged, if I might add. We're in the middle of planning our wedding next year... While looking at wedding invitations online... My ex, who holds a soft spot to my heart... Calls me. Begging me to come back to him. The last time I heard from him was 8 months ago. He has tore my world apart for 2 years this past October. I'm confused, because although I love my fiance, my heart is being dragged towards my ex. What should I do? Who should I pick?

I dont know the issues for why he is an ex so despite the fact you have a soft spot and your heart feels a kind of love for him, perhaps it would help to review the reason's if any, why you broke it off to begin with.
Our hearts are capable of feeling love for many at the same time. the love is different or changes. Think of how true a love we have for siblings, parents, partners, friends. All different kinds of relationships but the love is there.
In your case, since most people are monogamous, you will need to choose, but I know nothing about either guy to give you my opinions.

So I will share what I can in hopes it helps you to think things out. I have found that for many people, it is possible to be in love with and married to one person while having feelings for a past partner. Let me share an example of my own 2nd marriage. My husband is the sort who when he makes a commitment to love someone, realizes you can't turn off that love, you can only change it's importance in your life. Once loved by him, a person whether friend or mate, is considered "Family" to him forever. And so it is with his ex wife. She is an orphan, no family other than him, his dad and their one daughter. She's alone and when a crisis hits such as her dog died in accident, she has no one else to lean on, so she calls. Not all women would be able to stand the fact he cares about and loves her as family and still will speak words like 'honey' to her, but the difference he honestly shares with me is that his marriage with her as he knew it was good but had it's difficulties, things were not perfect and she wasn't the best match for him. With me, I am the kind of person he was looking for when young but lived far away without a chance of meeting me back then. We are a perfect match and he realizes he has gone several steps better than who he had before, even though they parted as friends. He has things with me he never had with her so there is no desire for her as a best friend in the marriage relationship let alone as sexual partner. He knows that would be a few steps backwards for him.

What you need to determine, despite the good feelings of caring for the ex, is whether going back to him would be settling for less. Is the fiancee an improvement in the relationship territory, more perfect for you? Which one is the best friend for you. Which one is the better sexual match. This is a big one. Because the best fit as best friend and sex partner are the foundations of a long term relationship such as marriage. Which one do you feel uncontrollable desire and passion with. Which one takes time to make sure all your needs are met? Which one gives you orgasms. Do you both have libidos at the same level. Its okay if someone has a low libido, meaning they don't require sex as often as someone with a high libido but both should be high or low, a mix of both won't work, cause resentment, unfulfillment and in many cases, people with low libido's turn their sex drive off and those with high ones, cheat outside the marriage or ask for a divorce. So be sure that you are a match sexually. If you feel there is more to share, you may write to my column.
Good luck.

Okay so I'm a 13-year-old girl and I binge eat. Just today, and keep in mind it's only 2 o'clock, I've had 3 or 4 twinkies, a pudding cup, two bagels, two slices of pizza and a soda as well 4 cookies. We rarely have junk food in the house but when we do I cannot restrain myself from eating it. Even if there's not junk food I'll pig out on vegetables or yogurt. It's causing me to be overweight. Not quite obese but if this goes on I will be. I have a terrible body image and I hate it. What do I do????? How do I stop????

Well, the answer to stop eating badly is to change how you see your body. The body we all have at 13 is not the body we will have at 23, there's lots more growing and changing to be done. A girl going through puberty is not ever going to look like an adult woman. Plus women naturally come in all different shapes and sizes which are all okay and all women have their own version of beauty. And there are men who have different tastes in what is attractive to them.

However at 13 to early twenties, young guys haven't yet figured out what they really are attracted to. Young boys respond to media's representation of what beauty or handsomeness is just as easily as girls do, thinking they don't look good enough. Girls probably get a worse dose but guys too are worried that girls won't find them attractive.

Before I give a lesson regarding media's beauty and linking that to how you view yourself, I'd like to explain some simple psychology of the war going on in your mind.

First, you have a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. The subconscious mind has many jobs, it runs things while you are sleeping, it runs things like taking your next breath and the blinking of your eyes. It is also where your feelings and emotions are stored.
And here's where your problem of binge eating comes in: It listens with great interest to what your conscious mind is thinking about all the time because the sub mind believes that anything you focus that greatly on is something you want and desire very badly and feels it's goal is to make those wishes and dreams come true. So if you are pretty and average looking as a female for your age but you've chosen to believe that you are not, your subconscious mind believes you want to become overweight and undesirable looking and will try anything to help you achieve that including a drive or irresistable desire for eating volumes of food, lots unhealthy. If you had a good thought process of your image, then your subconscious wouldn't need to change anything or control you differently in any way.

First, you will need to catch when you are thinking those negative thoughts about how you look and replace them immediately with positive ones, in essense arguing with yourself. The moment the negative thought surfaces, you tell yourself, "No. I don't believe that anymore. I have new information now and I know that I am pretty just where I am at." You would need to look at your extra weight as still being beautiful. There are plenty of overweight women who believe they are beautiful and so they are beautiful to the rest of us.
I had occasion to go to a nudist club several times. I got to see two obese women without their clothes on. Just as a casual observer, I noticed that I myself felt one was beautiful and one was not. And I realized right then what the difference was. They looked pretty much the same but one had self confidence while the other did not. Something invisible, untangible like that can make a BIG difference in how others see you. In fact I have watched some dating tips for women from a man's perspective on line in youtube from male dating coaches.
They tell females that self confidence is a big seller as far as attraction to the opposite sex, especially for men. If two women looked generally about the same, or one looked like a made up model or actress, the average looking woman with confidence would win a guys attention over the unreal image of beauty without any confidence.
Think about it, would you be attracted to a guy who was always saying that he isn't handsome or special at all, even though all the girls say things to the opposite? It's a downer being around people who don't believe in themselves, starting with their image.
Yeah, kids can be cruel at your age. You need to realize they are young and don't really know anything yet. If anyone didnt care to date you and said it was because of how you looked, they need to learn tact and better conversational skills and you will need to learn that its only their opinion and personal taste which is not the same of every person on the planet. So it doesnt mean anything and can't have any effect on you unless you choose to believe it. It's when you choose to take it in, and own that same opinion an outsider had about yourself, that your subconscious will aim to make it come true for you. Humans tend to think more negative thoughts than positive ones all the time. I still do and catch myself at it all the time, but immediately I state that's not what I want, and replace it with thoughts of what I want.

I have a link for you to watch. Please do!!! This is Lacy Green who is somewhat of a peer in her early 20s but started in her teens a video series called Sex+ abut sexuality, body image, dating and lots more all geared for young people. You'd benefit from watching many others of her videos. But the one to watch concerning your current problem is titled "she's ugly" and about the things I've been telling you about. She gives more detail with facts and percentages.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X21X_aYS4i4

I just got a concussion and neck injury in cheerleading practice, and we have a big grand finale coming up for at the end of football season. It's really important to me that I perform in it, because I've been working really hard on the squad, and it's my last year in KMJL, so I want to make it count. Any advice on cheering up?

Talk to your Dr. Find out how soon he feels it will take before you'll be back to normal and able to perform.
You don't want to mess with stressing an injury of any kind. You can make your situation worse.
If any joints or muscles are already weakens by injury you can experience pain and loss of strength that causes you to slip up and injure yourself in new ways ending up worse than before. Concussions are a serious matter. rest as long as the Dr. recommends. This is one event in your lifetime. As special as it is, it can't be worth it if you cause yourself a disabilitating injury you have to live a lifetime with because of it. Ask Doc if perhaps there's any exercises to strengthen your neck and help it heal. If no activity is recommended, then either listen to him, or believe that you are invincible and chance the consequences. Use your imagination, the lovely consequences might be as pesky as ending up having migraines for the rest of your life that no one can cure the pain of or falling wrong due to pain you have so you didn't execute a move correctly, and you fall in a way that you end up paralyzed or dead with a broken neck. Doesnt sound very inviting to me.

I was wondering if it is at all possible for a two year old german shepherd to have a freak accident and fall down the stairs and die with a blunt force wound to the back of the head. There were plenty of bricks and stones at the bottom of the steps for her to knock her head, we were told she slipped on her scarf walking up the stairs and fell backwards down, and just died instantly. Is this physically possible? I want to avoid giving the impression that it was foul play, I wasn't there to witness it -- I just want unbiased opinions from anyone.

And who was there to witness it? A dog sitter? Family member? Someone you don't know well?

Then you'd have to think, what reason did they have to kill the dog. Surely they didn't fear dogs, or something against the dog. But perhaps the person with the dog has issues with you that you aren't aware of and wanted to get at you to hurt you through the loss of the dog.
Other than that, there's no reason for someone to intentionally cause the dogs death unless they are certifiably crazy and need to be on medication and under Drs. care.

I used to own a lab and that's a big dog like a shepherd. We would tie a decorative bandana scarf around his neck too. The scarf hangs in a vee that doesn't go any further than halfway down his chest. And I can tell you that the scarf never interfered with my dogs ability to run and play and climb stairs. It's pretty much too short for the dogs leg to reach to even slip on.
So the only kind of scarf a dog could slip on would be something extremely long like a woman's long decorative scarf or like the long winter woolie ones. If you put something like that on your dog as a general habit, then this was an accident waiting to happen.
Again you have to remember, they aren't two legged like humans. Humans have a greater chance of loosing their footing in any situation compared to any four footed creature who if losing traction with one or two legs still has two left to help.
Another piece of logic...how often does a dog get tangled up in their own leash while on a walk, and one leg is disabled, how often does that dog go crashing on their face into the ground? Maybe one in a million. My dog had a skill for getting wrapped up in it's leash on walks and I was forever stopping to untangle him. Never once did he stumble and fall. Now that might be another story if he were trying to race up stairs in his eagerness to be back home. I'm small and the dog knocked me off my feet twice when he recognized we were getting close to the corner we needed to cross to go home and wrenched the leash loose from my grasp and raced at full speed across the street and two houses over and up the stairs to the front door. If in the race upstairs at full speed, with the eagerness of a young dog with puppyness left it it, a leash was so tangled as to cause a dog to stumble, I can see perhaps a dog falling and since you mention bricks, I assume its outdoor stairs to the home. Whoever was with the dog, IF that happened, and there's no way to know if it did or not, may have felt guilt at not being able to hold onto the leash or even having a chance to and not removing it sooner, may not want. think if it was you. I know I would have a hard time admitting I just might have been able to remove the leash sooner if that was the reason it fell. And feeling guilty, even if it's not the persons fault but a freak accident, can make a person try to make something else up that would seem to take the focus off of them. So in looking at all possibilites myself, I feel it must be viewed as a freak accident unless someone hates you so much and if so, you will continue to experience different sorts of attacks directed to hurt you, it won't stop with the dog.

So, I was coming back from school. As I came up the hill, I saw vividly a boy with short jet black hair and a long white robe on. He looked about 12-14 years old. And he was just walking and looking at the ground. I looked away for just a second, then looked back and he was totally out of sight. He couldn't have disappeared that quickly all of a sudden. I'm thinking this has to do with my religion Druidism since that's all about connecting with spirits and Nature. And the fact that I've heard a boy scream a few times. What do you think?

I have a different take then the other advice givers. I am an older woman who's lived enough life to have not only seen but experienced enough things myself that don't follow the normal road of explanation with a logical outcome.

I wouldn't connect it to your Druidism although people following earth based beliefs are more accepting and open to believe it if they hear about it or experience it rather than scoff at it.

I have known of plenty of people who were not seeking the ability to see or hear things that others can't and yet it happened to me. I know, I am one of them. I have heard and felt but only see the images in my mind.
At first I denied what I was experiencing. I was a Christian at the time, not prone to believing such things. I have heard of people who have no beliefs who end up having some psychic gifts, Christians, or Spiritual people but non religious, and the Pagans, even in other beliefs such as Hinduism, the masters. You don't want to expose yourself to anything of a negative force or nature. So if you want to explore this further, I suggest working well on using your imagination to create a protective bubble of energy around you that nothing of ill will can touch you. And when you are in this bubble, take time to meditate and ask to meet your angels and also your spirit guide/s. Any such entities that tell you to do something they want you to do, are to be avoided. Those working on the spiritual plane within God's realm of goodness, will meet you only at your request, answer questions only as you ask and give you options as we try to do here on the advice column but leave the general decision making up to you. Like God, they never interfere with your own will or as a habit show up un-announced or try to influence you in any way. that all said, it might be helpful to have the friendship also of other Druids, or even wiccan's or Goddess centered groups. I have met people from all those and participated in one or two of their events and enjoyed. It is good to have the experience and wisdom of someone older than you who has experienced the same. To find such groups, try online to search for groups, like through Meetups.com first for your city, then seek through all catagories. It may be under New Age. Often thats where such groups end up. You can join for free and then make connections chatting on line though most groups organize a once a week get together at local coffee shops. Even if you are unable to or not allowed to attend, you can find on line friends and support. And once you've made friends with more people in person who also have experienced things that can't be explained away, and accept it as normal and you can see for yourself that all those people are not mental crazy or all imagining this, then if you do have such a gift, you'll be able to explore it. If such a thing never happens agains, then don't think anything of it.

I swear I see God when I have sex with my current partner - he's the first man to ever make me cum. The problem is he doesn't seem to get off....ever. We've been together twice, the sex has gone on for hours and still no climax for him. I have suggested we bring another woman in (hoping that would help) he says he doesn't care either way, Im not really inclined to force the issue and I don't want to pressure him about it but I feel like maybe I don't please him....what should I do?

Age may play a factor here among other things.

The older a man gets, sometimes the longer it takes for him to get hard or it becomes more difficult to orgasm. If he's older, it could be problems with his prostrate, easily addressed by a visit to Dr. or it could be more the newness of the relationship. In my life, I have come across enough men who need more than the visual stimulation of a female to perform. They require an emotional connection with the female which is not going to be there after two times together. It can actually take quite some time. With my 2nd husband, we had a great sex life from the start but the emotional connection hadnt been there at the start and its only grown stronger and stronger over the years. So I recall times where he couldn't come, but still experienced the feeling of arousal and got his satisfaction in working on me only.
You don't need another woman, that only complicates things at this early stage. If youve been together 5, 10 years and want to do so for fun, great but external changes like that are not going to make his subconscious mind ready to let himself go and respond. And he won't until hes ready unless there is some medical issue at the center of this. You can find out if he has any medical issues for which he is on medication for.
Although if he's able to get hard and is just using self control to hold back his orgasms in favor of pleasing you, then you've got a great lover, there aren't many men like that. My husband might have a day where he is dead tired and on the verge of getting sick and yet insists on giving me pleasure but doesnt have enough in him to have his own release. When he's doing better, he'll have his day later when my focus is all about him that day. Just let him know how much you enjoy him. Get him talking about his past sexual experiences, was he ever able to cum and if he has no problem in that area, just relax, compliment him on his sexual prowess, and how manly and tempting he is, build him up with words, with your touches, and let time work on him, eventually he should be able to have orgasms with yuou.
I should add, this can happen for the handful of younger men too who are different from most young men who can have sex easily at the drop of a hat.

Does bleeding often occur immediately after sex and llast for 2 to 3 days ?

no, bleeding doesn't normally occur after sex. Is it a one time occasion, if no pain and not an extremely heavy flow, then I wouldn't worry about it. A lot may depend on your age. I remember puberty and teen years even into early 20's having period related issues. For one thing, they were unpredictable, no pattern, short duration, or long, spotting only or normal flow, 2 in one month or none for 2 months and guess what, that's normal for young women as their body is struggling to get used to getting on a regular cycle.
Without having a regular cycle, young girls are often mistakenly thinking they are pregnant or something terribly damaging happened to them during sex. So youre not the only one.
Most likely, you just had a short period starting as you had sex and weren't aware of it. Females are more horny during ovulation naturally but that horniness can linger and be around while you're starting or already have a period and of course many women or even the male partners are too squeemish about having sex during a period. I recall being aroused during periods and my ex not having to have sex. Theres nothing wrong with having sex during your cycle if the two are mature adults in a commited relationship, have been checked for sexual diseases and are fluid bonded. Some men like the extra slickness during that time and both can shower afterwards.

I would say that if you have bleeding again immediately after sex the next time, that you may think of going to see a gynecologist to check out if everythings ok. Bleeding from a torn hymen is not substantial more like a little spotting and shouldn't last 3 days.

Ok, I can't stop reading, is this a problem? I feel like every book is a new world, u real 6 books a month, it's crazy!!!!!
Is this a problem?

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Has someone told you that is crazy? What makes you think there is something wrong with that? Granted, most people put other things as priorities in their life and therefore don't read at all or may one book every month or every couple months. There is nothing wrong with reading a lot, whether for fiction as entertainment or non fiction for quest of knowledge. You are right, books open up new worlds to us. I find even in my prefered fictional books I read that even so I glean some non fictional information as authors want to share realistic stories with truth in the information written about such as early settlers knowing what herbs to cure their own illnesses with.

Maybe you could give me more information as to why you or someone believes it to be a problem. Perhaps theres not a balance of time and chores are not getting done, etc..?

I'm young, 18 to be exact, and I got pregnant with a guy who's in the oil field. We only new each other for a week or so which isn't like me at all.. But now I'm pregnant and it's been three months now and he treats me horrible. I moved with him because I felt that was the best to do because we're having a child. I can't afford to raise a child by myself. He has horrible anger issues too. He's said horrible things to me like "kill urself bitch", and has even put his hands around my throat once.. He wants this child and is really excited about the kid. But he's mean to me. He talks down to me. I clean his house, do his laundry, I moved three hours away from my home to be with him. I don't know what to do... I've never felt so alone and mentally abused. Not only am I super emotional due to being pregnant but I have a guy who makes me feel worthless.. If anyone can give me any good advice.. Please

Adviceman gave you all you need to know, get out.

Now I figured since you mentioned "He wants this child and is really excited about the kid." that I need to put in my thoughts on that. You may think it terrible to leave him and take the kid away from him because you are assuming he's happy about the kid.
What is more likely, especially since he doesnt treat you as if he loves you, is that he is simply a proud rooster, wanting to crow to others and point at the kid saying, see that, my seed made that. Big whoop-de-doo. It takes no special skill for a male to become a biological father, but it takes a loving caring man to be the male role model who raises a child, his or someone else's.
A child raised by him if you stayed with him means a boy who turns out like him, thinking being abusive to women is normal, or a daughter who chooses a man to date or marry or treats her like this. My ex was only verbally abusive but I can see now the effects on my 3 grown daughters, one shys from relationships and the other two have not chosen really great guys at all.

You have to be thinking not just about your welfare but that of your coming child. Mental abuse can turn to physical abuse. If he's once put his hands around your neck, that's physical assault. Do you want to take the risk that he loses it when the baby cries one too many times for his taste and he picks it up and shakes it hard to make it stop. That is one way many babies die every year. If you want this babe to be safe, and find it hard to leave him just for your own sake, then think of the baby.
Leave asap dear

I am a 25 year old female and I had sex on Dec 21st of last ear and ever since then I have been severe cramps when I am not on my period but my mom says this could be due to my overian cists could she be right ? Before sex my periods were 7 days exactly and now after sex they are anywhere from 1 to 3 almost a year ago . I have also lost an extreme amount of weight 27 pounds since then what could be going on ?

My gyn. on my regular visits always asks if there has been any great changes to my cycle including severe pain or heavy bleeding. And reminds me as I leave that if those thimgs occurs, to make an appt immediately. My guess is that it's possible the sex didn't have anything to do with the change and just happened to occur the same time. But to be 100% sure, go see your doctor dear, asap!

How should I decorate my daughters room for Christmas? She is 13 years old. I have a budget of $5-$20 dollars. I want it to fit a teenager's style? What should I do and how should I decorate?

For that cost, check out the dollar stores. I get lots of Christmas stuff there. And I have found Walmart to have the less expensive light sets. Ask her what she'd like and take her along on the trip. If I were a teen again and Mom wanted to help decorate my room, I'd be excited to get to pick out what I want.
To add to it all, make paper snowflakes. there are plenty tutorials on line. I make fresh ones every year and hang them from a thread taped to the ceiling at different lengths so it looks like snowfalling. Add white lights and it's a winter wonderland.

Hi, so my half brother is 10 years old and I don't know what to get him for christmas? My price range is $5-$15 dollars. I can buy stuff from the store and make him something or just buy him something?

HELP

For something inexpensive, you might think of somsething from a hobby shop, like the pre cut wood puzzles for him to construct into whatever shape it is you're buying like a dinosaur or whatever. Jig saw puzzles are okay if he's into puzzles at all. Perhaps a board game he can play with you and family.
To make it easier, ask him to make a wish list. But for the surprise effect, ask mom what she thinks he might like. For instance, if he likes action movies, maybe a DVD of one you know he'd like, if he has a favorite collectible or actor or whatever, then find items with that character on it. Calendars are a good deal around that price, and can be found with scenics, stuff like Chuck Norris, dogs, horses etc....

after ejaluation i clean my hand with clothes of corner point n after some min .i clean vagina wid clothes wid same hand does it will b pregnacy

Sperm does not last long outside of the males body once ejaculated and they move slowly. Sperm needs the warm environment of the vagina to survive. Once cum is dried up, the sperm will be dead. Sperm doesnt travel through cloth either.

What I think you are saying is that you wiped cum off yourself first and then used the same cum saturated cloth to wipe her vagina so if that is what you are saying, you may have actually deposited some still live sperm onto her lips or vaginal entrance. And in that case, there is a slight chance of her getting pregnant.

If you were just masturbating and never inside her, I don't see the need to wipe her unless you aimed the spray at her, which is a bad idea unless she is on the pill, or some other kind of birth control.
I am guessing that you chose not to use condoms and rely on pulling out in time to ejaculate outside her. this is tricky, because the precum that beads up on the head before you enter her has enough sperm in it to get her pregnant. Unless of course she is on birth control.
So at this point, she should be taking the emergency morning after birth control pill. She may want to make a trip to planned Pregnancy which makes such things available to teens and the hippa laws make it confidential so parents won't know. But I'd talk to her to get it there tomorrow. She needs to also be put on birth control is she isn't pregnant.

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