I seriously hate him so freaking much! I dont know what to do anymore his friends like me as friends and liek they talk to me online and then he comes home and tells my mom like a little freaking baby! Hes so annoying he calls me names all the time and makes me cry hes such a loser Hes never had a girlfriend hes 16 years old and im 14 I HATE HIM SO MUCH and i cant ignore him he lives with me he needs to move out of the house!he drives but never drives me places and hes so retarded he thnks hes all tough guy when his friends come over and he makes up SO MANY FREAKEN LIES! someone help me please ! sorry for the length
um... Grow up. That would most likely help you very much.
He's your brother. He's 16, how in the hell do you expect him to move out? Your going to be so much of a baby that you need to come online and make fun of him because he's never had a girlfriend, just because he won't give you a ride anywhere? He worked hard to get his license, you didn't. Why should he just automatically come whenever you call just because you say so?
Of course he calls you names. He's your brother! He should just kick your ass and get it over with. That is what older brothers are for when the younger sibling acts like a baby.
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Has anyone ever been in a depressed mood for no reason?
There is a reason. It's called teenage angst. Everyone goes through it. Your going through puberty. Hormones and emotions are changing.
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Arite everyone, i was able to last about a week with out looking at porn but just like 20 minutes ago, i cracked and i couldnt handle it. a week is probably the longest time ive ever been able to do it. But i still need help
What exactly do you need help with? Are you asking for help on finding more interesting porn? Or are you asking for help on ways to keep yourself from looking at porn?
This is just a guess, but your probably a teenage boy going through puberty. You seem to be right on schedule, and I really don't see a problem with your habits.
I have a few guys friends that I have conversations with on this topic. They are over their horny teenage years, but still in their horny 20's. I would say your quite normal. The only thing that I would be worried about is your inability to accept looking at porn as a normal thing. A good sexual drive is a very healthy thing.
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Me and my boyfriend have been havin sex for about 10 months now and before him i had only slept with 2 people. Out of all the times i've had sex, I've never had an organsim. Is that normal? I mean don't get me wrong, it feels really good, but sometimes after about 20 or so minutes it feels the exact same and it gets a little old. But I still like it. Is there anything i could do to change alla that? i mean i wanna have orgasims, i wanna know what they feel like, i just cant seem to get there.
Many many women are pretty much uncapable of having an internal orgasm. There is a difference between having an internal orgasm (stimulated through sex) and an extrenal orgasm (by clitoral stimulation).
You and your boyfriend need to experiment in order to find out where and how you can have an orgasm. Even if he never actually finds out how to give you one through sex, it will still be fun trying now won't it?
Learn about Karma Sutra. That might help.
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i've been to school to be a Phlebotomist and EKG Technician, but i haven't had any luck finding jobs in those fields because they all want at least a year's experience. Any ideas as to how and where i could get experience (possibly paid)? Thanks!
when you went to school did you take an externship? Does that not count towards some experience?
If you are unable to find any places that will pay you to work, then you will need to do some internships to get the experience. Even if your not getting paid, then it has to be better than what your going through right now.
If all else fails, you should go back to the college or university that you studied at. The proffessors most likely have experience in the field. I'm guessing many are practicing at the moment, or have practiced in the past. They can give you some excellant advice to someone looking for a job.
While I had to look up Phlebotomist and EKG Technician to know anything about it, I am in, or may be in a similar situation. I'm going to school as a Veterinary Technologist. But throughout my schooling I am volunteering when the time comes up, and I will be spending 14 weeks doing an externship before I get my degree. I'm planning ahead so that I can have a full resume when the time comes to getting the best paying job I can find.
Perhaps you can still do some small jobs associated with your college. They should usually have plenty of programs that help their students get experience lined up. The more you have to put on your resume, they better your chances of impressing a potention employer should be.
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my cat has this bump under her left eye and it is losing hair and it has some red spots on it. Does anyone know what this is or have any ideas? Please help me!
Whenever you have any worries like this, you should at least call your Vet. I know that not everyone can afford to bring their animal to the Vet when something happens because of financial issues, but you can at least call and explain the problem and see if they can tell you what it is.
It could be a number of things. Your cat could have gotten scratched, and now the scratch is infected. It could be some sort of tumor that needs to be cut off. It could be some kind of wart...
Either way it could either be quite painful to your cat, or at least detrimental to it's health. Call, or just take her to the Veterinarian.
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ok.. i have like.. the worlds worst father.. he has no pics of me or my 2 siblings in his house.. he gave my PS2 to my step brother.. he bought me a 50$ present for chrissy and thats it.. he didnt want me to get my car lisence, and he said the job that took me half a year to get is unsecure and crap (22$ and hour -making all things plastic in cars(holdens for you in aus)) what should i do about this? atm i see him about once every six months...
Simply put, your a hell of a lot luckier than a lot of people out there
I haven't seen my father since I was 16, that was the first time I met him.
Since then he has stopped paying child support before he was supposed to, he has stopped sending cards on christmas and birthdays. And every holiday me and my sister call him up, only to get an answering machine and have not recieved a phone call from him in at least 3 years.
I would love to get a simply phone call from him. Let alone a $50 present from him.
You should be happy for the things that you do have and realize that there are other's out there with so much worse.
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I've had a hamster before (when I was really young) and since have gotten into reptiles a lot, and have snakes and lizards and all that. So I'm pretty used to handling a lot of animals, (and, well, I wouldn't do something idiotic like holding a rodent before handling my snakes.)
I think rats are one of the most intelligent species of animals, and make great pets. I've always loved them, and I'd like to get a young rat. - I'm not sure how to take care of one, though. Are they OK in a regular cage? In a tank? Is taking care of a rat more complicated, or about the same as a hamster? If I do get one, I want it to have a full life. How long do they usually live?
I tried looking info up on these guys but everything was contradictory, depending where I got it from. Thanks for anyone who helps, and please - no comments on rats and snakes being "gross! eww!!!11oneone!!". They're really nice animals and beautiful creatures.
The problem with searching for information online is that basically anyone can make a website. So, what one person see's as expert information can actually be quite harmful to someone who wants to care for their pet properly.
I've searched for a few different sites that should be useful. I would try to only search for sites with .org or .gov or .edu, as opposed to simply .com. With the first three, you at least know that the site comes from a qualified source.
Here's the "Rat and Mouse Club of America" website:
http://www.rmca.org/
Here's the "American Fancy Rat and Mouse Association" website:
http://www.afrma.org/
and the "Rat Fan Club" website:
http://www.ratfanclub.org/
Those should be a good start to looking for information on care of your rats.
Despite popular belief of the great expertise of PetCo and PetSmart employees, I would not suggest going there for help. Most often, the employees of any pet store's, no matter how large the chain is, will be neglectfull of the animals. From my experience working at a petstore, going through interviews to work at petstores, and the horrible horrible story's I've heard from other people, I would advice you to not take any of their employee's "expert advice".
Most of the time, you will actually get harmful advice. The things that they sell for rodents are usually very poor food sources, harmful toys, and overly expensive and harmful cages. But at most pet stores, they will try everything possible to get you to buy these things. That is, after all, how they get their paycheck. So, really, that's all they worry about.
I wish I could give you more information on Rats in particular, but I'm not entirely experienced with them. But, if you need more information, chances are, I can help you find it.
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i have a mini dachshund he is 2 yrs old,he was born with what appeared to be a scratch on his eyeball,as he grew so did the scratch,it now take up half his eye and it has a foggy color to it,and what we believed that was a scratch looks as if it was actually hair,there are a few pieces of hair growing ,it is embedded inti his eye.is this possible?
Yes, it's very possible. You probably should have brought him to the Vet's when you first noticed it. That way, you could have fixed the problem easier.
He probably has a problem with his eyelashes. They could be inverted, and you probably haven't noticed it. You should bring him to a Vet as soon as possible to have them examine him.
Not only is his eyesight at risk, he is probably in a large amount of pain. Dog's don't show pain as much as humans do. They hide it out of instint.
All is not lost, and he may even retain a small amount of vision in that eye. But you absolutely need to bring him to a Vet as soon as humanly possible. If money is a problem, then you should go to a local humane society and see if it is possible for you, or your parents do get a waiver for Vet Bills, or, if they can point you in the direction of low cost Vet's in the area.
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What does you are on of the ladies that doesnt shave and lives with the tree's mean. I was talking about breatfeeding and someone said that.. after i said yeah i just wip out my boob.. what does that mean? hes never ever even been down south... (if u no wut i mean)
I believe he was trying to insult you by insinuating that you are a hairy hippy.
Appearantly he thinks that everyone who breastfeeds must never shave and has a great love for trees.
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I am trying to delete some of my ratings but How do you know what the rating was for certain questions and answers? Thanks!
You can't see who rated you because the questions are all confidential. Only the level 2 and 3 moderators can see who askes specific questions.
You should be able to tell which rating goes to which question by clicking on the individual rating on your "feedback" page. It will bring you to the link of the question that it is for.
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O.K- My dog (Millie Light) keeps pooping on the floor and I literally clean up poop 6 times a day! Is this just plain diaria? Is this normal? Please Help!
P.S- I'm cleaning up poop as we speak!
~~~Kayla~~~
You should consult with a Veterinarian.
If you simpy call one then they may be able to give you some advice for what to do. If not, then you might need to bring your dog in to see them, but they might be able to give you a cheap medicine for him.
Diarhea for longer than three days is not normal in any dog. Diarhea in a geriatric (older than 6 years) is not normal. And Diarhea in a puppy, younger than 1 year is not normal and could be caused by something much more serious.
It could also be a change in diet. Have you changed your dog's diet lately?
You also might just need to train him better. Take him out every couple hours and praise him excessively every time he goes outside.
If he's going to the bathroom inside at least 6 times a day, then you should be letting him outside to go at least 6 times a day.
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My dog is going on ten (thats like around 70 in human years) he's always been kinda weird but I love him so much. He's on medication because he's a shar pei and has a short attention span and stuff. His meds are kinda like the add medication for dogs. Anyways he also has seizures. He doesn't get them to often but when he does they scare me a lot. To top it all off about a month or two ago he has to have a tumor removed from his left armpit so that he wouldn't die. Recently we've noticed its come back on the other leg. The vet can't do anything about it and he's going to die. I don't know how I'll survive without him. I've known this dog since I was like 4 and can't remember not having him. Please help me to figure out what to do when he is gone. I no I'll miss him a lot.
I know what it's like to miss an animal.
My dog is growing old, she had grown, what I've only thought as tumors on her skin, but I decide to ignore them. I only decide to ignore them because I've had the dog since I was 7 years old. She was my childhood dog. When I was growning up, all the neighbors would get together and play with her and chase her around the yard.
The other night, she was throwing up and having seizers. I have not seem this in her, but I've been told by my mother. My mother lives with her and see's her every day. I don't have to see my lovely little puppy go through this every day, but I have learned to accept it. Eventually she will have to be put to sleep. When the time comes, she will be better off.
Until then, I know what you're going through. It's hard to get rid of a childhood dog, but it will eventually be better for the dog.
I hope you have a good Vet. I know of some Vet's around here that give out memorials of the lost pets. If there is not a Vet around your area like that, then you shoudl find your own way to memorialize your animal.
Perhaps if you could get a print of their paw... or something like that, then it could keep their memory with you.
If your dog does have to be put to sleep, then just remember that he will be better off that way. He has lived a happy live with you and is ready to go now.
It's hard to think about, since your not ready to let him go. But just try to think about the fact that he is probably in less pain when he goes.
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I have a friend..lets call her amber..she started going to her dads house after she got her first kiss from the guy next door...after that she and her sister would drive up and down this street (crusing kemp) and these guys would start talking to her..she is only 14 and she would give and 18 or 19 yr. old guy her phone number...she has asked me to go with her..but i come up with an excuse, because im not allowed to do those kind of things..a few days ago she met up w/ these guys in a white mustang..and her and her sis got int he car with them...that day one of the guys kissed ehr..and now they are dating..her and her sis, and a bunch of other guys were going to see a movie and her b/f called her and asked if they could skip the movie and go to a friends house..and she said yes...i told her she was gonna get in trouble , and she told me that he was a really nice guy and she didnt care...so she lied to her mom and left...I dont know what to tell her..and im worried about her..help me please!!
I'm very sorry that it's taken me so long to get back to this question. I wanted to think about the answer, and then forgot about it.
Anyway, this is a complicated situation. I'm not incredubly sure if I can help you out very much, but I'll try my very best.
Your friend is getting into a dangerous situation. This guy might seem really nice and sweet to her, but he's still quite a bit older. He is going to expect more than a 14 year old should dish out in a relationship.
At 14, she should be having fun with girlfriends and boyfriends should be short and sweet. When she gets involved with an older guy, he is going to expect more. He is older emotionally, as well as physically. If she gets caught up in him too much, she will miss out on some much needed normal, childhood times. Like just hanging out with friends and talking about school and boys and homework.
I say all this because I had a younger girlfriend who was going out with a guy friend a while ago who had this problem. She started dating the guy when she was 13, he was 18. They did not break up until she was 17, and he was 22. She used to tell me about how she wished that she hadn't spent so much time with her boyfriend. She missed out on normal girl stuff.
Now this isn't even starting with the physical aspect of the situation. He is most likely going to expect sex from the relationship, and 14 is quite young to already be experimenting. But, then again, I have no idea how to actually talk to a 14 year old and make them understand that. I'm sure I wouldn't have listened to someone like me when I was that age.
Also... it's great that you want to be there for her and help her out. But you also can't get yourself too far into this situation. You don't want to endanger yourself.
I'm sorry I can't be more help with this. I'm not sure how to get someone to realize that they're in a dangerous situation. To actually get them to get out of the dangerous situation seems to be even harder.
You should ask this question to the entire site. You would be able to get more diverse answers that way. Maybe someone can help better than I have.
Good luck.
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No 1 is sending me any questions!! I think this is because when u type my sn in search nothing comes up!!! It also isn't on the browse list so it's like my column isn't there!!! HELP!!
Read the FAQ.
No one is asking you questions because your new. People need to know who you are. The only way for them to know who you are is for you to answer a lot of questions on the main page. they will notice you, and if they like your advice, then they will decide to ask you some questions.
The "browse columnists" link lists the columnists in order by the last one who updated their column. When you answer a question, then that updates your column. So the more questions you answer, the earliest your column will be updated, so then your column will be seen on the "Browse Columnists" link.
I would not suggest trying to advertise your column in questions like this. People have been banned for that in the past.
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my ratings on my column keeps changing, like the number of times ive been rated. do some of them get deleted when theres not enough room on the page? is there a way i can keep all of the ratings without them getting deleted? if so how?
thanks
DevilChild
Only the ratings from the last 30 days count towards your ratings.
This is explained in the FAQ, you should read it before asking any other questions about the site or your column.
here:
http://advicenators.com/faq.php?t=6
and here:
http://advicenators.com/faq.php?f=25
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I am 6 years out of high school and I am still with my high school boyfriend. We are not married but have a child together. He has never cheated on me or anything, but now he is saying we should get our own places so that we can save some money (because this way I would get help from the state). He wants to do this for about a year, and he also says we need a little time apart because we've been together so long and been through so much. I don't agree with it, and I don't really understand it, but we've talked about it and talked about it and I really don't have a choice in the matter. He says he'll be over all the time and that I can keep EVERYTHING at my place, that he just wants to keep his clothes in his place. He's not as affectionate as he used to be, but he still wants sex. Guys, help me out here, what is he trying to tell me, is there any hidden agendas I should be concerned about or should I just believe him that he wants to try and save money and work on getting new things like furniture and/or car(s)? He says he feels we're going nowhere fast right now with his two dead end jobs. So I'm guessing he thinks this will be the easy way out? I'm not sure how to read him right now. What would you guys think if your guy wanted to do this...also, if any guys know what this means, please I need some insight. Should I trust this??
It's a little complicated since there is a kid involved. If it was just the two of you, I would say that some time apart is a really good idea. It will make you both miss each other and want each other more.
But then again your situation reminds me a lot of my ex boyfriend. We first went to college together, and practically lived in the same room because we were always in each other's dorm rooms. Things started to wind down and he started to get a lot less affectionate. Eventually he wanted us to go to different colleges so we would not be together all the time.
Once we finally broke up, I realized that all the times that he wanted us to go to different colleges, he was really trying to make it easier on him so he could eventually end the relationship.
I have no idea if this is what your boyfriend is really up to, but if you are worried about it at all, then you need to sit down and have a long talk with him. No one on this site can really tell you whether or not he has some hidden agenda, it can only come from him.
It could very well be that your worrying about nothing and some time apart will actually be good for the two of you.
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I got my top cartilidge pierced in June 2004, and my bottom cartilidge one around August 2004. It says you have to keep the earring in for 3 months and you can change it. I got hoops from Claires and I just put them in about 3 days ago. I've been having ear pains ever since, on and off. Do you think it's just because I have to get used to it? Because when I sleep I tend to roll on them, so that's whats causing the most pain I think. Or do you think they're just damaging my ear? Thanks for any help.
You should probably start to clean it with a piercing solution about once a day until it feels better.
It could be many different things. The hoops could have been a different type of metal. In that case, your skin will need to get used to that type of metal, just as it did when you first got them pierced. Your skin needs to adjust to each foreign object that you put inside it.
It could also be that the hoops are a different gauge than your previous earrings. If they're smaller, then your ears will need to re-form over the smaller size holes. In that case, it will almost be like they have to heal all over again.
It's pretty much the same case if the earrings you put in are a larger gauge.
Either way, just use the solution once in a while and keep it clean. You should be fine after a while.
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I am a very shy, quiet person. I guess that you could also say that I am also somewhat of a geek... I kinda live on the computer... but. I have two friends, and don't get me wrong, I love them and appreciate them soooo much! But neither of them go to my church. The kids at my church are very rude and mean to me. They always leave me out. I am the outcast. I hate it! I mean, I am too shy to do anything about it, but I can't stand them just being so rude! I sit by myself, I talk to myself, I am always by myself because they are so mean! They make fun of me and stuff all the time! I don't care what they say, I have learned to let it bounce off. But I still don't have friends at my church. I also dress differently. I am very self conscious, and I can't help it. I dress in non-form fitting clothes, and I don't wear skirts. I don't put myself out there. I don't have a b/f. I do have a lot of family/home problems, that kindof makes me really quiet and insecure. Am I being too shy and quiet? What are some ways to get over being so insecure? Is there a way to get over self consciousness? I have several mental blocks against : guys, men, letting my hair down, form fitting clothes, and large crowds. I know that I can't get over some of it because of my home life. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!! I am so sorry that it was this long, but I had to make myself clear.
"Is there a way to get over self consciousness?"
Hmm... Honestly, I don't think anyone is really completely empty of self consciousness. The trick is to appear that you are confident about everything you do.
It's not about what you wear, it's about how you feel in those cloths. Are you comfortable wearing loose cloths with your hair tied up? Or are you always thinking that everyone is looking at you and thinking that you look bad?
You need to be comfortable with what you wear and how you look. If you aren't completely comfortable, then fake it. You will eventually trick yourself into really believing that you are perfect the way you are.
Maybe you will never be friends with the people at your church, and eventually you'll be fine with that. You say you've learned to ignore what they say, but it doesn't really seem like you have. If you really had, then you wouldn't be bothered by their rudeness like you are. You need to think of yourself as better than them. Hold your head up high at all times and look them in the eyes if you ever have to say anything to them. Trust me, the simple thing of keeping your head up high, instead of looking at the ground, does make you feel more secure about yourself.
I'm a very shy person, but I've come out of it a lot since I was younger.
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ok last valentines day my b/f took me to buy a puppy. i wanted the first one i saw a little pekinese puppy. i was purebred so he paid 900.00 for the dog. i've never had a dog before just cats and i didn't know what i was getting myself into. now i can't stand the dog. i can't train it to go to the bathroom outside, its super hyper, jumps on my son and tries to hump him. i can't imagine how much it would cost to fix him. i want to get rid of the dog but my b/f doesn't. we're constantly fighting about it. any suggestions on what to do?
**EDIT** I know you've already deleted your column, but I want to add something to this question. You tell me you are looking for advice, not to be bashed, but I dissagree. If you were really looking for advice then you would have taken my advice. Did I not tell you what you should do with the dog. I even looked up some useful sites myself for you. I gave you my honest opinion, I did not bash you. I feel very strongly about this subject and I will not hold my tonge (typing hands) just because you can't handle the truth of the situation. The truth is that you were totally irresponsable with this puppy. If you don't, and won't have the time or money to take care of the dog, then you never should have bought it in the first place. If you were going to be having more kids, then you never should have gotten the dog in the first place.
You don't get it. Your dog would be better off in a shelter than living with someone who doesn't know how to take care of it. Bring it to the shelter down the road, they will be able to find a good home for him. But, it would have been a hell of a lot easier for the shelter workers if the poor dog had not already learned it's bad habits. I will say this again. It's your fault that the dog is not behaved well.
Next time you join an advice site, be ready for people telling you the truth. Make sure you know the difference between good, honest advice and someone trying to bash you before you try to tell on them.
Again, I will never hold my tonge on this subject just to spare someone's feelings.
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It pisses me off when people buy animals when they don't know what their getting into.
First off, you bought it from a pet store. Do you have any idea how awful a pet store is to animals? They all get their animals from puppy mills, the animals are not bred well at all. When a person breeds an animal to make a profit, they do not care whether or not that breed is preserved, they only care about making more puppies so they can sell them and make more money. Your little Pekingese probably has many health problems from over breeding. It was definately not worth the $900.00 that you paid for it.
Your 23 (sorry I'm a level 2, and I peeked at your username) but anyway, your 23 with a child, you should realize that you need to think about what your getting yourself into before you get a living creature. You should have already had a Veterinarian before buying the damn thing.
"i can't imagine how much it would cost to fix him."
Your just now thinking about that? You paid $900.00 on an animal and you won't go the next step and spend $50-$150 on getting him neutered?
I'm sorry, but thinking like that is the reason that so many dogs die in shelters and on the streets every day. Get your dog neutered, and never buy anything from a pet store again. Don't give the dog back to the pet store either. Those places are terrible.
If your boyfriend doesn't want to place an ad in the paper, then screw him. Your the one who is home all day, so put an ad in the paper yourself.
Also, try to find a Pekingese rescue group. They will be able to take better care of your poor dog than you can. They will put him in a foster home, train him properly, NEUTER HIM, and finally, find him a forever home.
http://www.pekingeserescue.com/
You have no idea how much I want to yell at you for your irresponsability with this dog. I've seen too many dogs die because the had the bad luck of getting foolish owners who don't care, or know what their doing.
He is better off with someone who will take the time to train him, will spend the money to bring him to the Vet, and won't give up on him.
It's your fault that he is not well behaved, not his. Next time, know what your getting yourself into before you put a helpless animals life on the line.
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