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too shy?
I am a very shy, quiet person. I guess that you could also say that I am also somewhat of a geek... I kinda live on the computer... but. I have two friends, and don't get me wrong, I love them and appreciate them soooo much! But neither of them go to my church. The kids at my church are very rude and mean to me. They always leave me out. I am the outcast. I hate it! I mean, I am too shy to do anything about it, but I can't stand them just being so rude! I sit by myself, I talk to myself, I am always by myself because they are so mean! They make fun of me and stuff all the time! I don't care what they say, I have learned to let it bounce off. But I still don't have friends at my church. I also dress differently. I am very self conscious, and I can't help it. I dress in non-form fitting clothes, and I don't wear skirts. I don't put myself out there. I don't have a b/f. I do have a lot of family/home problems, that kindof makes me really quiet and insecure. Am I being too shy and quiet? What are some ways to get over being so insecure? Is there a way to get over self consciousness? I have several mental blocks against : guys, men, letting my hair down, form fitting clothes, and large crowds. I know that I can't get over some of it because of my home life. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!! I am so sorry that it was this long, but I had to make myself clear.
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Just act the way you are right now. I mean, if people can't like you for who u are then who needs them. They aren't the only people in the world. They are the kind of people who aren't willing to make a change. They like everyone who are EXACTLY like them such as wearing a skirt, or wearing their hair down(don't feel lonely, I hate skirts and wearing my hair down too).I hope I helped...
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First dont let the 'fitting in thing get in over your head'. Those people dont sound too nice let along to have them as friends. I think you're better off being yourself (thats the best thing a human been can be), if people like you how you are good if not than forget about them. Just learn to be a strong individual and accept yourself how you are. [Good luck, feedback & rates are appreciated]
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well you could start off by finding a better church people like that piss me off...your fine the way you are dont let other people judge you, who cares what they think and as for what you wear...wear whatever the hell you want to dont worry about those assholes...
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"Is there a way to get over self consciousness?"
Hmm... Honestly, I don't think anyone is really completely empty of self consciousness. The trick is to appear that you are confident about everything you do.
It's not about what you wear, it's about how you feel in those cloths. Are you comfortable wearing loose cloths with your hair tied up? Or are you always thinking that everyone is looking at you and thinking that you look bad?
You need to be comfortable with what you wear and how you look. If you aren't completely comfortable, then fake it. You will eventually trick yourself into really believing that you are perfect the way you are.
Maybe you will never be friends with the people at your church, and eventually you'll be fine with that. You say you've learned to ignore what they say, but it doesn't really seem like you have. If you really had, then you wouldn't be bothered by their rudeness like you are. You need to think of yourself as better than them. Hold your head up high at all times and look them in the eyes if you ever have to say anything to them. Trust me, the simple thing of keeping your head up high, instead of looking at the ground, does make you feel more secure about yourself.
I'm a very shy person, but I've come out of it a lot since I was younger.
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Hey I'm sorry about your church! Maybe you should try going to a different church? Not wearing skirts and stuff doesnt make you a bad person. Thats how you like it, so fine. But maybe you should try wearing a skirt and a cute top to church once..and have your hair down and see everyones reaction. They'll be like :-O haha Cmon its not gonna hurt..if you dont like it you can always go back. Make sure you curl or straighten your hair too.
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