Hey there. I started dating my best friend a while ago, you just moved here from Toronto, and he doesn't tell me a whole lot about his life back then. Anyways, we started having sex a couple of monthes ago. I'm on birth control so we don't use condoms, because we both hate them. Anyways, in october i got two infections, and was really sick for a week. I couldn't get out of bed, and i was in pain. I had an yeast infection and urinary tract infection. I went to my doctor, she gave me a lot of medicine. whatever, i got better, continued on with our way of things. Anyways, now in december, i seem to have another infection. I'm thinking it might be yeast infection but i don't know. It's different. He says he hasn't had sex before me, but with all these infection that i get, could he have, or could it be my birth control?
You need to be tested for STDs. Even if you trust him. It might very well be that you have another yeast or urinary tract infection. The good bacteria in your vagina is a very delicate balance with the bad. If the good overpopulate or the bad outnumber the good, then you get an infection. You really need to see a doctor to help you. It can happen if you are eating badly or you take antibiotics and sometimes sex.
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my dad was recently laid off from work (he was the manager for the propane department of a co-op). he decided he wants to go back to the job he had before that, which was an EMT(emergency medical technician). the problem is that he left that job because he had a lot of depression problems when he couldn't save someone. should i still encourage him to go back to that job?
Remind him that he can only save those that God lets him save. If he is doing everything he can do to help someone in need, then he has no fault. It is not an easy job, but praying for the families and the souls of those who did not make it can give him some solace.
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Brother gets away with everything.
Parents don't ever listen or care, if i ever tried to talk to them they went all phycologist-like. They blame me for things i didn't do, and yell at me when my brother gets upset over little things i do.
Cousin doesn't understand anything and thinks i'm too young to be having problems and that i'm making them up.
My friend K has started smoking cigarettes and doesn't see what the hell is so bad about what she's doing and thinks that by trying to stop her friends from ever smoking or drinking she's doing something right and that she acts like she understands everything because she thinks she's been through the most shit in her life. I need to find a way to get her head back on and stop her smoking.
E and Matt ignore everything that goes on in other ppl's lives and get too caught up in their own problems. I love Matt to death but sometimes he isn't the best friend i know he can be, i know he thinks so, but i can only truly talk to him sometimes bc he gets mad so easily.
AM needs to grow up and learn when to shut up and let it go, she's too nosy and immature to deal with her friends problems, so I need to find a way to tell her to grow up.
AX likes me and pushes me to tell him stuff and get to me. I need to get him to stop this, i care enough that i dont want to hurt him, but he makes me feel like i cant go out with ne1 bc i know it will hurt him. I need to get him to back off.
Ok you are on the verge of becoming a control freak. It's good to vent. If all of these things are bothering you, do what you can, but it is ultimately up to you. If you don't have good friends who are there for you, don't hang out with them. The only person you can truly control is you. If you let all of this stuff fester up inside you, you will get depressed. Your life sounds like a physichiarist office.
Ok one by one:
1. Little brothers are supposed to be annoying and get away with murder. It's their job. Try to take it in stride because your parents are going to attack the person who is complaining first. Let it ride and be a good example.
Eventually, he will get blamed for something you did. It is just life.
2.Go to the cancer society or stop smoking and print out some gross pictures of smoked out lungs. You can't help her until she admits she has a problem. Pray.
3. Friends get busy and have other interests. It is part of growing up. Be there when he is available, but don't nag him or he will ignore you. He is still your friend, and you can always use any level of friendship.
4. Just ignore her. You are the one complaining about other people's personal problems at the moment. I think you are projecting. She probably just needs someone to talk to.
5. He is being possessive and it isn't healthy. You have a right to be with whoever you want to be with. If he can't handle it, he needs to talk a walk. You don't need that kind of crap.
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In my applied tech class my partner is driving me crazy! Not like a funny crazy but I have to tell myself not to kill her she is so annoying. She has some problems in school but she takes them out on me. She has to have it her way all the time. We are also making rockets and she thinks she is going to keep it just because she says so. My question is how do I stop her or make her shut up? Please help. Thank you.
When she is blaming you for her problems, tell her that she needs to speak with the person who is causing the problem, or get a tutor if its just the work. Bitching to you about it, really won't do anything unless she fixes it.
Can you make two rockets? How do you know that anyone gets to keep it? They may reuse the parts. Ask her if it would be ok if you kept it for a while.
Try to compromise a little bit. If you show her a little kindness, she may soften up a bit. You might be the only person that listens to her at all. If she is interrupting your schoolwork, just say that you can't talk right now because you are trying to concetrate. This is a good lesson in how to deal with people that are hard to get along with. It can really be very valuable later.
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i always rip off my nails and now they look really bad! they hurt too aftrwords but i dont know how to stop, can someone help me stop? ill rate! thanx
You can try soaking your hands in lemon juice. It is so sour that eventually stop trying to bite or rip them. (unless you decide that you like the taste). Good luck.
Also remember that the plaque under your nail can get into your bloodstream and add to the blockage that can cause a heart attack.
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I've recently paid the funeral expenses for my father's funeral out of the estate account. ($10,000)....should any travel expenses be paid to family members ( out of state)....???
Is there a travel allowance ??
It is up to you. Most family members should be able to get a bereavement discount on their airfare. I don't think its required, but if one of your family members is having a particular hardship, it would be very nice of you. Unless it is required in the will, you don't have to do it.
I am sorry to hear of your loss.
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omg my mother is a clean freak im not a clean freak but not lazy she hates stacking (i stack my papers) every weekend i say and wanna be organized but im always so busy and of course i cant on weekdays can someone give me adive
Organizing is a long and tedious process...unless you do a little bit every day. If you can devote 15 minutes everyday, you will eventually conquer your problem. I mean set a timer. If you want to go another fifteen, then do that. It's all about organizing your time, and it's a great skill to have at home and in the workplace.
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Hello guys, long time reader but first time writer here. I really need some advice.
I've had this best friend for about ten years now (ever since the second grade) and he knows all my secrets. He has been the friend I've been able to go to for all my problems for over half my life. He's always been a great guy, but lately he seems a little different.
He came up to me the other day and told me that he needed to talk to me after school, and of course I told him it was no big deal. Well, when I got to his house after school he called me back to his room. When I got back there he was completely naked and said that if I didn't suck him off then he would tell everyone about my issuses with my sexuality that I had confided in him. I didn't have any other choice, I can't let everyone now that I have impure thoughts about other men since I'm in a private Christian school, but I'm not attracted to him at all. He's really overweight and he has hair everywhere.
Now he's saying that I have to give him head everyday or he will tell everone about my secret desires, even my parents. I don't know what to do, he tastes horrible. I can't keep doing this.
You have got to tell some adult you trust that this has happened to you. It's called sexual assault, and it is wrong. It can make you feel bad for the rest of your life if you don't get help now. You don't have to do this alone. God forgives. And you need some counseling, and so does he. It's awful that he is using you to black mail you into something evil. Please stop doing this, you don't have to do it. He is in bigger trouble than you. Please know that I am praying for you.
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How Do You Know If You Found The Right Person You Want To Spend The Rest of Your LIfe With ????????
This isn't as easy as I am about to make it sound.
If you go to bed missing them every night, and want to see them every day when you get up. You worry about them when you aren't right with them. You let them know when you are out doing stuff, and they call you to let them know where you are. You have an argument, and you can agree to disagree. They don't mind if you have an opinion. They don't mind holding your hand when you feel bad. They don't care when you are mean, as long as it doesn't last long. They still love you on your worst day. They like at least some of the things that you do. You ask each other advice, and lean on one another when life is hard. They are your best friend and true confidante. Your parents at least like them a little bit. Friends don't try to talk you out of marrying them. They try new things, but don't let it change who they are. It just feels right, and you pray to God every day that he will marry you.
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Ok Im a 15 yr old gurl and Im really outgoing but guys at skool just only like me as a friend nothing more I mean I get along with everyone and stuff! So what can I do to win a guys heart? I where Hollister shirts and stuff and tight lowrider jeans I just dont know what keeps making me just a friend ne tips? I also give advice just I dont know bout this one!
Please Help! Thanks!
Kayla (LiLHoOtYCuTii4U)Advice column!
You have your whole life ahead of you at 15. Clothes do not get you dates, sometimes they just get you in trouble. Taking care of yourself and being happy with who you are helps in making friends and eventually getting dates. It might be that the guys around you aren't mature enough to want to date yet.
In the meantime, you can ask them how they would feel about going out to a movie or playing putt putt or something. Sometimes these friendships do turn out to be a date, so don't give up. At least you get to enjoy their company anyway.
Make a list of things you want to be in the future. What do you want to do for a living? What colleges do you want to go to? Now how many of these real objectives involve boys. Don't worry they will notice you if you are as friendly and outgoing as you say you are. Just don't try too hard to get their attention because that is a huge turn off. I hope this helps.
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Kelly can't go this year, but she has LOTs of stuff to sell. If you'd be willing to help, she's willing to pay % of profits. Plus you can bring your own stuff. If you're interested give me a call and I'll track down the date. Hugs, Z.
Too damn busy. Sorry. darn darn darn. Hey we need to send each other email because we can get banned for conversations. chaosd@yahoo.com
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okay My Kitchen is all white. My cabinets are that weird plastiky white kind with red handles, the appliances are white and everything. The whole thing looks horrible. The floor is old and disgusting linolium, and since we moved our door to the other side of the room theres sheet rock showing below some of the cabinets.We aren't getting the whole thing done until summer possibly. Does anybody have any suggestions on how to make it look not so white? Is there any kind of decorations i can use to liven this mess up? is there any some typical things out there that make the kitchen look any better? becasue really, nothing matches, and looks good.It's just so horrible looking sometimes. I really can't bear it.
If you are going to pull all of the cabinets down and redo them soon, you can put contact paper on them. The paint will peel off when you do this, so don't do it unless you are going to refinish the cabinets. Or you could even use gift wrap on the cabinets that won't get splashed.
Try little bottles of water, soap or even vinegar here and there. Pot holders. Small pictures on the walls. Anything to break up the monotony. And if nothing matches, its ok. Just do it like you meant that nothing should match. Like the table could have 4 different styles of place settings. A quick trip to the thrift store could yield some things.
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I am a 14 year old boy who will get a caniche toy poodle in less than two months and I am very, very happy about it but there is a problem. Waiting is killing me. Those two months seem like eternity for me. What do I do to make me feel like the time is going faster. Hope you know what I mean.
Any advice will be appreciated.
Read up on anything you can about your new pet. Maybe do some research on some obedience classes. Figure out where you would like him to sleep or what kind of collar etc.
Another thing you could do is volunteer at your local animal shelter. You can still play with the dogs and cats while learning to care for them. Or I started sitting for other people's animals because I didn't have time for a full time dog or cat. It helps a lot, and people are very nice about it.
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okay ive been dieting for the past like 3 dayz...ive been eating about 3 healthy meals a day and stop eating around 6. but today i dunno if i ruined it. I have an orange, an apple and a banana for breakfast, then for lunch i had a portion of turkey and a turkey sandwich with wheat bread, and then for dinner i had a bowl of chicken soup..But inbetween the meals i had another orange, a boiled egg, another apple, and another banana, and a bite of a pickle... it sounds like alot but it was through out the whole day..is this gunna affect my diet because i kinda over did eating the fruits?? thanks!
I don't think you are doing that badly. At least its not candy and lots and lots of calories. If you're worried, go take a walk. It will make you feel better.
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I have a problem in the learning catagory. You see, I dropped out of school because of a few things, mainly panic attacks and basic miserableness (which I'm working on fixing now). Before 6th grade, I did great. Math, science, English... was all very easy to me.
Then in 6th grade things started going bad. I've been made miserble purposefully by most of my classmates for years. But I stuck it out. Then in 6th grade I started skipping because it was too hard around those people who hurt me all the time. And then I started enjoying the freedom and not doing all that work. So work started to become harder and I avoided doing it.
Now I feel useless and I actually want to get my education and go to college and all. The first step is to get my high school education. It's hard when I'm 18 and officially dropped out in 9th grade. (I hardly even did 7 and 8. I skipped a lot and they put me in 9th when I said I'd make an effort.) So I'm continuing my education through distance education.
I actually have been keeping up on brainy subjects because it interests me. I've been watching history and science documentaries for years and I've always loved books. The problem is that I have hardly been able to retain any of it in my head. I haven't been able to learn. I am doing all this mostly to learn (and to get ahead). But I just... can't remember how to learn. Hardly anything is getting in there anymore. What can I do? How do I learn?
Learning is different for everybody. You might look up Job Corp in the phone book and see what they have to offer you. If I am not mistaken, they can tutor you to get your GED and possibly house you temporarily (not that housing is such a great thing).
Some people just have to work through the problems. Others do better after seeing someone else do an example. Repetition and memorization work for some things. I have made notes and then gone back and rewritten them. Sometimes if I write things down, I remember them the best because I can "see" the pieces of paper in my head. Ask someone close to you to tutor you. Help is out there, you just need to find it.
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i smoke and please don't lecture me cuz i know its really not good for my health and all .. well my friend smokes too and since we're both 14 we cant buy them, she gets into random ashtrays at supermarkets and steals used ones .. i know that CAN'T be good, ive only ever done it once but im afraid to do it again, could she like get a disease
It's also called herpes or cold sores. Or any other cold and/or bad germs. You might as well be licking ash trays.
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advice here from college students would be greatly appreciated!!! i'm 19 and just started at Boston University this September, but i live in Chicago. at first it was the normal homesickness, missing friends and family, and having it be hard to be 1800 miles away from home. things started getting better, but for some reason, i can't see to make myself happy here. i have a few friends here, but no guys friends (that's partly due to the fact that i live on an all girls floor, and also partly my fault, so i won't complain about that) i'm really close with a couple of the girls on my floor, and one or two other people, but that's pretty much it. i feel lonely here, and as hard as i try, i can't stop thinking about home and missing it. part of that has to do with the fact that i have a bf who's in college but still lives in chicago, so i only get to see him when i come home. i know im supposed to have fun and be experiencing college, but i feel like i'm missing out on so much, but i don't know how to fix it! i don't know how to make myself accept the fact that i'm in college, and NOT at home, and be HAPPY with that. i want to be happy here, and i want to have a good time. please help me. any advice will be greatly appreciated. thanks
Have you thought about joining an intermural sports group or some other club? Your Student Life Office could help you get involved in clubs, planning big events such as Talent Shows or Pageants, or sending you on weekend trips with other students. Talk to your Resident Advisor and she might could help too. Just get busy!
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Ive been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now. The last few months have been a bit rocky, but things were really starting to get alot better, atleast on my end. Not on hers though. She wants to take a break, because shes starting to fall out of love with me. I don't think there is really anything that I can do to change her mind...its all up to her..She says there is a possibility that things will get better, and that she may fall back in love with me, but I dont really know....Is it possible to fall out of love with someone, then fall back in love with them?
It is possible to get the spark back, but you owe it to yourself to say that if you are both going on a break that you want to see other people. It won't do any good to force her to stay. Letting her miss you will help, but if she doesn't bounce back fast, move on. You do need to have a heart to heart about how she really feels. But sometimes if you let them go, they do come back.
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years... and in this 3 years I have always bought the birth control pills and condoms (i know about prescription plans but i couldnt get one until like now) I have always tried to get him to buy or help pay for it but he never does, or always forgets just recently i told him he was going to pay for the next batch of birth control pills i was buying and he got all mad, and said i should pay for it? Is that fair? I think since it is for both of us we both should pay and seeing how i have paid PLENTY of money that he should put in some money? What should I do to help him understand?
If he isn't willing to pay for the birth control, ask him how well he would like to share the cost of CHILD CARE. And if he isn't willing to put in his share, maybe you need to think about how you need to find someone responsible to have a relationship/sex with. I mean really. He "forgets" because you let him off the hook. He either pays for it or he doesn't get any. PERIOD.
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Ok I'm addicted to rice!! All I eat is rice, I don't know how to get out of this rut! I won't eat all day long and then come home from school and pig out of a huge bowl of rice! It's to the point where I just eat it all and barely taste it, I want to get out of this habit! Any tips?? I have tried to cut it out cold turkey I will last about a week and then cave and pig out.
Try mixing good things with your rice. Like beans or vegetables. Keep changing the rice to vegetable ratio. Especially things you have to chew to get the best part from. Try different kinds of rice like brown or some grain based rice. It's probably because its easy to fix and give you energy. Try some fruit or something.
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