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Brother gets away with everything.
Parents don't ever listen or care, if i ever tried to talk to them they went all phycologist-like. They blame me for things i didn't do, and yell at me when my brother gets upset over little things i do.
Cousin doesn't understand anything and thinks i'm too young to be having problems and that i'm making them up.
My friend K has started smoking cigarettes and doesn't see what the hell is so bad about what she's doing and thinks that by trying to stop her friends from ever smoking or drinking she's doing something right and that she acts like she understands everything because she thinks she's been through the most shit in her life. I need to find a way to get her head back on and stop her smoking.
E and Matt ignore everything that goes on in other ppl's lives and get too caught up in their own problems. I love Matt to death but sometimes he isn't the best friend i know he can be, i know he thinks so, but i can only truly talk to him sometimes bc he gets mad so easily.
AM needs to grow up and learn when to shut up and let it go, she's too nosy and immature to deal with her friends problems, so I need to find a way to tell her to grow up.
AX likes me and pushes me to tell him stuff and get to me. I need to get him to stop this, i care enough that i dont want to hurt him, but he makes me feel like i cant go out with ne1 bc i know it will hurt him. I need to get him to back off.
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Well, with you little brother that's how it is with everyone so you just need to get used to that. I don't think I know one little brother or sister that doesn't get away with whatever they want. That's also how parents are and cousins too. You can't change your friends way of thinking. If she doesn't care about her health, then she doesn't care. You can't fix everyone's lives and yours too. It doesn't seem like your too happy with some of your friends, so try and make new ones that you won't complain about or criticize. I'm not trying to be mean when saying that, but it's the truth.With the guy that likes you, just tell him that you don't like him that way and he's going to get hurt eventually anyway. You can't keep everyone happy.
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Ok you are on the verge of becoming a control freak. It's good to vent. If all of these things are bothering you, do what you can, but it is ultimately up to you. If you don't have good friends who are there for you, don't hang out with them. The only person you can truly control is you. If you let all of this stuff fester up inside you, you will get depressed. Your life sounds like a physichiarist office.
Ok one by one:
1. Little brothers are supposed to be annoying and get away with murder. It's their job. Try to take it in stride because your parents are going to attack the person who is complaining first. Let it ride and be a good example.
Eventually, he will get blamed for something you did. It is just life.
2.Go to the cancer society or stop smoking and print out some gross pictures of smoked out lungs. You can't help her until she admits she has a problem. Pray.
3. Friends get busy and have other interests. It is part of growing up. Be there when he is available, but don't nag him or he will ignore you. He is still your friend, and you can always use any level of friendship.
4. Just ignore her. You are the one complaining about other people's personal problems at the moment. I think you are projecting. She probably just needs someone to talk to.
5. He is being possessive and it isn't healthy. You have a right to be with whoever you want to be with. If he can't handle it, he needs to talk a walk. You don't need that kind of crap.
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