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Well i used to be really really jealous and me and my boyfriend of four years broke up because of it, because he kept lying to not hurt me, and it bothered me when he watched porn and stuff, but later he begged me back and he said he loved me & wanted me back. So now that we were together i asked him not to look at porn and if he wanted pictures or something i would send him some and even though i'm trying to get un-jealous like before i wouldn't let him go out without me(yeah i was psycho lol) but now i let get him get away with a lot but i still have jealous thoughts every once in a while, so the day before i wanted my moms number that he had on his phone and i had just gotten a new phone so i asked him for it and he didn't want to give it to me so i got suspicions? And i was like are you doing something wrong? Later he admitted he had porn on it, and i got kinda upset in my head, and later i couldn't stop thinking about it and i was sad and basically said told him i know it's because they look better or you fantasize about other girls but i was saying it not asking it.It was really supposed to be a rhetorical question. And he said well i do fantasize about other girls cause you're the only one i've been with, ( i told him he wasn't supposed to answer and he said he didn't know) and that hurt me really bad and i was like so you'd go with another girl and do her and he said "i just want to" and i was like so you do want to, and he said yeah. Like is that normal? Should i be mad or break up with him? Like now it disgusts me cause we're not even married like i know that happens to married people that have been together for a long time, but us i'm young i have the same body as the porn stars except without the fake big boobs mine are real so i just don't know how to react or what to do. i Just hung up on him cause without saying anything cause this happened right before he went into work so he didn't call back.
Please just tell me your opinions.

Dearcandore is by no means an "advice guru" or "life coach." I shudder to think how someone's life would turn out with them doing the coaching. Dearcandore is misinformed, wrong, and not qualified to give advice.



Anyway, he shouldn't be outright telling you that he wants to fuck other girls. But that's the only instance where he's in the wrong. He should be able to watch porn. He should be able to go out on his own. He should be able to have a life that doesn't have a psycho bitch girlfriend freaking out every ten seconds. Chill out, get a hobby, get a dog; be less crazy and maybe he'll stay with you, because at this rate he's better off bailing.

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Okay so... I believe in being abstinent until marriage... but I've had oral sex with about 6 guys, 3 of which I was not dating and 1 that was in (is in) another relationship. Do I feel bad about it? um yeah.. I'm 19 and I feel like 6 guys is way too many, i'm actually ashamed to even tell my friends they think its 4 or 5. So advice anyone?

You should keep at it until you've reached 150 just to make absolutely sure.

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So theres this guy I really like. He has a girlfriend though, but i cant just give up on him. We're friends but not really good ones. I like him a lot and he doesnt like me back. What should I do? What should I do to get him to like me? And by the way, he already knows I like him.

Sounds like you have a better chance with his girlfriend. Go for her.

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I wanted to be put on birth control pills and I went to my doctor like suggested. He gave me the pills and explained about them but said I needed to be on them for at least 1 full month before they became completely effective and I don't end up pregnant. When I asked here before somebody said they are effective immediately. I told my doctor that somebody said they were effective immediately and slightly laughed and was like I hate how teens get these stupid rumors and something like that's how so many girls wind up pregnant. Who is right? My doctor or you guys?

Actually, both are wrong.


You're already pregnant!


:(

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Simply, I love your answers, they're amazing.

You're amazing.

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Stupid Q. My bf said he wants to hit it from the back and I'm cool w/it. This coming weekend we're gonna do it. How do I position myself? No graphic sex talk here pls. I just wanna know how to lay or whatever so we can do like doggy style. Thanx

Face down ass up.

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My boyfriend and i had sex and we used a condom. afterward, he took off the condom, put on hand sanitzer, used a hand sanitizer wipe, and fingered me like five minutes later. i'm freaking out about the possibility of pregnancy because i feel like he could have touched sperm when he took off the condom, and apparently hand sanitizer doesn't kill sperm. but, i also thought that if his hands were completely dry before he fingered me, which they were, it would be okay because sperm is killed when it dries. also, he used a hand sanitizer wipe, so that could have at least wiped the sperm off of his hands. so, am i okay, or should i go buy the morning after pill?...

You're going to give birth to Mr. Clean.


:(

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im cleaning my room at 9:30 pm and need help on doing it fast! please help thank you!

Use both hands.

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I really want to get pregnant. Its not that I want to have a baby as much as just have that feeling of being pregnant. All pregnancy women are so pretty with that pregnancy glow about them and everybody is always rubbing their bellies and so excited about them having a brand new baby. I talked to my bf and said i really wanted him to get me pregnant and he was like kind of unsure but said he would think about it. I was thinking of going on and throwing away the box of condoms i have here so he'd like HAVE to do it with me without them? But then I'm just kind of unsure. I mean a baby is pretty time consuming and I don't want people to think I'm evil if I give it up for adoption. Being pregnant really is so cute though. Advice?

omg giving birth hurtz so bad take it from m3 girl dont make my mistake omg and i threw up like all the time even in class on all my friends it was so embearassing dont do it hun! xoxo

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Okay so I'm 19 male and my girlfriend doesn't want to be penetrated. I'm okay with it. But she still likes doing sexual things with each other. We have been together for a year and didn't start fooling around till 6 months ago. Basically, we are getting bored with the things we do and i don't want to hurt her by suggesting straight up sex. I want her to keep her "virginity" but we just don't know what to do. I know this is an awkward question and i feel really awkward asking it but i could really use the advice and i think i derserve this since seeing how all the advice i've given. Thanks in advance guys(gals)

Be more specific with what you have actually done.

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The topic says it all really! husband has a lady friend that works with him and she is married and in her 50's. Not bad looking for 50 but the fact is she IS MARRIED! We ran into her last night when we took our kids to superkicks she was there with her kid. This woman was all over a guy that was NOT her husband alot of flirting he was playing with her hair giggleing with eachother. If that were my man i wouldnt apprecitate this behavor from her. I told my husband I have lost alot of respect for her she is a disgrace to the married name. I took my vowels seriously and how do I know she is not like that with my man, well his responce you have to trust "ME". okay I do but I dont trust HER. How can she do that knowing she has a man at home. unmoral to me!! I told him as much as he was touching her leg and she was whispering in his ear she has no morals he disagreed with me on all points. What does that mean for him? Does it mean its okay to flirt and touch eachother just cause spouse aint there. How dare her and I cant stop thinking he is defending her cause thats how she acts with him.. I kindly let him know if I EVER see her touch you in a way I should only be able to touch you I will walk my happy ass to her office and give her a piece of my mind. So we agreed to disagree on it all and went to bed!!

How about your happy ass takes a deep breath and finds a hobby.

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My boyfriend is locked up and is suppose to get out on the 26. The night before i had a dream that some one was saying he is getting out at ten, well my bf didnt get out on the 26 and the day after i had the same dream, what could this possibly mean

It means life is only a dream and you are the imagination of yourself.

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18/f
I've worked at a restaurant for 18 months now. I have liked this guy,erik but i asked him out twice before and he made up excuses, so i gave up on him and stopped trying. the chefs (john and nick)know i like him and they all tell me he likes me too.they make jokes about us getting married, and its funny, and me and erik laugh about it seems to be flirty and make jokes ourselves but it just reminds me how much i like him and how i need to get over it.
last night i went out in the parking lot talking with john and nick and there was balloons all over my car. the balloons all had messy guy hand writing on them saying "i love you" "you complete me" "go out with me" "to ashley (me), love erik"... and i got so excited and happy. till the guys starting laughing, claiming that it wasnt them, but i know for a fact it was because john is religious and if you ask him to "swear to god"...he wont lie..and he wouldnt say it. i called erik double checking and he says he didnt do it.
i dont wanna tell the guys that i cried on the way home about it because i work with all guys and i dont want things between me and erik to be weird if he knows i got really upset about it.but it seriously got my hopes set so high then crashed down.i took it really personal. they play jokes on me all the time and i never do anything back. i know they care about me and they wouldnt do anything to hurt me.
i want to prank them back to let them know they can't mess with me like that anymore because i dont feel talking would help.
Any ideas for pranks?
or should i say something to john and nick
should i give up on erik as well if he seems so un-interested in dating me?
sorry its long and a lot of questions, thank you so much.

Those guys are assholes. I don't know any harmless pranks, so I would just advise acting cold/distant towards them. Oh, and stop pursuing Erik. He unfortunately is not interested.

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okay so i'm a smoker and the e-cig sounds really awesome, since its a lot healthier, i'll be able to smoke wherever, whenever, and there's no tarbuildup or anything. but EVERYTHING has some downside to it. does anyone know a downside to smoking the e-cig? there has to be one, there always is.

thanks.

You can't smoke it on a plane despite popular belief, and they're not approved/tested by the FDA. And they're banned in Canada. But who cares about Canada... they're lucky we don't enact Manifest Destiny Vol. II: Northward.

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how do i delete my account on here? thank you :)

You email DangerNerd at dangernerd@gmail.com and you say look buddy, I've just about had it here. The only thing keeping me around all this time was that columnist Matt, but even he can't keep this site interesting anymore. I've had enough. Please delete my account.

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So, get ready to read a long story.
so back when I was in ninth grade I met a guy at a concerts, we hit it off and we started dating. We dated for a year, he made me this mix cd once and I still have the songs on my computer. He was such a nice guy! I really loved being with him, after a while though he changed, turned into a pig and a jerk and started doing drugs. Well after a while I couldn't take it anymore, I Was miserable, I broke up with him and a week later got with my best friend. I know I should've taken time to be single, but it just kinda happened. We were just flirting then I was waiting for our friend in his car with him and I just blurted out that I liked him and he just smiled and kissed me and said he liked me too. We started dating a few weeks later. Well We've been together six months next week and I'm so happy with him! He smokes pot sometimes, it bugs me a bit but not as much as it did with my last boyfriend. Besides that I really like him, even love him. I'm a jr. he's a senior. Just the fact that we're bestfriends and boyfriend and girlfriend makes it so amazing!
Well today, I was listening to music and my ex's and I's song came on, I got all teary eyed and I thought of when I was happy with him. It made me question if dumping him was the right thing, I broke his heart, I was miserable but hearing that song I felt so terrible. So now I'm confused on why I feel that way, was it wrong to dump him and date another person so soon? I gave him several chances to get his act together though, but my boyfriend now it so great! I don't want to destroy our friendship if things go sour, but at the same time, I think of the past, if I could just have him back to how he used to be. I feel so guilty. I love my boyfriend now.
Is this just nostalgia?

Instead of listening to your ex-boyfriend's old songs, you should listen to Kvelertak instead.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CmhVKq-vUMs&feature=related


Oh, and fuck your ex, he sounds like an asshole. Problem solved.


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Me too. It's usually possible to overcome the screaming and get some idea of what they're saying, but Norwegian screaming is simply undecipherable.

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My boyfriend is a good guy, but he does a lot of stuff that I'm really not okay with. I've tried talking to him about it, but the thing is, he honestly doesn't see any of it as a big deal. He thinks I'm overreacting.

First, we hadn't been dating very long when a guy he was friends with made a joke about him having an STD (my boyfriend has slept with a lot of women). My boyfriend got upset, said that he may have acted like he was joking but he really wasn't, and said he didn't want me to talk to him anymore because it would cause problems (he doesn't have an STD, we got tested). So, I stopped talking to this guy. My boyfriend works with a girl who used to be my best friend, but went around saying I was a whore and I cheated on my ex with two different guys (totally not true). Naturally, I was mad and we don't talk anymore, but my boyfriend talks to her all the time at work. He says it's because they work together and he doesn't want her going to the HR department all the time, which I understand, but it's not like they're required to talk at their job, and if there were just talking about work it might be okay, but he's told me some of the things they talk about and it's like they're old friends or something.

Second, he has this gorgeous ex girlfriend. He talks about her a lot, always says how perfect she is. He said they broke up because he didn't feel good enough for her and never really felt comfortable around her, but they were really good friends before they dated, so they stayed friends. I have no problems with them being friends, but he's ALWAYS talking about how perfect she is. He tells her he loves her and he misses her and she's so amazing, and he never says those things to me. I guess I'm just jealous, but it hurts to hear him say those things to her when he won't say them to me, his girlfriend. He's always there for her when she needs him, but it's like anytime I try to talk to him about stuff that's bothering me, he acts like it's no big deal and I'm overreacting. He tells me he doesn't want to be with her, but I just can't help but get upset over it.

Sorry for ranting, but I'm really confused. If I'm overreacting, please tell me, because I really don't know.

He's an asshole. You should break up with him.

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i'm 18 a freshman in college and my boyfriend is 20 a junior, our we on the same level? like is he too old for me?

You guys certainly *should be* on different levels, though that doesn't necessarily mean you are.

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My bf and I been together for like 3 months. He's grate. Love him. And then we started off kinda diffrent than most couples cause we hooked up @ a party of my friends and like went at it and he told me he liked me after and that was that for us. We never use condoms tho and he always always cums in me. we probably do it like idk at least once every day but sometimes twice not always?? Anyways my period aint come yet this month and I'm like am I pregnant? What are the ODDS of getting pregnant like this? Cause I told if you have sex EVERY day then you cant get pregnant cause his sperms go too low and there aint enough to cause pregnancy. mom knows we been doing it so R E L A X were cool

R E L A X you're pregnant.

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