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Co workers are getting on my nerves about who i like
18/f
I've worked at a restaurant for 18 months now. I have liked this guy,erik but i asked him out twice before and he made up excuses, so i gave up on him and stopped trying. the chefs (john and nick)know i like him and they all tell me he likes me too.they make jokes about us getting married, and its funny, and me and erik laugh about it seems to be flirty and make jokes ourselves but it just reminds me how much i like him and how i need to get over it.
last night i went out in the parking lot talking with john and nick and there was balloons all over my car. the balloons all had messy guy hand writing on them saying "i love you" "you complete me" "go out with me" "to ashley (me), love erik"... and i got so excited and happy. till the guys starting laughing, claiming that it wasnt them, but i know for a fact it was because john is religious and if you ask him to "swear to god"...he wont lie..and he wouldnt say it. i called erik double checking and he says he didnt do it.
i dont wanna tell the guys that i cried on the way home about it because i work with all guys and i dont want things between me and erik to be weird if he knows i got really upset about it.but it seriously got my hopes set so high then crashed down.i took it really personal. they play jokes on me all the time and i never do anything back. i know they care about me and they wouldnt do anything to hurt me.
i want to prank them back to let them know they can't mess with me like that anymore because i dont feel talking would help.
Any ideas for pranks?
or should i say something to john and nick
should i give up on erik as well if he seems so un-interested in dating me?
sorry its long and a lot of questions, thank you so much.
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If Erik makes up excuses to not go out with you... then let it be. He's not worth the trouble. And from the sounds of it, I like Nick and John! Lol they are hilarious.
I would seran (sorry for the spelling, i have no idea how to spell it) their cars/trucks so they can't get in. Then get those car markers and write things on the windows.
And I know you really like Erik, but since he's not interested, pretend your not interested than being more than friends. Since you already asked him out and made excuses, when he asks you out, play hard to get. It'll drive him C R A Z Y. :)
Good luck. :)
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I think talking to nick and john is the best way to tell them how you feel about this, they seem like caring people and so they'll listen :) and yes I think you should try to get over him, hes not intrested so you really can't do anything about it :/ sorry..
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Those guys are assholes. I don't know any harmless pranks, so I would just advise acting cold/distant towards them. Oh, and stop pursuing Erik. He unfortunately is not interested.
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Well, you've said it yourself. Erik isn't interested, and now you have this to put more distance between you. I would have to say that for now, things likely won't happen.
It was pretty mean of those guys to prank you (and Erik) like that, but I worked in a kitchen at one point and I remember the razzing I got from the chefs. It's a weird dynamic, right?
I think that one of the best things you could do would be to do the same thing to them. If you can get Erik in on it, this can get really funny. Cover Erik's car with proclamations of love from the other two guys. If he's involved, have him accept a date from one of them (with big hugs and jumping up and down, "I thought you'd never ask!") or if he isn't, he'll at least get a good laugh and the joke will be redirected at the other two guys. They'll get the message, either way.
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I'm the wrong one to ask this question of as it has been over 40 years since I have been in a dating situation. What was permissible then would not be looked at as joke today. I would suggest you ask some one like KarenR, Smartone or HildaJrCarter.
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